₦airaland Forum

Enuguguy:
I planned to marry in 1st week of November 2022 and bring my wife to UK immediately with me
When do I suppose to start my visa application
NB..we don't have any marriage certificate yet
Nairaland help a brother

Marry where you dey... most Nigerian girls are so ungrateful!!!

Okoroawusa:
Nwam no na Amelica. Onataba obute dorras.

What's funny about a depressed and helpless person... sometimes I wonder why some of you Nigerians are so stupid and lack compassion!

Fortune118005:
not everyone though and not every women
I believe there are still good ones out there.

Hahaha, seems you're not in the dating pool!?... e go shock you when you give it a deep try, it's pathetic!

Everyone is looking for a fool, that'll worship and bow to them

jasminer:
Ignore these bitter folks here abeg. They're toxic and looking for where to dump their frustration.

Back to your question, I suggest you break up with the guy. A guy with that mindset won't respect you in marriage. Let him marry women abroad or go to the American embassy and look for women who have been issued a visa.

For him to open his mouth to tell you that, my dear, run oooo. He has said worse behind you, he's most likely keeping in touch for free sex whenever he's back in the country so that he can add it to the things he'll brag about to his fellow toxic men.

Lest I forget, you were not wrong one bit for rejecting the proposal of someone you barely met for 3months. Any normal person will do the same. Infact if you had accepted his proposal immediately, they'll still blame you for jumping into a relationship with a man you barely know. So him taking it personal shows who he really is. You might be attracted from day 1 but you have to give each other time to really know what you're getting into and if he has a problem with that, he has many more problems you don't want to get involved in. This type of man will want a woman to follow his every decision blindly like a sheep even into the pit.

Love you sis

Then why is she still interested him!?... since he can mislead her into the pit, stupid girls everywhere!!!

siofra:
Zonefree is Kunle Ikorodu and Kollins11 is Kareem Mushin.

They want you to settle for them, because in their misogyny they are probably thinking, how dare a Nigerian girl have good things happen to her, while I'm here drowning in poverty.

@iamyemmie break up with that guy, he doesn't seem sincere.

And she was sincere playing with his heart initially... rubbish, she get luck no be person like me, I would have agreed nack her belle and abscond!

Softmirror:
TINUBU IS RIGHT JUST LIKE SIMON EKPA TOO

So the score now equotes to a bible chapter and verse!?... most of you Nigerians are pathetically stupid!!!

Tboymessiah:
Thanks for the contribution,

If I may ask, do yo base in Kenya.

Been there once on tour and met her there, planning on relocating there fully by years end, serene and okay country with constant electricity.

Tboymessiah:
Hahahah...I have a livestock farm here it will be hard to go there and stay, since my business here is doing well..

My conscine, is this, the preferred time for me to settle down or in a relationship, courtship, whatsoever...will be next year, all am thinking is just that can a find a girl that suit me with a good character within that short period and settle with her..

It is easier for a carmel to pass through the eyes of needle than to get a good wife in Nigeria, there wahala too much

Tboymessiah:
True talk,

But what of we wey we no get long time relationship...
And we are not any relationship, and age is not on our side, how then are we going to settle down then

32 this December but planing to settle next year, no girl friend not in relationship, but financially okay

Try east African countries bro... there women are okay and have respect for there husbands, finally you get to have two international passports... this useless country is not guaranteed. Incase of war na to jakpa!

LegitBoyy:
Hi everyone,

I just wanted to share this trend I have noticed in my relationship life with you all and see if anyone can relate to it. I have just noticed recently that most girls I meet will suddenly want to “settle”.

You would wonder why this should be a problem right? Exactly. I am looking to getting into something serious myself so it should ordinarily not be a bad thing. However, I am seeing a pattern which is why I am worried.

I have met quite a few girls recently and many of them who are obviously still very active players on the ’street’ and as soon as we get talking, they suddenly want to exit the ‘street’ and want something serious with me.

For context, I will be 27years old in a few months, comfortably building a good career and a very calm person. It is not even about money or sort as many of them have met people with much more. I don’t know if any guy or lady out here actually understand my situation here?

I am looking to go into something serious but this pattern just doesn’t look all okay with me. Is it because of my calm nature? Maybe a calm guy is suitable for a husband kind of situation right?

For guys who have been in this situation, how did you dealt with it please?

As a calm guy they're seeing you as a docile and someone that can be manipulated... try being mean sometimes and see there real characters!

saintruky:
Wetin do UK? Y always Canada?

UK too make sense, why Canada!?... which country gives PR after 6 months and citizenship within 3 years!?, plus other advantages like availability of jobs and serene environment with every sector functioning well.

Suspect33:
10m can't take him to canada, before he's with all the process involved in the move, the money would have been exhausted.

Who told you that!?... say what you know, with a good agent 3M will workout everything for him, the remaining one na him know how to manage m when in Canada, well not necessarily Canada, he can try other developed countries... this country is full of scammers and thieves, he better be very careful!!!, I don't trust an African talk more of a Nigerian!

Oga find Canada visa and leave this hell hole... before scammers swindle you oo, get sense oo

Foolish man!!!

franchasofficia:
Seems you guys are taking this whole thing too far. If you had extra money to spare, you could have assisted her out of pity cos u never can tell her current financial situation that warranted her to reach out to u for such minor issue. Sighs, its well

Mumu... shey she consider you when you dey poor and hustle!?, they always ask for there useless assistance when they see you shining, thieves!

Taught me I'm a boss and shouldn't be working with any stupid ass private sector, they'll want to use and drain you...but once you know your rights and don't worship them like other stupid idiots, they'll hate you and want to ruin you, that's a sign you are to look for ways and establish yourself,not everyone can work under people... some people are born boss!!!

Most useless country on earth!!!

Dhatgirl:
All man for themselves . Wo!

Hahahaa, abeg I need your help oo

Dhatgirl:
I'm not a therapist.

You can be for me dear

Dhatgirl:
I can see the anger issue you made mention of, lol. Quick to insult and rain abuses. A person who can't compose intelligent arguments without being abusive, I wonder what they're called. Rest and fix your issues abeg.

Come and fix it!

Dhatgirl:
Abeg rest and go fix your anger issues. Dey justify rubbish like it's a cool thing.

That's the stupidity with most of you girls... empty brains with nothing inside, go and do your research and mind you I never said anger is good!

Lizzydonnah:
And you seems to ignore when that same person insulted her first? Well done.

He didn't insult her, rather he said that trash is her reality.

Dhatgirl:
Which one is anger issue is default? God abeg ohh. Una go dey justify rubbish.

Its in most men whether you like it or not, that's psychologically proven and it's part of testosterone effects on men, though not all men but most... do your research before arguing stupidly!

Juliet751:
TRASH AND MORE TRASH

telling someone he's saying trash says it all about your type of person and reason why his anger is justified towards you

Juliet751:
I don't Care about relationship anymore.

the reason most men are rude is because how una dey look down on dem when dem no get, so expect more rudeness from most well to do guys that's 100% fact, Anger issue is default in most men as well but one can tame it.

Sassy256:
It's really paining you. Seems all your children are and will continue to be from another man shame on u

Hahahaa, mumu ashawo girl, pain me for what!?, change your useless mentality!!!

Sassy256:
Your mother that did not train you, idiot!! did I quote you when I made my post or are u the opWasted sperm.

You don't even have mother, Bastard ashawo... If you lack brains keep it to your useless self, Stupid idiot... naso una go dey Bleep like dogs carry bastard children full this country, everywhere single mothers, rubbish thing!

Sassy256:
When a man cheats, he hurts his wife and brings in an illegitimate child and the wife is expected to bear it.
Oga sorry, it's one of those things. Accept it and move on

You an idiot... are you the one marrying him!?, accept your stupidity and move to your father's house!

doggedfighter:
Not a big deal.



Any child that calls you father is your child.


It makes no difference at all !


What's the crying for ?

E no go ever better for you... useless thing!!!

dochenaj:
If you kill yourself following verbal/emotional abuse, it is called SUICIDE.

If you die from physical abuse it is called HOMICIDE.

The former was your choice and the latter not your choice. Verbal/emotional abuse cannot be even remotely as bad as physical abuse.

You are not serious!... most people who committed suicide did so 99% out of the bad treatment from others, talking down on them, making them feel worthless and unbelonging... you don't know what you're saying oga, according to psychologists most suicide meditated people recover fully from such thinking when showed love and attention, so you think verbal abuse doesn't hurt!?, you are a joker!!!

Harrynight:
How on earth would a man have the mind and conscience to beat a woman to such terrible state.


Some men are heartlessly wicked

When a woman doesn't know how to talk and feels she can talk anyhow to a man that's what she deserves, all these rubbish she posting doesn't mean shit, she's a foul mouthed person mere looking at her, after I suffer get money you didn't contribute shit... you feel you can come into my home and detect what and what not to do!?, na your father house you go go do that one not in my house because I will make sure I damage very well any lady with such mentality, a man say in his home is ultimate, you can only advice if he wishes he adopts it, because without money 98% women won't be with the men they're with today... As a real man this reality alone should make you not to tolerate any rubbish from any lady because most won't even look at you twice of you are poor and miserable!