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wunmi590:


Somebody created a thread to seek help since August, 2022 and this is April 2023, and thread is just hiting front page...

How do we know if the OP haven't gotten the needed help he needs...

Lubbish

There are others in his shoes that are shy to open up their keloid stories. The advice and help is available for them too.

Curiouscity:
Please, I need everyone in the family section to give their view on this. There seems to be a trend in modern day marriages, where everything is about "what makes me happy ". I have a few questions
1. What is loyalty in a committed relationship like marriage?
2. Is loyalty expected in modern day marriage?
3. Can there be love without loyalty?

There is a couple going through a rough patch in their marriage. The major issue is that one of them regards outsiders' opinion more the partner's. They can discuss and sometimes agree to do something a certain way, but one person will do it the opposite way. When investigated, it will be discovered that the brothers/parent of the defaulting partner countered the couple's decisions. Yet the other partner wasn't informed.

More explicitly, the guy may tell his wife, let's do so and so. The wife will oppose it. But if another person, sometimes the husband's friend, make same suggestion, the wife will jump on that same idea, and pester the guy to do it. The couple can have a discussion that is supposed to be private, sometimes just mere couples gossip, but one way or the other, that discussion will get to the wife's family. Yet the wife keep "singing" how she loves her husband.

The examples above can be reverse, where the guy is the disloyal spouse.

4. How do you handle disloyalty between couples?

Let me be real and straight. 50% or more of the problems in Marriage is Money. Once money no dey, there will be all sorts of problems in the marriage....disloyalty, disrespectful, infidelity etc.

Herdsmen:
E no stop them from seeing their monthly blessings


Stupidity define..

Do you think science cannot work on that too?

Princeton92:
Great start....

I expect him to shock Nigeria Government and their citizens in bringing Abia State to live again!

Don't expect much.

wis3:
Allow me to eat Amala and rest😁

End time Amala

Hopium:
Lmao! My prediction is happening.

There's no druggie in the picture.

Who still uses Cable? I thought we've addressed how to cut the cable TV chords with streaming services?

There are two rules...one for MC Oluomo and the other for the rest of Nigerians

Kasamadupe1:
It is only in the community of David ibiyiome they will be asking such question not sane community.

Hey druggie..., You good?

Watch as some Nigerians would prefer to go to Sudan in the coming weeks. We saw that when Russia-Ukraine war broke out. That's to tell you that what we face here is hell on earth!

garriAndsugar:
If somebody that's been resting abroad still needs to rest again in Nigeria then the warring factions should rest 72hrs also

I don't think 72hrs will be enough for him to rest. God should just grant him eternal rest ASAP.

How it will sound to international community....."President Pablo Escobar and Vice President Osama Bin Ladin of Nnigeria

Kasamadupe1:
It is only deep for people of low IQ such as his members and probably you. An average intelligent person knows the nonsense he is talking about.

Druggie people everywhere.

This is deep parable for Nigeria.

From rest to rest. Only God gives good rest!

I still find it funny that unpatriotic adult citizens will parade themselves and be waving at a plane.

lavylilly:
Leave Mushin and move to Ikoyi or Lekki

The ecology is not preserved in those area either. I'm in Blackpool though. But talking about screen time, I think it's a global phenomenon and it's even more pronounced in developed society compared to undeveloped environment.

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

Is you mother staying with you? If yes, that's mistake no.1

Joannebassey:
Technology is a necessary evil for a parent, and as a parent in this digital age, I have a love-hate relationship with technology. Sure, it's convenient to buy things online, communicate with others, entertain yourself, and even work; it can also be a real pain in the neck.

Case in point: this morning, my toddler was screaming her lungs out because I didn’t let her watch Baby Shark, as I felt I needed to reduce her screen time and engage her some other way, like with her toys for learning, but this girl wasn’t having it. It can be quite easy for parents to be sucked into always engaging their little ones with these electronic gadgets, but it's important to find a balance and incorporate the way our parents who didn’t have these gadgets engaged us with them.

There's no more natural ways in this our society. There's no garden or park within many neighborhood. It's not even safe for kids to go play with neighbors like we do in our time. Everything is going on the screen. Social life has been destroyed by several factors.

EKONGKING:
88+187+8 is 283
But result is given 286

Majority of northern Nigerians are literate only in name.
They have poor mathematical or scientific skills,

You know criminals will always leave a trace.

Oyindamolah:
Do you pay this in Lagos?

Is Lagos not in Nigeria?
Why do I have feelings you work for LIRS?

Iamgrey5:
We don't have the money.

Those structures were not built with individuals money. This is where Investment and property Banks comes in. Our banks are only interested in taking transactional charges, surcharges and stupid commissions. And that's why there's no money flowing in the economy.

Tadadobe:
You pay taxes in Nigeria? That's strange. Except organisation I don't think any Nigerian pay taxes. Yet government still provide roads (though not as good as we want but it's free), free education from primary to University, free power supply (though not regularly). But don't you think if we're paying for all these just like they do in other countries, I think nigeria will be better

What are you saying? If you don't know, you better ask. I pay income tax of about 1.8million Naira monthly. Do I get equivalent worth of that in services provided? The roads I can't drive my cars on, I still pay for my kids education right from primary school, electricity is hardly available, I still sank my own borehole to get water. Can you tell me what they offer me to justify collecting 1.8million monthly?
Yet, It doesn't stop Nigerian police from slapping or harassing me or any other citizens on the road.
It's obvious you are one of those that don't pay taxes in Nigeria.

The way forward is to be producing from your kitchen or basement and be selling in an unofficial market like WhatsApp.

I never see a government that's not people oriented like Nigeria.

Girls like to age backwards.
I shocked one girl last month when she told me she's 25. She forgot she told me she's 28 3years ago. Na so I screenshot the message to show her. Even the 31 self is doubtful cos she looks 36.

maleekberry:
It's like this opeyemi falegan doesn't really have sense somebody that just came out of a messy breakup with a nollywood actress is already craving for another nollywood actress that is most likely to wash him again.

E be like say dey Don use big yansh swear for this one

As for destiny etiko saying she's a virgin, everyone knows she's telling lies. She's a big time prostitute using nollywood to cover up like her other colleagues.

He's mentally gamed to Nollywood fake asses. He derives fantasy watching those Nollywood actresses. People like him, when watching Nollywood movies only think of one thing....How to kpensh any kpekus on TV. There's a mental status his brain has developed with Nollywood actress.

Samtob90:
There must be ground for suspecting him which she must prove. How will you feel if someone says he sleeps with your wife and put it in public space?

The ground for suspicion is protected by the conditional word "If". And she's in order to infuse the word "may be".

I remember those days our English teacher would keep reminding us that WAEC is English, while JAMB is "Use of English".

If I kpansh your babe, she may get belle.

Ofcourse I don't know if she will because I don't know if she still has a womb or how many abortions she had done.

But one thing I do know is that the probability and conditionality that she will get belle is predicated on me kpanshing her if I do have the opportunity.

If you smoke weeds, you may be regarded as a cultist.

If you smoke, you may die young.

If you don't stop lying, you may grow up to be a presidential spokesperson.

You can see the conditionality and probability in those statements. That's why whenever[b] "If" [/b]is used in a sentence, it sets out a condition upon which everything else would be based.

If you don't send your child to school, she may end up becoming a prostitute.

I hope this clarifies.

Jerryherd:
Perhaps you are low on vocabulary or you just want to pick a fight on a boring Sunday

What exactly concern my tweet with stigmatisation...

Care to explain

The issue is you don't know how to be subtle!
You probably will see a small man and call him a short man.

Jerryherd:
IVF doing wonders

As long as it's not a crime. This country, we just like to stigmatize unnecessarily.

This guy is just worth 10x President for Nigeria.

lecowas:
Chai, ordinary 7 storey building, e fall yakata for ground. When some cities are filled with 50 storey skyscrapers without incidents of collapse.

I don't know if we'll ever get it right in Nigeria. Choi!

Corruption is our biggest problem.

Ihateheadslamer:
Lagos state is a slum

It's almost everywhere. Did you see how flood ravaged half of Bayelsa last year?

No single state is immuned of flooding in Nigeria.