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 Education › Re: Started ICAN In SS3, Bags First-Class At 20 by carmelion(f): 12:23pm On Mar 14, 2013*. Modified: 1:01pm On Mar 14, 2013 |
This goes a long way to prove,sometimes,it is not about the school,its all about you.I was thinking he studied abroad ,but no,he went to ordinary Yaba Staff Secondary School.I won't forget to add that he is also a product of good mentorship. I believe he had people who guided him in life.He was also exposed early in life.When i was in SS3,I only knew how to spell chartered accountant for spelling sake.I f you ask me the difference .i would not know. I cant wait to get admission for my MBA,here in Nigeria (for now)  .Am going to compete with int'l students,right in my head.  .I will make front page.Moderators take note!  2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 11:16am On Mar 14, 2013*. Modified: 12:50pm On Mar 14, 2013 |
Before we went on a short break ,we were discussing about a lady accepting a proposal from a guy who is still squatting with either a friend or a married brother.From a woman's point of view, i kicked against it,but then i decided to throw it to the guys and it seems,they are against it too.I brought that topic up because ,in as much as i cannot rule out the fact that some women are materialistic,there are also some basic things a man should have before approaching a lady. Accommodation should be the first thing. I was surprised at the responses we got from the guys,I was thinking there own views would be different. I saw this thread in the romance section,It is something similar to what we discussed though not exactly.She is pregnant for a guy who is still squatting with his brother. https://www.nairaland.com/1210012/im-pregnant-what With this i would advise any young lady to be very careful in her current relationship.This topic is very sensitive,so I would not say ,you should not date a guy because he does not have accommodation. I mean it is just for the main time. But I can comfortably say don't start what you can not finish,you should protect your own interest by making sure you don't get pregnant,in fact you have to be very selfish about that. I would not hammer too much on "no sex" ,I mean we hear that everyday,but if you must,then I won't hesitate to preach 'condom".No Oral contraceptives please. Most guys,would choose to skin dive,any day,anytime,and i know most ladies including me back then,decides to give in out of pity/love.I mean we want to give our man the best  .It is not the best option you know,a lot could go wrong and all those love would vanish.To the guys,perhaps i don't know what it feels like to have an attention and how men feel emotionally,but i feel we should always avoid putting the cart before the horse  .You won't know how unprepared you are to be a dad until the news is broken to you.Protect the interest of your girl,she might be 30yrs and also a graduate but still not know anything about being a woman.Yes it is very possible.Some people are just so ignorant. Please don't take advantage of that.Do not say she is a big girl,she should know how to take care of her self.Use the condomThis story in the link below is similar to what i just talked about.His girlfriend is pregnant and he was not prepared.The news can throw you into confusion,and get you disorganized. https://www.nairaland.com/1215270/gf-pregnant-not-ready-wat. Back to the ladies,you suffer it more when you get preggy out of wedlock,I mean the guy wont stop his school or job or hide with you when you get pregnant. When you get infected,no one would take those drugs with you.You know sometimes we hear some stories,and we feel,it was cooked up,or 'it cant happen to me'.Please don't go too close to find out if they are real or not.Just grab the lessons and apply them sensibly. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 9:51am On Mar 14, 2013*. Modified: 12:00pm On Mar 15, 2013 |
Thanks ivynwa,wooow, that's a big teddy bear you 've got there! there are some dolls,i have not seen it in awhile  @Mayapretty,rubi26,rita lewisky,Auntynurse,greedoll,Cowgurl,Caracta,Humblebygrace, Ampeaceful,Graphy,Sheybor,evelyn006,eihmub,Bec,Cutjay,Anitank,Winneygirl' all the ladies that once posted on the thread,i hope you re all okay?  @Edelweiss,thanks for stopping by,i know you must have been very busy, you left when the thread was on page 18,just keep up at your own pace, hope business is going on well? These guys are missing. lol,Chikeorji,Honerico,Dahonestboss,Dipwaters,ITbomb,2buff,Soyedele, Dailynews,Phinalphantasy,Simpleyeahmee, passionate88,Kabonic,Charliemorgano,Rooneyboy,Meilyn,Kengali eeeem,i hope am not forgetting anyone?.Xyoung,Madrista007.SamjonnyB,Biolabee,phew!.hope you guys are doing great? take it easy with the hustling .The list is so long mehn,just checking on everyone. 3 Likes |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 7:32am On Mar 14, 2013 |
@smartie girl,bukatayne,ivynwa,lutadoll,thank you. @miss blanche,cheer up doll,its one of those things @the guys,thanks for all your advice @the new members,doncoliio,alora lord,Ayodot,realking and dagr8(not so new)especially causewahala,you re welcomed to the thread. Don't mind us o,we are not always like this but you know,here is full of people with different views and background. So we all must not agree. @ All,thanks for holding down the thread. Like I said we all must not agree but let us not get things personal. If someone says something,please be sure you understood the post before you comment. If you disagree,please do that in a civilised manner. Feel free to post anything you want,say your mind but please remember the purpose of the thread. I actually opened this thread for single ladies but am happy that the guys joined us too. From their comments I have learnt a lot about men,and what they expect from women. Our world and their world are different so ,sometimes we get confused about how best to compliment each other. To the single Ladies,there is a story/an experience I would share here,but I would save it for any day am less busy,perhaps on a weekend. I don't really know what to call it but Its about your safety as a woman. We should really be mindful about how we stay out when it is dark. Thanks everyone ,goodmorning |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 10:21am On Mar 13, 2013*. Modified: 11:04am On Mar 13, 2013 |
Hello house,goodmorning.i believe we all slept well? .when I read simiyakis last post,I was puzzled.I became confused cos,I began to wonder if the handle,'Miss blanche' and 'simiyaki4real' belongs to the same people.I mean I was talking to Miss blanche and other ladies in the house.But then on the other hand I read through his comments again and the bolder sentence really caught my attention simayanki4real: This is real funny@carmdoll...S o i suspected that maybe, he is angry that am trying to spoil his show cos ,I know some men like older women.So to clear my doubt,i decided to go through his profile .lo and behold my suspicion was confirmed.Click the link below ,you would see where I got the comment i posted, from. https://www.nairaland.com/1017460/im-love-someone-older-than#11816270 Simayanki4real: Bro, it doesn't matta hw old she is. Two things mata 2me abt a lady.Simiyaki,Sorry if you love older women,but i just hope you always meet those who like younger men.YOU mentioned somewhere on this thread that you have had your own share of the heart break. Now let me tell you why these women leave you,it is because they are older than you,the pressure on them from their peers/family is just too much,so they had to leave you for an older guy who seem to be ready. I advised Soyedele,here on page 25 when he complained about how a working class lady who is 26 years old turned him down because he was still a student.I told him that the lady might like him but ,time,is the problem.the lady is 26<that is 4 yrs shy of the almighty 30.How long would she wait for him?I advised him to go for a younger lady, so that by the time she is out of school,and done with service,he would have been financially stable to marry her. As for those thing you said to me there,am human,you know,it got to me.But then I bounced back cos you don't know me outside nairaland.I also want you to know that before ,i opened this thread,i thought about the praises i would get,i also thought of the insults i would receive.but then the fact that i would reach out to other single ladies strengthened me.It is ok. I want you to know that you were not the 1st to insult me,(check out Madlion's post in the beginning of the thread),and you will not be the last.Others will still come or is it not Nairaland again?lol. But I have a message for you and any body that would try to depress the single ladies here.THIS THREAD HAS NOT EVEN STARTED.It will start when we all starts announcing that we are now in a serious relationship, with that special man that has made us to sincerely believe that all men are not the same.Relationships that would lead to marrriage. Don't waste your MB coming to check whether it has happened.I will personally send you a mail. I also pray for you sincerely, to find that special woman whose past is 'clean'.There are plenty good women on earth but locating them is the problem cos they are rare.Besides they are still in the mist of ALL THE WOMEN.If only you know how difficult it is to know the history of your spouse,if only you know.I rest my case. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 9:36am On Mar 13, 2013 |
missblanche: @ carmelion:thanks barbieyou are welcome doll ,you might also want to take to simiyakis advice. Believe in yourself,be confident(we have been saying that here). 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 8:05pm On Mar 12, 2013 |
simayanki4real: This is real funny@carmdoll...I don't expect you to understand(you re a man).Meanwhile go and read,Miss blanche's complaints,also find out the meaning of petite. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 8:00pm On Mar 12, 2013*. Modified: 9:23pm On Mar 12, 2013 |
Still on dressing up to look matured, for dolls who look petite(small body).I upload some styles of clothes you should try as much as possible to avoid. I know that every woman wants to look cute ,but not to attract younger men. Take a look at the pictures 1 & 2,those ladies look very young cos of their style of clothes.avoid flayed,skirts and gowns. Rather go for straight cut dresses,shirts e.t.c.instead of short gowns,go for maxi.You can do the "Don't" once in while, but you have to mind what kind of occaision ,and the type of guests you would meet.See pictures 3 & 4.
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| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 7:37pm On Mar 12, 2013*. Modified: 9:19pm On Mar 12, 2013 |
Hey dolls,how are you doing today?.Hi to the new members,welcome to the thread @Miss blanche and other petite dolls in the house.I mean those who look toooo young for their age(small body).Some times it gets so annoying ,cos it attracts younger guys.It hurts you know,especially when you don't have much time,biologically. So I uploaded some pictures as regards the kind of hairstyles you should avoid. Avoid the hairstyles in pictures 1 & 2.Pulling your hair back,brings out your face very well,and makes you look younger.Those women(alicia keys and one other actress ,(I can't remember her name)are actually in their thirties but that hairstyle made them look 20+.So imagine how you will look if you have a young face,wearing that hairstlyle So let's go for hairstyles in pictures 3 & 4.It makes you look matured.I know the weather is hot but letting your hair down boosts your age. I know you don't like makeup,but going with a natural face makes you look younger too.wear some makeup but please keep it calm.I hope this helps. I will also upload some pictures on styles of clothes you should avoid.Good evening. 1 Like
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| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 4:33pm On Mar 11, 2013 |
Phinalphantasy: .as to the marriage proposal from a guy living with his parents...I'll tell you a true life story...my elder brother started so. right now all is well and ok with him and his family, two cars and two booming Biz.First I want to commend you and Ichidodo for the way you guys handle the little hiccup we had earlier.It showed a great level of maturity and the sense of responsiblity.Thank you As for the marriage proposal,I never mentioned anything about guys who still lives with the parents.Personally,that won't be an obstacle to our marriage.He might be an only son/only child you know. Am talking about a guy squatting with his brother.I mean,he is entitled to just one room in his brothers house and he wants to marry your sister.Perharps she is close to 30,and can't wait to get married.From the look of things,they seem so inlove with each other.What advise will you give to her?. |
| Romance › Re: T D H Vs S D H by carmelion(f): 11:23am On Mar 11, 2013 |
No matter your height,just find a babe you are taller than.You will become her TD/FH. A guy who is 5'6 would be considered tall by a girl who is 5'2. That same guy is short ,when he stands close to a girl who is 5'10. just know your height and go for someone shorter.I hope this helps,though i know you are bothered about your children. well i have seen some couples ,where the wife is taller.i think in this case,it is either the does not mind.she is in love,or the guy has some other fascinating qualities e.g |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 10:45am On Mar 11, 2013 |
missblanche: Whenever i hear the word "marriage" my heart just skips a bit and get filled with fear,love is a very complicated issue for me,i remember when my aunt was about 31,good job,a car but no man but she was the sweetest person i know,she would cry every night because no man was coming,funny enough a man came along,when they got married,it was war,it was as if they never loved each other,that made me terrified,she has two boys but i'm still scared because i don't think she got married because she loved him..its even scarier for me because i look like an 18 yrs teenager and the funny truth is that i'm close to 30..each time i go out...i get approached by small boys and its so f..king annoying and then really old guys come along also and i wonder what da heck is wrong with me..everyone says i should be grateful for my body including my dad and sometimes i feel the body is not helping..Hi doll,hope you are good?. Believe me that can be very annoying.i have some friends that are petite like you too.They complain the same too.Well i think ,so many people must have given you so many suggestions offline,so there is nothing new to say. But all the same ,I will say it just in case,they missed out somethings. You need to watch your dressing.That includes your hairdo and your makeup. You also should mind the kind of occasions you need.Campus activities might be interesting to you but,80% of the guys you will meet there would be younger.Mingle with matured circles and improve on the way you carry yourself.I will upload some pictures when i have the time just so that you will understand what i mean. As for the older guys,I really dont know a differnt way out.Your body attracts them.Have a nice day |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 10:15am On Mar 11, 2013 |
ichidodo: @carmidoll,first of all this here is nairaland and i believe we are all here to learn and share alike. Secondly,this here is ure thread and i understand the need for u to stick to the objective as far as ure thread is concerned, but i refuse to be slandered by you as i am not teachin anybody how to flirt and i am not a novice when it comes to that, phinal said he was comin wit somfin on that and being the sanguine dude that i am i told him to bring it on. He did, i and some others gave him a pat on the back for that. You dont have to single only me for the 'hair drier treatment',that is not fair.Good mornin.Sorry if i sounded harsh but if you must notice ,I mentioned Phinals name too.The fact that 'it is my thread' does not stop you or anyone from posting things here,but it has to be meaningful to the single ladies. That topic really got to me.People are here trying to heal their wounds and what someone shows up with is how to flirt?It is just like walking into a hospital to teach a woman who just lost her baby-The best way to have sex.I mean you will get her upset because she has done all that before. In fact she is even crying that all the sex she had did not payoff.The poster did not mean any wrong,but I think I should let him know how I feel. If you observe very well,when the thread starts to derail,the ladies go calm just so they wont quarrel with anybody.That sends them away,back to depression, loneliness,to the shell they came out from.It is not fair. Ichidodo,I don't have anything against you, neither do I have anything against Phinal.I just want us get along smoothly. i hope we are fine now?Goodmorning 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 5:19am On Mar 11, 2013 |
Igwe OO: Not a bad thread, bn learning a few "thangs" from it. Kudos to the nice lady that started it.Thanks. |
| Celebrities › Re: Rita Dominic's Style At The AMVCA 2013. Hot Or Not? by carmelion(f): 4:48am On Mar 11, 2013 |
ryme2d: i no understand, na church she dy go abi she na muslin babe naNaaa,she was celebrating being an African. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 4:33am On Mar 11, 2013*. Modified: 9:17am On Mar 11, 2013 |
] ichidodo: @phinal, fantastic bro, from now on am a call u smackdaddy.@carmidoll, lighten up boubou. Being single should be fun and not all gloom and doom. About ure question, hell no, my sister cant fall for that. A brother has to hold sumtin down before thinkin bout settling down, if he tries to do otherwise then he is a dumb nigger and i'll be damned if my sis gets down with that.@bolded,I guess it was because of my earlier post.Well,I might not be an extrovert,but am very far,as in very far from boring. I am only trying to protect the interest of single ladies who will stumble on this thread later. You have no Idea how tired and discouraged someone can get,to join a thread that already has more than 40 pages.That's why I don't get upset/surprised when ,someone just jumps in immidiately and starts making heart breaking comments about single ladies here. And when you try to stop them,they would say they have read through the thread from the first page to the present page.that is a lie,because,anyone who has read through all these pages ,would not make some kind of comments here. @Ichidodo,If you want to teach/learn how to flirt,Kindly search for such topics.I am sure someone must created it here,I mean 2005 is a long time.If what you saw is not educative enough for you,kindly use the 'create a new topic'button. You guys are not in a womans world so you would not understand how important this topic is for us. Okay, maybe I should just come out straight,this thread is for single ladies.Personally,I can also lecture people on how to flirt,am not a novice when it comes to that.So you see,I don't need the lecture,like wise other ladies here.I mean we,have had relationships that did not work out. Either you or Phinal should try and open a thread on that,let's see how it goes. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 4:07am On Mar 11, 2013 |
alutacontinua: What attracted me to this thread is the doll thingy. was tryna imagine howHey doll,emmm let me see.....Lutadoll should be fine. .I think I noticed you on the thread when it made front page.Then all of a sudden you disappeared.Anyways ,welcome back |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 9:36pm On Mar 10, 2013 |
@phinalphantasy and all the new members,please kindly read the first page of the thread again,so that we don't get things mixed up here. @all the guys in the guys,I need an honest answer from you. What advise would you give your younger sister if she tells you that her boyfriend is about to marry her but he is still squatting with his elder brother?. When I mean squatting ,I mean he has just one room there and he has no plans of moving out soon,but he wants to marry her. I am asking this question because you guys just don't know the calibre of Men that falls under the name 'suitors'.All you say is that women are materialistic. Persaonally I can't marry such a man,I will give you my reasons when you guys answer my question. Let the answers roll in!. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 11:43am On Mar 10, 2013 |
On a lighter mood .I have been trying to Upload my own List but it says file is too large.*laughing*Don't mind me joor.Happy Sunday everyone.Relax. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 11:34pm On Mar 09, 2013 |
Thanks to everyone for your contributions.Please,I know that we all have special buddies here but you all must agree with me that if we come here to exchange pleasantries and chat always,then this page would get to 100 pages without any meaningful advise for the singles. That would not be nice.All work and no play makes jack a dull boy you know,so I kbow that this thread would be become boring if all we do here is lecture,lecture,lecture. Once in a while we will chat but let's moderate it by chatting through PMs.I have close buddies who I chat with through mails just so that I won't get distracted here.Please letsall try to do same. This is for the new members.The old members already knows this and I thank them for complying. |
| Family › Re: Sweet Things About Your Mom That Make You Smile? by carmelion(f): 5:39pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
My mum, The most dotting mother on earth.Never believes that am grown.If i should tell the places this woman has followed me to,you guys will pity for me. At my age ,she would go out and when she comes back ,she would shout my name calling me to come and take what she bought for me. Guess what.biscuit! ,I mean those type,kinda gartens take to school.smh.What do you want me to do na?is it not to collect it and thank her?*laughing* I love you mum>3 God please give money ,i want to pamper this woman,bless me lord. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 5:04pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
DailyNews: So carm is very right...very right...but what's the way forwardThe way forward is to be emotionally prepared.let me share a story with you When I was in my final year,one guy from my village ,just came back from his base(spain)and spread the word that he was looking for a wife.You know how guys do their thing.I have an uncle who was kinda close to him so he refered him to me. I met the guy,he was okay in terms of appearance .My uncle told me in confidence that I should make sure I hook this guy.He said he knew him right before he traveled out,so I should go ahead, that he is a nice person,besides,he is very wealthy with a lot of landed properties in his name. Everything my uncle said was very true but I discovered that we are going to have one problem. Distance or should I say sex? His plan was to marry me,put me in the family way.take me to his mum,while he travels back and from then starts processing my papers. Hell no!!.One of the reasons why i would want to get married is to have rightful sex.Besides I have a high sex libido so what the hell am i supposed to be doing with myself during those cold nights.As a married woman,no more boyfriends right? hmmmm....,I can imagine. Well I did not tell him the major reason why I can not marry him,i told him something else. Well the guy found someone else(obviously who did not mind)and they are married now. Till today, no one knows why i turned that guy down,not even my uncle.The guy has money,so obviously i don't need to tell you the type of car he bought for his wife.My uncle always tease me anytime we see her he will say''kai,this girl you fall my hand o,it could have been you riding that car.what exactly is wrong with you? In my my mind i would just be laughing.I don't regret my action one bit because i know where my weakness would have landed me. But it made me to go back to the drawing board I asked myself"what if I finally marry a guy who stays in Nigeria with me and years into the marriage,he decides to travel out for maybe 6months /1 year? perhaps for business purpose but obviously for the betterment of the family.Does that mean I can not stay?Does that mean I will become unfaithful to my hubby all because of some minutes enjoyment?hmmm..I need to watch it". That was one of the things that inspired me to go into celibacy,total abstinence from sex.I needed to discipline my self.I started last year,after I broke up with my last boyfriend.This month made it one year.You have no idea,how happy i am .It was not easy but the grace of God saw me through.What am I trying to say?Know your weaknesses,especially the ones that would affect your married life.Work on them,discipline yourself,develop yourself,groom your emotions.Be prepared 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 4:19pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
Evelyn06: Don't just expect anything, expect the best, not the worst and keep your thoughts positive. What if your husband becomes the governor or president, will you be able to handle the fame and power that comes with the position? Other people's mishaps don't have to be your lot too.Expect anything,that includes both the worst and best.But naturally everyone expects only the best,just like you said.Of corse,we have to be positive.Forgetting that the worst is not meant for a particular set of people. IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU!!! Yes it is not your portion,now tell me whose portion it is? My dear ,a lot could go wrong in just one minute.Have you seen a marriage without a problem.Personally I have not.Some couples let everyone know that they have a problem,while the matured ones scale through it silently without the world laughing at them.We all might not be on the same page about this(we must not be),but i just want single ladies to know that marriage is not usually what some of us fantasize about.You have to be emotionally matured to carry on. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 2:49pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
Now these are the questions I want us to answer. For each question, I bet you, you know someone it has happened to or you have the story before. We hear these stories everyday you know. To all the single ladies in the house, you know sometimes, we feel so depressed that we don’t have a man in our lives to call our own. I want to believe that most of us her are ready for marriage, but there is a possibility that most of us are not. Now read this. 1. Do you know that when married, your husband might loose his job, and stay for years without getting another job. Of course the bills has to paid. Where do you get money from? Do you know that things can get so bad you will relocate to the village, I mean no money to buy common lip gloss? ARE YOU READY? 2. Do you know that your husband can fall sick (I don’t mean malaria).serious sickness that can see you guys moving from hospital to hospital yet no cure. Of course you are the Mrs., every body would abandon him for you. Have ever visited the hospital perhaps to see a friend? Remember how hospitals smell? Drugs right? The kids needs attention too. How can I forget the bills to be paid? My cousin(mid 30s,with four kids) is in this situation now. Her husband was shot by armed robbers last year. Now his leg has been cut off, after three surgeries, that’s money you know. Stayed more than 5 months in the hospital. His former job requires his legs so much, so that means no more job? Hmmm. ARE YOU READY? 3. Do you know that years into your marriage, you might just discover that your husband ,that your sweetheart you have shared so much is a member of a deadly occult group. In fact he is one of the leaders. We see this always on African magic. You think they are just stories?. Honey they are not, they are real life stories. How do you handle such situation? The shock? The trauma ? To worsen it all , they are about to initiate your fist son and you are supposed to be a Christian right ?ARE YOU READY? 4. Do you know that years into your marriage , a strange woman might just show up at your door with her luggage and a protruding belly/a child, claiming that your darling hubby is responsible? I mean, just a silly mistake from your husband can turn life around. How do you handle it? ARE YOU READY 5. Do you know that your boyfriend, the same guy that pampers you like an egg now can change to a woman beater in the future.? How do you handle it.ARE YOU READY? 6. Do you know that some women have woken up in the morning, only to discover that that their husband ha traveled out of the country, leaving you with the kids? The only thing he dropped for you was short note that says ” Honey, as you are reading this, I would be on my way to Europe. I am going there to look for greener pasture. Nigeria is so hard I feel I won’t make it there. Please take care of the kids I would be back when things are better. Love you”. Hubby. Did you guys notice anything there? No return date, no contact address, no phone number? How do you cope? ARE YOU READY. 7. Do you know,that your husband can fall a victim of conspiracy in his place of work ?.I mean some people just don’t want him to get to the top. Do you know that they can connive against him and before you know it, your husband is in jail?. Whether he is innocent or not, you don’t know, but the truth remains that you are supposed to be the one making every move to get him out? Can you handle it? ARE YOU READY? I am asking these questions because some single ladies feel , marriage is a resting place. Please, USE THE RESET BUTTON. It is not .it is just another phase of life with its own problems. Now I know that some ladies would say ”When I get to the bridge. I will cross it’.or "I will handle the way others are handling it". That is good.But don't forget that many women could not cope anymore they choose to abandon the marriage.Some struggled to cope,and the stress killed them. I believe the knowledge that such things might happen, gives you the privilege to brace up at least a LITTLE and prepare your mind for marriage.It comes with a lot.When married you are now responsible for another person.(Your husband).Expect anything. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 2:39pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
My mum use to tell me that when you make up your mind to get married, the first you should do is to go to the nearest market and ask them for the special material called ‘tolerance”. I know you will be confused at the moment but that is my mum for you. She has a way of describing things. Call it a sense of humor, you might not be wrong. She said when you buy this special material, you should take it down to your tailor, choose any style you want to sew it. When the tailor is through, put on this robe to see how comfortable it fits .If you feel you wont wear it for long, maybe due to hot weather, or the material would soon be out of fashion, or you feel there is no much room for allowance just incase you grow bigger, please give the tailor back for adjustment. Until you wear this cloth called tolerance and feel comfortable in it, please, go back to the drawing board. From my aunt I learnt that you can not fully understand your spouse to be until after marriage. Reasons? People change. Change is the only constant thing in life. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 2:37pm On Mar 08, 2013 |
carmelion: Now just for the weekend. There are some questions I would post here later in the day.I would be generous enough to include the guys, they have been so helpful with their comments |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 11:27am On Mar 08, 2013 |
Now just for the weekend. There are some questions I would post here later in the day.I would be generous enough to include the guys, they have been so helpful with their comments If your answer to more than two of those questions is “noooo” or ,”God forbid” or “it is not my portion”(I wonder whose portion it is then), then am sorry, you are not ready for marriage even if you are 40. One aspect of getting married is to attain a marriageable age; another aspect is to be ready. So many ladies just start having marriage vibes once they are past 25, but they are not truly ready. Some guys starts getting the message when they are past 30,but they are not ready. When I post it,as usual, criticism are welcomed. We all here to learn. I have never been married you know I only learn from people’s experiences and stories. Later guys . |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 11:08am On Mar 08, 2013 |
Hey dolls and of course the guys, TGIF.I have read a lot of comments here concerning one of our sweethearts,chichi24. Honestly you guys have said it all,dailynews,bukaytyne,nbright,temi4fash,youngalex.simiyaki4real. I also want you to know that what she is feeling is normal for every woman. It is a phase a girl must pass. You know we women dream a lot. Some are lucky enough to actualize that dream while other starts to wake up with time .It is normal and it is natural. It’s all part of growing up. There is nothing you guys will say now that will say to her now that would make her change her mind now. The feeling to change /make some adjustments would only come from deep within. Some girls seriously want to marry someone from their state. My cousin wanted someone from my town not just State, well luckily/unluckily she later did at the age of 31.She has two kids now. There was less pressure for her because her parents supported her. My grandfather refused all the guys that came for my mum and her sister. He said his son in-law must come from my town not just State. Well my mum married at 27, my aunt, at 30.There was less pressure because their dad was in support. @Chichi, are your parents aware of this your list? , are they in support? even if they are in support ,please I would like to advise you that there is time for everything because they wont be there for ever. There is a time it would get to, you would wish you never listened. I would not tell you remove some things from your list. No, I won’t do that because I have some things on my list too , which are soooo important to me. Nobody can tell me to remove it because I am the only one that understands why I need it. Please think about what dailynews said ,some things on your list limits your search. Please broaden it. @ all the single ladies, lets go back to our list whether we like it or not, lets tell our selves the truth, some things there are not so relevant. Lets get our priorities right. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 2:46pm On Mar 07, 2013*. Modified: 3:59pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
Hey Dolls I learnt a lot from it,please do not start what you cannot finish.I subscribe to Chaircover's contribution on page 3.For the single ladies in this dilemma,the thread might help. https://www.nairaland.com/1217077/how-bad-it-return-engagement/3 |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 2:23pm On Mar 07, 2013*. Modified: 3:53pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
DailyNews: I apologize for bringing that topic here, what made me to bring it up was saxking's comment and nbright's response, so I tried letting them know why many people now feel reluctant to take online friendship and transaction serious to the extent of meeting in real life, so I shared my experience cos I like teaching from what I know best. But I am sorry for that, let it not discourage anyone with good intention pls...just be cautious, thats all.^^^@bolded C'mon that was not neccesary .I just feel it would distract the purpose of this thread,but on the other hand,no knowledge is a waste.From my analysis,i think you placed the cart before the horse.Before you embark on a great mission/project such as what you did,so many things has to be in place,both financially,economically,everythingcally(my own English) but most importantly, emotionally and psychologically. Personally I have this habit of always expecting the worst behavior from people,So far i am not in a hurry to change it cos it has served as shock absorber for me. I mean I hardly get surprised.I was betrayed by a group of friends during NYSC. After that,I expect less positivism from people.If they turn out to be good?,hurraaay!,if they turn out to be bad?.......... That mindset does not affect my relationship with people but before they act negatively,i already know they would do it.It does not happen all the time,but in most cases,i know.Besides NOT EVERYBODY WILL LIKE YOU,JUST THE WAY YOU DON'T LIKE EVERYBODY. well,take time to relax and cool your mind. Perharps that experience was your own platform to learn.But don't let your dreams die.I usually see that thread,but i did not know you were the initiator.Thumbs up to you. God will see you through as long as your motives are clean. |
| Romance › Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by carmelion(op): 12:21pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
DailyNews: I am speaking from experience. I joined nairaland with a very positive good heart, and mainly to promote my literary works and to also help other youths discover and promote theirs, and in the process, I formed a national association to unite young Nigerians who aspire to become acclaimed and successful writers in novel and script writing.I really don't like bringing other topics into this thread but i want you to know that it is normal.First this is Nigeria,secondly,they are guys, they need money.What you experienced is very common in a place where people feel they are not in the management level,they re not in the fore front.They think it is easy,you know the grass looks greener on another persons lawn.That is why people leave PDP to form APGA,just to lead,then when people join APGA and discover that the line is so long ,they break away and form CPC. Don't let it discourage you. Everyone wants to be in front but guess what?, everybody would not be in front.Some would be in the middle,others would be at the back.I want to be the manager in my office but you know what?,there can't be two managers.In life some will be rich,some will be average,some will be poor,but no matter your position,just know that some one is below you,and some one is above you.The earlier people realize this,life would be easier. Please keep up the good work.When next you will organise in Abuja,hint(PM) me just in case am around.Takia |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Nairalander You Will Like To Spend A Weekend With? by carmelion(f): 11:56am On Mar 07, 2013*. Modified: 12:26pm On Mar 07, 2013 |
sanb: I've got a long list of those I’ll love to spend the weekend with and it’s going to be one great party;@ Poster please ,add ‘S’ to Nairalander because they are more than 1.Thank you Sanb. though I am just meeting you for the first time here. You would sure be invited to the party.I would answer your question then Here is a list of the people I would like to meet/spend a weekend with Great minds(business ,properties& investment)-Seun, Daily news, Afam4eva, Caseraba, Boss13,Missblanche(f), Learn(f), obitee, business tools, Jarus. My life can never remain the same after meeting them all at once. Married Persons(family)-Zuby77(m).Mr Siena and Mrs. Siena, Debrief08(f), Chaircover(she amazes me the most), Jennykadry(f),Greatgod2012(f) and one other guy that opened a thread about helping a woman(his wife) when she is on her period. I can’t remember his name. These people gives me hope that with the right person, marriage is sweet. Entertainment-190, okija juju-their comments cracks me up anytime, any day.. Iduwuogbo, Itsmodella, kai!, I respect you babes here. You gat strength o! No dull moments with them. Health, Romance,Fashion & Religion- Carmelion. I don’t do do much of traveling, sports or politics. I hear people say it is a faceless forum , so people can pretend here and behave differently real life. Well, I believe you cannot pretend for long. Indirectly your true character must show. Besides, a light must shine no matter where it is hidden. |
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