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nbright: This will be very hard for a Nigerian girl to do... VERY VERY HARD... Most think it's only money that matters in a relationship, they always expect the guy to take them out to classy restaurants for dates, buy them the trendiest wears, pet them always, finding cash to give them even if he'e broke, etc... Ladies should know that it's also expected of them to contribute in little ways to a relationship... It shouldn't be made to be one sided.

ichidodo: . E don tay wey i don dey admire carmillion o! But e b like her level pass me na im i reduce frequency to 'secret admirer' read my poems about her @ mr val thread here in the romance section.

DailyNews: Carm, you really need to understand who I am. I am a total snub when it comes to this. Do you know that I can just develop interest in a very ugly girl with no social or academic class just because she shows real concern over me? Yeah, thats me...and I can snub a very beautiful girl who sits next to me but shows no interest in me...yeah. I have lots of stories that if I narrate it here, most of you would marvel, but I won't so this thread doesn't get derailed. I know Nigerian women love that feeling of one dumb guy chasing them up and down, but thats stupidity to me because once a girl likes u, you don't need to stress it.

My mother told me that she had already said yes to one military captain back then who drives volksagen and land rover then, and according to her, she didn't liked the man because of the fact that he was a military man cos his beloved brother died during the civil war as a military guy, and she developed hatred for military, only for one to come to ask for her hand in marriage.and as it may interest u to know, the parents accepted the man for these reasons:

1. the man came from a very strong Anglican family, the father was a church teacher
2. he is from a neighboring community to my mom's own

my mom had no option than to accept, so they fixed date when the man would come with his people when his work leave starts, and before that period, my dad met my mom, how?

At an Anglican church anniversary, and my mother was a church choir, pretty ...my father and his childhood friend came to that anniversary from a very far community, and guess what they came with a bicycle

He saw my mother singing and his heart went fly....he told his friend, they waited and waited till the end of the church programme and even traced my mother to her parent's house and then they went inside and asked for water, and were given water and they finished drinking and left.

My mother saw him and she said she just liked him and wished he could just talk to her, but he didn't he left.

They came back again on another sunday....now, pay for your reader subscription fee

Now, why did I narrate the story? to tell guys that once a girl likes you, you won't labor to get her and to tell the ladies that its not about money, look beyond now and see the future I know that we live in a fast generation- fast cars, fast money, fast relationship, fast everything, but hey! Slow down and see the future

taio luv: @all people who contributed to this thread,tank u all,thumbs up

Today is my birthday and am alone, d' pressure is high,bt i pray to God it wil be wt my husband for my next year bday IJN.

Love you for ur words of inspiration and advise it is shaping me up nicely for my soon very soon husband

missblanche: @carmelion:your post really got me all emotional,there are days i just sink into depression and i have those same thoughts..i thought that i was the only one that thought that way..this days i just channel my energy into doing stuffs and take my mind off the whole depressing thoughts...its crazy..its sad that most nig guys think all the ladies want is just money..not so for some of us..it makes everything hard,very hard..

DailyNews: Now you have defined what I call male-stupidity! Chasing a girl who made it known to you that she doesn't care, gosh! Some guys lack integrity and masculine ego. For what Come on, sorry to sound this way @chichi, are you The Queen of Sheba for him to be drolling like that? Is he enchanted or bewitched He should have moved on, if chichi says NO, there are thousand and one more prettier, trendier, more intelligent and more exposed girls than chichi out there waiting to welcome and celebrate him like King Solomon, so why chase a girl who showed no interest in you Now, I see why Nigerian ladies lack respect for the guys, gosh! This has to stop!!! Any guy thats reading this and he does this, pls for the sake of the entire male integrity, stop that useless attitude from NOW!! When one girl turns you down or says NO to you, there are thousands if not millions of better girls out there ready to embrace and celebrate you, majority of Nigerian guys don't know this or maybe they know but are just on a bad mission to hit and run like I hear them call it.

So angry

obitee69: She did it yesterday and it cameout positive..she's lik 3weeks or so

chichi254: Early last yr, i was introduced 2 dis guy whom i hav nevr met physically though hav seen his pix. As we strted communicatin on phone my mind just told me dt i can trust him wit my hrt. That made 2 become very free n open 2 him. I think he is open 2 me as well. But then i found out dat it seems as if i'm d only only dat pushin d relationship. Any small thin he would stop callin until i call. Ealy this yr, sth happend and he stoped callin again. I too decided not 2 call him and 4 d past 2 months we hav not spoken. Infact, sometimes i wonder who i can trust. pls i wish 2 be advised.

DailyNews: I never knew that ladies do truly desire true companionship from men.

biolabee: Good to know << side hug >>

biolabee: Carmelion it will sound like platitudes but be strong
Do not think such thoughts for not one hair on your body falls to the ground without Him knowing
So go back to Him

Dont let anyone get you down
It is well

biolabee: carmelion.. no response to my points?

nbright: I thank God for my life o.... Would have been a dead man if not for GOD's grace... Nearly met a robbery operation in progress if not for some circumstances that altered my movement...

biolabee: this defintion of rich in my opinion extends to politicians, government contractors and middle aged guys not always the young dudes
So are these kind of guys available to single ladies except divorcees or baby daddys

I suggested polygamy to know what this forum thought since economic empowerment is not really an issue for you guys
So all those olden days of jealousy and in fighting over property is a non-issue

So will empowered young women consider this

Ijebulogic: Seriously Are you trying to whitewash the fact that this man conned his first customer and is smug and proud of it? I wonder why you feel i should be ashamed of myself for speaking the truth? I have no ill feelings towards the man o!! he wont be the first or the last business man to build an empire from defrauding customers...my real concern is with all the young men and women posting on how "inspired" they are by this man. Lets just call a spade a spade and stop trying to defend the indefensible.

Ijele-igbo:
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A person worthy of marriage wants you to be
assured of your worth, and his/her love and respect
for you. They communicate things like: "You are a
blessing to me, you make my life better, I am
grateful for you, you are special to me, etc.

Never settle for a partner whose idea of love is to
constantly put you down, or to regularly demean
you.

Maya2pretty: Carmyyyyy so ur not only intelligent, ur hillarious too lol

chikeorji123: Hi Carmelion! l'm in nigeria 24/7 my dear trying to reconciled with my God and strategize on things to accomplished this year which made me been offline though sometimes check around to see who & who is in the house only to bounce on univited guest...that will be derailing...ended up bounced out..wait o! did u said london to look for a queen? wow how do u know? hahaha l still believe we have a nice chocolate queens here in niger naa, do u have an idea a nice place were to locate them..Mum on my neck..man need to settle down. (sorry for delay in response).

missblanche: Thanks a lot i just feel better sharing it,i am self employed..i'm a baker..i'm into cakes

ssultana: Just what I needed........a thread to make me feel completely okay with the fact that I'm single...When the time is right,things will fall into place,pls ladies don't rush into anything you are not sure of

missblanche: i have learnt the hard way...most nigerian guys just scare the crap out of me..some are looking for ladies they can suck dry and dump later on,some just want sex all the way,some want to just make you hate yourself but the good guys are so few and invincible..i remembered one crazy relationship i had and all i did was hurt cus the bastard involve was never satisfied with whatever i did,he always wanted money,always accused me of cheating,even went as far as isolating me...i just respected myself and took a very long run and never looked back..