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@youngalex happy sunday
@dagr8,thanks,happy sunday to you too
@jugdedredd,welcome to the thread.

Where is Maya2pretty?

Meanwhile Dj,turn on the music!
Party ends by 11.59 today.From tommorrow ,its back to normal

ichidodo: The parry yesterday was CRRAAAZZZZYYY! I was so high that i fell asleep whilst online. @carmidoll,My bou-bou, sorry to burst ure chops but am not a 'hustler' just a hard working professional. Just need to clear the air about that before somebody somewhere thinks that i aint legit,u know what i mean anyways have a wonderful sunday afternoon.*hugs*

No probs teddy*hugs*

@Madrid,yes am good,sorry I slept off yesternyt.Let's gist later,when I come back from church

@MissblesIN.you re welcome doll.Happy Sunday

@All,just incase you re wondering,what's popping,we had a small get together,yester evening.We were celebrating the return of SimayankiBaba(according to Ichidodo(the only teddy bearin the house).

So when you come in,grab a glass of wine and join the party!,mingle and gist alllllll you want.No one will stop you.Invite your friends too,RSVP(rice and stew very plenty)lol.

I want to officially announce to you guys that I have totally forgiven him.I mean with families like you,who has time to sulk?*blushing*

Below is Simyanki and I

See you guys later,am off to church

chikeorji123: l will step up ur advice not to be too late on wife to be..concentrating on Carmellion now directing me on Maya..chocolate!..even went further to state*your taste*..hahaha what a complicated world we live in!..or have someone already occupy the office? never! *having a seat at bacony thinking*..

LMAO,but you that's what you requested for.chocolate skinned damsel.I remember your words clearly,haaba.

Meanwhile don't think too much and by the way,no one in the office yet.

@dailynews,I have forgiven Simayanki.goodnight.

@Madrid,I don't know how I found out but is it not true?.

@ichidodo,only you vodka+Malt?.What is next?juice?

madridsta007: Erm.... Clears throat... Clears throat again...


Did carmydoll say those golden words, the 'I am not in a relationship?'

*opening a new page to prepare my manifesto*

ROTFL!,Manifesto?yeah right,I know you are in a relationship so don't even start.Don't ask me how I knew.

@lutadoll,am not in a relationship.When you hear me say"my boyfriend",am refering to my ex.I talk so much about my past relationships.If I enter another,I will surely let the house know

@ichidodo,I like your personality,a little work,a little play.Never mind,keep the hustling spirit active,you shall get there.Meanwhile,where is phinalphantasy?,I know he likes Fun.

@sheybor doll,am cool dear.have fun

@2sexy.net,before the ladies here decodes anything for you,You have to convince us that you don't want to practice Hit and Run .

@All Let's gist allWe want.From monday,it is back to bussiness.

Meanwhile,who is the DJ?and what music is playing at the background?

ichidodo: Am not a gent. If ladies here are called dolls,then i am a teddy.So what is happening? All i see here are fawnings and mushy wushy stuff. Let us get to work! Come on people!!

Lol@teddy bear,Well even without you saying it,let me tell, that is exactly the way I picyure you here.You seem to be the playful type

As for the mushy wushy stuff,I noticed it too,but its like,everyone is in the mood.We are celebrating the Prodigal son.lol

So I have decide to let everyone make merry.So tell me teddy,ow are you?By the way grab a glass of wine and join the party!

madridsta007: But we must respect that carmydoll has her hands full.

Lol,trust me when I say,thatsometimes it can pose as a problem to a lady,but never mind,if I like you,you will know.I will extend a hand of freindship in my own way.I just hope he will be sharp enough to decode it

I just don't like this whole,here- is- my- number-call- me thing.

Then after that I will now come for auditioning right?What then happens if I don't qualify?goooosh!,its weird to me .

@dailynews& Winneygirl,good to see you again,welcome back

@luta doll,apart from your speech about dailynews,you spoke my mind 100%,but we can't keep going front and back.Am really not happy with all this happenings ,cos new members might just get confused and bored when they get to this potholes.Its unfair to them.So I have chosen to forgive,I can't wait to get past all this.

@Nzube,dailynews is right,women are not wired to call a man because he said he is looking for a wife.I mean what do you want her to say when she calls?"Helo,my name is carmelion,I saw a Vacancy announcement for a wife,so I deceided to submit my CV?or what?

Please don't get me wrong,but I feel you should just calm,down,read through comments and choose whom you feel you can relate with.Then send her a PM.Goodluck,

At Ivynwa,you are are my dearest darling now.You won my heart when you wrote to Mukina.I will send you a pm later,let's discuss about launching this your matchmaking agency/shop .

@Simayanki,it's ok.I noticed you have modifed your post.Thanks you did a good job.I guess I should now try to modify it in my head,cos it keeps playing back like an Audio CD plate.I will modify mine later,so that we can bury the hatchet completely.Welcome Back.Mind a handshake?

@nbright.*smh*You never cease to amaze me..

chikeorji123: Oh! why is it that l'm always late to respond these days?.God pls don't let me be late also to my wife to be..u recomend MAYA?..what about you? now confuse..

Hello,chike,good to see you again.You just abandoned me here right?.Okay.

Even if you don't come here in the next 2months,I will keep on mentioning your name untill when next you stop by to say hello.

You were the first person that commented on this thread.

Please don't be late to your wife to be o,she might have waited for so long.I mentioned Mayas name cos from her pics,she is chocolate(that's your taste).

Its good to hustle o,money is essential but do come in once in a while.please take care.

simayanki4real: Hello dolls & gents!

I think i had to be off to cool off...i was really paranoid about somethings. I missed this e-family.

@carmdoll: i am sorry for unkind words i said, i take it back & offer my apology...please be kind enough to accept!

@all d dolls & gents: i apologise to you too.

I see you are not done with me yet right?First,you succeded in making me go back to the mirror,to know if I look frustrated,oh yes you did.

Then you now made to also understand why some ladies here on Nairaland keeps telling me that I have guts.I mean now I know why ladies shy away from opening such topic.It is either they are not interested or they can't stand the insults that will come with it.

Meawhile did you say,'unkind words'?.*SMH*.

No man,those were not words,they are KNIVES!,You cut me through the heart.I was soooo weak,but a lot of people here,and a lot of things kept me going.

I will still repeat it,a man can never understand a woman 100%.You noticed missblanche crying,the way other ladies reached out to me,did you read Smartie gurl's comment?.I wish I can show you my inbox,so that you will understand what I am talking about.

So imagine,what the main victim did.Only a woman,and a few guys would understand the depth of those knife cuts you gave me.

Now you say,you are sorry?


pheeew!










Well what do you want me to say?No?,So that everybody here would say that am wicked.

I am very emotional,oldest members of the thread,can attest to that.Every thing I have said here on this thread,is very real.I rather keep my mouth shut,than write lies.What will I gain?

So for the interest of this thread,I will accept your apology but when I truly forgive you from the bottom of my heart,even a blind man will know.


Naturally,I sulk a lot,so it will take me a little time but trust me, things would be fine.

Please modify that post,it is heartbreaking.Write something else there(a joke,a poem,a response to a topic previously discussed),you know, just be creative.I think someone,quoted you ,please tell him to modify his, too.I will change mine too.Let us pretend it never happened and please don't do it again.

Moreover ,don't say that to a lady outside,it is murderous.

I want to blame all this on misunderstanding,please let's try to comprehend before responding.

We all must not agree but If you disagree with a particular point raised by someone ,do that peacefully.

Goodmorning

youngalex: HITTING LADIES..am a very hot tempered guy and i try to caution myself when it comes to beating ladies,am a bit emotionless when it comes to relationships to avoid the hot temper,its really a big problem....I can't love a woman because am so hot tempered and is affecting me seriously

Sorry about the temper thing,but I am happy that you want to change.Accepting your weakness is one way to finding the solution.

First be conscious of your environment,especially the one that surrounds you with women.Avoid their arguements,always choose to listen.

When you notice that things are getting aout of hand,please be fast to ask for the nearest exit.Excuse your self and leave.Please don't hit a woman,cos we don't have strenght o,all we have is mouth/tongue(very dangerous weapons).You might just want to teach her a lesson and you will end up committing murder!.hmmmm,that kirikiri and Kuje things you know.please work on yourself now.

I wonder ,on what part of the body do guys hit a woman anyway?like seriously what part.Everywhere is delicate.

bukatyne: How is your day @ work?

I just want to find out if you don't like it because:

1. you feel women are subordinate to men or

2. You feel everyone should be treated right irrespective of their position in life

Waiting for your answer...

Thanks.

^^^Thanks bukatyne(I hope I got it correctly this tym).My day went well.I thank God,got home safely.I am posting this from my room.

Yeah,I think it is because of both points. I might sound weird but that is the mentality I have always had.I grew up with.

One particular incident happened between me and my younger brother. We were very young then,I was in my mid teens and I have peple before him so you can imagine how young he was.

I sent him on an errand but you know boys na,they will always prove stubborn. So I rushed into the room,held him by his neck of polo shirt. I was expecting him to hold me back as usual so that I will beat him the way I use to beat him.

But to my greatest surprise,he just smiled and said to me

"Hmmm...,carmelion,it is not as if I don't know what to do to you o,or I can not beat you .no.I am just respecting you because you are my elder sister,and because you are a girl.

If I beat you,you will faint"

Call it a silly comment from a mere boy,but believe me I released my hand from his neck immidiately. I felt so ashamed of myself. I just managed to find my way back to my room. Those words hit me like bullet. Since that day,I mind what I say/the way I talk to him

A male friend of mine told me of how he fought with the sister when they were small. He so beat the sister,and of course gave her a wound. When their father came back it was reported to him but their father just consoled the sister,and did not say a word to him.

He went to bed thinking the dad was on his side. Lo and behold,at exactly 12am,midnight. The father came into his room,woke him up and asked him to look at the clock. He then asked his Dad why he can't wait till morning so that they can discuss better.

The Dad answered,"it is because of the urgency and importance of what I want to tell you. Now hold your ears".

"On no account,should you raise your hand against a woman. I mean no matter what" He tried asking the Dad,"what if she is at fault"

The Dad answered"I said no matter what,don't try it,women will always be women,but the moment you raise your hand against them,you cease to be a man"

I just feel men are naturally cautioned not to hit women,so I feel we should not push them to the wall.

Personally,I see men as a symbol of authority,and should be accorded some respect.

May be it is just my childhood experience with my brother .I don't want anybody to beat me and land in the hospital.lol.

Meanwhile something happened today in the office .I wont really go into details.Maybe am just the one feeling this way.

But i just don't like the way some women,talk to their male counterpart.I mean there are a thousand and one ways to drive home your point without bruising a man's ego.You need to see the way this colleague of mine commands/abuses the male subordinates. It is really an ear/eye sore to me.

The worst is those women that goes ahead to slap a man,just because you are higher than him in the work place? jeeeeeez!THAT IS SO UNLADYLIKE.

To the ladies,please let's learn to control our temper.I understand that sometimes,our hormones takes a better control of us but the ability to control it makes us a full woman.

@dagr8,i replied your pm,i hope you have seen it,thanks a lot

@doncolio,thanks for the compliment,you re permitted to remix my name to
CAMRY toyota(As long as it is the 2014 model )

@biolabee ,I have answered your question(no2) on page59,I await my score

@Infordollar,how can just pass on the thread like that?I need to see your pass permit
where have you been by the way?)
@Cowgurl.hugs and kisses to you too

@Cutejay,thanks

@jewelilly and Sidam500,thanks,you are welcome.

@0p.God bless you more!

nbright: You girls will be exposing your throats...

lol ,was that the only thing you saw there?eh,this man

@Aunty nurse,thanks doll,i love you tooo

@Miss blanche,good to have you back doll.

@Miss blessIN,just like lutadoll said,no matter how busy people get.they are never too busy for their loved ones.
i mean our family is never too busy to hear from us.I don't know how long you guys have dated,i would have said the
relationship is at its trying stage.I know that when couples break up and make up,the offended party takes time to go back to his or her usual self.

When i discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me,i threatened to leave him.Now one of his good characters is that he is very quick to apologies. He knows i have a soft heart .So he knew i would forgive him.But during that recovery stage,i did not call him for like one month.He was just the one calling every single day.i pick his calls reluctantly,but he knew it was his fault so he could not complain.It took me time before i forgave him and things went back to normal

So i would ask you,are you guys in the recovery stage after a breakup?.Did you offend him?

He might as well be facing a lot of challenges in his life,so he does not just have time for romance now.The distance too is not helping matters .Sorry

Whatever the reason is ,when next you visit him,have a heart to heart talk with him.if it is a family problem
convince him enough to confide in you.Be his friend and let him believe that everything will be okay.Give him the assurance that you want to help him with his burden.Also tell him that you love him so much,therefore his silence is affecting you.

Talk with him,i hope you will come back with good news.Goodluck

You guys are just the definition of awesome

Ivynwa,if it was offline,i would make you request for anything you want from me,i will do it as long as it is not the head of John the baptist .Thank you so much for writing to the moderator(((big hug))).I love you.

I actually noticed the ostrich guy but believe me,i was more interested in MissblesIN's case.Besides you know i enjoy dishing out the silent treatment.Before i knew it,I slept off,only to notice what happened this morning.

But i will blame it on members who actually engaged him in a discussion in the first place. That gave him entrance,When next you notice such people,such click'ignore all'.When they get tired they would leave.

Many people tried it when the thread started,one even said'God please let this babe forget this topic na".i did not reply him and of course he stopped.I think I saw him here yesterday,with a silly comment of course.I am sure he is just amazed that this girl has not forgotten this topic.

Remember what i said to simamyanki,when i replied him.I told him that he is not the first and he will not be the last to insult me and the single ladies here,others will still come.

This guy will not be the last.Meanwhile ,be mindful of this. LeDove,he is still Le Ostrich.Check his profile,he just opened it this morning and he is coming in peace. hmmmm,peace indeeed.

@Mukina2,thank you.

To the single ladies here,let no one bring you down.I look forward to that day we will pop champagne to celebrate that one of us here is getting married.As for me ,despite all i have said about myself here,I will dare nairalanders and upload my pix (with the consent of my husband of course ).We will upload pictures of interests we took on our honeymoon!We will announce baby bumps!.we will announce births!.

Until then,dolls be strong,keep your heads up like your nose is bleeding.Goodmorning(((group hug))))

dagr8: Hey thanks...i feel gr8

i sent u a PM

Ok,check your inbox.

missblessiN: Me and bf are having communication issues, i stay 5hours away wat shld i do?

You are welcome to the thread dear. You guys are having communication issues as in how?

You send him a text and he does not reply on time?

or he does things (travelling/getting a new job)without letting you know?,

Or what exactly?

Would you mind telling us the age bracket of both you and your boify?,it might help.

Orikinla: [size=18pt]I pray and wish he continues to excel and not soon ending up as another office worker achieving nothing more than earning a seven digit salary as another consumer and not a producer, innovator or inventor.

I know many First Class graduates who have achieved nothing more than collecting monthly seven digit salaries at telecom companies, beverage companies, oil companies and banks. But they are still non-entities in today's highly competitive digital age.

What we need most in Nigeria now are not youths with straight As or First Class degrees, but starry-eyed innovators, inventors and trail-blazing entrepreneurs for the nation building of a New Nigeria.[/size]

I agree with you 100%,but i feel the economy is not also encouraging too.especially ELECTRICITY!.every business depends on it.The successful companies we are seeing now are just enjoying their economies of large scale and competitive advantage production,i mean they have been there,they know the system,and they have outsmart the so called Nigerian economy.

Majority of them are even foreign companies,multinationals.

Everyone got dreams but only a few are actually brave enough to pursue.Anyways ,lets see where this power sector development would lead us to.Its tiring,very tiring.

Reading this thread makes my heart beats so fast ,i feel like ,everything should all happen at once.I got dreams mehnn.

Despite the heart attack it is giving me,op,I have bookmarked shaa. Kudos to you.

madridsta007: hahaha@ Ivynwa... Are you sure? Girls like carmelion are so 'taken'- that's the general preconceived idea anyway.

yeah,that's one problem,we ladies face sometimes,everyone just assumes you are in a relationship.

Guys just don't bother coming close to you,cos they feel it is a waste of time.They talk among themselves and say "Haaba,she must have been taken by now,Or you think you are the only one that likes good thing".

I don't know why its like that,cos it might interest you to know that most of these ladies ,you feel are taken,are actually single .But you know,women are wired to wait till the man asks her out.

My last boyfriend and I were actually just friends but i admired him so much,wishing he would just ask me out.

You should have seen how happy I was, when he told me how he feels about me .Months into our relationship,I confessed to him that i was actually tripping for him.We usually laugh over it.Some times he will tease me and say,'shey you know ,you were the one dying for me?lol.

Well these days,guys still walk up to me,i still get toasts on facebook but..........phew! i don't know.

To the guys,please don't assume she is taken,unless you have seen her with a particular guy.Walk up to her,there might just be some 'unannouced vacancy' .You never can tell.Learn how to know that 'we are interested'
.when we say it with body language.(Phinalphantasy is a coach in that,ask him,through PM)lol.

To the ladies,you have heard it naa,.Don't let any guy block somebody's view.Make sure that any man who likes coming around is serious with you.Some serious dude might just be observing you from afar,wondering whether he should come or not.

biolabee: ermm... before they tag me polygamic

1. I never said ladies are after money but wanted to. really understand what constitutes a rich man to the single ladies
Someone i think xyoung has actually tried to expatiate on a spectrum of males but obviously this is not enough as what i hear is someone who can thow down

What do women really want in this aspect as life is full of ups and down
The richguy today may be a normal guy tomorrow while the nerd/akushe of today is the lord of the manor tomorrow

2. Economically the reality is that today women are empowered and can on their own pay for vacations, toys and stuff. so why do they still ask for this requirement of guys being wealthy

Is it linked to the olden days of "if u suffer with a man, he will leave you? "

3. On sharing, what are the common vices of polygamy?
children fighting over inheritance, women left in the lurch after the death of the man, bla bla bla - it all comes to money and comfort

If the women are comfortable, would they be open to polygamy since their financial future is supposedly independent of the man

This is better than the neo-modernistic notion of "impreganate-me-i-dont-want-a-hubby" girls you see nowadays

This is to Biolabee and the other guys who wonder why women who work, or who are very comfortable, still looks forward to guys giving them money.I answered no 1 and no 3 earlier so this is the answer to no 2

Well I am just here to share my opinion. Please other members should feel free to share theirs. We know there are good men who truly fall in love with a lady who has it all, but there are some who are gold diggers, sheep in wolf clothing.

Some men who are very wealthy believes that every lady who smiles at them wants to get close because of his money. Some guys even go as far as disguising themselves, acting poor just to know if a lady would still tag along. That is the same way a lady who is very rich, naturally believes that any guy who approaches her for a relationship is just after her money. Nobody wants to be a fool.

So to answer your question, rich women still look for rich men because they want to be sure that you truly love them, not their money. I mean, you have money, so why would you still need their money?.

Now you asked, is it because there is a belief that when a woman helps a man, he will leave her later in the future?

Well, girls do it to guys too. We hear stories about a man, training a girl in school, hoping to marry her, only for her to abandon the man, for another person. Too sad, I tell. But did it stop other guys from doing it? No, some guys still do it up till today. Life itself is full of risks.

So I believe some rich women still go out of their way to help a poor man, who seems to be in love with them. They brush them up, even before presenting them to their family. They even agree to keep it a secret. So when you see them, you will think the man is actually as wealthy as the girl. Forget some of these pictures. It is only the woman, her closest friend and the man’s family that would know what is happening.

As for the ones you see waiting for a rich man to come and marry the, it is either because, they have had a terrible experience with the last guy they helped, or it happened to some one they know. But either way, they are just scared. Or wait!

Maybe, at their at their present level, no SINGLE guy has even approached them, only the married ones. You know when a woman has so much money; it is very intimidating to the guys. As in how would they take her out? Is it on a bike? Or in a taxi ? Can they afford her bills? A whole lot of things.? Or may be they don’t feel a thing for the single guy that approached them.

Phew! , my brother, there are soooooooo many reasons why that woman in your office, next to your house, in your church is single. I hope I answered at least 40%of your question

InesQor: Chei Aunty your blood hot small o

duuuuhhhhh*eyes rolling*,meanwhile uncle we are going off topic,the op might not like it

feels so good to see you guys again,good to know that you guys are ok

@eihmub,I understand,May God see us through.Even those who have jobs are looking for a better one

@Evelyn.I see you dear.

@Ichidodo,I missed you too bou-bou ,I had a low ba3+bad mood.Trust me,all has been fixed!

@Phinal,Congrats on your new job,so where the parry at?,We need to wash that job

@Madridsta.I miss your posts,they were so insightful,You say it as it is.I look forward to it,soon(hugs back)

@bukatayne,thank you for everything . You speak with so much maturity,i read your posts to bits.

@biolabee,am trying to see how I can answer the question o,its gonna be kinda long,

InesQor: LOL see you replying like it's my business. Just pulling your legs.

WHATEVER!

InesQor: You have done it as in you have stayed away or you have done it DONE IT?

hahahahaha,I mean I have stayed away.

^^^LMAO!YES I HAVE DONE THAT ALREADY!

biolabee: Sorry i joined late
I have some comments for the ladies on the thread as it seems you are all intelligent beautiful women who are trying to build successful careers for yourself

1. I agree that single ladies have challenges with trying to express themselves, any normal thing is seen as being ostentatious
If you are in ROme, live like Romans
How many guys will approach a lady who just bought a 7m cha cha RAV4


2. This your definition of a rich man sounds philospohical, can you break it down
A single friend of mine who has a house bought and fully paid for in Ajah still does not see himself as rich
He uses an SUV also (new)

Is he rich?

Or what is the same guy is renting only? is he rich




3. Do the ladies on this thread have anything against polygamy if monogamy does not work out

^^^,I guess this is the question right?I thought I answered mine o,so i don't know what you want me to say again .Maybe I answered it wrongly cos I did not understand it perfectly or maybe you didn't understand my reply. lol

Okay can you please rephrase it and come again?,You will get your answers this time.We have new members too,that would answer you and also benefit from your question.

Thanks for your comments all the same,I appreciate.