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2buff: How does the rejection taste?
Delicious isn't it?
Ya know, if you sprinkle it with some lack-of-shame garnished with a bit of self-pity, it really starts to settle in your gut like a heavy meal of pounded yam, egusi and assorted meat. Yum

This is what most guys have for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

^^^Hello house,lets discuss this tommorow.

Hope you all had a nice day?

^^^I promised to say the little I can concerning the above mentioned issue.So here I am.

What am about to say is as a result of my observations and by virtue of being a woman.

It might not be exciting especially to the guys but there is little or nothing anyone can do about. Sorry.

Mr Soyedele (and others who would find this useful),I want to tell you that a 26 year old girl and a 26 year old guy are just AGE MATES on paper,NOTHING ELSE!.In every sphere of life she is older than you(everything being equal) most especially biologically.

When I say everything being equal,I mean if both of you re given equal opportunities in life.

Mr Soyedele,let me give you an insight of a womans world. Once a lady gets to 18,she is biologically old enough to be married so gradually her mind starts settling towards that direction. I wouldn't blame guys for going after their age mates .It's only natural cos they re the ones that can really flow with them when they re discussing.

I mean the discussion between a 26 year old guy and an 18yr old girl may not really flow. The guy would feel more comfortable with his age mate.(My guess,am not a guy)

Mr Soyedele,the lady told you the right thing but in a wrong way(I mean her choice of words re not ideal). At 26,she must be facing pressure at home,I mean she is working,so the next thing obviosly is marriage.

Okay,let's assume she falls in love with you,(let's not forget that you re in school o,)then after which you will now go for one year youth service .

So that means she will be 27 when you pass out. Then you will start job hunting. May be or may be not,you will land a job.

But let me ask you,Mr Soyedele,what if you don't get that big job that would enable you go and pay a lady's bride price?She would continue waiting for you?with all the peer pressure?family pressure,societal pressure?or she should borrow you some money,later you will pay?

Even if she decides to wait,when it is time to marry her,it is the grooms family members that would kick against you marrying an older lady.

They would ask you what happened to the younger ladies?No amount of explanation would convince them,I mean they were not there when it all began.

Then in order not to disobey your 'loving/caring' family members you will now leave her may be at the age of 33 or so. Let me ask you who do you want her to marry then?

Yes the lady rejected you then, though in her mind(she might like you) but she was bothered about your current status. May be after school God,will make you a millionaire over night,but then the poor girl doesn't have the ability to see beyond that day(No human has the power).

Its not easy ,my brother. If only you know the pressure single ladies face. if only you know.

Please next time ,channel your love to someone younger,in age and status.

You won't have any problem. Infact,she will see you as a mini-god.

Soyedele1: You are doing a great job here carmelion.let me quickly share my experience with you.I met ds lady and I decided to ask her out bt do u knw she sd?she sd 'Samuel,I don't do such,u r not ready for a relationship,pls face your book and make sure you read well my dear'
I was like WTF I just left and smiled.im 26 ooo,imagine!!!!!

Soyedele1]@ carmelion.....Well,d gal is 25yrs old of age.we met tru a frnd and we xchanged numbers.she is a graduate of ui,nt presently working.
I only wanted to try my luck ni u knw?undergrad dating grad bt when i asked her out and it took me alot of courage to walk up to her and ask her out.i ws nervous dat day bt she gave me dt response i posted earlier and believe me,i knew she needs a relationship badly and im already to offer her one..
I met another lady during my PD days,i wanted to ask her out bt imagine ds lady telln me that she cant date her level mate and dt d least she can date is 300lvl.when we got to 300lvl,i asked her out officially and imagine ds gal telling me she is nt a secondary gal that do get moved with words and how does she expects me to take gud care of her snc we r both students.apart,she sd she cant date her lvlmate.i was like wow!!! Keep it up.

^^^^

More trads!

Even if traditional wears,always look sexy.

Just know what colour suits your skin and be creative

cowgurl: Wow-Nice, Nice, Nice!

Weldone ladies, most especially Carmelion-your thread did serve it's purpose, am glad.

Thanks hun

Hi dolls,hope you re ok?
TGIF!!!,yeah whether you re working,schooling or not,you should TGIF.
Friday means the weekend is getting to the end,therefore its time to rest and relax.

As single ladies,I want you to know that most single guys do not even remember that they re single untill weekends.You know why?

It's because they re busy chasing money(they need it to make things happen,you know),attending series of meetings both locally and internationally,inter state,and intra-state.E.t.C

In the mist of all these,it might interest you to know that some of them dont have time for toasting babes during the week.

You know they have a flight/bus/appointments/presentations/seminars/trainings/lectures e.t.c to catch up with.

But once,its friday,its all about weddings/parties/ceremonies/relaxation.So nobody is in a hurry,therefore everyone is in a relaxed mood.

_{So ladies,this is the time to attract them}. But remember,the eyes eats first before the rest of the body so it all boils down to our dressing.

For weekends,its all about,tops,jeans,shorts,skirts,outing gowns,traditional wears,and whatever you feel comfortable in but please no corporate wears and of course,they should all be decent.

My next post would come with pictures to serve as a source of inspiration on how to dress.

Less I forget,your dressing is incomplete without a smile.

Keep eye contacts too.its a source of encouragement for the guys.


~Have a beautiful day~

DailyNews: First I want to apologize for abandoning the thread out of anger...after reading through the comments following my pouring out of my anger based on what a friend told me, and coupled with my experiences here in the past, I felt bad, and felt like leaving forever, but I then remembered the story of Moses, lol, so I felt I had to say something to those that feel I am reasonable at least.

Winney, your deal is so touchy I must confess

Anyway, most of you may be new on nairaland, or the romance section, so I must let the new members know that DailyNews has been here for long now, and that handle has been through lots of drama, etc, both the ones I caused ignorantly and the ones people inspired to ridicule the handle. I have been attacked, criticized, called all sorts of demeaning names even when I had nothing against anyone, and I must agree that I made some mistakes just like every human, and I learnt from them, and tried all I could to amend and become a better person here on nairaland.

Let me spare the long story, Winneygirl, I appreciate your concern, I feel cool, I feel cool with all of you guys- carmelion, Winneygirl, edelweiss, Rooneyboy, ferhyntorlah, madridsta007, Cutejay, Aunty nurse, etc, etc...but I really think its time for me to go silent on this forum; there is time for everything, and I think I have tried my best, and have contributed my best too, and I know any day, any time, I will be remembered for either good or bad here.

I have learnt certain lessons from participating actively on this forum, I appreciate it a lot...and even if I am gonna be posting, I don't think I am gonna be a regular anymore, not on romance section, I take my bow.

Thank you once again, Winneygirl, pls I dont want them to tag you a bad name, so therefore, let everyone understand that she is only joking, and trying to gear me up again, and I appreciate that a lot...it means lots to me...

Wishing all the single guys and ladies here a successful love life when you find one soon. Take care guys, and pls carmy, do keep up with your good work here and don't let anyone bring you down. Bye

Thanks dailynews.I wish things didn't go this way.

The little time you spent here With us was effective,but I can not force you to go against your will.Bye

See you on other threads.

nbright: Nigerian ladies... I saw this on bbc.. No b only 4 Naija men scarce here's the link m.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-21192131

Thanks for posting.Funny though.But I think the situation is also related to the fact that their population is so much.

Besides,the level of the pressure on single ladies there,I mean based on what you posted, is higher than ours.I had a good laugh though.(I mean,a sad face won't solve the problem)

*God will help us all*

What the hell?I had to log in because of this.

Wait a minute.

He got his mistress pregnant and he doesn't know
how to tell the fiancee?.

Like seriously?

Okay he should tell her (the fiancee)that he kept his fluid in the refrigerator
and then the mistress visited and mistakenly drank it.

Nonsense!

I pity the fiancee,poor girl.

nifemi16: hi cammy doll, you are God sent. I have been crying and moody all day. feeling heart broken, lonely and rejected. Just cause I am single and lonely, was introduced to a guy, I call him more than he calls, always sending him text messages, but he is always so reluctant to respond. Twice he has stood me up on a date. Today I got really frustrated and I sent him a message on how I have cheapened myself before him, how I have chased him, yet he has made my efforts worthless. I told him how he has pushed me away. I promised never to call him again. instantly I deleted his number.
He hasn't replied me, but I am feeling really hurt cause truly, I have come to love him. Now I am hoping that he would realise that I truly love him, and he would give me a chance. nifemidoll.

kitty katty:He won't realize that u truely love him. Even if he does, he doesn't have a space for you in his life now. I want our ladies to be less sentimental and more logical in dealing with men

Someone that rarely calls you and Stands up on dates doesn't regard u. He may have given yopu a chance earlier, hoping that it will work but along d line, h realizes that its not what he wants. Free the guy and look for another person that will value you. As much as I advocate that ladies can make the first move, I also blv that they shd be smart and strong about it. Don't get emotionally involved too early and if someone rejects you, move on fast.

You have to treat yourself like you are special before someone will do that for you.

Hi Nifemidoll,hope you re better now?
Sorry i didn't reply on time.I lost track of your post,but someone mentioned you today,so that helped.
i don't really have much to say apart from what kitty katty advised you.

Please be strong doll.You will be fine.

Soyedele1: @ carmelion.....Well,d gal is 25yrs old of age.we met tru a frnd and we xchanged numbers.she is a graduate of ui,nt presently working.
I only wanted to try my luck ni u knw?undergrad dating grad bt when i asked her out and it took me alot of courage to walk up to her and ask her out.i ws nervous dat day bt she gave me dt response i posted earlier and believe me,i knew she needs a relationship badly and im already to offer her one..
I met another lady during my PD days,i wanted to ask her out bt imagine ds lady telln me that she cant date her level mate and dt d least she can date is 300lvl.when we got to 300lvl,i asked her out officially and imagine ds gal telling me she is nt a secondary gal that do get moved with words and how does she expects me to take gud care of her snc we r both students.apart,she sd she cant date her lvlmate.i was like wow!!! Keep it up.

Ok,then, Mr Dele.
Let's tackle this issue tomorrow evening(by Gods grace).I can't type long posts today.

Thanks for your reply.

Soyedele1: You are doing a great job here carmelion.let me quickly share my experience with you.I met ds lady and I decided to ask her out bt do u knw she sd?she sd 'Samuel,I don't do such,u r not ready for a relationship,pls face your book and make sure you read well my dear'
I was like WTF I just left and smiled.im 26 ooo,imagine!!!!!

^^^Heaven knows this one of the topics I wanted us to discuss this weekend.Hope you don't mind using your experience as a case study?

Ok,if you don't mind, before the week ends,Mr Dele can you please give a hint on the following questions:

How old is the lady in question?

what is she doing right now as in,is she a student or a working class?

A HINT(not the full story) of how you guys met.

Your answers would be of great help.

Less I forget,thank you for the compliment.

2buff: How does the rejection taste?
Delicious isn't it?
Ya know, if you sprinkle it with some lack-of-shame garnished with a bit of self-pity, it really starts to settle in your gut like a heavy meal of pounded yam, egusi and assorted meat. Yum

This is what most guys have for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Hahahahaha,OMG,lMAO.2buff, you really got my day kicking with this your post.

Okay we would discuss that soon.I mean how ladies should turn down offers politely.

Giving silent treatments is not the best you know.Being harsh is not, either.*Still laughing*

By the way,Dailynews has not REJECTED Winniegirl yet.

He is yet to see her post.

saxking: there are some Hawt gurls I know...can't believe they're single...what's going on in this naija?

Seriously,this topic was discussed on Wazobia Fm Abuja sometime last year.

As funny as it may sound,I feel I should say it here.Some people said,it's because many guys re in the prison.Is it true?

2buff: want me to show you?

Emmm...,wait let me ask google

Hey dolls,good evening and hope your day went well?

Valentine is around the corner.You know ,when you re hurt and lonely,you will just try to console yourself with saying like

"whats so special about this valentine sef?"
"valentine is like anyother day joor"
"Everyday is valentine for people who knows what love is"

Hahahahaha,lmao!,you know I said all that too,(cos i was hurt and lonely)

But sweethearts let us tell ourselves the truth,if we had someone in our life ,we wouldn"t be saying all that.
it would have been different,we would be looking forward to Valentine.

We hope to do that in the next Valentine.AMEN

SO dolls,its a week to valentine 2013!,how do you plan to spend it?

Lets hear it.Different strokes for different dolls,but whatever it is,lets apply one rule

IT MUST BE OUTDOOR!!!!,Yaaaay,you might meet him that day you know.

So dolls bring the game on!

http://www.bellanaija.com/2013/02/06/i-hear-wedding-bells-tiwa-savages-birthday-dinner-turns-marriage-proposal/

Tiwa Savage is 33.The guy who truly loves you would not mind your age.

Hang on dolls,you re not the oldest,you will get the ring!

Emmm.... Guys we want that type of proposal too.,please add some creativity

nbright: I am not fair.... I will never be fair (even if I bleach).

Ok then,Congrats

And as for the 3rd one,hmmmmm,my brother,I can't help it.By the way,its like you re fair like me?Eiyaaaa,sorry I got you there,but......don't worry. For you ,I can still change my mind o

I also want to tell you,its like the fair guys think the same too.None has ever approached me,they always mind their lane.

So you see?,I don't have to reject any body.Don't worry,am a good girl ok? have a nice day.

By the way,if you still want me talk more about it,just let me know.I will be free in the afternoon.

The second one is poor dress sense.They say dress the way you want to be addressed.

I try so much to practise that so my dear nbright,don't bother yourself over the guys with poor dress SENSE(I mean don't mistake sense for quality)whom you feel I must have have insulted/or looked down on.I said don't worry because they don't even bother coming.

Dressing well dosent need money.its all about combination,and colour.Please don't forget to iron them.

nbright: carmelion, I went through ur previous post in another thread and I found this... So if a fair guy approach u u will just snob him?.... (according to ur number 1 point u are a big SNOB) and here u are saying a different thing... Also in ur point No. 3 u sound pompous and proud.... Na wa o... Some girls will never change..

^^^,helllo,nbight,I believe you have seen the three diffrent dictionary definition of turn off which I posted earlier.its not as if I was trying to educated you but just for the sake of someone in the house who dosen't know.I mean let's not get confused along the line.

I also don't want you to feel like you discovered any secret by posting one of my comment on another thread here.If have anything about me that I don't want people to know here,I can always delete it.I mean whatever happened to the modify button?

Now talking about turn offs,I want you to observe those three definitions I posted earlier.
You might wish to observe further, that two of them mentioned "causes"(I highlighted it in red for easier location).It means we don't CHOOSE to react to them like that,they JUST happen.

It's a psyche thing,we can't help it.Besides,one man's meat is another man's poison.Something might be your turn off,where as. Someone else would not mind.

My no 1 turn off is actual three not one.They re as follows:
1.BAD DENTITION!
2.POOR DENTITION!!
3.BAD DENTIITION!!!

turn off
vb
1 intr to leave (a road, pathway, etc.)
2 intr (of a road, pathway, etc.) to deviate from (another road, etc.)
3 tr, adv to cause (something) to cease operating by turning a knob, pushing a button, etc.
to turn off the radio
4 tr
Informal to cause (a person, etc.) to feel dislike or distaste for (something)
this music turns me off
tr, adv (Brit)
informal to dismiss from employment
n
♦ turn-off
6 a road or other way branching off from the main thoroughfare
7 Informal a person or thing that elicits dislike or distaste.
English Collins Dictionary - English Definition & Thesaurus

Definition
[C usually singular] informal something which you dislike or which you do not find interesting or sexually exciting
e.g This system may provide a powerful tool for adults who find computers a turn-off yet need to learn to use them.
Hairy backs are for me the ultimate turn-off.
See also: turn sb off

(Definition of turn-off noun (DISLIKE) from the Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary & Thesaurus © Cambridge University Press)

nbright: carmelion, I went through ur previous post and I found this... So if a fair guy approach u u will just snob him?.... (according to ur number 1 point u are a big SNOB) and here u are saying a different thing... Also in ur point No. 3 u sound pompous and proud.... Na wa o... Some girls will never change..

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Main Entry: turn·off
Pronunciation: \ˈtərn-ˌȯf\
Function: noun
Date: circa 1852
1 : a turning off 2 : a place where one turns off ; especially : exit 3 : one that causes loss of interest or enthusiasm eg<the music was a turnoff[\b]

2buff: @Carmelion abi na agama
Why you dey take all dis Tori seriously. You seem like you're a very sensitive person (If you are honest with yourself, you would agree with this too).
A faceless forum with largely faceless people is no place to attach this much emotion to. 85% of the people here talk/act/possibly look differently in real life than they do here anyway and are just here to play a personality bred from fantasy.

So sit down, sip on some 2Buff juice and laugh at the next hater who feels the need to say something . C'est la vie!

Its stll carmelion or carmydoll not Agama.its not that am taking these stories.Seriously I mean what would I do if they were serious anyways?.

You see,one thing that has kept this thread going is that I am very real with everything I say here.

I also feel that's one of the outstanding features it has.No need for me to be fake here ,I mean who do I want to impress?it is a faceless forum you know.

As for being a very sensitive person.Yes I am,infact that is even one of my weakness.Am too emotional.I don't see people who said ugly things about this thread or about ladies here as haters,No I don't.I only take it that they passed the message wrongly.I mean it dosent matter what,but the way you say it matters a lot.

Hmmmm,You said something about sipping 2buff juice?Never heard of that before o,I only know chivita

ferhyntorlah: Carmelion, I think you should discus Make Up Application too. This shouldn't be overlooked.

For me, make up is meant to enhance, improve and add aesthetic value to the wearer's face but what do we see on some ladies' faces? Scary images!

Let me drop a thing or two: for those who use pencil to outline their eyebrow, please the best and appropriate colour to use is brown and not black. Brown gives a more natural appearance unlike black.

Also, those who like shaving completely their eyebrows and using wine/black/red eye pencil to draw eyebrows should please detest from doing so. Shape your eyebrows nicely and use brown pencil to outline the brows to your taste.

A woman wearing makeup appropriately applied is a delight to look at.

^^^Yes toriah doll,I had that in mind but I didn't have much time for that today.thumbs up to you,you va done that already.
Just like someone said,you sabi the technique die!

Idowuogbo: doll...u aint going anywhia!

are u aware ave bin following dis thread in prison? u here to stay mama! u doing a great job sweetie..

((((((hugs)))))

(((Hugs))).Thanks doll

madridsta007: People want to hijack your thread... Don't let them @carmelion

Thanks Madrid,trust me I understand you perfectly.

I still await your visit

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