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To every new doll in the house.humbledbygrace,kuphid,chinwe ,edelweiss,a whole of you all.I say a very big welcome.Feel free to say your mind

To every doll out there,especially those who re sexually active and those who who just broke up from a relationship.I want us to talk about the health aspect of a woman (as in reproductive system).How many times do you go for check up in the hospital or do you wait for symptoms like itching,odour,irregular cycle,abdominal pains e.t.c.There is a lab test called High Vaiginal Swab(HVS).Its for women only and it entails a slim swab stick driven gently inside your honey pot to collect specimen for culture analysis.The result is usually out after two days so as to observe if you have any infection.If you do,the result will say so.Then when shown to your doctor,he /she would take it up from there.Personally I do mine twice a year ie every 6months.its not so expensive(N1000-N1500) depending on the hospital.I recommend this test for every doll in the house especially if you re having trust issues with your man.Some of these infections might be in your system,and you wouldn't know.So don't just break up and feel you have gotten rid of him.Please run to the hospital and sanitize yourself.I don't need to talk much about knowing your HIV status@lewisky doll.pls take care

rita lewisky: Please I need help I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday.I feel I have allow him to play and toil with my life and this is tearing me apart, but I need to mend fast cos I can't just stop crying since yesterday. 1st he is a baby daddy of a 5 year old girl and a 2 year old boy.to make the matter worst another girl go through the line for him last week.I get to know and ask him and he said it is true that he does not have to lie about that,

Dear lewisky,its okay to cry and let it all out.after that,trust me you will be better.I want you to also consider yourself lucky not to have joined his train of baby mamas.I want you to take time and heal yourself.Avoid loneliness,go out visit friends,you can go window shopping with your friends.I know ladies enjoy shopping.Talk to someone close to you about it and then do the main thing,Shut Him out of your life for good!!!.He dosent deserve you.But there is something else I want you to do.Please see it in my next post.Its well.

Dolls do not drink.
Dolls do not smoke.
Dolls do not bleach their skin.
Dolls do not dress indecently.
Dolls do not take pills.
Dolls do not fight in public.
Dolls walk gracefully.
Dolls are contented.
Dolls do not wear crazy hair styles.
Dolls smell cool/nice.
Dolls seek to develop themselves.
Dolls do not keep late nights.
Dolls do not go after men,they attract men

*A very good morning to the dolls in the house!,hope you had a sweet night?.

*Hi,dudes,thanks for popping in,thanks for your advices too.

Ok,house!,believe me you all made my day.Thank you for appreciating my thread.Didn't know it would even grow up to this point.My mail box is beeping too(PMs).There re really some extra-sensible posts I would have loved to reply,but locating them is kinda difficult.Maybe because am feeling sleepy right now.Nyere doll is one of them .I will try my best to locate it tomorrow and contribute the little I can.If I have made anyone angry here,my apologies please.let's also try to keep the temper.In the matters of the heart,each man to his /her opinion.

N/B:I am not perfect,no one is.I am just a normal girl out there,so I stand to be corrected in some things when am wrong.I learnt some things from some people here too,and I ve added it to the little I know.Thank you all for making me a step wiser.

I won't reply anymore today,am feeling drowsy already.I will read and learn from new posts.See you dolls tomorrow.Sleep tite

KenGali: Hi CarmeDoll, seriously the observation thing never works for me. I have never fallen for a girl just because she is beautiful. I like the intelligent, focused and ambitious lady. Its after this that beauty follows in my value system not that I will touch an "unbeautiful lady" with a long stick. Grew up in a family of very bold women. From experience it always takes me some close interaction to confirm that a lady is my type. So they always get to know am interested for sure. But then they become impatient for me to make them official, sometimes I try to drive the Relationship to the friendship zone in order not to start a relationship that will hurt them (cause I do not believe in keeping what I do not like or something that stresses me) but it usually fails, then comes their angry phase. Bottom line, I often do not get to effectively check the girl out as much as I would like without starting up a formal relationship. How can I get to interact with a lady without her seeing me as the most eligible bachelor, even if it means entering their famous friendship zone cause I can always find my way out of it?

Hmmmm,ok this is a special csse then but together we shall work around it and profer a solution.Ladies in the house,please kindly think about this ,I believe we can help ryt?Kengall keep checking,am sure a doll would say something that might be of help.

searay: What so special about this Virgin of a thing? I don't like virgin. Searching for professinal.
Great thread by the way.

Thanks,just to help you find rhe professional quickly,I got some thing for you

Esther Okonkwo :
Tnks for dis opportunity to hlp sm doll in d house,hope it ll continue.Pls keep the hope alive,Estydoll.

You re welcome estydoll

anitank: ok then maybe the thread isnt for me because am not exactly single anymore
Met this guy exactly a month ago and its been everything i ever wanted

Awwww,that's so sweet to hear,I wish to say something like too one day.

Am happy for you,and I pray your current guy takes you down the aisle.Invite us o,my plate and spoon is ever ready.

You re welcome to the thread ,at least you can advise us on some things .you know,girly stuffslol. Expecting to hear from you at least once in while.

Thanks for dropping by

KenGali: Hello Dollz!
This thread is really nice cause It allows men to understand ladies a bit more.
At least me, I waz surprised that ladies actually get hurt by break ups, usually tot they always go up to the next relationship! May be the guys need to see more of your tears to really understand that it's more than a game. Not that I play the game though.

Now here I have two issues, Am kind of different, not sulky. I like to keep a girl by my side for a while before formalising things with her. Not because I am evil, but cause i do not wish to start a relationship with one of those girls that change boyfriends every three to six months or the Marry-me Marry-me kind. This usually confuses the girl, they are so use to guys that rush to be with them that they can't seem to phantom me out! Usually they try to impress me shortly, which I carefully wait out. But that really freaks them out, so am wondering if its a bad approach? Beyond that we become half incommunicado.

Am at a stage in my life where I have kind of passed the hurdle of the average guy in terms of money and achievement, I hardly ever come across a girl that did not like me, at least in the past 5 yrs. Actually a girl friend of mine once warned me that this will happen once am close to thirty. So I have two objectives, avoid going into a relationship with a girl that will be short lived cause I really hate stressful relationships and do not have time to build in the clouds. Secondly sift out that girl I love who cannot afford to live without me? I do not just want someone I love, I want someone who loves me. It's really easy to make a girl fall in love with you when she is not. Just be really nice and stick around! Only problem is by psychology, she can also easily be made to fall out of love with you. So if am your brother, what would you advice?

Hello kengall thanks for stopping by.Women hurt too during breakup just that we try to keep our heads up and face the world.Congrats on passing the stage known as 'the "struggling stage "for guys.

Now as sister,I would advice you to observe women from afar but before get your priorities right.if it means writing it down on a piece of paper,please do it.Then when you find your self in a gathering,gym,place of worship,office,parties e.t.c.Observe those who fall within your priorities.

My brother pls be sure to narrow it down so that you won't be confused.Then get close and be friends with them.Don't let them know much about especially the financial part.Now at this point I want you to have it in mind that women have the abvilty to smell affluence from 100km away.

A guy might not necessarily disclose his bank acct balance before a lady knows that he is wealthy.His car,his house,his workplace is enough to pass the message.So naturally the ladies would want to get close to you,I mean who doesn't like good thing.

@Kegall and all the single guys in the house.Observe ladies silently,be sure she has most of the things you want before declaring your intentions to contest in 2015 election .hehehehehehe.

Try these steps ,you will thank me later.

dahonestboss: I read this thread from page zero to the current one now, and I must commend the OP from bringing such an educative topic. and other dolls and brothers that contribute to the thread, thumbs up to you, I feel your contribution especially chikeOrji, good job bro.

And fro the single ladies in the house, The mr right might be next to you. Don't look down on anyone, and your previous experiences should not be a foundation for decision making because guys differs. Men respect/want self independent women who are pride-less and respect themselves. Dont assume that the next guy trying to talk to you is after sex, give them a chance to know you, and maybe they would be a link to mr right, you never know.

Good luck to you all

Thank you so much dahonestboss,please do drop in once in a while,I appreciate

Mad Lion: U r da one here hurt wit all diz blah blah blah advise to women. U will neva hv cum here talking abt advise if u hv not find urself in diz predicament. Dat fact dat most women tek material stuff into consideration b4 liking at pertinent issues, men will always play Tom n jerry wit women. I am not saying women shld go for men in abject poverty but don't u think its more senslble to find out whether da guy rili luvs u, he is committed, not a player than Jux jumping into a relationship wit a man cuz u can see his car, house, nice clothes .......etc before realising dat he is up to no good. If u hv done da first one, i can assure u, u won't be here trying to give advise to young girls.

Thanks Mad lion for taking a deep breath,calming down,and coming again.At least now I can comprehend what you re saying.Yes I was hurt,but no anymore.Am better now.Seeing this thread on the front page and the no of N/landers viewing it below makes me feel like the best doll ever!.

If a thread like this this existed long before then,I wouldn't have been a victim.But unfortunately,life throws us around.Doing this is a way of warning others.I have younger sisters too,you need to see the see the way I beg them not to mess around.Am willing to dash them any amount just so that they won't mess around.I let them confide in me,cos a problem shared is half solved.

Its not I was a love peddler,now changed or born again.No,am just the usual girl you can find in street,office, occasions e.t.c ,trying to find her own man and settle down.

I welcome people like you(not people who talk the way you do) in this thread.You have a point in your statements but it would make more sense if you re-phrase it.

I know some people like getting attention in a crowd and the easiest way is to always behave odd.whichever the case,I can see you re having fun.Your smileys says it all.

drnoel: All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies

Now put your hands up
Up in the club, we just broke up, I'm doing my own little thing
Decided to dip and now you wanna trip
'Cause another brother noticed me

I'm up on him, he up on me
Don't pay him any attention
Just cried my tears, for three good years
Ya can't be mad at me

'Cause if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
'Cause if you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it

I got gloss on my lips, a man on my hips
Got me tighter in my Dereon jeans
Acting up, drink in my cup
I can care less what you think

I need no permission, did I mention
Don't pay him any attention
'Cause you had your turn, and now you gonna learn
What it really feels like to miss me

'Cause if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
'Cause if you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

Don't treat me to the things of the world
I'm not that kind of girl
Your love is what I prefer, what I deserve

Here's a man that makes me, then takes me
And delivers me to a destiny, to infinity and beyond
Pull me into your arms, say I'm the one you own
If you don't, you'll be alone, and like a ghost, I'll be gone

All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies, all the single ladies
All the single ladies

Now put your hands up
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

'Cause if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh

If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh

Yaaaay,*Dancing*

gree-die:
carmydoll, i was just abt to write sometin lyk dis...

i don't lyk wat some guys r turning dis thread into. we need to focus pls.....

Thank you gree doll and chike for your concern.You have been with me from the onset of this thread.I agree with you but that would be like telling Mad lion to stop his attitude here.I mean I can't stop him/them.I can only be diplomatic.Besides ,people meet differently but I think at this junction,I would raise a disclaimer.Thank you.

anitank: SINGLE as in "not in a relationship" or as in "not married"??

Welcome anitadoll,its single as in lonely

Graphy: Graphydoll...very single,bt kiping it low 4 nw.

Welcome graphydoll,everything would be fine

La Bonito: nice thread babygal, virginity or no virginity, men changes like weather,you don't kn the right person, so everything is by God's grace.

Thanks bonitodoll

Emma_esty: @ Carmydoll, i've learnt a lot of things from this thread nd i want 2 say dat u're d best. I've never been in a relationship but i hope 2 find the right person soon cos i'm not getting younger btw call me Emmydoll.

You re welcome emmydoll,feel at home.

@other dolls that popped in to drop their comments
Cowgurl
Joangirl
Latest
Ritalewisky
Luvmijeje,I noticed I didn't acknowledge you dolls when you came.My apologies pls,you re most welcomed.
@All the guys too(not forgetting Mad lion).I want to thank you guys for saying a thing /two.We learnt something from all you said.I promise to keep this thread alive till the day I will post my wedding invitation here.or maybe my pictures,hehehehehehe.Please ladies in the house,feel free to pilot this thread.Group effort would highly effective.thank you

Mamacita007: ok so dis thread is for single dolls. im single buh is dis a place to hook up or post tins abt urself? i was in a relationship wit one person for many yrs b4 he went to the UK for studies and everything crashed 4rm dere. I was fooling myself in naija preparing to skl in d UK becos of him. All in all, i wil never be in a distance relationship again even though it works 4 sum pple. Now im in yankee and knw dat there are gud naija men here so im nt in a hurry.

Welcome dear,mind if I call you citadoll?Yes I believe you 100%,there re still some handful of nice guys out there.So nice that when you meet them,you can't help but ask them where they have been all your life.Thanks for popping in

Mad Lion: ABSOLUTELY NONSENSICAL post if men hv changed, it is becuz of how greedy, selfish, materialistc and ungrateful you women are. Da post even shows da kind of woman u r. U said men will shower u wit gifts, yes before it wasn't like dat until u women start taking into consideration cars, money .....etc anytime a guy shld ask u out. Most of u women don't wanna hear nuttin abt da future so you desperately go around looking for men wit dem material stuffs most of u women foolishly tink is da most important tin in a relationship witout even probing deep to find out if da man luvs u or he is in a different relationship becuz u were enjoying dem restaurants he is taking u, da money he is spending on u .....etc and now dat u hv learnt da hard way, u r here trying to act like a teacher. Do u know how many women hv also phucked up men's life in a relationship?

Hi,Mad lion,I really want to reply you but I don't know where to start from.You talked about differnt things all together and you sounded deeply hurt too.We might be able to sought it out if you can just take a deep breath,calm down and come again.

MEILYN: re kids allowed here? Will be 18 dis year sha guess am no longer a kid but seriously am single and av neva dated b4......so its seems like am nt going to bring any impact to dis thread am here to learn 4rm ppl's experience av been reading 4rm page1....i will be a looser if i dont comment........tanks @thread owner 4 opening dis thread

Thanks Melyn.You re welcome to the thread anytime.My younger bro is your age,so mind if I be your big sis here? I assure you,you will learn alot/and also get confused.Yes you will,then with time you balance.

But the first thing I would tell you as a younger bro/learner in the field is that in the matters of the heart,be sure before you go for it.

Don't play with peoples heart.Some guys re lucky enough to go scot free after playing with girls,while some don't.

You never can tell which will be your fate.Just be nice*cheers*

Hemanwel: Can a chap be hooked to a single doll here on NL?
I work with one of the commercial banks in the country.I'm in my early 30s.
Aint married...still searching.

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You re welcome Mr hemanwel,kindly endevour to add your location and any other detail you feel comfortable putting out here.it would help narrow things down.thanks

Sheybor: tenx carmeldoll......i want 2ask u a question no offencewit all dis post dos diz means u will neva gt married or wat:|

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Hi,sheybor,you don't sound like you read the thread from begining to this point.or maybe you read it but.....well whichever the case.ofcourse I look forward to getting married,but this thread is about how we the single ladies would pull thru and not make mistakes while waiting for Mr right.Got it?

manfred10: . See? You are using your former relationship to judge other men which is a great mistake and you are advising you fellow females to follow suit.By blocking and sealing your heart even if the right guy comes around you will not know and so your woes continue.Men are meant to marry likewise women but the attitude of you girls nowadays is apologetic. Nowadays young girls follow men because of money and young boys date because they want to sleep with the girl,like attract like,you cannot eat your cake and have it.We both need to mend our ways One thing has bugged me for a long time,why is it that most girls are attracted to the wrong boys? On a final note girls should learn to adhere to instructions from their guardians and also learn to respect their elders like in the good old days.They should also try to humble themselves

Hello manfred,obviously you read my post in hurry/with a thing or two in your mind.Y

ou must be a good guy for you not to know what's reigning for the guys now.They go after a lady pretending to love her and once they go down low with them,they come up with stories like the following

"My mother has arranged another girl and she threatened to kill her self if I don't marry her".
"My ex girl friend came back and pleaded with all the pastors in our church so baby please I have to go back to her"
"My boss in the office said I must marry the daughter else I would loose my job".

Now tell me what you want the lady to do after she has connected to this guy?And also tell me why these excuses won't come up when they re yet to go to bed,why after?It happened to me and it wasn't funny.

Though it didn't make me hate men,no, there re still nice ones out there.

Why would I be single and still not want a man in my life?I am only advising my fellow dolls to be careful. I hope am clearer now?

Sheybor: xup
2all dolls here....though am nt single am gettin married dis decemba bt
am enjoyin dis thread,,,,,r u goin 2kick me out 4nt bin single nd u
can jst call me shedoll it sounds cute

Hello,shedoll,you re welcome.Congrats In advance,December should be in 10 months time right?We hope to get more marriage announcements

lalaosky: lalaosky doll is loving this thread


all my single ladies, i hail o

@ lala,From your first comment,I knew you were a guy,but then I decide to check your post and there,my suspicion was confirm.When next you want to pose as doll,do your research very well.Dolls don't say"I hail o".its not feminine at all.sorry for busting your bubbles

Babzilla: AS LONG AS U GET 2 CHOP THE MONEY I DONT C WHATS THE BIGGIE.

I understand what you mean.That is you were not emotionally connected to the guy/neither is he the picture of your perfect man.In my own case,I was not playing(I don't play with peoples emotions).I was in love,truly in love.

Boss13: @ camel abeg no advise babes to abstain. Sex is like food to me oh.

I will not only advise them to abstain,I would also advise you to work on your self.

Even though we re of different gender,its all about discipline.

I tot I couldn't last a month without Sex but am happy to tell you that next month would make it my one year of secondary celibacy.You can do it too,its a thing of the mind.

Yes ,please stop because contraceptives does no good to the body of a woman.

I remember the particular statemennt that made me to sit down and talk to myself.

Imagine my boify calling me,and after the usual how re you things,he asked me when next we would see cos he now has so many pimples on his face.(I don't know how true this is but there is a belief that a guy with too much pimples is sex starved).

That day I went to the mirror in my restroom,stared for so long at my pretty self.I then apologized to the person I saw on the mirror for turning her into a dumping ground for the white oat.

I cried and then made up my mind to break up with him.Contraceptives endangers your womb,while the guy goes about very healthy.Don't even think he is caring because he bought them for you,they re not chocolates for crying out loud please!If he must do it,then let him wear the condom.

If he says he dosent have anyone(cos that's the usual excuse),just jejeli dress up and leave him there.Please stop now before you damage yourself.

There is a particular set of single ladies I want to advise today.I am in a position to advise them bacause it also happened to me.

I am talking about those single ladies in a r/ship and would do everything to keep their man even to the detriment of their health as a woman.
In my own case(and I believe someother persons case too),I gave into my boyfriend's request of sex without condom.

Ofcourse we all know Tom -tom is best enjoyed when removed from the packet.To keep my man I agreed,then after sex I would take contraceptives.

And then when my period gets delayed at the end of the month,I would become restless,always checking the calendar,always looking at the mirror to see if I would notice changes in my body(unto pregnancy things),buying test strips,loosing concentration in the office untill the monthly visitor decides to show up then I would calm down.

And then guess what my man would be doing?He would be going about his normal bussiness,and then when he calls me,its to ask me when next I would come*Smh

*Well its over now but my sisters,are you currently in such situation now?or you know anybody in it?

To the guys,are you practising this with your babe?if yes,then the picture below is for you.