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honeric01: Nice thread and good innovation from the OP.

following attentively.

Not single though but no knowledge is useless if put into practice.

Thanks,I appreciate

Charliemorgano: To be single @ 30+ for ladies, guys should learn to support and encourage them not using hurting words ... A typical instance..i went to collect a document for my boss in ikoyi..on getting there the lady who should have given me the parcel went for lunch and locked it in her locker...One of the guys was very angry about that action that he had to confront her,an argument ensued and the guy told her that is this her bad attitude that has chased men away from her..She broke into tears...i felt bad

Please were you able to get a picture of the guy?please post it here(joking).Well I was not there to listen to their arguement but the guy went far.I mean he should have kept their arguement within what actually caused it.

You re right,single ladies should be encouraged .Tease them,buy them gifts,recognize them in gathering,call their phones once in a while.Assure them that they re still on point,believe me it would boost their confidence.Invite them to occasions and keep pestering them untill they attend.

Its one thing to be single,its another thing to lock herself inside except going to work and place of worship.

Some ladies re extreme introverts but we as their freinds should help.Connect them to single freinds too.Yes matchmake them its not a sin.It pays a lot to put a smile on peoples face.

nyere84: Ok, am here. Nyere Doll.
#singing# all the single ladies.
Love this thread mehn...!!!

You re welcome nyeredoll,feel at home

Boss13: Honestly I wanted to critize this thread. Well I must admit it is a nice thread. Might help guys understand women and how to treat them. We need more good women in our society. We know women are builders of societies. They are the gate keepers. However, I just want to correct something. Women don't find men, they accept men. Well done to the poster.

Thanks boss,I appreciate

Thanks to every one who has in one way or the other contributed to this thread.Even by just viewing.I know you have learnt a thing or two.

I noticed guys are popping in too and am tempted to change the topic of the thread so that they could be accomodated too.But then,am afraid it would distact the objective the thread.

So far,all the guys that ve said something sounded reasonable.I want to thank them for that.Please keep it up.

Hello my pretty dolls,how re you enjoying your saturday?Are you at work?,in the saloon grooming?in the market arranging things for the weekend?At home relaxing?in a wedding ceremony doing asoebi(now I know you re smiling)hehehhehehehe,yeah we all like that part.Whichever one you re doing,make sure you wear a smile.life is too short to frown.

Caracta: Sorry to crash you guys party. I'm not a doll. I just came in to say hi

*waves hand in greeting*

*Waves back too*,thanks for popping in.

lillyveezy: where is carm doll?pls come back.nice one here.being single is not an easy stuff,especially when u are in marriage concious society.I for one had two relationships that didn't end in marriage.The 1st was because death came between us.the 2nd because it didnt work out.Mind u am in my mid 30s.I had hurts and sorrowed,but I gained alot from this 2nd relationship that am not regreting having it.My little sistas are married,but my family is a great one,always suppporting me and never giving me any kind of pressure.So dolls in the house,look @ the positive side of every failed relationship,smile and move on.Hope this will help somebody.

Veezy doll its okay hun,welcome to this thread(hugs).Thank you for sharing with us what you ve been thru.

My signature is talking about people like you.I know people especially these young ones that dosent know anything about life would see you and gossip about you.Some will say you were busy choosing,that is why you re stiil single,some will say,may be you were rude to guys,but now that re past the age of 30(guessing)you re forming good girl.

My dear people would say all soughts of things about you but you know what?You don't owe anybody any explanation.They won't even believe your story if you try to explain.

Veezydoll,I want you to know that we the dolls in the house love you so much.No matter what,always be trendy,look fresh,and I bet you,in no distant time,you will fall in love again.*cheers*

Maya2pretty: I met dis guy, he's d youngest brother to my dad's friend's wife, somehow somehow we fell in love and started datin, only 4 me 2 discover his 7yrs relationship that had serious problems durin d time of our meetin got back together. I was so devastated, tried 2 leave him but he kept beggin me, confessin his love 2 me and all,that his girlfriend involved Pastors so he had to settle wit ha but he loves me deeply, we decided to b friends but d emotional connection is so strong, what should I do? pls help me

Maya doll,am with you in this one.it happened to me in the year 2011,I tot I would die,I cried my eyes out.Mine is kinda old cos they re married now with a son to show for it.But please check todays date,it says 2013.that means I am still alive,and believe me I don't miss him anymore.How did I do it?First I lblocked him on facebook cos I couldn't stand their pictures and I can't stop him from posting it either.He noticed it and complained but I told him my reasons and stood my grounds.Then I warned him politlely that its completely over btw us.At first ,he backed out but later started sending me text messages for us to arrange for dates.I strongly refused!,though I was tempted to agree.it wasn't easy ,it took me close to a year,but it paid off.Do same dear mayadoll.You will pull thru and your man would come.Don't go back to him no mata what!

A-ZeD:
Want to "tell" us your story?

Of course I will when the time is right.

Olu-Emma & Ass.:
I'm a lonely single guy who would like a lady for a friendship which could just soar. Hola me on 08132232989, 08188360168. Night calls allowed. Won't be any girl's val maga, though.

Hello Olu,I am not here to judge you but I think sometimes we express ourselves wrongly.Your last sentences can be described in this scenario.A lady who neatly dressed up for a date only for her to get there and soil her dress with food/drink cos she has poor eating nmanners.No sensible doll would call that line after seeing your last sentence.Because ,consciously/unconciously,you will always be suspicious around the lady,thinking she wants to drain your acct.For crying out loud you re even yet to meet her.Please my brother,whoever gave you this orientation about ladies did you no good.somethings should not be said either.Apply diplomacy.

Kyle.:
hmmm...Kyledoll?

Kyle what?!,hmmmmm,see you see you trailer o! guys can't be dolls

Mindependent: So how about the once single now taken ladies, do you boot them out?

Hi.independent doll.You re welcomed.In as much you re already taken,you can also share one or two experiences you had before meeting your prince charming.Inthis life,it is said that nothing is new under the sun.For whatever you ve been through,or you re still going through,someone,somewhere out there has expereinced it.So please feel to share some tips with us.We pray to be taken too.

Maya2pretty: Hi, am Maya doll, I feel so sad and lonely, I've not find my own Man, it's hurtin my beauty is wastin, he's not there 2 love me, to care 4 me, 2 make me feel like a cherished woman, I miss him so much, wish he'l find me dis month

Hi mayadoll,you welcome hun(((hugs))).I might not know exactly how you feel perhaps cos of age,and circumstances around us. But believe me I know a little how you feel cos am single too.Finding your own partner can be a little bit difficult in especially in this part of the world where the man is expected to make the first move officially. Unlike in India,where the reverse is the case.

No matter what dear,do not the wrong things,it would only attract people of such caliber. Clubs,indecent dressing,name them should not be patronized.Be friendly to people,they might not be the actual person but your attitude might grant you a referral.I give a true life story of a friends sister who went to a business center to make call back then in 2007.not quiet long an elderly man came in too to make call.

And my friends sister being a well brought up lady stood up for him to sit down.when she was about leaving,the man stopped her and started interrogating her.At first,my friends sister was pissed off thinking the man was trying to be naughty with her.

When the man noticed she was angry,he told her that his younger brother is the one looking for a wife.As am writing this,they re both married with two kids.My point is, be good to people,you never can tell where it would happen.Don't worry dear,he is out there looking for you too

A-ZeD:
I'm with you bro. I think ladies are their own enemies.

@Zed,in as much as I would ve loved to argue your over your belief,I would prefer to go straight to the guys.Men as we all know are naturally visually stimulated.

By this I mean they get attracted by things they see.when this happens,they forget their priorities.In my reply to chike,I asked,birds of the same the same feather does what again?If as a guy,you re very religious,why not look for a religious girl like you and date?But no you won't.Rather you will go after a Kim kardashian and Nicky Minaj.And when they start asking for sex,and money to buy brazillian hair,you will generalize it that women are devils.

The same applies to ladies who are determined to keep their virginity ,but they admire/want a guy with studs on his earlobes,and a tatoo on his skin.I mean how do you want to cope with such people?

In fact thank your stars if they don't rape you.My brothers/my fellow dolls ,let's set our priorities right in this life,and every thing would fall into place.

chikeorji123: It's means dating someone without involving sex..let the friendship flow on a natural harmony..Strange some ladies if they mistakenly found such scarce commodity gentleman they see him as not a MAN!..can u imagine?..or he's having someone behind her back..Now explain to me how u can address such planet of ladies?..

Ok,now I understand what you mean and what I would say to you is that you re with the wrong person.This is just the same thing as a girl who is being presurized by her boyfriend for sex.

Chike,in this case,the lady is faaaaar ahead of you in the game.Even if you end up sleeping with her,you won't still be man enough cos a novice can't compete with the master.Try and see if you can talk sense into them,above all go for your type.Birds of the same feather does what again.?

Am still single but I know that the first thing I would do is to shed heavy tears of Joy;and just mop and smile @ my baby/babies.I have this feeling that I would be mother of Twins.Did I mention to you that I would call studio 24 to snap?LoLLOrd pls favour me

gree-die:
carmy doll, u r doing a good job... kip it up.
uhm.. can i keep my name just as it is?? gree doll or die doll doesn't sound.so "dolly" does it?

Thanks greedoll,,just trying to give a sister out there an opportunity I neva had.I had no one to put me tru,I was naïve.Greedoll is okay,but you re free to do otherwise,I can't ban you,you know?

chikeorji123: What about those ladies one will date on platonic relationship later they tag the guy not a man?..or they might even accuse you of cheating just b/c your dating on a neutral ground..my dear it's a complicated world we live!..

Yes ,the world obviusly is complicated,but am yet to understand what you mean by on a platonic ground?Plese explain,it might help to buttress my facts on the next set of single ladies I would address.

On a very special note,I want to acknowledge a very special set of dolls in the house.They re no other people than those sweet ladies who still have their virginity intact.please have a cup of ice cream on my behalf.

Be full of pride and guide what you have jealously and make sure you give it to the man who knows its worth.As we approach valentine Feb 14th,please be sensible,valentine doesn't mean sex,there re more sensible ways to celebrate it.

Is your boyfriend telling you to prove your love by opening your legs for him?My dear that guy is an enemy,yes that's what I said,a bid enemy at that.

Once you give it to him that's it,you have joined "others".Be wise.

chikeorji123: Ok what is the aim of this thread? advicing ur fellow ladies to shine their eyes once it's come to relationship?..

You just said it yourself,exactly!.Many dolls out there are naïve.They need to hear people experiences and make sure it dosent happen to them.

chikeorji123: Are men allow?

Yes but please contribute in line with the threads' objectives

Experience they say is the best teacher.I want to share with you dolls one the not so sweet experience I had while I was dating a particular guy.My dear Sisters,beware of guys who will tell you that they love but they already have a fiancee who is known by the family members.they brainwash you and tell that it is you they love(this happens after you hace opened your legs for them,why not before?)

They spoil you with money,love and so on you fall helplessly in love.And at the end of the day,they walk down the aisle with the they supposedly didn't love,while leaving you heartbroken .

Hey dolls,it happened to me and believe me I don't want anyone of you to feel what I felt.I was down,i felt suicidal.I believe that a lady out there is ignorantly believing another play boy out there.

Please my dear sister,wake up today and run.If its you he truly loves,he wouldn't have a fiancee who is not you,Well am over it now but I don't want any other person to innocently fall for such people.You deserve the best!

Right from time immemorial, a baby girl is already seen as some one who would be married off to another family when she matures(not when you are psychologically ready and have found the one).

She is expected a lady to be married off to her husbands house at least before she clocks 30 not withstanding all other circumstances.To please the society a lady settles down for someone she doesn't love,hoping the love would develop,settles for a man beater,drunks,womanizers,hoping he would change.what if he doesn't,you keep on managing/enduring your marriage?forever?

What if after hurriedly getting married,you come across that special someone who appreciates you so much?what then happens?Hey pretty dolls out there you deserve nothing less than best!Hang on.

Hello to all the single ladies out there,I believe you dolls re good.I hope you carry yourself with a lot of prestige while you wait for Mr right?

I hope you know your worth and have refused to settle down for anything on a pair of trousers all because you want to bear the title Mrs?I hope you re not killing yourself over a heart break?Now its time to move on.


Well,then you re welcomed as you visit this thread once in a while to watch each others back and share our experiences.When you re in love,you re blind to danger signals.In such situations, let's help each other see. You might be of help to a sister and vice versa.

Less I forget,every lady out should be pampered like a doll so,here lets add (doll) after our names.Mine is Carmy doll.



This is for the new members/visitors.hope it would serve as guide to you .The thread is getting voluminous by the day and i know it must be very difficult reading through.Below is a summary of some of the things we have already done.


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0-2-....... Introduction/statement of thread’s objective
Front page/Influx of members
3-5 ...... Advise to single ladies on health (Say no pills).Advise from the guys
6& 7...... Peoples experiences and advice's from the guys
9 & 10 ....... Tips for the guys on searching for the right girl without sending the wrong message , Advise to the ladies.
11. ........ Complaints from the guys about dumb girls

12 &13....... People’s experience and health talks
14-16 ........ Tips for the guys, advise to the ladies, influx of members

16-18
23-26, 30........Tips on how to dress for the ladies, people’s experiences, valentine talks, advises
31, 35-37-.........Talks about single ladies living alone, a lady paying her bride price
38 ............ single ladies and fake pastors
43-45,........... Women and companionship, peoples experiences, advice/encouragement from the guys.
50,55-,57......... Peoples experience., basic things a man should have before marriage,tips on how to look matured( for petite ladies and those who look younger)

60...............ladies and their provocative attitude towards men


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location please?,I know a very good driver

This is exactly why I have been asking God to give me a God fearing man for marriage
preferably a catholic.We didnt pray together as a family but i really look forward to doing it with my own husband and children.I grew up the catholic way and it has really affected my life as an adult.i mean there are some tempting situations i will find myself in life but my back ground would always draw me back.God please grant me my request

Yes,its true,I noticed it when I was still in school.when my room mate is ending hers mine starts.it continued untill I graduated and left her,then it changed.last christmas,I noticed it too.Immidiately I my sisters own stopped,mine started.weird though but its tru.Its contagious.

ynx: Where is jobberman office in abj pls........wuse market ke?lol

Sweet heart the office is not in wuse market,but close to it.I was only giving you a land mark.As for jobberman,i know they are in Abuja but i don't know where exactly,I register online,you might want to do same.goodluck

Yes there are plenty of them,just go to Wuse market,beside the garage close to zenith bank,there is a garden there.That is where you will find plenty of them,but i must warn you,get ready to buy form for 2,500,And also,to share your first salary 50/50.You can also register on Jobberman,i got mine through them.

Red-Light:
i tink dis got to be my biggest turn off.. Especially when they knw u have d money! Kinda irritating

Hmmmmm,does that mean you have the money?Mbok,my eyes are Red now.I will be so appreciative,as long as the money is there o!,hmmmm,am warning you,Oya show me your acct balance

I have so many turn offs but since the thread says the biggest,mine are as follows
1.Bad Dentition!(As in when you say Hi,I wont even say hello)
2.Talkative(especially the type that makes all his friends listen to him when they hang out)
3.Poor dress sense(anyways I don't need to hammer too much on this cos you need to access the person you re even coming to meet)
Lastly,Fair guys(I wish I can help here but sadly,am the fairest of all so you see..we can't blend.its not when am looking for something to fight my pimples with,you will be looking for yours too,mtcheeeeew!.Dark guys melt me.I mean the very dark ones.