not a fan of facebook, myspace, hi5 etc. All i know, don't use the same computer that you use to check your bank accounts/pay bills to log in to these forums. Use a different computer (Hackers). I have the same rule for Nairaland too.

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gabrywyl:

I have been unbanned Bro. Thank you jare.

I would like to also thank Azo, dani1luv, AnthonyKil, gangstaBOY, AshtonJake for asking Seun to unbanned me and because of this, they got banned. . . Am so sorry. I will behave for you guys. I promise

Dayum gabby - you are one powerful young lady. Jesus gave up His life for us and here you are getting folks ban for you.

"Nairalanders, All Hail and Bow Before Emperess Gabby lol

Peace

Good night and good luck

no one. naaahhh, i am lying. I am in love with me, myself and I

An Interesting read for all the "Good" men

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WHERE ARE THE GOOD BLACK MEN?
Mandingospear@Blackplanet.com

It’s the question that’s bouncing from the walls of break rooms and beauty salons across the country. Although it is the million dollar question, it has yet to be asked on any game show. From New York to Los Angeles and from Birmingham to Chicago, millions of Black women want to know, “ Where are the good Black men? “.
Ask any man and he will tell you that the good men are not confined to any one geographical area. “They can be found all over, look around. You can find them at church, at school, or even on the street” explains Monte Linebarger, an undergraduate member of Kappa Alpha Psi. If the brothers are in such diverse places then why can’t eligible sisters find them? Women will proclaim until green in the face that a good man is hard to find. In order to begin to answer the question where are the good black men you must first understand what is a good black man.
“A good black man is a man that is taking care of himself and respectful to women” explains college student Monique Campbell. But aren’t there men out there doing this already? “Yes, but not enough” Campbell adds.
Most women will comment that “all of the good ones are taken or that the others are incarcerated, involved with drugs, or looking for a good black man themselves. Even though black men do represent the majority of those in the penal system or under criminal supervision and drug involvement is a crisis among black males, it is by far untrue for the majority of those that are eligible men.
In a Jet Magazine interview, Dr Larry Davis, author of the book Black & Single: Meeting and Choosing a Partner Who is Right For You, reveals some startling facts on how Black women are looking for love in all of the wrong places. “It is not an imagined thing; there really aren’t enough Black men out there” Davis tells Jet. The ratio of single Black women to Black men is 3 to 1. When you include those behind prison bars and those who lack boyfriend/husband qualities the gap widens to somewhere in the neighborhood of 7 to 1.
Given these statistics, a lot of men cannot conceive being with one woman. Men who had problems finding a date years ago now have women readily available therefore these type of brothers are in no rush to settle down. Choosing to remain anonymous, “Joe” expresses, “ A lot of sisters are quick to the draw to shoot a brother down but what they are doing is digging a grave for themselves 3, 4, or 5 years down the line”. This is perhaps why many sisters find themselves by themselves at ages twenty-five and thirty years old. “While in college they turned away the brothers with obvious signs of manhood and a bright future because he was not on the social scene. Then when they’re thirty they wanna scratch their heads wondering where did they go wrong and then end up dating some guy that is five and ten years younger than them” as Joe tells it.
Many women have a very distorted view on what makes a man, “Mr Right” Due to the fact that from childhood women are indoctrinated with the image of the knight in shining armor, the dashing prince, or the man that has connected all of the dots. Sisters often overlook potential quality mates because he does not fit the clean cut white collar professional profile. It is every woman’s dream to greet, meet, and marry the perfect gentlemen that has the potential to erase all of her worldly problems. All women long to be with the financially stable corporate executive, professional athlete, or celebrity entertainer. For any woman possessing this type of mindset, you must be honest and ask yourself do you deserve a man like that and to what benefit are you to him? Anything worth having in life must be earned and does not come easy nor cheap. To even enter through the gates of Heaven requires a price. In other words, there is no such thing as a free lunch.
“All too often we sit back and wait for them to come to us. They just ain’t going to come knocking at our door and say, Hey it’s me your soul mate”. This sound advice comes from Denene Millner, the co-author of, What Brothers Think, What Sisters Know: The Real Deal On Love and Relationships. Contrary to old fashioned beliefs, in these modern times women will occasionally have to initiate making the first move. This may perhaps be best. Men have experienced so much rejection that should he be approached by a woman, more than likely he will not turn her down. Some women still have a problem with this. Are Black women’s expectations too high? Some will even go so far as to say that there is an all out war between the sexes. After all this is the “Me” generation.
“People are just selfish. A relationship/marriage consists of compromise”, says Pastor Mark Williams of Emanuel Temple Church and loving husband and father of three. “We go before God to get a marriage but it doesn’t stay before God.” Similar opinions are offered by William July II in his much read book, Brothers, Lust, and Love: Thoughts on Manhood, Sex, and Romance.” Relationships are about caring and compromise. If you are not ready to do that, then you just won’t be successful in a relationship.” July goes in depth to explain that most women fall into three groups: (1) Sex is love, (2) no romance without finance and (3) it’s all about me. “Finance does not equal romance. Sex may hold someone’s interest for a while” he adds.
For any women that are truly searching for that significant other, the language is still the same. There is no quick fix to any problem. The true treasures of the sea lie deep beneath the surface. To thoroughly answer the provocative question as to where are the good Black men you must first ask where are to good Black women.

but i am fair and i am here

ha - funnee thread

Woman who traveled to Nigeria to marry a man she met on the Internet has been sentenced

A woman who left her five children alone and traveled to Nigeria to marry a man she met on the Internet has been sentenced to five years probation. She must also take parenting classes and complete 150 hours of community service and would go to jail for up to two years if she violates her probation.

The probation plan also requires that she has a job and a home that is clean and safe by July before she can get her five children back.

Her attorney said "I think it's the best resolution to a difficult situation. I'm happy about it,"

She is appealing her convictions for child abandonment and endangerment

Her children aged 1, 7, 8, 9, 15 and 16 were found living alone in the home in very poor conditions.

During her trial, the woman said that she left food and a food card, but authorities said the card had no money on it. She also said she had expected her sister to care for the children while she went to Nigeria but her sister did not make the trip to Houston.


Source: Ngex

all i can say is God does not treat me the way I deserve and yes he answer my prayers

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Justood and chamo - ooops i dunno what you guys are saying. oh boy, did i say something out of context I thought Ko ye na mean I don't know.  Oh boy, that's not what it mean?

here is my last for this thread 

Nibo le ti wa?

@poster

thanks and same happy return

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gabrywyl:

Yes, Ive been unbanned. I thought I wasnt coming back anymore to Nairaland considering that Seun had banned me an I thought it would be for a life time. Yes, Ashton Jake. He's my ex classmate last time in College. I think right now, I got the hang of it for not coming in here that often and soon, I might concur not coming here at all.

oh c'mon, just let it roll off your back like rain off a duck.  don't let a ban spoil your fun - you are are bigger than that . . . .right?

~smurf:

Hummm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i musta been looking at it from a different perspective then, I feel like when a couple is able to settle their differences it brings them closer because they are better aware of their likes and dislikes

yep, i agree with you

kick him to the curb

Gabby is this you?

Some dude name Ashton Kuchner posted here last week that you were not coming back to NL because blah blah blah and yadi yadi yada.

Oh well, guess you have the Narailand effect like me - you know, the can't eat, can't sleep until you log on to Narailand

Peace

game over

more sleep again

no shoes on the rug

Missy B:

Please someone come up with something for me.

[size=28pt]M[/size] orning glory is what we should have called Miss B

[size=28pt]I[/size] ntelligent, intellectual lips as sweet as candy

[size=28pt]S[/size] miling and Praising God - no she is not a sinner

[size=28pt]S[/size] mart - will tickle your funnybones even if you are a stranger

[size=28pt]B [/size] ecause that's how she is to all Narailanders

mbola:

I think there is.

The ratio is like 5:1 in favour of men, so I think.

is that ratio from your neck of the woods. . . . .errr the UK?

sistawoman:

There is a good man shortage.  But if a woman is worth her weight in gold the men will be fighting each other to keep you and therefore no fighting necessary for the woman.

Have you read Sista Solljah's book "No Disrespect"  Very very very good book, it addresses this issue.

No, never heard of it.  will check it out

stillwater:

I'm not searching, so I don't know.

Not a good reason.

I can't fight to keep someone that's not my husband. He as an adult ought to know better.

yea, maybe I was wrong to say "you have to share" because I don't believe in sharing and will not encourage sharing.  Was just making a "general statement" seeing reality - women share men.  But i am sure you "got my drift"

Peace

there is no best or worst. we just have different opinions.

Peace

Let's face it here you either find a man who is already married, has a girlfriend, gay or is a natural born player.  Therefore you either have to share with whose there or you fight to keep one if you had one.

Is there a man shortage? Just asking

i went to scramble my name Sonya and mistakenly put a C for a S. oh well

because they are cowards and hypocrites.

Like it or not I say what i have to say under my name.

Peace

One Thing I Know is

sleep

DavidDylan:

thanks. I will consider your request. The perks of office are of great benefit.

Why you want to be a Pope? Is this your way of coming out of the closet?


Peace