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good night and good luck

@Chrisbenogor:

I hear you. all-righty-then.  In that case, here i go

Worst

osisi
tpia
There are other faltering names that are too numerous to mention

Best

huxley (don't believe in God but his topics give us a run for the money)
Olabowale
Chrisbenogor
Davidylan
babs
lady
AKO
There are other good names that are too numerous to mention

Peace

@Muza, Earthmama, Jakuma et al:

Its so sad that in this day and age some of us still suffer from that "crab in a barrel" mentality. Its so true, you put a bunch of crabs in a barrel.  When  one reach to the top of his barrel, nearing his escape, one of the other crabs would reach up and pull his fellow crab back down.  Another one goes up, another one comes down - I swear you three suffer from that syndrome. 

Who doesn't know about poverty in Nigeria?  Y'all should be extending a helping hand to help rid poverty and make Nigeria a better place - instead y'all here posting pictures upon pictures to satisfy y'all evil egos.  however, suffice to say, your obsession of making Nigeria look "bad" only remind us that resentment and self-victimization still continue to condemn some of us.  In this festive season i strongly suggest that y'all make some kind of contribution to help who is in need. I for one is looking forward to help.

Get well soon!!!

maybe you should do a thread DNA for derail topics. anyone who has "derail topics" in their genes - you put a stop sign in front of them.

Have a good day

Peace

Raymond88:
Please change the theme of this site this Christmas! even for one second, a mistletoe, a Christmas hat,  SOMETHING for Gods sake!!

aye, Nigerians are some fuunny people.  well, i laugh until i cry.  .  Thanks for the laugh.  you funny.  Here is a x-mas tree to brighten you up if you tired of watching this green and white forum

Peace

*****yawn**** Good night and good luck.

Peace

chika98:
Is that your eyes??

beore me answer you let me hear what this sillyboy has to say

sillyboy:
@ Cayon. . .

Trust me, that eye is something else. . . .
Hope it's not yours sha?

and wha wrang wid de eye?

Peace

dremoney:
I'm still trying to figure the cause of argument and insults here,

bottom line of the story is 'Lagos is messed up' (watever ur class) which is true,

Suffering and Smiling ( with due respect to Abami-Eda) - Fela Anikulapo Kuti

re the highlight. yea, a de same ting me a say

Peace

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[size=18pt]V[/size] irginity

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I am sorry, i made that up and i am here dying with laughter.

Ok, on  a serious note - To me, love is an itchy feeling that cannot be scratched.

Peace

davidylan:
perhaps just perhaps he's just that not into you.

You should start writing "Hall-Mark Postcards"  because you always know.

@Her Royal Hotness:

Any update? Can't leave folks hanging like this.  OK, yes, I am nosey

Peace

Thanks Ola

You did well in answering my question BUT what do you mean by your quote below

"Did you lose your father, already?"

What?? you were expecting him to go sooner.  Ok, he didn't die from old age. . . , satisfy now :-

Peace

olabowale:
@Cayon: « on: Today at 04:25:44 AM » 
The Messenger (AS) cried about the death of his favorite Uncle, the Lion, the leader of those who are killed in the path of their struggles for Allah. He cried not the boo hoo type of cry. But he cried for the soul that departed, and also in reflection of his own soul.

Only a soul that is bad and the heart that is evil and hard are devoid of showing proper emotion. But emotion must be moderate, and should not be exteme. The crying and emotional displayed should not be like the hired "undertakers" who will bring theatrics to their emotion. You will see people wailing, slapping their own faces, a sign of dishonoring the person crying. Women may be rolling on the floor, ground without any human decency, to the point that they are exposing what are supposed to be covered. I have seen people pulling at their own hair. All of these are unnecessary, since none of it will change the situation.



You should become muslim and bring your mother along. A bleeding heart does not necessarily mean that the leak is exterior. Just because you are not the boo hoo throwing yourself on the floor kind of woman does not mean that your heart is hard.


I do cry boo hoo in the public, when there are topics of Islam discussed. These topics are very emotional. For instance, the suffering of the Parsian companion known as Salman Al Farsi, into Islam is very emotional. How this man from the lap of islam, journeyed out of "fire worship" to Christianity and then finally, to Islam. Please read it. Do a research on this man. Now thats a good cry. Unlike the one about death. This cry about the true religion brings softness of heart and purity of soul.



Crying is not waekness. Shyness is not weakness or meekness, either. Cats are shy only for an instant, before the "liony" preditor quality comes out, when necessary. And the palestinian guy should not be a yardstick of how Islam is, when it comes to crying or not. Muhammad (AS) set the measurement, among human, by the instructions of his Lord, Allah the Almighty Creator.



I do cry. Even when I hear my mother's voice. But everything has a limit. When you cry because a person dies, it should be because you pity the soul of the dead and reflecting on your own, maybe it is not good enough for Paradise, yet. But it should not be because you are thinking that the worldly duty of that person can not be replaced or done by someone else! In this sense, you are actually limiting the power of Allah, doubting what the future may hold.



Did you lose your father, already? I am sorry about that. A young child should be able to cry, and show emotion. Even in a stronger dispaly than adult. Somebody over 40 years should not show the same emotion. While a child may think that there is no solution, a fully grown person, over 40 must know that Allah may use him/her as the solution for the Child's problem.



If your brother does not care if your father is dead, he must not be showing any "great emotion." How then can your mother classifies you to be "heartless and different from your brother", who did not cry a "spit" in this case? I still my father who died in 1966. The only reason that I miss him now is the religiousity. He was a very religious (ra). But I have moved on. So when I prostrate my face, I pray for him and my grand mother and his parents. My mother's father was a Christian. Now, I am happy that my mother is muslim. I can pray for her soul, when she dies. But I want her to be alive for another 20 years so that she can see many of my children's children. And me, making some new babies.

Thanks babs.  However, I must admit that you are not too clear on your response or its me being dense I'll respond to your question asap

Peace

babs787:
@Cayon

Firstly, I would like to tender my sincere condolence on the death of your father. May Allah forgive him his sins and grant his Al-janah (Amin). It is from Him we come and it is to Him we return.


Quran 3 v 185: Everyone shall taste death. And only on the day of
resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away
from the fire and admitted to paradise, this person is indeed successful. The life of
this world is only the enjoyment of deception:"

Quran 29 v 57: " Every soul shall have the taste of death " .

You can cry but not continuously cry loudly, wail, take off clothing (such as Hijab), act insane or hysterical, neglect yourself and your family due to your grief, and things of that nature.

It is forbidden to weep: Weeping means to yell or cry out loudly. Um-Atia (R.A.) said: "We took an oath before the messenger of Allah not to weep." [Reported by Imams, Bukhari and Muslim].

Also, the dead suffers from and dislikes his family's weeping. The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "Whosoever is wept upon will suffer as a result of this weeping." (This is because the dead person can hear the crying). [Reported by Imams, Bukhari and Muslim]

Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 4:
Volume 4, Page 21: Weeping Over the Dead
Muslim scholars are agreed that weeping for the dead is permissible, whereas crying and wailing are not[/b]. It is reported in a sound hadith that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: "[b]Allah does not punish a person for shedding tears or feeling pain in his heart. But He does punish, though he may show mercy, because of (what he utters with) this," and then he pointed to his tongue.

Weeping aloud and wailing cause pain and suffering to the dead person. It is reported from Ibn 'Umar that when 'Umar was stabbed and he became unconscious the people around him began crying loudly. When he regained consciousness he said to them: "Don't you know that the Messenger of Allah said: 'A dead person is tormented by the wailing of the living'."

Al-Mughirah ibn Sh'ubah reports that he heard the Prophet, peace be upon him, saying: "The one who is wailed for is tortured on account of it." The above hadith are reported by Bukhari and Muslim.

These hadith mean that a dead person feels pain and displeasure when his family wails over him, for he hears their wailing and their deeds are shown to him. This does not mean that the dead are actually punished and tormented because of the wailing of their families for them, because the Qur'an says that a person is not accountable for the actions of others[/b].

Ibn Jarir reported from Abu Hurairah that he said: "Your deeds are shown to your dead relatives. So if these are good, they are pleased, and if these are bad, they despise them."
Ahmad and Tirmizhi reported on the authority of Anas that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: "Your deeds are shown to your dead relatives and kinsfolk. So if these are good they are pleased, and if these are bad they say: 'O Allah! Let them not die until You have guided them to the right path as You guided us before'."

[b]Volume 4, Page 22: Wailing over the Dead
Wailing refers to mourning in a loud voice and crying in a high pitch, which was prohibited by the Prophet, peace be upon him[/b], . Abu Malik alAsh'ari reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: [b]"Four practices of the pre-Islamic days of Ignorance will continue to be practiced by my ummah: taking pride in one's parentage, giving a person a father other than his own genealogical father, believing that rain is caused by some stars, and wailing over the dead." He further said: "A (professional) mourner, unless she repents before her death, will be raised on the Day of Judgement wearing a garment of tar and an armor of blistering puss." This is narrated by Ahmad and Muslim.

sillyboy:
I detest Xmas trees.
It doesnt make sense to me.

I update my profile just for you

chamotex:
Cayon, where have u been?

I've missed u now

Thanks. Just took some days off to clear my mind from NL.

@ topic

The brotha sure know how to dress. He match from head to toe

@debosky

TITUS!! to all your responses especially #85 on page 3

Peace

her shoe heels are too high fi me. I'll break my neck walking in them

Peace

So this is Christmas (War is over) by John Lennon

[quote author=~smurf link=topic=173383.msg3203632#msg3203632 date=1228878097]NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I love this so much, make me a little emotional too, its real d[/b]eep, [/quote]Are you preggy?  If so, congrats and can i volunteer to be cyber-godmother .  I love, love, children.  I want to have at least 4 kids when i am married 

chamotex:
I swear it wasn't me

Abeg don't let me choke on my food. rotflmao 

iceblue:
@cayon
do you do those paintings yourself?

something tells me you do (i read earlier threads) but i need to know for certain

I wish i was that talented. These are [b]not my paintings. My paintings are like chicken scratch.

Good Morning Lord,

I thank you for this day. I thank You for my being able to see and to hear this morning. I'm blessed because You are a forgiving God and an understanding God. You have done so much for me and You keep on blessing me. Forgive me this day for everything I have done, said or thought that was not pleasing to you. I ask now for Your forgiveness,

Please keep us safe from all danger and harm. Help me to start this day with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude. Let me make the best of each and every day to clear my mind so that I can hear from You.

Let me not whine and whimper over things I have no control over. Let me continue to see sin through Your eyes and acknowledge it as evil. And when I sin, let me repent, and confess with my mouth of my wrongdoing, and receive forgiveness.

Peace

(Palms 37:3-6) Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. 4 Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. 5 Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: 6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.

Watch over me Lord to and from my job
Peace

earTHMama:
[img]This is one of the factories where almajiris are made. The north is tainting our image big time. See the *Northern man begging with his 5 wives and uncountable children. Before you know it, these kids will grow in lagos and become a nuisance to the society.

Re the highlight
How rude.  I am very disappointed in you.  [size=18pt]Breathe[/size]  I expected that remark from YT. . . . .hmm, hey you never know

Muza:
oh thats great then,i think it will be great too if we could get to know each other,then we see what can develop,

This is not the romance section

Question fi u: how vital is nigeria to the US economy.

Peace

@poster

I know where you are coming from when you say "food very smelly" When my sister-in-law cooked at my home I said the same thing to myself. However, the food is "smelly" because we are not accustomed to their seasoning. I said the same thing about Indian food too. However, the food is very tasty and i no longer let the scent bother me.

Peace

[quote author=Muza link=topic=205534.msg3203416#msg3203416 date=1228871097][/quote]Your name rings a bell.  I know a half-caste like me who has the same name like you

Good night and good luck

Nigeria is such a beautiful place, although a lot of local poverty. . . .errr the outside is different from the inside where unfortunately the poor are getting poorer.  I think i know why some Nigerians leave their country - for better social and economic opportunities.

Peace

I AM SOOO HAPPY. My sister called to say she is pregnant. My mother can't stop screaming and jumping (tears of happiness) I pray that its a girl

Thank you Lord

Pregnancy is the privilege of experiencing God's miracles on earth. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the experience of a pregnancy. Science has made it possible to witness the baby's growth on a sonogram. Once you see that, there's no turning back. Watching and feeling this little miracle grow inside you, knowing that one day you will hold this child in your hands is one of the greatest gifts that can be experienced.

Peace

Chrisbenogor:
Maybe God does not want you in church today,

i guess you meant to say the devil

Briefly me

My passion is ,

God, life, family and charity

I know too much about ,

Surviving

My childhood ambition ,

to become an entrepreneur

My favorite memory ,

Leaving Peter Island

Why I write ,

It's a part of me

My best moment ,

Still searching

My inspiration ,

Life

You know, maybe its not the one that you love will make you happy BUT the one that love you will make you happy.  Well i am talking to a 42 year old (15 years my senior)  My mom did the introduction,  . . . .well, lets wait and see ,  . . .maybe, just maybe there are good guys out there   He is very mature, down to earth and has good character.  We have a little in common.  I grew up around restaurants/small hotel.  He is the owner of a hotel and we both love to cook.  I just have to "field" him out some more,  . . . you know, get to know his ways.

Is this the person i wish to marry? i don't know?? but like my mom say "its not the one that you love will make you happy BUT the one that love you will make you happy"

Take care

Peace

@HR

I thought you were the Love Guru. Why? because you are sooo good on giving advise. Since you are so good in the love field. . . .follow your instinct

Take care

Peacde

Well this will be my first Christmas on Nairaland Forum and I am so proud to be a part of it. I only wish I had found this site sooner.

As we're only a couple of days away from Christmas I thought I'd create this thread and take the opportunity to wish EVERYONE here on the forum (and their families) all the best for Christmas and the New Year.

it's been an interesting year with many great members and a lot of great topics on the forum.  thank you to the Administrator and Moderators and thanks to all participating forum members for the entertaining subjects that have been brought up here and also debated. Oh yea, I have loved the banter we have had on the Forum and I hope it will continue for many more years to come.

To Olabowale: You're da man. Reading your posts makes me realize that you are a very astute, very intelligent and Knowledgeable man.  Your presence is really needed on the Muslim section.

To: Seun:  Keep up the good work.  You are a strong headed, intelligent and smart person.  Continue to keep the forum alive and when you feel like giving it up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.

To: Shaz:  You are a people person with a kindred spirit.

To: Mukina2, iice and StephenP:  Thanks for giving me the opportunity (by not deleting) to read the scariest and funniest thread on the Romance Section.  from "Magun to "My Girlfriend Urinates On My Bed Every Night (bed Wetting)"  classic!!  A special shout-out to the Romance section

To: AKO and Mustay:  Continue to keep my favorite areas (Muslim and Christian) alive and well

To: Technology(uspry1) and Health:  Thanks for answering my questions.  Greatly appreciated

To: davidylan: thanks for the challenge and for being a good sport

To those who corrected me when I overstep my boundaries: - Thanks.  I don't mind being corrected when I overstep

To: Sauron and others who read my posts and felt offended/got under your skin (languages translation). I am truly sorry. "If I could turn back time, If I could find a way, I'd take back those words that have hurt you.(cher)"

I'd also like to pause and take a thought for those that will not be with us this Christmas (vacationing/traveling) and will be missed.  Stay safe on the roads so we can all chat again in 2009

Sincerely,
Cayon

To everything there is a season -  it's time to put our differences aside and spread the Love.