₦airaland Forum

mezico96:
Good day cuties and gentlemen of NL

Lemme just go straight to the point

I attended a friend's traditional wedding last year December and after all the stress and struggles to settle the bride price, the father of the lady forbade she stays with the husband until after their church/white wedding which is two months from now

So guys, is he right to say that?
What is your opinion?

Iwa palapala.

The father should return the bride price then!

Oniranu.

2.25 million?

Are you sure you are not a criminal?

Thunder1010:
The administration is doing everything possible to make life better

Continue deceiving yourself!

A very duplicitous and deceitful administration.
Lifting people out of poverty is not done by talking from both sides of the mouth with changing parameters and metrics at every short intervals.
You will not lift anyone out of poverty by doling out 5k or 10k or 20k, only idio...ts and simpletons will think otherwise.


With all due respect, Yemi Osinbajo, you are a bloody bastar...d and charlatan, you and Buhari are incompetent twerps!

Speed Darlington in the mud.

Lala Rele.
Death to all snakes and their family members!!

Alhamdullilah.

Hoping in hopelessness
Anybody who thinks Buhari will do anything to improve or secure the lives of Nigerians should be slapped into oblivion.
Buhari is a simpleton and a demented old man who is out of his depth and touch with reality.

Teebilz, speak for yourself.

Ikpeazu olodo governor, a fu...cking incompetent dimwit!

Abia state has gone to the dogs, Abia is finished!

Dan Allah!

Bribery and Corruption

Speed Darlington sef send message?

nwekeugochukwu:
"To Be Stingy With Your Pastor Can Lead To Untimely Death"- Pastor Warns Members of Stingy Men Association of Nigeria

A Nigerian clergyman, Goodheart Val Aloysius, has warned members of the ''Stingy Men Association of Nigeria'' not to take their stingy traits close to their pastors, IgbereTV reports.

According to Pastor Aloysius, being stingy to your pastor can lead to an untimely death. He shared this opinion on his Facebook page.

His post reads;


https://www.facebook.com/100038855382867/posts/409097813728728/?app=fbl

Thunder fire you Goodheart Aloysius!

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

Tonnes not thorns

Another sorry tale from the chronicles of men of God.

in gorilla we trust.

22brains:
There's this girl am dating, she's beautiful and has everything a man wants in a woman.

But The problem is "she had a child outside wedlock" and hardly go about without carrying The baby(5yrs old). This makes me feel embarrassed among my peers, knowing am not the legitimate father.

She always gets upset whenever I try to know about the father of her child. All she has told me of him is they broke up.

She also pressures me to marry her that she is tired staying with her mom.

She's 20yrs while am 26. Should I succumb or Jakpa? Please help a brother with some advice.

The idio..ts around you who think it is a wrong idea to marry a single mum are the ones you need to jakpa from.

Grow up and do the needful if you get on with and love the lady and she loves you too.

Fraud.

Masha Allah!

Alhamdullilah!

Even small animals know the monumental disaster that is Buhari!
Some bastar..ds with fully developed brains still think Buhari is performing, fu..cking idio...ts!

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Are you insane?
How are you sure the child is yours? Because your friends mentioned the striking resemblance?! Is that enough?
Anyway, if you can help the woman, do so and do the needful regarding confirming the paternity of the child!

tyup:
The other one was arrested and was later granted bail only to goan continue the same Drug smuggling. I keep saying it, The best way to curtail Drug smuggling is to shoot on sight any Ipob caught in the act Dead. But the truth is, if this should be implemented the whole population in the SE might be less than 200

You are a tribalistic bastar....d!

Death to drug smugglers and dealers.... Inshaa Allah!

Omo ale agbalagba!
He should be hacked at the neck off with a chain saw and left to bleed to death!

Obinrin le pani.

Obinrin buru

Obinrin daju.

Fear women!

Who are the airheads deceiving Osinbajo?

Osinbajo shut the fu...ck up, all you do is talk talk and talk!

diamondedu:
Hmmmm.. good day please how best do I handle this situation?

My ex, although we did not officially seperate, is getting married by the end of the month but she doesn't love her husband to be. She finds his touch irritating, they hardly talk about everything that married people do, she's not just comfortable with the husband to be.

Now me and her were very good friends before we become lovers she's really a good girl, very supportive, infact every man's dream lady but I'm not yet ready to settle down. Family issues still full my head..

PLS married people how best do I avoid her before it becomes problem for her and the innocent man?

Ori e ti daaru.

Kestolove:
At 41 no husband, pack breaszt like rochas belle, but una see dat her film king of boys..I love am

Shut the fu...ck up and get your fupa asshole out of here, you vacuous troglodyte!

Sell the damn refinery, you bunch of idio...ts!