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Rotfl.. Op, calm down.

To me, the 2 differences between them are
Runs Girls are more likely to think they are better than hookers. Hookers are more honest and less likely to hurt people with their selfishness.
But the biggest difference is that:
The Runs Girls gets paid to have sex and the prostitute gets paid to leave.

mhyra:
lol, and yet the OP is searching..
this is just a cry in disguise from a guy who'd wish he were in a relationship

Sometimes to be exempted from the passions with which others are tormented, is the only pleasing solitude one can wish for miss Mhyra

Op forgive me for saying this. I mean no disrespect but I think the both of you are still kids(21-23). From what you've just said, this looks like an arranged marriage.. In an arranged marriage, You know the saying "We're not losing a daughter, we're gaining a son-in-law"? Well, it works in the reverse too: You're inheriting the obligations, stresses, and, yes, benefits, of a whole new family. You might get along superbly with your significant other's family now, but once you're married, they could transform into the in-laws from hell, because now you're cemented to your partner and they claim you as one of their own. Thread carefully boy else you'll get burnt in future..

Op, if it's a prophet who gave her the prophecy, you have 2 choices- you can either decide to forge on or back off.. But if it's a prophetess, my brother please run for your dear life. Just please heed to my advice.. Never you joke with a prophetess in the white garment church. You won't find the results funny.. Still, the choice is your's bro.. Goodluck

Advice for ladies who smoke, Smoking appears to change the distribution of fat in women to a less healthy male‘apple’pattern. Women who smoke tend to put on more fat around their waist compared to women who do not smoke. Fat in this area is associated with risks such as stroke, heart disease, type 2 diabetes and a general increased death rate and a much more easier way to the grave than she can ever imagine. Though it might be hard to stop it but I believe you can because what you started, you can finish it all by yourself..

The truth can be revealed by asking the children some questions in separate rooms. But to me, I know the man is lying and making this up to do something evil.

Most of us know that conflict management skills often determine the health of a relationship. In other words, the major difference between happy and unhappy couples often comes down to how they deal. In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter.
It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that sometimes encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love
Just have it in mind that ''A real person is not perfect and a perfect person is not real''..

Op, you and your friend have what I call ''Skinny Love''. You do love each other but you're too shy or as a result of your ego to admit it. It's just like that eminem song
The more you, put me through,
The more it makes me wanna come back to you,
You say you hate me, I just love you more,
You don't want me, I just want you more,
I buy you flowers, you throw 'em at me,
I know it's sad but it's making me happy,
The more that you slap me, the more that it turns me on,
Cause you love me, and I love you more.

Op, it's true, though I'm no 3 on the list but I'm not gay or it's as a result of physical, emotional or spiritual problem. It's just something personal and don't bother to ask why. Thanks

Op, your gf has started distancing herself from you. Instead of disclosing her needs, She's expecting you to do some mind-reading. When you fail, she withdraws her love. You, in turn, feel rejected and helpless to please her. Closeness evaporates, replaced by confusion and disappointment.
I have found that people slowly drift out of love. If it happened all at once, they would be able to react and change. Because it happens slowly, over time, the process just sneaks up on couples.
It's like the story of the frog in hot water: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, he'll do his very best to hop right out. But if you put a frog in a pan of water at room temperature and slowly increase the temperature to a boil, he'll stay put until it's too late.

Here are things you can do to begin to restore communication:
Talk: I know that sounds too simple, and I guess I could make it harder, but that really is where it begins.
Take a risk and begin to talk about issues that may have been difficult in the past.
Recall the times you were able to talk with each other and simply repeat what you did then.
Ask questions. Become curious about your partner's world.
Begin with, ``Can we talk about ...?''
Schedule times to be together and talk. I know this might sound funny but she needs you more than you can ever imagine.. Don't let that thought of she's cheating get into your head man, she deserves more from you. I wish you best of luck man
NB: Women are like abstract paintings, you may never get understand them but still you'll love and cherish them.

I find many people these days having husband or wife expectations of their boyfriend or girlfriend. Covering or contributing to a major bill is a spouse duty, not a significant-other obligation. It’s nice when a boyfriend wants to pitch in to help, even though that can come with its own headaches, but he certainly shouldn’t be your primary option for bailing you out of a financial mess. Your man isn’t your personal ATM or a financial plan or your yearly or monthly budget plan. Op, if you feel your bf should pay the bills no matter what then I suggest you take it to the authorities and propose a bill called 'Boyfriends bill of right''.

Op if what you've just posted is true, then I suggest you to take a step back and give yourself a whopping dose of self-care. Sleep well, eat well, and exercise — being active will counteract the sadness you feel by boosting your endorphins rather than you complaining, feeling sad, feeling lonely and all that. It happened for a reason and you just have to let go but if you feel you can forgive him and move on, then the ball is your court. So, you decide lady..

Op, the important thing to understand about one who cheats be it a guy/girl is that a lot of the time, it’s not that the person who cheats is unhappy with his or her significant other, but that the issue is symptomatic of an internal problem and that's where the problem lies. Often times, it's out of spite and neglect, while the other times, it's because they feel they will never be caught by their partners and when caught red-handed, some might feel awkward and others might justify themselves and claim it was done out of boredom, emotional security or experimenting.
NB: Not all guys are cheats, same as not all ladies are cheats. They're still few faithful humans out there.

Op, I just believe Ladies are like ''abstract paintings'', even though you can't and will never understand them but they're still beautiful and you'll love them. As the popular saying goes- ''One man's food is another's poison.

To me, it's very bad and it destroys not only your life but your family life as well. Some do blame it on their wives not satisfying them the way they want it but they never try to engage their partner in a quiet talk and pour out their mind that this is what they want in bed hence the best alternative is to run out wild and free..

KingBish:
Gimme a moment let me go and ask Nico & Vinz

You're so funny...

chibwike:
Good riddance

To bad rubbish

Some dudes on NL are so damn funny with their comments.. Miss KingBish, but that particular day is the d-day for we Nigerians to decide our fate and moreover, it's a day to visit the sick, poor and homeless kids. Am I wrong?

I wouldn't tag silent treatment as a sign of immaturity but still it is the equivalent of a deadly emotional assassination..

Unibenstudent:
na u get ur mouth.https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-violent069.gif

You're so funny bro.. Sometimes it's always the cute guy that walks up to the girl and say hi girl, my friend likes you and points to a dragon

Op,from what I see here is that your girlfriend may have cheated out of a desire for attention or affection, or because she was not feeling emotionally fulfilled in some way. If she is remorseful and wants to try to make things work, then try re-focusing your attention on the relationship and mutually striving to meet each others' needs might make you better communicators and partners. Since no relationship is perfect, you may be able to change a bad situation into an opportunity to grow, both as individuals and as a couple. However, if you and your girlfriend have different emotional expectations and values or if you do not think you can meet your girlfriend's emotional needs, it may be better to leave the relationship. I feel your pains and I've been down that road before, lucky I'm not dead because I was driving on my way back from a journey on the highway when she called me and told me it's over that she lied to me and she cheated.. The next thing I knew I found myself in the bush but for 2 months I was in the hospital bed all because of love. Vowed never to trust any lady especially one who's so interested in you and beautiful.. But that was 4 years ago man, though I'm just living my life with no commitments for the now and my family has been of great help. What you need now is a lot of space and get close to your loved ones(family), and never ever go out alone driving or drinking bro.. Pls it won't be funny.

These things are not that old na.. I still have those bottles(fanta ginger-ale and goldspot), even my cheque uniform back then.

Op, I'll like to add a few. You see in life, introvert men are shut away entirely from the world of romance and relationships, introvert girls just end up in bad relationships because of low self esteem during their teenage years.
Unlike other girls who keep making this same mistake all their lives, an introvert woman’s heart hardens and she learns her lesson quickly.  She becomes one of those rare and precious women who isn’t chasing millionaires and movie stars.
Introvert women are much more pragmatic and analytical than other women, more so than most men.  They value fairness in a relationship and treasure the quality of a relationship over the material things that can be extracted from it.
While many women speak loudly and rapidly, introvert women tend to speak more slowly and deliberately.  They love spending time outdoors and wear less makeup than other women.
They have a deep appreciation for spells of silence and natural beauty.
They are often superb writers with a lot of creativity and flair for describing the details. Introvert women always amaze me because they basically contradict everything male cynics have said for centuries. The sad thing is that most of them, even as adults don’t understand just how precious they are and that's where I have a little problem with some. Please if I've said anything wrong or false, kindly point it out to me rather than insults..

What a world we live in..

Sometimes I begin to wonder if some beings here on NL think twice before commenting on any thread.

MizMyColi:
Well generally speaking, I think it's okay to feel slightly envious (emphasis on slightly) but she must watch it! She must not give the devil (if any) a chance.

Please sis, it's not okay no matter the justification..Couples who find themselves running on competition mode should really reconsider their feelings, and where they emanate from.
Competition is only healthy when it is working for you, not against you, as is the case when it happens in a marriage.
But the competition happens probably because of other challenges in the relationship.
For instance, there are those who were mistreated by their spouses when they did not have a source of income.
That creates the feeling that the money your partner has is his or hers and when one gets an opportunity to make their own, the likelihood is that he or she will try to outdo the other.
The other possible reason is when one partner has a low self-esteem, and therefore feels threatened by the one doing well, or better.
This kind of person needs to be assured of his or her role, even if it is of little or no direct monetary value.
The partners should also plan together on all aspects related to running the home so that no one feels left out.
Finally, there is the very sensitive issue of how roles are shared in the home.
Traditionally, men were providers, while women were in control of the home.
So my sis, Jealousy and envy are two of the most common—yet negative and use-less—emotions many of us have. It's not healthy and I'm talking from experience. It's evil, time-consuming and destructive. Please don't let it come into your mind.

It's always the cute guy that walks up to you to tell you my friend likes you and then points to a dragon..

Some NL comments are so funny.. Op, it's a lady thing, if you've got it-flaunt it. Just let them be and do your own thing..

A woman really doesn’t want much from a man. There are really only seven things – seven qualities that she’s looking for in a life partner. Although these qualities are hard to find, they are qualities of which every man is capable. These seven things are not out of any man’s reach, yet the fact is that most lack at least one.
Now, you may like to argue that no one is perfect and therefore no one has all seven of these qualities, but that’s just not true. There are plenty of men out there who are sufficient in each of these categories, not perfectly, but sufficient enough to make a woman incredibly happy. That’s all that matters, right?
1. Honesty – but not too much of it.
A woman doesn’t want a man to lie to her about important matters. She wants to be an important part of his life – the most important part, in fact. She wants to know the things that are going on his life and she wants him to have trust in her. As far as she is concerned, they are one – his life is her life.
She wants him to want to share in his pleasant experiences and memories. She also doesn’t want him to feel that he has to lie, because when that is the case it usually means that he was stepping out of line, making poor choices and mistakes. On the other hand, she doesn’t want the truth in all circumstances. Brutal honesty isn’t wanted.
If she asks, she looks great, she looks beautiful, the fact she gained 15 pounds doesn’t bother you, her new haircut makes her look even cuter. Now that I think about it, the only thing you should really lie is about such shallow matters as appearances. We all look like sh*t sometimes – but she doesn’t need to hear you say it.
2. Understanding – so that she doesn’t feel the need to have to explain herself.
She wants you to know her – inside and out. Why? Because only then will you love her for her. We all sometimes need confirmation that we’re worth loving. The real us – not the people others perceive us to be. We may not all need such a confirmation of our value, but we all want it. But it’s more than just that.
Having someone understand you is having someone completely know you for the person that you really are. There’s no confusion, there’s no misunderstanding or misconception. They know you for you and because they know you for the person you really are, you, in a sense, exist outside of yourself. As long as they live on, so do you.
3. Caring – she needs to know she matters to you.
To be cared for means not to be alone in this life. Most people are forced to care for themselves and the truth is that it’s a lot more difficult than people let on. As human beings, we aren’t always in the right mindset to care for ourselves. To top it off, that’s usually exactly when we need the most caring – when we aren’t mentally or physically capable of doing it ourselves.
She wants you to be there for her when she needs someone, to be there to share her burden. I know it sounds ridiculous, but she wants you to make her life a little easier. Craziness – I know. On the upside, she’ll be there for you when no one else will. Fair enough tradeoff I think.
4. Strength – both mental and physical.
No woman wants a physical weakling – it’s against her nature. That doesn’t mean she won’t settle for slightly less than Herculean, but you’re a man dammit. She wants to feel that when she’s in your presence. She wants you to be intelligent and to practice self-control simply because you can.
We’re all still animals and women will always be attracted to the stronger men. She wants you to be strong not for the sake of being strong – she wants you to be strong for her. It brings her pleasure, makes her feel safe and turns her on. Do you honestly need more convincing?
5. Compassion – shows her you’re capable of loving.
A woman doesn’t only want a man to have love only for her, but a love for life, for living things. She wants a kind man, a man whom others will look up to, appreciate and admire. She wants a good man.
She doesn’t see being good and compassionate as a weakness. And that’s because it’s not. I know lots of men are taught that to be strong you have to be hateful, spiteful and malicious. That’s very unfortunate, but it’s simply the world we live in. She doesn’t need that. You don’t need that either. No one does.
6. Security – financial and literal.
You don’t need to be a millionaire. Well, for some women, you very well may need to be, but hopefully you’ll only end up with one who admires the traits required for turning oneself into a millionaire and not the money alone. Generally speaking, the right woman will love you for you, but she does need you to make her feel secure.
She wants to feel that you will protect her from physical harm. She wants to know that you’ll keep her safe, healthy and comfortable. Does she need you to keep her safe? To bring home the bread? No. But she’d like you to be capable of it – even if her salary is bigger than yours. She’ll have your back too so you can rest easier as well.
7. Blind Loyalty – she wants to be the only woman he has eyes for.
We all have big egos – men and women alike. We want to feel special. We want to feel unique and better than the rest. We’re competitive by nature and there is no getting around it. Women want a man who sees the world in her. Her and only her.
She knows she’s not the most beautiful or smartest woman in the world, but she doesn’t need to be – she’s not delusional. She just wants you to think – know – that she’s the most beautiful, best woman in the world for you.
She needs you to think she is the best thing that ever happened to you. She wants to be the best and she wants a man who will allot her that title.
NB: But the problem with some ladies is that despite the fact a man possesses these qualities, the woman won't be satisfied.. Why?

Finding true love online is a big ''NO'' for me.. The thing with internet dating, it may have lost it's stigma but in my experience it’s still a stomping ground for social mis-fits and shy loners who would find it hard to get a date in the real world.
It is so easy to misrepresent yourself online. You may be socially challenged in real life but in cyberspace anyone can pretend to be Leonardo DiCaprio. It's not safe and highly dangerous cos you might be dating a freak or worse a serial-killer..

Miss Izaray, Honesty may not be the best policy when it comes to relationships and I'll tell you why.. Couples do lie to each other an average of 3 times a week, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. There's what I call ''DECEPTIVE AFFECTION'' like complementing your guy/girl's haircut/hairdo when you actually think it's heinous to kissing him goodbye even when you're really pis-sed. But if your motives for covering up something major-like you're over the relationship or you've been cheating- you're probably doing more harm than good and in any relationship, if you're primarily relying on deception, then problems will likely result..
Sometimes we tell lies not because we don't value honesty, but because telling the truth conflicts with something else we value, such as being compassionate or loyal or reassuring. E.g, I'm old and in a sick bed diagnosed with illness that will take my life and my grand-kids walk up to me and ask- grand-dad, will you be alright? What do you think will be my response? I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. Sometimes, two noble goals come into conflict. If you tell the truth, you will be unkind and if you say something kind, it will be a lie. When people lie to the ones they love, it is because they're valuing something else more than honesty. Maybe they're loyal, or to avoid hurting the other person's feeling. Maybe they think that the other person isn't in a good enough place, emotionally, to hear a painful truth.
NB: Though liars sometimes claim to tell lies so as to spare the other person from pain. Sometimes they really mean it, but they can also be using it as an excuse to give themselves an out. Do have a nice day.