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Op, the situation is about to get worse.. Very soon, she'll hire some dudes to beat the living daylight out of your brother. This is what I call ''Avengers''.

Op, Why are you an intimate friend to the wife of another man? That is the first question you should ask yourself.
You're most likely the villain in this story despite your "heroic" thoughts of rescue. Sometimes, some ladies love the beating and also violence is an enforcement mechanism used by some men to show who's boss or let out their violent feelings.

Op, thought the lady was 62 year old

Naturally most ladies hate, hurt, and forge less-than-genuine friendships with each other simply because they don’t know how to directly express their competitive nature. Some of them know how to tone it down and behave amicably towards each other, but there’s always that woman lurking around in the shadows close by—that sneering, eye-rolling Negative lady who has seemed to make it her life’s mission to put other women down. It's so depressing..

If she's unable to get hold of any guy, she could just send some reasonable amount of money to the village and a ''potential dude'' will be waybilled to her.. At 40, still pretty

Chizzy20:
option D should b exempted frm dat list..cos some men re real dogs..dat no mata hw beautiful, luvin, caring, submissive dier wives myt b to dem..dey cant stay without cheatin...it only takes d grace of God to get a faithful husband...

. Seriously, how many successful relationships have you been into? You claimed that someone used vulgar words on you and yet you quoted ''Some men are dogs''. How ironic, don't you think so? My dear, if you've not been to hell, never you assume you're already in hell..

Nice one boys

Lmao.. The dude with the i-screen got me. Lollll

I won't argue that sleeping with someone married is or is not wrong .. I think most reasonable people can agree that it is wrong. However the risk involved in doing so is definitely a sliding scale.
If you sleep with a woman who is in a committed relationship to another, the risk is that her relationship with him will be ruined and it will be painful.
If you sleep with a woman who is married to another, the risk is that they will have to divorce, and it will be not only painful but also potentially disastrous to their lives, as they will have to disentangle themselves from each other and their property, their routines together, family gatherings/holidays, social networks will also be impacted, etc. etc. Divorce is almost never simple and has lasting emotional effects for many years, especially when such a divorce is predicated on a cheating spouse. Be aware that, as the catalyst for a married couple divorcing, your immediate, selfish, short-term sexual gratification can have devastating consequences to the emotional and physical health of a man you don't even know.
But these risks pale in comparison to the permanent trauma you would be causing their children. Those kids will learn at a very impressionable age about how families can be ripped apart, how trust can be shattered, how the two most centrally important people in their lives can become vicious enemies. They will grow up in a broken home, and statistically, people who grow up with divorced parents are much more likely to get divorced themselves. After all, they've seen that modeled for them, it's how they come to understand how marriage plays out. They will learn not to trust, and their capacity for accepting love from others can be severely damaged in many unpredictable ways. Not to mention the fact that you will have been party to their having to grow up outside of a stable, loving, two-parent household, the joys of which will never be known to them. The ripple effects of this one decision can be generational to some extent.
And all because someone they never knew wanted some illicit fun with their mom when she was vulnerable, and considered himself blameless. It cannot be taken back or undone.
I have a certain amount of experience with this. I'm not telling you what to do, you have to make up your own mind. But you should consider the long-term and very powerful impact your need for some convenient hanky-panky could have on other people you have never, and will never, meet. Then you decide if you think it's worth it. Thread carefully boy
I hope you make the adult decision.

Seriously any lady that would think of making a guy go through all these stress should be gang-raped and bathed with raw acid or worse tied to a tree and hit with a car at a speed of 100mph..

aariwa:
The truth is that runs and other social vices are a reflection of the corrupt leadership we have had in this country since independence.Let us shun ethnic and religous sentiments for the first time in our country and vote for CHANGE. GMB 2015

LWKMD.. Smh for some dudes sha

Op, that dude was not forced na.. Smh for some miracle seekers.

Op, Some relationships when finished should be celebrated. You never know how many psychopaths God has freed you from! Yea I know Break-ups do hurt a lot, but losing someone who doesn’t respect and appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss.

yanshaddict:
If A Woman Was To Eat A Lot Of
Chocolate, Would Her Breast Milk Taste Like
Chocolate Milk?...matured advise only

As in

I won't be surprised.. Every 80 to 90 percent of ladies today will definitely do this or something similar to this.. A lady who's married to a single father always have this irrevocable hatred for the step-child. Many won't agree to this but sadly it's true.. 2 year old baby- that lady needs to be dipped in honey and staked out in an ant farm.

The heart of a woman should never be scorched, else your own funeral awaits you...

And this is how you identify them op..

How about this?

Op, We are all guilty of sin, error, and moments of sheer stupidity; none of us should be casting stones. The occasional arced pebble might be overlooked and also open your mind to the world and the many different ways that can be found in it, before making hasty judgments of others. After all, the very same thing that you judge from where you are— may very well be something totally different in meaning on the other side of the world. The problem with making hasty judgments is that it will emphasise your ignorance at the end of the day. Lastly I still love my Naija Ladies regardless of what I've been through.. "To be exempt from the passions with which others are tormented, is the only pleasing solitude.

Love-- double edged sword

I hate those 3 words--- ''I LOVE YOU''..

Op, are you sure about this

What are the reasons

Op, sometimes don't blame it on the lady.. You see I have some male friends and whenever we hang out they'll be like- Is not that we are afraid of not marrying but the general idea of commitment. According to some of them, they'll give me that speech of '' We just love to Bleep every woman we see, every second of the day, and committing to one person ends that ability''. So, guys too are somehow responsible too..

henrylowe:
And you think you would get PMs for the crap you posted ?

The guy is a clown bro.. Maybe he's searching for a wife sha..

Op, just pay her a surprise visit and see things for yourself.. Smh "To be exempt from the passions with which others are tormented, is the only pleasing solitude.

Lemme see the ladies comments first..

Then I'll drop my own.

God should never let me experience such scene... Naturally, in every home, there is bound to be disagreement or quarrel at one time or the other between husband and wife. In most cases, this often leads to a fight, especially if it is not well managed. But to slap my mum, that's a big No No.. I will try to find out what must have happened; and I know she will ordinarily not do that if she’s not bewitched or something. I know the kind of wife I am married to, so I will try to find out if she acted under some juju or Ogbanje to have done such a thing.
She and I are bound by marriage, but my mother and I are bound by blood. I am not a violent person by nature, so I won’t resolve the issue by any violent means.
Being my mother’s favourite son, I will beg her on behalf of my wife and I know she will forgive her. Then, I will ask my wife to go down on her knees and ask for her forgiveness, if she's defiant about it, then I'll just calmly way-bill her to her village... Case closed.