Thanks for sharing your experiences y'all. I can't say I will do NYSC after hearing all this. Thanks for letting me know what's up.

English1:

But how do you walk in such tight long skirts?

By wiggling your booty.

ThiefOfHearts:

well didnt this all start because someone stated that Chiwetel doesnt represent Nigeria?

Even though I truly disagree. I think he does unlike some people to which I mentioned Seal

lupus ko, leoprosy ni. Man knows he tried to remove his tribal marks and ruined his face.

Is that what happened? . . . It prolly can't be 100% confirmed but that makes so much sense.

n-guage:

I don't like Nigerians who don't represent. Nobody askeed Akon before he told us he was senegalese. why do we have to claim them. Chamilllionare and the rest of them. Even if its the soccer players, same thing. let them tell the world about their heritage first.

Are you saying Chiwetel doesn't rep Naija? I don't really know since I'm not in the UK and have to seek out his interviews etc.

But you ain't lying. Folks aren't reppin' like they're supposed to! Having said that, I'm not convinced Cham is Naija. Anyhow, he won't get into the club until he says so properly.

Whitelexi, you have such common views, I'm sure you'll find a very common woman to share them with you.

Ogo means in-law (to us anyway).

Good point Tellmemore. I'm from Abia and I'm so used to "kalu" I didn't know it wasn't a name everywhere in Igbo state until you just told me. I like that though, b/c it adds to variety.

Also, there are some new names I like. As long as they sound Igbo enough I'm down. Occasionally I test one of these name s off my mom and she's like huh?. As for other names, I tend to be biased to the older "fetish" meanings. It's our culture.

Sista:

That is my whole point, I think that black woman did get discouraged and I don't think they gave her any kind of comfort as a sister. She is a black woman though and she is going to ultimately let that Nigerian play his self out, if that is what he does. I don't see how it can be viewed though as being rude for telling the white woman the truth? Nairaland members tell me off all of the time and they don't care about being rude to me that is why I have adapted the attitude that I am damned if I love them and I am damned If I treat them as if I don't love them so why don't I just be me and keep it real at all of the times, even if the truth hurts

You're right here. I think the difference btw the reaction to the women along w/ what I previously stated is that "we" do think white women are malleable. They want to take on the man's identity more than the black American woman might want to so if she's already having problems whereas I do think of white woman taking more shiit. Not saying all white women do.

Sista:
If I am not mistaking, that same white woman was seeing another Nigerian guy when she posted and she was talking about how he was there for her while she went through the ordeal she went through with with her husband, who was also Nigerian. She should have been told at that time to be careful that most likely that Nigerian saw how weary she was and he was going to get as much candy out of her as he could, just like the last Nigerian did

Oh, I read/remember someone warning her not to get into a relationship w/ another one! I didn't write it personally others had and she hadn't wanted to hear it so I figured she'll reap what she sows.

Sista:
Again, we are so quick to comfort white people while shunning our own.

Yes, Nigerians are guilty of being "partial" or favoring to white people. We need to work on this but it's not all of us.

Sista:
Did you know about the white man who came hear saying that all Nigerians should be dead because he was cheated by a Nigerian woman? Well, Drusilla told me that Nigerians in nairaland comforted him and told him they understood his being angry and hateful. Then they tried to convince him that all Nigerians are like that when they should have cursed his ass out. Instead they are civil with angry white people and un compassionate towards their own angry black people, even if their own is not angry and in need of a little assurance,

Didn't see it myself but I read when you wrote about it on another thread. But some people are comforters or "devil's advocates". Did you read the thread called "IGBO GIRLS LOVE MONEY". A man (naija) was on there trying to bash Igbo girls and everyone came to insult him except for those who came to defend him and say whatever. So this isn't just a racial thing. There will always be people who defend or comfort others even if they don't deserve it.

Sista:
That is what I do with my daughter and her friends, I teach them and it is working. The communication my girl has with her friends and her friends with her is to be admired. They keep is so real with each other and they take nothing the other tells them as personal but as an opportunity to grow.

Good for them. Less heartache later on.

Sista:
Hating? I don't think so. If someone asked me something I felt was out of turn, I would ask them the reasoning behind their question, after all we are all adults, even children come at each other with curious questions. Any way, If their reason made sense and I was secure, I would answer them.

True.

Sista:
Example: I was telling another nairaland member to not marry a white man. Somegirl, she is a white nairaland member, I was not even talking to her but she made it a point to interject and ask me was I aware that specific African tribes fought each other? To me, she was talking out of turn because I was not talking to her and to me she was talking sunshine when I was talking lollie pops I first told her that their was nothing about my people that I needed her to inform me of and then I asked her what was the basis of her question? She took many days to finally tell me her basis, and to this day I don't know if her answer was based on further observation of me.

I remember reading this. But your reaction is exactly the type of thing people want to avoid. At the time, I thought you were making a bru-ha-ha out of nothing. Maybe you didn't mean to sound defensive when you asked her why she had brought this up, but I read it that way. For what it's worth I think her answer was genuine but I don't know her.

Sista:
Black Americans Black Africans, what is the difference?

I made that distinction b/c I think it's important to note that "we" (Africans) don't do it w/ ill intent or see the bad results.

Sista:
The only thing I can agree with you on this one is more so, CA do not mind hurting black Americans more than they hurt each other on the continent of Africa. Also it goes both ways, AA people don't mind hurting CA more than they hurt each other here in America. Still, we are all hurting each other. And the only time we unite is when we set trip with another group of black people.

Good point. We got to turn this ship around but I think we're doing so. Correction: I see lots of people changing but not everyone is open to change at this moment. Those of us who are need to be on our job, especially in day-to-day life though. It's not easy though. To me, the way this usually works or begins is by being frozen out. So at your place of employment and/or school a certain person won't be spoken to so the dialogue never happens. I've been that person more times than I can count.