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Honestly, I do not believe in JUJU.

It only works if you believe it works. It all in the mind. Just like your prayers, they only work if you believe your God exists.

So if I was that guy I wouldn't worry. No Human Being has power over another Human Being unless they allow them to.

Already she has worked on his psyche and made him believe she has those powers.

Twisted individuals.

jamngr84: yes oh they are neglected, but u do not c them going on a raping, killing or drinking rampage. unlike in europe or Us were the mental are in safe custody and most of the perfectly sane go on child abuse(uk) killing spree (usa) and drinking and smoking at a very young age.

I am very disappointed.Clearly you do not understand anything about Public Health.

One of the indicators of a progressive society is Public Health Care offered to its citizens including ( Community Health, Education, Mental Health etc ).
You come here beating your chest for physically abusing helpless people, and you condoning the act as a measure to control them? How pathetic can you get?

If the government fails to take care of Epileptic patients talkless of ADHD or Mental health patients, you think its ok. You thinks its ok to abuse mentally challenged people.

You are really a disappointment. smh

Get your self some education on Public Health, Mental Health, Primary Health Care and Community Health. It will do you good if you understand what all those three entail and what is your role, the FG role are before you disappoint next time.

jamngr84: the simple truth of the matter is that children in the UK or Europe are pampered and when they cant pay attention or are not behaving normally, they say they have one form of disorder. If that child had grown up in Nigeria, i believe he would have learnt to pay attention at an early age as a little floogging would have ensured that he pays attention.
My advise, if u dont want to put him in a disable school, u had better leave him there or let that disorder be cured by some little discipline.

Black parents.smh.

I came across your likes, that's why mental disorders/ mental health are neglected in Nigeria .

OP, I understand your concern,

what type of ADHD was your son diagnosed with??

ADHD - Predom Inattentive -
He can go to a normal school, though you have to closely manage the situation. Report to the teacher and also request the teacher not to tell other kids as it stigmatize the child thereby academic perfomance worsens and possibility of Depression. No joke managing Depression + ADHD. If he cant cope then you can move him to a special school.


ADHD - Hyper Impulsive -
ADHD - Combined
For these two I suggest a special school. Looking at the society, and what facilities and support can be offered to you and your child, your child is likely to be expelled, always in trouble, be bullied and be a bully.

As for what the government offers, its hard even for practitioners in Nigeria to practice because of lack of governmental support and structures.There are very few Psychologist and Psychiatrists who can give you parental support.

[quote author=12 inches!]i smell pvssy... A skanky azz hoe pvssy on this thread,[/quote]You need Jesus and a toothbrush.

adconline: Now you have listed all the guy's shortcomings, have u ever thought of your of own shortcomings? Why do think that ur checklist is OK and acceptable to the man?

If you read what you quoted me on,i did acknowledge that I have shortcomings. Though I did not list them. I did not say I am an angel hence I am slack on judgement.

Besides, I am the one who is evaluating him against my standards. He has to meet my standards.

Nonetheless he is also at liberty to evaluate me against his standards. For now, its me assessing him against my standards, i don't see anything wrong with that

He cheated with a ''MAN''



Disbelief and funny, after some months I started absorbing reality. We still friends though.

Don't wish it for anyone. Rather cheating with a woman.

ALISMILE: I dont wash dem vag 4dem but i sure dont let dem leave it uncared for. U knw some buddies like to once in a while dabble wit dem tongue on d clit. So for som of us the vag is one specail area.Forgiv me, because this is obviously not d rite tread 4 dis kind of talk.Again,my apology.

No wahala, I am used to your types here

We can never be the same, Some derail threads, some crazies, some funny. Just be you and continue washing those ........ ( kidding )

I don't take no thing personal.

EBK2: I hope it goes well with you. I don't underestimate the challenge you are facing and sorry if I came across harsh or judgemental. That wasn't the intention and it doesn't benefit my to do so. I was giving you my objective assessment based on your initial remarks.
This is not something you can handle alone. Since you still have so many questions, doubts and lack of peace about this move, I suggest you suspend all plans and spend some bit of time talking to God and close male relations of yours until you feel the peace in you for the next steps. You can't go wrong if you do these two things.
All the best.

You will be surprised that I take all Nairaland advises not with a pinch size. I take all advises serious. There is nothing personal for me, I don't know about you. You did not come across as harsh at all. You only came across as judgemental, which is fine, because the reason why I opened a thread is obviously to get objective judgements somehow

As I said we still have to go for marital counselling/ classes, which normally takes no less than 6 months, so I still have a lot of time on my hands to ponder through things. I have suspended introduction so the ''supposedly engagement " is our secret until marriage classes are done. ( lucky my family is far). All other benefits still stand

As for male family, honestly, they are a no go area. They are very very protective of me. So whatever I tell them they become very subjective, controlling and overprotective. I think they have certain very high expectations of me which are totally the opposite to my expectation

Then again they have been trying to kind of hook me with man I have no interest in for a very long time. It can be really emotionally suffocating, hence Nairaland was the best and perhaps objective platform for me.

Prayer has been my source of strength, but now God doesn't communicate in voices but in action

I appreciate all your criticism etc. No matter what my outcome I will communicate to the people on this thread and thank them for their efforts and advice. thanks a ton.

Not sure how I am perceived on Nairaland

In real life I am a very strange combination
Mother hen
Peoples person ( have alot of acquaintances who call themselves friends from all walks of life )
But once someone gets attached I get scared and distance myself ( I hate attachments )
Understanding and non-judgemental and sympathetic
Aloof but interested in people ( very strange I know )
Composed
Peaceful and welcoming, warm face
Dont take crap
Independent thinker
Energetic and fun to be around ( always have fun ideas to bring people together )

HumbledbYGrace: Headboard is that thing tha comes with the bed and dressing table, mostly three piece. But I love the picture you added though the thingy looks too warm, what about when its Summer? You know how hot S.A is during the summer season.

@ highlighted No luv, this is also called headboard. It doesn't need to come with bed and dressing table to be called a headboard.

I understand in SA terms. Alot of houses would have that type, where the two pedestals are attached to the headboard and not removable. With a matching dressing table.

Listen to the word " Head" and a " board" Don't worry, we are all on a journey of acquiring knowledge.

With regards to warm, your headboard material has no effect on temperature. People have leather couches in winter and summer. Leather is cold in winter but does not get warm because is summer. Does is make any difference?

[quote author=2s£xy]Are you like her? Do you fvck other dudes?[/quote]Sweety I dont do such.

But, hey u so bitter. what happened? You need therapy

[quote author=2s£xy]That does not mean you wont Fvck another dude or go back to him.

Okafor's Law state that, once de be, always de bey... Tell me you have deleted the your fvcker's number from your phone make God strike you there.

It is evident your real boyfriend has been really good to you from the look of things and that's why you feel guilty.[/quote]Are you serious or just trying to play Devils Advocate. She has seen her lustful mistake, so spare her.

You sound so bitter, did they cheat on you??

SexyGirl787: I feel so guilty we'v been apart 4 close 2 5Months now i wil b meeting him soon i dont knw if i should tell him i cheated on him or jst allow it slide. I dont wanna lose him too...though i'v askd God 4 forgiveness but i'm scared he may find out if i dont tel him. I only fuuckd d nigga once. Pls help

Damn, how did you find yourself in this mess

Luv, You are in a very tight & delicate situation. But I think what he doesn't know wont kill him.

Men don't forgive cheating. If you wanna risk not to be forgiven, well go ahead.

I have also fallen in love with Animal Hide rug.

But Gawd, way out of my leageu. Too expensive.

One of the cheapest version of the headboard. Very nice but, the bedding, just doesn't fit for me.

what I was thinking of is, I am likely to play around with earth colours ( browns, tans ) and black ( maybe )

So looking at your wallpaper idea, I doubt if it will complement the headboard. Just picture it?

Thanks though. will keep you updated

These pedestals are also very affordable going for R1500 ( +/- $200 )

They have a whole lot of different types to choose from.

2nd to be copied
I found the sleigh bed to be expensive. Though I loved it so much

1 to be copied idea
The headboard is so affordable. In some places going for roughly R2000 ( +/- $200 )
The wingback chair is roughly R1500.00 ( +/- $200 ) can be supplemented with a tub chair as well going for almost the same price

[quote author=Mondisweets]Get wallpaper and ut it on one side of the room and change the side boards and hang the mirror up on the wall. U can have u white room but u cant always make it too white [/quote

Thanks, though I am not a wall paper fan, but I will consider it.

Side boards?? Do you mean pedestals Whats a sideboard? Isn't a sideboard what you get in the dining room

I just discovered some few areas that sell nice pieces at a cheaper price. Wetherley's etc.

Looking at my personality and my developmental milestone, I don't think a wall paper will give me what I want.

But I think my bedroom will have too much influence of the attached pics.

What do you think

EBK2: Judge yourself by all the points in your original remarks. If you think this man has changed, if you think you and your kid will not end up like the baby mama and her kids, if you think that the two kids are not going to come back and be an issue, if you think that a man that brought two kids into the world and abandoned them should be your husband and finally, if you think that you will have a happy marriage knowing this man and all about him, then go ahead. Pls note, don't count the counselling for anything. You have made up your mind before that counsel or even coming to seek advice in NL. The fundamentals are utterly flawed purely because you crossed a line with him before checking him out and your decision ability is weakened because of how far you went with him before now.
My suggestion is that you seek a wise counsel preferably from the closest male figure in your life eg dad, brother uncle etc and follow your heart which appears to differ with your head at the moment. Pls don't hide behind the guise of imperfection and judgement and get this wrong. Marriage is not a joke and if you get it wrong, that's a big chunk of your life gone and a huge price you don't want pay. Get a wise counsel ma'am.

Loud and clear. Thanks

chidyhels: Mine arent fake though
And yes, i wash and cook everyday

They go short wen mum shouts too much, but with no one to shout i leave them long cos thats the way i like it.

Back to the topic..

You have nice, natural nails, hey. I like

ALISMILE: Common girl u talk too much about partogens. But U 4get that wen u wash dat finger well u rid it off pathogens. So u mean u dont wash that vag until u douche it. That aint fair baby.

We have a " VIGINADONTIST" in the house

What we all forget is that vajayjay is one of the cleanest places in a womans body, which natuarally cleans itself on a daily basis through ( shedding of the skin and also monthly periods ) without any unnatural intervention. We just douche and finger scrub as woman because we get paranoid,thats all.

If the vayjay was not so clean, a foetus ( ALISMILE ) was never gonna survive until birth. Foetus is very delicate.

I bet you wash your girls, vayjay. Just that you do it incorrectly.

ALISMILE: Let me tell u a beta way of doin it than that medicated douche stuff.Although am a guy but i understand these tins. The best soap for that area is an ordinary toilet soap,rub ur hand wit d soap and wash d surface area, then insert one of fingers and roll it inside. Then pure in enough water and flush out. Wen u re tru it will be as fresh and as cul as an ice cream. Try it baby.

Eeeeeeew, no ways. Toilet Soap causes, vaginal candida, its also not ph balanced. Some soaps are even harsh for a mere skin. So no ways in hell am I gonna do that.
Just water from the tap is also not good ( can have too much chlorine ),and still has plenty bacteria after going through old pipes before it gets to your house, better distilled water. So Betadine douche works for me. No nail action.

I love that part of my body, I take very good care of it.

ALISMILE: How in heaven's sake is such a fake shit beautifu. U girls alws cus ur own prob in life then u wanna blame d guy 4 not appreciatin ur effort to luk fine. Each time i see this nails i feel like trowin up. Its outrite dirt. U cant wash ur private part well wit it, u contaminate any food u touch.its disgustin please.makes u look like a witchcraft. All those wild hair and those stuff u put in ur eye lashes destroy d God given beauty.

Must you atttack us Abeg, we love them na.

You will be suprised, we do laundry, clean, wash babies, wash toilets etc. But I use gloves,to minimize dirt. I never touch without gloves

You can always use a brush to thoroughly clean all the dirt.

ALISMILE: Please tell me how u wash ur private wit d long nails.am waitin

That require demonstration dude

But I don't wash mine like I am washing some pigs skin. Delicate part.

Every two weeks I use a medicated douche. That's why I don't understand how she does her

Chillisauce: Eat veges proportional to the size of your rice. At the end of the day, you eat handful of rice, handful of veges and handful of meat/sauce..drink 2 cups of water and see your self going very healthy, your skin go change over night

Actually, i eat alot of veggies and fruit and I drink 5lt of water/day.

So long as I have not eaten Indomie/ rice, then its not food. Looking at the calories they have, I have a problem.

Aromas: Oyaaaa na mi b dis unto weytin now, na only dem?

Gods creativity Don mind dem,, biggest wowo

Gawd, if I stop eating Indomie and Rice I will develop Kwashiokor. Those are the only things I enjoy

Continue laughing. You are still gonna be MAMA's and PAPA's.

Cheers to that.

You missed " HIS WALLET " na

Rejoice5000: No! cos its another unseen dirtyness. u cannot wash ur private clean with this nails, u cannot cook a clean food with this kind of nails, if ur are the type that like swallow after washing ur hands there's unseen germs inside this long nails.

Wonder how you wash that private??

I use latex gloves when chopping and preparing food. In fact I dont eat if I see someone massaging my food when preparing it.

Not all germs are bad for you, some are good for your immune system. Short nails have germs too.