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VPersie:
Your SAT's. Are you at Harvard?

I wish.
I go to one Public University in my back-yard, well not really, Harvard is closer to my back yard. Think of the largest Public research school in New England.

Dis Guy:
theres nothing STRICTLY speaking about music especially rap/hip hop
i wonder why we some people take things to extreme

I wonder if you guys gather a dictionary around when listening to rap/hip hop music to decipher what they are saying, some if someone calls himself mafia blah blah blah do you turn around and say he must be Italian cos strictly speaking blah blah blah

When a rapper goes, I'll shoot up your whole crew, why don't you call the police that he is threatening to kill

jeeeezuz

Give it a rest people its only entertainment!!

nigerians too dey find meaning for things

LOL. See how you too took my post seriously enough to write an essay.

I actually don't care, just wanted to look for trouble. See, Tosin knows.

It's Saucekid, . . .or Sinzu!!

stillwater:
I  don't think teenage girls need to be dating at all whether he's an older guy or not.

As for the older guy, he ought to know better.

What about 18/19-yr-olds?


Michelin, I know what you're saying. People can defend it all they want but it's very common among naija guys, you see topics like that on here all the time. And the supposed girl they're "in love" with is barely 16. Puhlease, that's pedophilia. I know some 30-something-yr-old guys used to hit on me before I was 10 in Naija. I looked my age too. I think guys like that are just losers who lack confidence to approach mature women. If she's over 18, cool, I suppose the guy's age shouldn't matter much(not like being over 18 necessarily makes anyone grown, mentally anyway but that's the legal age in most places). At least, then we can assume that the girl has a mind of her own and not a clueless little girl being carried away by the thought that a guy is showing some interest in her.

**Dies at some of the comments**


They're iight but Aloy_Emeka, are they celebrities? Don't get the whole wedding pictures thing going on w/ you on this section lately.

OAM4J:
In Nigeria and many African countries, many rich oppress the poor (not just housemaids) that explains the desperation why everyone wants to get rich

True, but being a house-help is def. not the way to riches.

But at least this so-called law would protect the under-aged ones. Would there be more poverty? Yes. But these parents should take up their responsibility and stop giving off their under-aged child for child labor to some pompous rich family.

49cents:
Chigo you are spot on! I am about he attitude of men when there wives cheat compared with those of the women when there husbands cheat.

Some men may cheat cos they feel foolishly superior and think women's feelings don't really matter or is even none existent as with one's pet; a good majority of us when we do so was out of sheer incompetence in managing our natural drives in the face of seduction, temptation and unpalatble dispositions of our women.

What baffles me is why women find it easier to forgive and even forget, then we the male species? is it because you have a better understanding of our weakened nature and what led us to infidelty?

They find it easier because most women have been conditioned by the society to EXPECT men to exhibit such behavior and accept it.

OAM4J:
Remove the abuse and the exploitations, housemaids are not different from babysitters who choose to live in.

I think the new law is only against using underage as housemaids, which I support.

And that's a lot.

Never heard of baby-sitters choosing to live in. Where's that?

I also support the under-age thing but even the adult ones are exploited and they can't do anything about it since they probably don't have shelter elsewhere.

Travelista:
Wait, the OP's in the DMV area? Oh, lawd. He must look like a right DOG if he can't get some play from at least on Nigerian girl. Honestly, it's tragic but if a Liberian or Saro girl is willing to give it up, go for them. Sure, the ones that agree to lay with you have low standards (sorry but judging by your posts, you're a loser) but at least you won't suffer from blue balls.

Yes, I got that from his post below

yall naija girls in dc maryland virginia u need to change your ways at parties

I heard there are lots of Nigerians in that area but that doesn't stop him from going for girls from other nationalities.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478065.msg6375866#msg6375866 date=1278988818]I kinda agree. But it all depends on the job requirements there employers are looking for. Most of them have no education [/quote]In America, I don't think one needs even a High School Diploma or GED to be a baby-sitter. That should be the equivalent, don't see why they should be requiring much in naija when they know that completing High School alone depends on your parents' pockets.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478065.msg6375861#msg6375861 date=1278988383]How affordable is the daycare. Cause most housemaids work for oga for their daily meals/food for family at home, so oga really doesnt pay them salaries. Some ppl cant affored daycare. And now how would those housemaids feed themselves?[/quote]Well, that's why naija is messed up. They should go apply at the day care centers and work there(although that's not likely to happen anytime soon in naija). I don't think the idea of house-helps esp. with them living in the employer's home is good. It's probably done more harm than good. And yeah, there's poverty and no jobs. . . which is sad really because most times, these house-helps still don't get an education. They just drift from one house to another doing "house-help job" for YEARS and no salary. They might as well find something more beneficial to do. What that is, I dunno.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478065.msg6375843#msg6375843 date=1278987917]What happened to the children? Think about the children![/quote]Umm, there's a place called day care.

davidylan:
No they are not applicable. If i do not wish my sister or wife to sleep around its because i consider her too PRECIOUS for me to share . . . that has nothing to do with seeing her as inferior or being prejudiced towards her.

Too precious. . .LOL! That's you, although I don't quite buy that in the case of a spouse. Sibling, yeah, I suppose. Read the definition again and notice it includes the 'attitude'. In this case, I believe the poster is talking about the attitude that men give off when their wives cheat. Through everyday observation, you can tell that more women go back to living with a husband who has cheated. The case is not very common if switched around. Why? Women have been forgiving and living with cheating husbands but you rarely hear of men stand the same BS. Brings me back to the idea of the society being a sexist one. Men believe it's their world(as they have been conditioned by the society to) so they believe it's their right to be forgiven, which is a sexist mentality.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478065.msg6375828#msg6375828 date=1278987351][/quote]Yes na.
Less cases of husband r@ping house help, house-help molesting kids sexually, and the best of all, house-help using witchcraft to snatch the husband from boss lady. Everybody is happy

davidylan:
Saying i would take it hard if my wife (God forbid) cheated on me does not mean i consider her inferior. There is nothing "superior" in cheating. Society is simply more forgiving when it comes to men than women. How is that treating women as "less competent"?

Well, it depends on the definition you pick. You picked "Less competent", there were also, "Inferior to" and "prejudice towards". These definitions are applicable to the topic because if they're seen as inferior, their wrong-doings face greater contempt by the society. Prejudice towards, in the sense that men are favored more when they commit a similar act.

Great news!

It has to do with the society. .  . and isn't the society a sexist one?   Whichever one you choose to look at - Nigerian or American society. The degrees of the sexism do vary and that's all.

davidylan:
oh ok. sexism is defined as DISCRIMINATION based on gender. I dont consider the fact that society frowns harder on women who commit adultery as "discrimination".

Sexism, a term coined in the mid-20th century,[1] is the belief or attitude that one gender or sex is inferior to, less competent, or less valuable than the other. It can also refer to hatred of, or prejudice towards, either sex as a whole (see misogyny and misandry), or the application of stereotypes of masculinity in relation to men, or of femininity in relation to women.[2] It is also called male and female chauvinism.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexism

davidylan:
people and their penchant for misusing words.

How so? Maybe you missed my point.  

You didn't answer the question.

LOL, is it by force?

Sheesh, you're in America, in the DMV area so you're not limited to Nigerian girls. What's the hullabaloo all about? I don't get it, man.

Simple: Sexism!!

And the idea that it's a man's world so he can get away with any wrong-doing. Not the same for women.

Tosin, remember I asked you about this 'African American' bizniz. Is one of his parents American?

African American strictly refers to Blacks in America whose ancestors were brought to America during the slave trade. Nigerians born in the U.S. do not refer to themselves as African Americans, they just call themselves Americans, Nigerian-Americans, or Nigerians(the really patriotic ones).

I can't take this Sauce kid seriously if he doesn't even know the right term with which to identify himself. Like what kinda cheap stuff is he smoking?  

shotster50:
@ Hax would you rather 'Nigerian American'? Are you picking holes for the sake of it?

LOL that'd be the correct term, if he's that's what he is.

Kim isn't even White. Aren't they from Armenia or somewhere like that?

Anyway, who cares if her butt is fake or not? These days, guys even prefer fake.

LOL! No comment.

I've decided to stop complaining about naija music since I'm not doing anything about it - there are good ones, few though. But it starts from somewhere, naija people are a perfect reflection of the country's situation. So, Tosin, what are you doing about the issue?

[quote author=tosinaded@ link=topic=477332.msg6374928#msg6374928 date=1278968606]yeah i just remebered our own super lyricist in Naija o [/quote]LMAO!! Who's that again, Mode nine?

[quote author=tosinaded@ link=topic=477332.msg6374705#msg6374705 date=1278966272]naija has a long way to go. . . period![/quote]Why do you say that?

Not that you're wrong but why, regarding this topic?

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=477785.msg6374103#msg6374103 date=1278959739]Interesting.  

Should I be feeling ashamed? As old as I am [56] and still not exposed? I can tell an Igbo person from an Hausa person, but not a Yoruba person from an Edo person. Know nothing about the minority groups at all[/quote]56 indeed, even with this username change, you're still the same. I liked FL_Gators.  
Yeah, it's hard to differentiate between the minorities. Even I still don't know the native languages of most of them. I blame the whole concept of having 'minority groups' in a country like Nigeria. We're used to only the three main languages(Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa) as even google recognizes.

It depends really, a 19-yr-old is still a teen, though last year of being one.

I see nothing wrong with an 18-yr-old dating a 21 or 22-yr-old guy. But when she's under 18 and he's well over 20, like say, 25, that could be seen as pedophilia.

Over 18 or not, I don't like a huge difference in age. 4 years is enough for me, for now.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=477785.msg6374029#msg6374029 date=1278958760]I'd admit that I really am not exposed. Most Nigerians I kknew growing up were born here and had no linkage to Nigeria, so. . .  lol But I am more exposed than Ibkaye and chiogo, those chicks are too posh [/quote]Definitely not. I lived in Lagos for 7 years so yeah, I went to school with a lot of Yoruba kids. But then, I was young so didn't really grasp the language too well but I'm not completely oblivious about the people and culture, I know some. And of course, I also schooled with Igbo kids, and then few people from the South - Edo, Delta, etc. That's about it - I don't have much knowledge about Hausa people and the many minority groups.

[quote author=paddy_lo link=topic=477785.msg6374052#msg6374052 date=1278959037]Dont be too hard on your Naija parents. . lol. . .they are simply the best when it comes to providing a stable home to their kids in America. . .[/quote]Hmmm. . .I guess they do try.  . sometimes. lol

eldee:
Hmmn . . . I think it means he has the 666 sign on all his albums, maybe we should report to figilante citizen.

I can't see the 666 signs . . .or maybe he's controlling my mind so I'm blind to his devilish ways. You do the reporting, I'm strongly behind you.

figilante coo, night vigil nee.

[quote author=paddy_lo link=topic=477785.msg6373995#msg6373995 date=1278958324].

Thanks a lot that was real helpful. . .
I think i will go to the DC embassy. . .I like the city and will probably check out the night scene before hopping back to philly[/quote]No problem.
Cool, that's how it should be - make an adventure out of it. My parents thought otherwise, obviously. Nigerians!

I figured the third 6 line had to do with 6-fig. salary or selling platinum records, but how could it be his third one? Still doesn't add up. But then I dunno how many he has sold since '96.

[quote author=paddy_lo link=topic=477785.msg6373891#msg6373891 date=1278957012]@Chiogo. . .
dont mean to digress. . .i gotta renew my passport in 2weeks
where were u exactly,DC or NY

what did u have to bring. .  and how long did it take(can u do it in a day). . .thanks[/quote]It'd be better for you to go to NY or DC, whichever is closer to you. I actually didn't go to either state since the Embassy people from NY brought the Embassy to Boston, technically. This is the mentality I was talking about, we coulda easily gone to NY, which is 4 hours away but nooo, we had to do it the Nigerian way.  It took two days for us though, should take a day if you go to the Embassy.  

- Go on this site, https://portal.immigration.gov.ng/index.htm
-Read the whole section that says "Passport" and you can apply online, choose "Standard ePassport" as your passport type, fill the form, print it out and also 
your reference # and App. code.
-Go to the section that says "Application", print out your receipt and acknowledgment. Take both with you, they'll send you back if you don't have 'em.

I think you also need to make a copy of the expired passport photo, you also need to take the expired passport with you.