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ikenwan:
@chiogo,
Lol I didn't mean that once electricity started working and water kept running, people started killing each other. What I was trying to say is that the way Nigerian families are run are generally the way their people adapted to the hardship of Nigerian society. Someone is always trying to keep someone else in line, and that someone else is always resenting being forced down. Western societies, on the other hand, work differently. Because there's almost always going to be an abundance of resources, the type of situation where one person (a government, a spouse, etc) tries to micromanage [i]everything [/i]doesn't always work. There's space to be more fluid when dealing with things, and to become more moderate too.

I didn't take your comment that way either. But I don't think that's the case either - mismanagement of things. I think it's the suggestion, although unspoken by the woman that things be managed more "moderately" like you put it, that leads to incidents such as this. Like, both parties contributing in any way they can rather than focusing on gender roles even when neither are in the position due to circumstances since moving to the States, to practice the gender roles assigned by the Nigerian culture.

Na wa oo! 2 pages of chatting? Y'all need to get to battling!

LOL@ Ofoka, you're just talking to yourself. Razor is probably cooking up some dope sh!!t that would be delivered once and final. You're here writing essays dissing everyone. Better go work on your verse, I don't think the warning shot counts

ikenwan:
If we can go back to the original topic, I would say that maybe the problem is the inability of some Nigerians to adapt well to some aspects of American / Western societies. Compared to the scarcities of Nigeria, America is a place filled with uncommon excesses, and to a degree, most Americans have learned to moderate themselves in ways someone just coming from Nigeria has to learn to do.

Electricity is nearly constant, there is always running water (hot and cold), food is always just around the corner at the store, and the streets are kept clear of trash. It really is a culture shock for newly arrived Nigerians who must learn new ways to interact with each other.

Haha. Not necessarily. The culture shock I believe, doesn't stem from constant electricity and whatnot. The culture shock is how the American family is run, like if a woman works more than the husband, naturally, he would help out more around the house. These Nigerian men killing their wives obviously think differently. Many of them are still stuck to the Nigerian mentality that the man is the head of the household(which is true in most if not all societies) but does not translate to the wife being a slave. Neither does that mean he can't assist around the house if the wife is the one handling the financial burden of the family.

I think these men start to notice their women blend more into the American culture and expect their husbands to contribute in other ways since they can't do so financially - these expectations may seem belittling to the men and they start to feel intimidated and claim their wives have been brain-washed by the American society whereas, their wives are only embracing the new culture. I don't know what men like these expect to happen when they move to a new environment since change is almost inevitable. People like these are just better off staying back home in Nigeria, they are obviously incapable of handling a culture such as America's.

[quote author=*Hauwa* link=topic=485379.msg6452881#msg6452881 date=1280169753]phew!! me too   in a heartbeat we have come a long way my sister, abt time  

important to hit home. baseball bat don't miss target
you making money, real good money and someone born of a woman will say you must play extreme wifey or die hard trying? shaking my head [/quote]LOL@ Baseball bat - can't go wrong with that one. Tiger Wood's wife style.
But seriously, I don't understand how these men could be having this mentality of being superior when the woman does all the work, brings all the money. It doesn't make sense. She shouldn't treat him like crap either but don't expect her to act like a slave either. That nonsense can fly in Naija where women have no rights.

Sad state of affairs. . . I thought these kinda professors no longer exist in 2010.

That was a very meaningless video; shows no evidence whatsoever other than the professor being held hostage and being forced to sign a check. He never admitted to doing anything on the tape. The tape is baseless and actually against the students' favor. Dumb!

Archaic men.
It's sad really.

[quote author=*Hauwa* link=topic=485379.msg6452777#msg6452777 date=1280168531]it is mandatory for women married to a nig men learn how to hold gun and fire, use baseball bat, kitchen knives etc
protect ya selves i say[/quote]
I'll probably kill a mofo before he kills me.

Get. A. Life.

Panic room
Nicholas Nickleby
&
Doubt. . . . not done with this one. Not my regular kinda movie but pretty intriguing.

bgees:
I can't seem to understand the buzz about Drake. If I was given a free VIP ticket to one of his shows , I'd reject it impulsively .

So far I like just one of his songs and that is Killer feat Nipsey Hussle.

LMAO!!! LIAR! Don't let FL_Gators(Ileke_idi) see this.

But yea, he's not special, he's not even cute. **ducks head**

LMAO!!! Lalaboi, so you brought Olamide into this? haha aww, cute lil' thang.

And you're mad for this one. "Nothing you can ever bring can top this one. This is above anything you can do".

Dark blue on fingers and toes. Bold color.

ddippset:
why would you play hard 2 get and then cheat afterall?

That does not, in any way, answer the topic's question. And what survey did you carry out that shows that all women play hard to get?

ddippset:
its simple logic. its the woman that is under, its the woman that some sperms are deposited into, its the woman that plays hard to get( saying shes an angel), its the woman that gets touched all over(backside, bosoms, etc), its the woman that wants something in return in most cases, its the woman that gets bodily depreciation, its the woman that takes it from behind sometimes, its the woman that gives it orally most times and so many more reasons why she is 90% on the receiving end. THIS IS THE BITTER TRUTH. IN SEX, THE MAN IS THE SUBJECT, THE WOMAN IS THE OBJECT!

Dumb.

Haha, this should be interesting!!

iice:
[color=#9900ff]I think so too. . .maybe that mysterious A has him Ezra is Mr. English teacher.
They should have just burnt the file. . .it's gonna come back to bite them in their arses[/color]

Oh yea, Ezra. . .I just know him as Mr. Fitz but I don't think anything happened to him.

Hmmm.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Chiogo!  Is Toby really ?  The population thing now makes sense. . .but what about Ezra?  That should make it 2 down [/color]

I knew Emily couldn't die but I don't think Toby is dead either. He's wayy too mysterious to be taken out of the show already lmao. Besides, someone found his file that was dumped in the water, it's def. not over. Ezra. . . who's that again?

hax:
Why do people bring up Drake in every conversation about J. Cole? Do they even sound alike?

Because they're both bi-racial. J/K

J. Cole is def. better.
Nice song but not his best.

Mobinga:
Whites: Wats your skin colour?
Blacks: Black, but I'm half white
White: Then die u [b]b[/b]astard

LOL his skin color is not really 'Black'. But I get your point, the one-drop rule is still in effect up till today but let's face facts, if he was completely Black, he wouldn't have made it this far. I'm saying maybe he got this far because not all White people still believe in the one-drop rule or they made an exception in his case since they couldn't do anything anyway.

He's really bi-racial but in America, they just claim to be Black. Oh well, White people don't consider him White either so. . .

The Femi dude beats them by far. Nice body, handsome face, and he looks like a man. 

That first pic of the Ty dude is cute, he looks gay in the rest.

And that Daniel is just not cute. What's with all the oil?

ice234:
is the gate man a white or is there a white among the staffs

LMFAO!

^^ LOL

THE AMAKA:
[color=#cc00cc]If I'm not wrong, the word is complaint, right?[/color]

Yea, in that particular sentence of mine, the right usage is complaint.

Complain is a verb while complaint is a noun.

Myself, because I brought them into the world.

shotster50:
Also, why let Barack get to where he did,

He's half White, remember?

This theory being made by this Potash guy is not convincing. He's a White guy for one - really don't think he cares that much if at all he cares about Tupac. LOL
And yeah, like you said, why Tupac? Besides the influential stuff(which were mostly about White racism in America), he also rapped about weed and guns. I don't see why the government would target him. He was more of a poet not the MLK activist type, he def. believed in violence.

But then many people still believe he's alive. . .somewhere in Cuba, lol. In as much as he's my favorite artist in the world, I believe he's dead and the gov't didn't kill him.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Typical Nigerian inferiority complex when a foreigner, no matter how broke, is concerned.

Yup. Seen it all before. Still sad.

THE AMAKA:
[color=#cc00cc]lol, i know right.[/color] 

LOL this thread is hurting him https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-462177.128.html#msg6428123   

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=481990.msg6428126#msg6428126 date=1279754673]Beyoncee, looks so ugly in that picture.

Why she gonna let them do that to her?

She looks like a witch of Oz[/quote]I still see her looking like that on the L'Oreal covers at the store. Sad!

NEGATIVE!!!

Oops, I just posted AGAIN! Now, kill yourself.