₦airaland Forum

Ibime:
If Naija fans are impressed with these lyrics, then I think they deserve the kind of rappers they produce.

Basseti:
Too fast you can even hear Rick Ross choking on his five foot long sandwich trying to catch up. Dude was huffing and puffing

spikedcylinder:
^^^ They are nothing like the Hiltons.
Please, show me one of her infamous designs. Sorry, but she became famous because of her kini tape. How she's spun that into money making ventures is another matter.

Yes, she did become famous because of the tape. But she was supposedly Ray-J's stylist before they started dating.
Their father is also supposedly rich(going by their TV show) but I doubt they have as much money and fame as the Hiltons.

bawomolo:
but what if its oga that owns the house

In America, don't the women get the house? Whether or not the man owns it.

He saw her in one of the rooms calling for room service. Was she in bed with another man or was she alone? I mean if she was on a business trip, she'd stay at a hotel, obviously. And how the hell do you just walk past hotel rooms and see who's inside?

tpia:
na only brandy? what of whisky.

Vodka too.

LOL e be like say Nairaland is now the dumping ground of retarded mofos.

Like, this is getting out of hand.

12large:
yeah am in prince georges community college

lol

lagerwhenindoubt:
some Naija girls are freaky alright, but most are just alan-posers, carry iphone and BB every second of the day BBMing and tweeting like they get paid a salary to tweet. but really they are just insecure, what you see is not confidence, it is shakoo ten-ten kobo,  the reason they go to parties and start takign pictures rather than getting social is because they are too insecure to step up to guys that have the goods and are mature, You will always see them hangin round area boys and guys who only speak in their tribal vernacular 24/7.

Leave them alone, their bleach-bleach makeup will do them in one day. stick with the intelligent and confident chics, they will give you a dance and make up with good conversation and if you are not a di.ck-head, they will do you in good time 

And that's a bad thing? And you're Nigerian too, right? You also have a "tribal vernacular", right?

Inferiority complex at its best. And you talk about confidence. lol where do these people come from anyway?

WTF?? Mama_gee, this whole shizniz ain't got a damn thing to do with me. Abeg oo.

And you're doing the same thing you're accusing someone of, as usual.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478262.msg6392144#msg6392144 date=1279217865][/quote]The kidnapping thing is getting too much in the Eastern/Southern part of Nigeria especially. You dunno how nerve-racking it is. I'm even scared to go to my village. Until it happens to your loved one, you'll probably not see the intensity of the damage being done by these unrepentant kidnappers. They need to learn a lesson.

Gators, pizza sauce is just tomato sauce. lol


@topic, damn, them chickens look yummy!

@topic, yes.

Maybe the rest would learn a lesson from that and stop the act.

LOL


I can't shout.

lalaboi:
U be woman? U even sabi rihanna's latest hair do

It was all over the place - red hair and all.

rockers:
and what is making sense in your hairdo talk

It means they didn't actually get together recently to take this pic since it's an old pic. And Rihanna is currently not wearing that hairstyle/color.

Sheesh, gotta explain everything.

@topic, Well, Rihanna is dating Matt Kemp. I don't see her going back to CB if this story is true, even he's seeing someone, supposedly.

eldee:
Forgiveness is not  a choice.

Why am I using the Bible?? I'm not.
I actually do support divorce in these cases (refer to my first post) . . . but when you use the Bible to support your already biased view, it makes a mockery of Christianity.

My response was to Rheinmental not you.

I know people use the bible to justify a lot of things especially when it comes to sexism. Happens all the time on nairaland, which is really annoying. But when that poster(Theblessed) made her comment and used the bible to back up her point about infidelity, I don't think you can fault her since religion or not, it's an immoral act. My grouch would be with people who use the bible to support or renounce an act that has no basis of justification outside religious beliefs. Infidelity is really simple not rocket science to know it's wrong. If she chooses to use religion here, doesn't matter since the act is still wrong from whatever angle you choose to look at it.

deniyor:
how did this become a religious argument. When it comes to religion, there is no point arguing, people just stick to their guns.
This thread is about why Men find it more difficult to accept infidelity and not if divorce is biblical or not

I know, right? It turned into a religious argument because ONE poster stated why she won't tolerate a cheating husband using the bible. That was her personal belief, she never enforced it on anyone so I don't know why people are trying to kill themselves over it.

deor03:
Saw it somewhere

Aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! Eeyah, poor thing! This is embarrassing!

^^ LOOOL I don't remember writing that, somebody hacked into my account.

Rheinmetal:
@Chiogo,

Marriage in its purest form is an iron-clad agreement with no escape clause.

It doesn't matter who breached it first or last. You want to remedy infidelity in marriage, try forgiveness, the Bible recommends infinite forgiveness.

So, what if the infidelity becomes incessant? You keep forgiving because you went into an iron-clad agreement(more like bondage) called marriage?

The bible recommends forgiveness but one also has the option of divorce. What's so hard to get? And how come you're bringing the bible into it now? Oh yea, people use the bible to justify anything. Okie-dokie!

Rheinmetal:
No one is "scouting" against the Bible, but against using the Bible to justify divorce.

Infidelity is a moral vice, no doubt and an infringement of marital vows, but so is divorce.

Not if it was driven by infidelity. The cheating spouse breached the agreement first.

It doesn't matter anyway, for those scouting against the bible.

Bible or not, Christianity or not, infidelity is still morally wrong even to an atheist. People make vows before marriage whether or not they believe in God. Cheating is still an infringement of the vows/agreement.

adaybola:
I liked him a lot, i enjoyed the intimacy we had, i enjoyed his company but "he just wasn't attractive enough"! Is that a valid reason to end a relationship that was so great?? Or because of some silly fantasy?

No, it's not a valid reason. I understand you. That's the superficial thing I talked about; you had a superficial reason for leaving him. The poster never mentioned it was based on looks so I don't know her own reasons but yes, she should evaluate her reasons well before deciding to end the relationship.

adaybola:
Yes and yes, you can fall in love with someone overtime, if only we can try to see the good qualities in them. Respect begets love and love grows over time.

True. But after you give it all the time and there's still no feeling of love, it's no use trying to love the person. Love is not something you force yourself to do, it should come naturally.

adaybola:
All am telling her is to be careful and search herself and have a good reason for ending what she has now. Atimes, we don’t appreciate what we have until we loose it cuz most times we keep searching for “whatever we believe will make us happy” we never seem to realized that we had it all along. As the Yorubas will say “nkan ti a wa lo si Sokoto, o nbe ni inu sokoto wa” .

Yes, you're right. We're saying the same thing, that's exactly what I was saying. She needs to have a very good reason and be absolutely sure marriage won't be a great decision. If there's even a tiny bit of a feeling of love then yes, she should try and work it through.

adaybola:
Pls pardon the long story, I just want u to get my points. I had a similar experience, my first b/f was so crazy about me that he worshipped the ground I walked on. The problem was, I just couldn't love him cuz of his look (he’s not ugly but not just hot enough "in my estimation". I tot I was too beautiful to be his. I cared about him and appreciated him but try as I could, I just couldn't love him. I told him I didn't love him but he kept telling me I would with time. After 5 years and still feeling the same way, I couldn't go on with the relationship. In fact, to make him break up with him I cheated on him (the most despicable thing I’ve ever done). He caught me, forgave me and was still willing to move on with me (he proposed) and I tot he was silly. Eventually I left him five years ago. Now, I realized I was just immature and chasing shadows. I actually wanted a hot looking man, comfortable, romantic, perfect, lol!!! So silly rite? After several relationships, I saw reality and I realized I didn’t love him cuz I didn’t want to. Am 5”6, he’s 5”7 and I love tall guys. The other guys I dated were fine alrite, hot bods and all that stuff but they made me taste hell (heartbroken, over and over again) I went back to my ex three years ago but, it was too late. He found someone better and finer than me, he currently works in the oil and gas sector, (he’s so fine I could hardly recognize him). Fortunately, he's happily married now with the said lady and very comfortable. I envy his wife. Well, am still single (trying to be happy) but I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I could have loved him if I had tried to see his inner beauty.  Pls think carefully, “atimes the things we chase in life is like shimmers in the pond”.

Interesting story. However, it seemed you didn't really know what you wanted while you were with the guy. Maybe it had to do with your age - girls tend to be superficial when they're young. Your case doesn't apply to all females in the same situation, depends on your reasons for not loving the guy, really. And no, you can't try to love someone, it just happens. When you have to put so much energy, then the feelings probably aren't there.

Some people would have moved on from their ex like you did and never come back because they had valid reasons for doing so and knew what they wanted in a partner besides the superficial stuff.

Like I've told the poster earlier, she should go ahead if she even loves him a tiny bit. If not, no amount of trying would work. Just regret in the long run.

Damn, I missed it.

davidylan:
I hope we will see less nonsensical claims being made against the bible by those who are too lazy to study it.

Thank you!

Divorce is definitely allowed when infidelity is concerned. Stop making excuses, people.

VPersie:
@chiogo

I don't know what it is, but it is probably better than the smallest HBCU in New England. What is your major and classification? I hope I am not being intrusive.

Smallest HBCU? Is that where you attend? Yes, you're asking too many questions, this is the internet.

In every relationship, one person usually puts in more effort than the other. Just like break-ups, one person usually doesn't want the break-up as much as the other person does.

Let's be real, women fall in love more easily than men. Many men can sleep with a woman and feel no attachment to her, many women can't. I think the idea of a guy loving me more than I love him is cute based on the above fact. Shows he's really genuine and would most likely stick with me no matter what. But it's still "selfish" on my part but hey, who isn't selfish?

I'd say you should stick to him because it's rare for a guy to be into you more than you are into him BUT that'd be a great decision if you even loved him at all, doesn't need to be up to the level he loves you(since one person usually puts in more in every relationship). But you don't seem to love him at all, maybe like, which isn't good enough. So, tell him how you feel, he'll be hurt since he's probably obsessed with you, but with time, he'll get over you. Going ahead to marry him would be torture for you and him because you may stick to him while having extra marital affairs. Just save two of you the heartache.

[quote author=bk/babe90 link=topic=240849.msg6381856#msg6381856 date=1279073648]^^^Hahahaha! She goes to Roxbury Community College!^^^^ j/k[/quote]LMAO!!! How did you know? 
Damn, this city is too small.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=478466.msg6380251#msg6380251 date=1279047742]She's the stu[b]p[/b]id one for dating his brokeazz[/quote]Exactly! I don't see anyone holding a gun to her head.

dayokanu:
Chiogo, How did you at 10 know what hitting on was? Maybe he was just making innocent comment. If a man offers you biscuit or asks after your aunty, does that mean he is hitting on you?

How did I know? Let's not go into details. It was more than comments, more like sexual harassment.

ibkaye:
sometimes it's not even a much of a hassle at all.

Exactly. I've seen grown-a/s/s women who still can't handle dating that they take dating advice from younger girls.

stillwater:
Their choice actually. But all those things can wait. Many of them that date begin to look older than their ages, if you ask me. Which woman wants to grow old that quickly? My own policy is to enjoy your childhood as much as you can.

Sure, they're teenagers but in their late teens. In many places anyway, 18 is the legal age so I wouldn't call 18-19-yr-olds "children". In the American society anyway, dating is part of the whole childhood experience. I don't know about that logic that they begin to look older. That could result from many things like depression, which could happen to even older ladies if they're with the wrong person. If teenagers below 18 are going to date, I think it should be someone within their age group with not more than 2 years age difference. But then, "Dating" and "Being in a relationship" mean two different things to me.