when I was still living with my legally married ex husband, we may not be intimate for up to five months in a row. He was so manipulative and sought every opportunity to control to the extent that if he sees that I enjoy it, he stops giving it to you pleasurably. if you show that you need it, it is another reason to abstain from you. It got to a point that I resented him so much that I stopped enjoying sex totally because he was out rightly unfaithful and mentally and physically abusive. Whenever he insists, I had to use a lubricant because he could not make me wet. I did not share this with anyone because they may think I'm the cause of his bad behaviour. it's been over six years since I left him and I've been totally celebate since then. I'm not being
faithful to him at all but I can't just imagine a man thinking sex is a weapon to control me. I don't use toys and I don't masturbate. Sex is mostly psychological or I'm probably too broken or distracted to try again ...

Some men would date women that are runs girls and hope they stop cheating after marriage. It is also common that a woman with no source of income who is dependent on the one she is dating would surely cheat since being in a relationship is regarded as a means of survival. The type of family she is from can also predispose her to thinking that infidelity in marriage is not a big deal.

You are very kind. Where did all this love come from if he has given you nothing but headache? Stop flogging a dead horse. he needs rehabilitation but he won't stick to it. I would move on if it were me but we are all different. I don't see a headway on this. may God reward your labour of love.

She knew what she was doing when she got pregnant. a lot of drama would come later that she wouldn't see coming. she would definitely keep the pregnancy no matter what you tell her.

send her back after s.s.s. 3 because she would understand that you are trying to help her only after she has made the mistake. if you continue this way, she would be resentful and even grow wilder. she is an adolescent and must be enjoying the attention. no words would enter her ears now.

because in the first place, the guy has spoiled them with it and made them to believe that it is their right and most importantly because the guy consciously or unconsciously sset out to be with such a materialistic girl as opposed to a reasonable, kind hearted and independent lady.

thanks, very useful but these laws should be revised because the fines are too little.

you have to accept that you cant force a person to love you. find a distraction like tv series, or start a viable business, spend more time with your kids. no matter what we advise you, he wont come back if he doesn't wwant to. he would also come back if he wants to wheather you do anything or not. don't give yourself headache oh!

this is the behaviour of a wicked extremist. dont mind what anyone says. it is wrong of the husband. i believe he is a bully.

how old are you/ are you the older brother or younger? why would you think of even talking to his fiance about not coming again? Food may be scarce today but abundant tommorrow. dont asssume that your brother wont be richer than you in the future. it may be this fiance that would be packing food stuff to give you. is your brother not working? if not, why the fiance status? if yes, what does he do with his money? Your brother should be able to read your body language also. small time now, he would impregnate her and she would refuse to go.

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This article does not explain how he became a billionaire. He met a professor but how? Did he school in China? Did he work in a similar company? No article online talks about how he started.

This is a picture of a narcissist and his flying monkeys.

It feels like every day is summer doesn't it? Warm and wonderful. No rain clouds anywhere, just a cornflower blue sky. Not a cloud to be had. Everything is fantastic. We do everything together. We match on every conceivable level. I like what you like. We laugh at the same things. We enjoy the same books and films. I know what you are about to say. We like to cook together, try new wines and explore interesting places. Whether it is forest or foam, city or village we both enjoy going to these places and do so together. We are soulmates. I do not want anyone but you. You have finally met the person that you have wanted all of your life. You still cannot believe how lucky you are to have found someone like me, someone who cares for you, holds you, loves you and showers you with attention, praise and affection. What would you do without me? You struggle to even remember what life was like before I appeared, shiny and exciting. You never want it to end and you allow this golden effect to permeate deep inside you, touching every part of you. Every fibre of your being is coated with my golden touch. None of it is real. You have spent all your time looking at a mirror whilst wrapped in an illusion. I was never any of those things. I just showed you what you wanted to see, said what you wanted to hear and did what you wanted to experience. I am a con-man, a charlatan and a fraudster who trades in fake love and steals your true love. I am not what you think I am, I never was and I never will be.

Intelligent but used his intelligence to deceive and defraud everyone that knew him.

Child marriage , ambitious greedy husbands, carefree society.

But you said 'in Nigeria'

I understand you and you are doing the right thing. Most people would not understand that the psychological abuse would continue if you keep in touch with him. Thank God that you made something of yourself despite your father. God bless as you move on with your life.

1. Nearly everything you say or do is not good enough in their eyes.
2. They comment on the smallest flaws regularly
3. They like referring to past errors repeatedly
4. They act like they are fabulous and never make mistakes.
5. They want you to feel guilty and ashamed of who you are
6. They like to violate your boundaries and have no regard for the word 'no'
7. It is always about them and how they feel, what they want and what they think.
8. They like to control people around them

Having natural dreads and keeping it is as a reult of negative forces. Why they are common among certain churches is based on this same reason. Everyone in Nigeria with natural dreads either attends such churches or has parents who attend and imposed this practise or has parents who at one time or the other consulted 'spiritualists' in the hope of affecting their future or solving present problems. This is the way the negative forces enters their soul. Read more http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/spiritual-life/how-to-not-get-dreadlocks

Narcissistic abuse is a very severe abuse in relationships and marriages which many people are not aware of and this is due to the high level of manipulation involved. Narcissists are incapable of love because they are unable to bond with people emotionally, however, they are very charming and easily draw people close to themselves. Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self worth and form relationships with people based on how much their image can be boosted by them . It is either you are a victim of their schemes or an accomplice. You can only be close to them on these grounds. The intimate partners of narcissists are hardest hit by their nature and is the most difficult relationship one can ever recover from. Initially, they charm their victims with a love that is too good to be true and as time goes by, they cross boundaries that would make the victim under their spell in such a way that the victim would be traumatized and haunted even after a breakup. It is impossible to be happy in a long term relationship with a narcissist. They are users, manipulator so and chronic liars who would paint themselves as the victims when the real victim has been discarded. There is so much about the narcissist that I would like to share but if my post is too long, you would get bored. For now, let's be be weary of partners that seem to fall in love with us too soon , that have bad things to say about their exes continually, that are demanding, that have no real friends , compulsive liars, feel entitled, hardly admit to being wrong, domineering, get bored easily....to be continued.

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Got married to a hardworking man who had a decent job. He got promoted every year for 5yrs. He got posted outside our base and there he met a rich single lady. He told me abt this single lady tht was making passes at him. He said she was very nice so he didn't want to be harsh on her. As time went by, I realised he was getting money from her because she would offer him to attract him. I confronted him and he said she offers him at d slightest opportunity. I told him to stop but he didn't. Later I saw her pic on facebook and realised my hubby cld never marry or impregnate such a woman. Gradually, he wld embark on small projects tht I knw he cld not afford. Later, the girl was out of the picture but there was a new rich lady. He was making as much as his salary from the woman with fake stories. I would call her and warn her. Later, it became 3 rich ladies. He was brought back to our base but he would not stop this act of defrauding ladies by promising them marriage. It got to a point that a girl wld send a text saying the money was her sch fees and he shld pay back. Ha! So it is no longer rich women alone? I called his family's attention to it. They said I shd not worry that it is the ladies that are gullible and is shd not let tension in my home. As fate wld have it, he lost his job cos he was no more dedicated. He cld make his salary through women. He used to quarell with me cos I wld text the women and warn them. He stopped giving me upkeep but I didn't mind. I had my job. Sometimes, maga wld not pay and he would collect my money and even make me borrow from outside. His flirting biz got to d point whr he deleted me from his facebook and bb and he wld prove to d women tht he was single and put their own pictures. We wld quarell and he started beating me and sending me and the kids out of the house so he can sneak a woman in. His family claimed, I shd not be worried since he is duping the women. To cut a long story short, one day the beating got so bad and he sent me packing. I left with my belongings and kids. It has been 2yrs now and no one in his family asked after me. I didn't bother to report cos they didn't see anything wrong with him. He is from a poor family. They said he has no helper and I didn't help him. How many times wld I giv money to a failed biz man? Well, I was shocked to hear that he got married to a rich woman last saturday and his family attended the customary. I am sad because I loved him and he didn't start like that. I am sad cos I heard d woman got him 30 million contract even though she is a salary earner earning 200K. He has moved in with her and in all these 2yrs, he hasn't sent a dime to his kids. I thot after I left, he wld realise but I can't bear this plot twist. I dnt see him breaking up with such woman. In his height of gold digging, I dnt think he got more than 500K. This shock na wa. The woman has her own kids too.

Baby, there's a bad smell down there. We need to see a pharmacist b4 it gets worse. FLUZON is d answer.

Your own duty is not to go there again. If he is responsible in all other areas, let it be for now. You might hav been dreaming. It might hav been d security man and not ur BIL. U dnt hav enough evidence to open d pandoras box. Confide in ur mom if u are sure u were not dreaming.

The biggest problem in this matter is the fact that you are considering remarriage at this stage. Ur aunt is a perfect target for a bad husband. Unemployed and afraid to stand alone. If her husband is so aggressive, why is she even talking to d tenant? DNA my foot. If d child is for her husband It doesn't mean she wasn't sleeping with tentant. The husband has a disorder and he wld never change.