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Tonymegabush1:
Still asking the question oo if I get a response will let you know.

The one am considering to book will be on 30th sept price at 825 USD black mrkt rate of 960 x 825 = 792,000.

Wow! Send the link here if possible please. Tnx

Tonymegabush1:
Hello house greetings
Please I will need to ask a few questions I intend to book my flight from Kano Nigeria to Heathrow UK on the 30th with Saudi Airlines.

The itinerary has one layover at Jeddah (Saudi capital) before heading to Heathrow the next day.

Their price is quite pocket-friendly
Please I would like to ask for review from people who might have used this airline before and those who require a transit visa since we will be stopping in Saudi.
Thanks as I anticipation una response.

Bro, does this flight require a transit visa? Abeg I want know what's up? Me too dey go that side next week. How much is the flight? Abeg I need pocket friendly flight too

PrinceofSarcasm:
I have said it several times that it's a lie. Just as sosnoene can falsely accuse someone of stealing and people start beating the person the same thing happens here .

Whenever police arresstes the so called organ thief the accuser never comes to the station to follow up the case

The problem with Nigeria is too many iliterates and their voices drown out the voice of we the educated.

This is why I don't really have a problem with bad governance because it reduces their numbers .

I pray a time comes when we would have up to 50% educated people in Nigeria .

But you apply this same principle in science. Just as many like you argue against "God of the gaps", there's also a problem with "time of the gaps". Science doesn't have all the answers and might 'never' have an empirical solution to some problems. There are many age long problems that have also gone unresolved by science.

aieromon:
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How do I verify this. I am about using them. I no want story.

FatherOfJesus:
Government college, Umuahia was founded in 1929. It's the oldest secondary school in southeast Nigeria

You be Umuahian?
IN UNUM LUCEANT
May we shine as one.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)

Make him shaa write will, that is the most important for me. As a man, he has to write a will that includes you and his kids.

As I dey, I no fit marry person wey I no fit trust to write her name for will even if say na one plot of land I get.

Abagworo:
Propaganda Governor. Instead of him to simply accept the fact that Ikpeazu did well, consult Ikpeazu for ideas and then continue with Ikpeazu's programs he is busy chasing shadows. Same mistakes made by Ihedioha that Uzodinma inherited which has drawn Imo State backwards . Every statistics prove Ikpeazu as a huge success all the way.

Chai! See image laundering, the beggarly ikpeazu who squandered the grace of God on his life. He should wait for the day of judgement. He once claimed his biggest achievement in life would be to make heaven. Let's see, such a man God showed mercy and grace but he lavished it on the thighs of Satan, that old serpent.

worksmart:
So far he has kept all his promises. But you are right we must try to keep our leaders accountable.

He hasn't even paid LGA workers. Na this same thing wey ikpeazu dey do, he go call some mainstream workers and overlook others. That is why Hospital management board, Abia poly, Absu, colleges of education and pensioners are owed months of their remuneration. We have to start calling him out from the onset. He claims to be doing some screening over and over again. Oga if you no want pay people comot go sut down and say you be fellow thief. No dey claim screening for me. The tactic Ikpeazu and every thieving governor employs. He will still do it again months and years to come after installing a certain biometric system to fish out ghost workers. No he the same thing we dey see so? Mtchew. The way I dey vex for this guy for owing my friends and relatives eh, ohhh, make nobody come hear dey praise nonsense and Janta manta. Let him do his work and it will speak for him. As far as I'm concerned, he is just presenting greek gifts.

Metrix147:
Source: https://abntv.com.ng/news/gov-otti-orders-payment-of-april-salaries-owed-abia-workers-june-pensions/

Please don't launder his image for him. The last one he paid he didn't pay LOCAL GOVERNMENT WORKERS AND LGA PENSIONERS. I am from Abia state and I have friends and relatives working in the system.

If you want this guy to do well, encourage him to do what is right. I supported the booting out of the Local thieves that were ruling for the past 24 years but you see this, I am angry with him for that. What type of screening will make him not to pay workers for the past 1 month plus. Allocation has been given to him yet he is doing the same screening over and over again. He is an embarrassment to me as an Abian. A huge one. No difference between how ikpeazu started and him. Abeg make I hear word. Pay people at the same time. That man Charly boy even lied on Facebook that he paid 38 months. I don't care about the fanfare with which he stormed into the government house. Do the job and pay people. Is he owing himself and his appointees? You know the hunger that is ravaging people in Abia especially local government workers? If you can't pay them monthly, borrow money and pay them off, period. What a mess we have in this nation. He came in claiming that he will regularize the payment of both state and LGA workers against the backdrop of the so called mainstream workers in the state getting their pay while other workers are owed. Ikpeazu, Orji Uzor and T.A Orji have heaped curses that will destroy their 3ed and 4th generations to come. The joy in the heart of abians when the demon possessed ikpeazu lost should not be ensconced by media propaganda.

Caveat emptor: abians beware, we no go chop lies again from politicians. Go on social media and everywhere you will be heard to bust the lies that will be ensuing from any government to enable us hold them responsible. I don't live or work in my state but I have a huge interest in it's people, my own people, God's own state. O ji onye na ala ji onwe ya

TemplarLandry:
Byeden's pseudo voters appeasement scheme blocked. Niice!

Yeah! You're not the average Joe, you know your American politics. 300+ billion dollars just gone like that? Nah! Meanwhile, you have to be earning less than a certain amount of money to have that wiped for you, so who's getting favored here?

HonNL:
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DJT is arguably the US president with the biggest impact on social, political and religious issues in history. He has only done one term, what will happen in a second?

Chronicwanker:
Greetings everyone. I've had this on my thighs and under my scrotum for a while now and I've tried to get rid of it but it's still there. Please who knows what it is and how can I truly get rid of it because I'm worried.

I bath twice a day and I don't wear a boxer for more than 12 hours. I shave regularly too so I'm confused.

The skin area is white and sometimes falls off when I scratch it, but the marks are there and the whiteness still.

I'm sorry bro but the answer you're looking for is right before your eyes. I pray that God will give you the grace to quit masturbation. I know it's not by your own ability, this can even make you timid around women. Quit porn and masturbation, take good baths, wash your boxers everyday and get as many as you can.

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

To everyone reading this, don't get married and bear kids if you are not ready to be rational, logical and open minded about the truth. Be ready to kill your ego in order to learn. I was so blind and shortsighted in the past but of course, I grew to learn a lot. I was the type that would condemn a man or woman for getting home by 10pm and above, I would usually ask, what is he or she doing outside by that time of the night? Oh he/she must be cheating or doing something unscrupulous I would always conclude.

Bros, let me tell you, like Paul would say, I want to speak from a logical perspective not necessarily from a spiritual standpoint. This doesn't mean that my opinion is wrong either. I work in a company where we run shifts. I sometimes leave home as early as 4:30am when I am on morning shift and get back home as late(in fact, early if I am able to get taxi's quick enough) as 11:00pm or beyond when I am on noon shift. I never considered this in the past but if you are as blindsided as I was in the past, please make sure you provide jobs for your kids so they wouldn't have to work odd jobs and come home at such late hours.

Many people have destroyed the doggedness in their male children all because they have chosen to be limited by their experiences and stories they've heard. You should have asked him if he'd bear the responsibility if you end up as a failed adult 30 years from now. Many men have failed, are raising failures because of this mindset. It's good that you consider how your actions are perceived by others but can't you have a mind of your own to determine what is good and right for you? I was alway bullied because of my size but I remember getting so huge and big later because I was bulking up and getting toned up. I once weighed around 115kg with toned muscles. Some people complained to my parents and my mom took that up, began to complain about my weight. You know what, during this time, my dad once took me to one of his parcels of land when a bully was trying to encroach into it. When the bully saw me, he was shocked and that was the last I heard of his rants.

Infact, I dey enter as body guard for my papa motor when I dey with am that time if he is carrying huge sum of money. Once he has some huge cash, he'd call and have me come around before he can move out the cash.

coopers500:
Ok guys I am currently in a 3 years relationship with my gf whom I plan to settle down with after my masters here in the UK. I came in here December last year. My matter is brief but very deep, and I need people that are inept with deeper understanding of how my ordeal cam be interpreted or maybe its just a mere myth or superstition. Over theadt 3 years, I have always put my gf on weekly stipends, and monthly money for normal shopping....I came back to Nigeria in January and spent just 1 week we were together all through and I moved her from the apartment she was living at to a new place. After my departure , 2months later I started experiencing financial issues, first off am into I.T but my own specifics is based of email marketing, b2b data sales, virtual machine sales etc.. which on a norm, weekly I make at least 1million naira or more, all of a sudden my b2b license was shut down due to unknown reasons, which is what actually fetch me major of my cash.licenee I renewed with over 15k dollars in November. Now I felt ok no problem, I will survive on the rest of what am selling, oh ma'am, 1week will go, 2weeks pass, just few customers will patronise me, now am struggling to pay bills as thr work am working here is for rent only, and I have pay pther bills in which while I was going through the whole ordeal I was still sending normal weekly to my gf and sending money to families at home. After sometimes when I have issues with herz maybe she disrespect me, and I nor send shi shi, that week I must see customer wey go patronise me with better money, at first I thought it was coincidence or just normal, until this same thing happened to me like 5 times. Anytime wey I nor send money, I must make better money that week, as I am typing this now, we had issues where she regarded me as nothing, that am below, a statement which doesn't not coincide with what we were arguing about. I decided not to send shi shi, omo today like this customer call me buy better, now I personally now came to the realisation that something is wrong somewhere, if she's the problem, what could it be? What could be the reason for the problem, in which while I was in nija, then I rarely have issues like this, infact things were rosey. I know some people will call me a simp, but as a man that loves my gf and have portrayed an enormous level of loyalty I have no issues taking care of her, she has a business of interior design, and it's whenever job comes that she makes money on her own. And she rarely sees jobs too unlike b4. I am confused.

I will give you this assignment, bros, please I am begging you, do what I write here to help yourself.

Try breaking up with her, if you can't break up with her, you're in real trouble. I've seen this before, I was just discussing something related to this with someone, please, do this as soon as possible. Send that message or call her now and tell her it's over. Let me know how you fare in the next few days and weeks.

Darlingme:
This has nothing to do with entitlement mentality.

No one is an island and we all need each other to live peacefully.
So, a man died in my neighborhood and his children has forbidden their rich and wealthy uncles from contributing to the burial. Accordingly to the children, their poor father died of starvation, which they have been appealing to relatives, also his only brother who works in an oil company in PH for assistant and he has always promised to help, but never did. This uncle happens to be the first person to send an ambulance to convey the corpse to the village, and the children rejected his offer.
I don't understand. Why do we have rich family members, friends, yet we suffer poverty?
Why is it always easy for people who can save their fellow humans from death, starvation, depression always ignore them, but once he/she dies, it's easy to raise money for burial.

Even on social media, we bully, humiliate each other, push some people into depression with our words and write up, but once the person commit succid, we tend to start posting pics with lovely write ups. Condemning their suicidal action and blaming them for not voicing out?
why? Is it our environment, social way of behaving?

Have you ever experience any of this? Can you share such experience?
What's your general opinion about this?

If we claim to love God, we must love each other and help one another. Whoever claims he/she has no obligation to help others does not love God or has no portion in Christ Jesus.

If you or anyone reading this is a Christian, it is a spiritual and necessary obligation to help others. The bible has made this so clear. If I can help you by giving you food when you are hungry but I don't do that or I just wish you well and proclaim that God will take care of you, then I am a fraud. Do you know that in the early church, the bible says that the early christians were carrying each other's burden to the point that "no one had any need that wasn't met"

There's no point rehashing banal platitudes such as the claim that "no one has an obligation to help you"
I have the obligation to help you and that is because I love gGod and loving God means that I have to love you too.

Moh247:
Nobody is obligated to help you... Not your family, friends or relatives

If you make human Investment, you will get human to pick you back up

I have a very wealthy uncle in the 80s and 90s who married a woman our grandmother opposed their marriage because several spiritualist warned strongly against it.

Due to this fact my uncle neglected his own mother and their last born who was just finishing secondary school.

My mother and Father who are Federal civil servants took my other uncle in and my grandma visited from time to time and we all survived on the Fed civil servants salary..

Soon after school my little uncle got a Job in a fed ministry, met a wife also working and started his life

Many years down the line,

My grand ma is dead

My parents had retired, frequently traveling to UK to visit my sisters

My young uncle is also very ok with his family, career and busy business

Unfuntunately for my Wealthy uncle, he had an accident which gave him spinal cord injury which was mis manged and caused stroke

His wife had tried her best sold everything and simply moved out to her own house, while his grown kids are battling post NYSC unemployment issues

He stays alone with an helper who comes from time to time

*My parents now have grandkids in many places they travel mostly and am their only available kid in Nigeria managing business

*My younger Uncle is at the peak of his career and his kids are schooling, he doesn't have time, he can only send some money when he can

Now this same Uncle tells people on the phone that he was abandoned, and we should take him in or hire his caregiver and pay



.

Is this long story really necessary? Sometimes you should take it easy with life. The OP is just talking about how we apply our priorities. If you have to help people, why give help when it's not really very effective i.e why help to bury someone when you could have helped them with their medical bills or with food to eat and perhaps survive?

In this case, you have chosen to assist, it's no longer about entitlement, it's about motive and intention.

Roomateneeded:
Hello everyone,

For three consecutive night 2, I have been waking up exactly two, scared and feeling like someone is watching me.

I live alone in an environment far from my state. Nobody knows me around here. The thing is, I have terrible dreams before waking up by that time and I can't even recall any of them again. Also, my business is now being affected negatively.

Please I need help.

The Lord asked me to give you this word:

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. 16 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each. Receive your freedom right now in Jesus name, amen. You must first believe.

thesilentman:
Because we live in proximity-same town,she wouldnt quit checking up on her daughter virtually every day or atleast every other day.I felt a deep intrusion on my privacy so yesterday i summoned the gut and asked her if she didn't have a house.Before she could reply,i told her,'learn to stay where you belong!I did not marry daughter and mother!`
She has since disappeared into thin air.
This evening am thinking whether i bleeped up or not.

I have a feeling that this wasn't done in a perfect way but I wouldn't say your disapproval of her frequent visits is wrong either. Such life situations can be very dynamic, there might be logical reasons for one to desire privacy with his/her partner. I for one wouldn't like the idea of living in the same building with my parents as a single and adult man let alone when I am married.

Check out this thread, it might help: https://www.nairaland.com/7631920/should-allow-mother-in-law-home-need

Solofresh2:
Yes,never date such women.Women are very emotional people who will cheat on you eventually if they are not sexually attracted to you.A woman can stay with you because of your money and don't find you attractive, only to get a young boy to sleep and spend your money on that same boy.
A woman who don't find you sexually attractive will friend zone you and use you for her selfish interest.Either a virgin or not,there is this guy a lady is always longing to sleep with.

Be wise guys

Why does it sound like guys have to always compensate women for sex? Are men taking something special from them? Perhaps men are getting them injured during sex? Are the actions of a man/men during sex supposed to amount to some unconventional/uncodified tort(s). Come on.

pioneerwriter:
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Salta:
I met this girl barely 3 months and she has been pressuring me to start a relationship with her but I didn't want to commit yet because I want us to be friends so that I can get to know her better. Lately I noticed strange behaviours from her especially this week and she sensed I'm getting to know she is already going out with somebody even though she claimed to like me and will not give me breathing space. I visited her today unannounced and discover a man was in her house and I believe the man was there since yesterday night because she couldn't talk freely and didn't pick my call later in the night.
meanwhile she didn't allow me in ; nobody can tell me that nothing happened between them. I left her place not showing any bad emotions or hanger and the truth is that I have slept in her place like twice too and we had sex.
She will be visiting tomorrow; I don't even know what say or tell her because for me no relationship in view again even though she looked innocent. Please I need advice on way forward

Bros, if you really love yourself, don't mess with your psychology. Let go of that which will ruin you. Let God into your life and live with a purpose. It's obvious how weak you are, don't you see that you are playing the devils' pony here? You can barely let go of this girl, isn't that a weakness to you? Why invite a masquerade into your home? The telltale signs are there already yet you can't seem to let go. Infections, the risk of becoming an emotional wreck, alienation from God, spiritual death and a possible derailment of your career. Take heed brother.

fergie001:
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I take it that this coward intentionally wants to attack Obi but is hiding behind the mask of his supporters. Why do I think so?
What will his opinion add to the conversation about the so called "uncured and unlettered" supporters of obi? To what end is his tale and it's promulgation?

Are some of Tinubu's supporters not uncultured and unlettered? Why single out Obi's supporters. In a while, I expect this coward to be nominated or lobby for a nomination for a ministerial position in the incoming government. Those intentions will not be hidden for long. For him to pick obi as a soft target to win the sympathy of anybody for pecuniary reasons is testament to his character as a person.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

That boy is a replica of myself when I was his age. Sometimes I shed tars when I remember some things. You have a supersensitive son. I pray in the name of Jesus he doesn't hurt himself. Look, if you have supersensitive people, they can do worse than you will imagine. Hiring thugs to molest that boy could get your husband jail time in developed climes. I don't want to talk about your husband's mistakes because I will be commenting from a place of deep hurt having had a similar experience.

At this point, pray and let him be. Also listen very well to him and try to figure out what he wants at this point. He needs help to find himself. Give him as much support as you can. I currently can't have a long conversation with my dad. This is a long term assault we are talking about here, both verbal and worse off, physical. Mine never got to the point where thugs where hired to molest me but I believe that is about the last straw that has broken the camel's back in your son's case. Presently I send money to my father, so it's not about hate anymore for me but about lack of father-son compatibility. I am making no effort to fix that either. His is at a level where if he has an opportunity to hurt his father, at least verbally in a way that he will be humiliated, he will do it. Believe me, you can only imagine the gazillion number of thoughts going on in his mind. Again, things have happened so you must thread with caution, complicated things that have sent messages in ways you can't imagine to his mind, including things done by you and his siblings. I am a first child too. I don't even have long conversations with my siblings and that is as a result of long term damage. I state again, I make no effort to fix it for personal reasons. Some have a difficult life, some will have it easier. That kid has had it difficult, be his mother. Don't be too forward. Just show kindness at this time. Don't go to his room to have those awkward conversations about how his life is going. Just offer as much help in prayers and in other ways as you can. Be careful how you also talk about his situation so as not to exacerbate it. Mine was taken care of when I found a job. I even pray now to make enough money to take my parents outside this country. You can barely believe that such a child is one who is thinking about how to take care of you guys but let him have a chance and you will understand. Someone concluded that he wants to "chase girls" with money from his football proceeds but doesn't have any idea that kid wants to give him the best from same wealth he would have made from soccer.

Just take care of him and show him you are there. He needs to see it in action, not even in words. Don't speak too much but show him. Give him food and money when he needs it as far as you don't see him messing up with the money.

I pray paranoia from parents don't destroy the lives of so many kids in this generation. I have seen many situations like this more than enough

Karleb:
I really hate people who demand for things on their birthdays and it's always ladies and their entitlement mindset.

But unless you are a sadist, I don't see what is wrong with you wishing a friend or colleague a happy birthday, doesn't matter if don't care about your own birthday.

That also suggests that the moment you decide to identify as another gender or even identify as an object, I must use whatever pronoun that describes that gender or object to address you. That's the type of logic ripping the west to shreds. The day you decide to identify as a gangrene, I must call you a gangrene. Doesn't that make me a fool?

Make una dey reason wetin una dey talk sometimes. Once you need help, talk am or seek therapy. Don't blame others for your weakness or fallibility. You don't need anybody's validation to have happiness or live a good life. Try and train yourself and possibly, your kids to be strong and independent people who wouldn't rely on prevarications like what is obtainable in the west to survive.

Ishilove:
People are not mind readers to know you wish them well "in your mind". You will be judged based on your actions and inactions, and not on your internalised "good wishes"

But they are reading the mind when they feel you don't wish them well if you don't say it. Doesn't it go both ways?

Seun:
Dear Igbo People,

I sincerely apologize for allowing a toxic political banner advert which said, "Lagos can never be run from Anambra; go and vote" to run on Nairaland for several hours on Wednesday, March 15, 2023.

The mischievously worded banner advert appears to have been part of an ethnically divisive political campaign aimed at securing Lagos State for the ruling party by instilling fear in Yoruba people, making them believe that Igbo people intended to "take over" Lagos State.

Such ethnically divisive political campaigns have no place in a forward-thinking democracy, and for this reason, the ad should have been taken down instantly. No harm was intended, but my lack of forethought about the ethics of that type of advert led to a disappointing outcome.

We should have had a clear policy against accepting negative and ethnically divisive ads on Nairaland, we should have communicated it to all advertisers, and we should have taken down any advert that violated that policy instantly. This will all be in place before the next election.

We made almost N16,000 from the ad. We will double it and donate it to victims of political violence in Lagos.

Please, do NOT give up on Nigeria. The times are challenging, but TOGETHER, we will overcome.

Sincerely,
Seun Osewa.

Boy! You have zero integrity now. I kinda feel you are still in your 20's but I'm likely very wrong on this. My reason for saying this: "You panicked when in the throes of the election frenzy you dug low, violated the very principle of neutrality for which I have defended you on this platform". It's a shame though. No need mollycoddling this, you need some growing up to do. You feared Igbo's would take Lagos, conquer Yoruba land and Lord over y'all as some lowlife sleazeballs purveyed. Boy, I suspect you are surrounded by a circle of mentally, intellectually and psychologically deficient people. Who have you been talking to? Start looking up people like Ben Shapiro, John Lennox, Jordan Peterson, Thomas Sowell and other political/social analysts. Listen to their podcasts and learn a lot about logic and how to have a good debate with people and even yourself.
Furthermore, I gleaned from this platform some years ago that you are somewhat an atheist or at least agnostic. I wanna ask you, from your action, do you think that ultimately, there exists an objective moral value in atheism? Think about it, I mean, you lost it when you felt your tribe was being emasculated. Quit the apology farcade, you should be apologizing for pillorying a whole tribe. At least like David Hundeyin claims, it feels so good that y'all have exposed your Yoruba ethno-racist tendencies. I beg the pardon of the genuinely objective folks amongst your people. So much about the accommodators. At least, we can say your virtue signalling about being the most accommodating tribe in Nigeria has been sacrificed on the altar of political jingoism.


I will end this with a quote from Jesus Christ in Mathew 12:46-50:


46 While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. 47 Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”

48 He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

He literally meant that. If you haven't come to that point in your life where you can abandon your folks for the right purpose, you ain't started. That is the philosophy of Christ.

Philippians 2:5
Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus:

jesusjnr2020:
Are All Leaders Appointed By God?

Surely not, if we're to go by the teachings of Christ.

Matthew 15:13-14 (KJV)

But he answered and said, Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up.
Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.

So if not all leaders in the House of God were appointed by God, how much more those of this world?

Hence the idea or teaching that all leaders were appointed by God is false and did not come from God. This was also corroborated by the Word of the Lord through the mouth of one of His prophets.

Hosea 8:4 (KJV)

They have set up kings, but not by me: they have made princes, and I knew it not: of their silver and their gold have they made them idols, that they may be cut off.

So although God appoints and raises leaders where need be and in accordance with His plan and divine arrangement concern mankind, not all leaders were appointed by God.

God bless.

Look at 1 John 5: 18-19

" We know that anyone born of God does not continue to sin; the One who was born of God keeps them safe, and the evil one cannot harm them.
19 We know that we are children of God, and that the whole world is under the control of the evil one".

Many christians should start reading the word of God. There are so many deep things we ought to know about political power on earth. I have my personal opinion about politics especially regarding how it's done in Nigeria.