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zimmaking:
I think i love this girl and i want to settle down with her this year.I saw her father who is in his 50s wearing stud/tiny earing yesterday crossover.is dis a red flag on the family?

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

flexyrule:
Heads will roll at UBA.


I Wonder when they'll wake up to the economic sabotage also going on in commercial banks through Form Q.

Relationship Managers are charging as high as Five Million Naira to process fraudulent form Q transactions.

Everytime I think of the rought in the Nigerian system, honestly, I canot but agree with those who say Nigeria cannot be fixed.

Deborah200299:
Good morning everyone, I want to report my mum for abusing my 12 years old step sister both physical, verbal and emotional and I don't like it because she didn't ask to be born from a married man. My dad caused it and she should abuse him not her.

I don't even know why she is treating the dog who cheated on her nicely while the innocent girl is suffering for his mistakes. My younger brothers 13 and 15 are also copying her and they have started to abuse her too.

Tears has become her foods and I am tired of my mum abusing the innocent girl. Yesterday, she strangled her just because she didn't wash my younger brother white jeans properly and I lost respect for her. I have insulted her for the first time in my life even though she hit me but I don't care I have to save my sister. She is my birth mother but I will not support her. I don't care if she rots in jail because she doesn't deserve the title mum.

If you know any human rights in Uyo please let me know.

Mindlog:
Why is her height an issue to you when it is not to the groom?

dupyshoo:
The bolded is a dehumidifier which is opposite of Humidifier.
Not sure dehumidifier helps with cough, I think it is humidifier that helps.

Stevepop:
Hi everyone- will appreciate every input or tips I can get especially from experienced parents.

Our little one (9 months plus) started day care last month when wifey's maternity leave ended. Ever since she started, if it's not cough today, it's cattarh or fever, infact there was a time she had conjuctivitis (apolo) also. It's just two months now and we are tired. We are currently battling cough, cattarh and fever (2nd time in 4 weeks). We've taken her to the GP twice and the doctors more or less just said "welcome to the club" and that it's normal. Just said we should continue to use calpol, calcough or nurofen.
To be honest, the cough/fever is not weighing her down as she feeds and plays normally, just that it's always worrisome having to watch her breath with blocked nose and bouts of cough. If it were to be in naija, grandparents would have swung into action with different remedies but over here, na only calpol we here .End of rant!!!

Please is this normal? What other home remedies can we explore? Looking forward to your responses

Madampauline:
Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please

YourBestWriter:
Guys good morrow to you all.

So it's going to be my 39th birthday next year and I still don't have one Kobo in my bank account. Still under my parents roof and no job. In a scale of 1 to 10, what are my chances of making it in life?

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

LawMan44:
Too many pain, sadness and tears in this whole wide world. Today you are basking in happiness, bliss and passionate about your life, you don't know fate take you next and you might just be surrounded by hoards of folks, friends and sympathizers.

Then, the cycle continues. It's a world full of emptiness. I can't remember how many times I have felt like quitting. It's always a silent voice in my head urging me to move to the other end of the divide and just end all the misery.

Chisomann:
My mum is late. I am the only girl among 3 boys. We have different dads.

How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them. They should go and hustle. I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to live. I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them.

Prism:
Hello nairaland family

Before I begin let's define toddlerhood;

Toddler: 1-3 years. Preschooler: 3-5 years. School-aged: 5-12 years. Teenager: 13-18 years.

Is it necessary to start flogging toddlers?? I married a yoruba man And I noticed his sisters like flogging their kids including their toddlers. I'm not used to seeing little children being flogged not to talk of toddlers and I get this cringe feeling when I see it. Is it a cultural thing? Is that how the whole tribe Is like? Does flogging a child actually make him or her better Or is it not just child abuse
I do feel somehow seeing people flogging 2yr old, 3yr old kids. I feel somehow. What do you guys think

Corridon:
Foolishness and stupidity combined. Ritual money exists but it is not worth it.

Bilabong:
The white looks super cool but u see that other Ankara it's a total no no, even some Ankara fine pass am self.

Fireandblood:
you quoted the wrong guy bruv.im not op

Fireandblood:
Boohoo!! op . Boo fvcking hoo!.


* oh no , I'm from a relatively well off home and didn't have to work a day in my life.
* oh no, my parents love and care for me.

* oh no , I have 270k {werey) that I didn't have to work for either.


*oh no I wasn't allowed to stay in a place of rioting instead my parents took me back home where I'd be safe.

* oh no I'm shy and quiet-it must be my parents fault and I must punish them for it. ( you might be introverted, you spoilt dumb fvck)

*oh no ,my poor roommate has babes and me that has money doesn't- I must kill myself.( I just want deck you better slap)

* oh no I'm depressed because my life has been good and I did not face any tribulations at all. why God why?!



I just want to give op the slap his parents never gave him.


some of us had to scrounge to survive (introverted or not) we had to suppress our nature to eat.

some grew up in toxic abusive homes.

some have parents that abandoned them, that don't give a shit about them but of course they(we) move.




if you don't know what to do with the money,then you have no problems.
There are no real stakes for you concerning it.



if you cannot have a personality of your own ,my advice is for you to be a chameleon and mirror your environment.


I'm pretty much the same as you minus the codling and pampering. I'm super introverted, downright antisocial but I'm also a chameleon. I can change when the situation calls for it.

I'm quiet but I can be loud.
I'm shy but I can be outspoken
I'm depressed but I smile always.

you are the master of your sea , so act like it and quit the stupid blame game.

Adazeal:
Hi guys, please look at this issue and let me know if I'm wrong or not.

My power supply tripped off very early in the morning of a certain day, unfortunately, it was only mine that went off. I called 105 and my energy supplier, after series of questions and information I gave them from both my gas and electric meters, they confirmed my meters were working fine and that I should contact my landlord for internal issues.

I called my letting agency as I got the apartment through them and complained to them about the power cut. They didn't get back to me and I called them later in the afternoon (meanwhile I had no power supply or even gas as the gas switch works with electricity) and they said oh they'd contact their emergency technician. Meanwhile, I received a voicenote from them when they couldn't reach me saying if it's not an emergency they wouldn't pay the bills.

Late into the afternoon I didn't hear back from them and decided to put a call across while telling them it's an emergency as it's almost dusk and I still have no gas and electricity. At the end of the day, the electrician came along, went to the electric meter and turned a number of switches on and off and the power was restored. Few minutes later, it tripped off again as a socket was about getting plugged which was what actually led to the first power cut but we didn't know it was what caused it. Because of this, the electrician checked some sockets in the apartment and found nothing wrong with them. However, he removed a partially faulty bulb and it's placeholder which I earlier complained about when I initially moved into the apartment and said that might be the cause of the tripping.

Now, the letting agency is telling me that I'm liable for the bills as it wasn't an emergency that I should have switched the circuit breaker/ switch board, that it's expected of me to do that. I told them I'm not liable as I had no idea where the fault was from and moreover I'm not an electrician. They're claiming now that they asked me over the phone if I have turned the switch board which they never did ask me. I told them I believe they record their calls and should go and listen again (they said they don't record calls and I recommended calling the telecommunication company for them to verify). I went ahead to tell them that even if they did I wouldn't know how to do it (the switch boards) as there are couple of switches to turn on and off which I wouldn't have known which is the right one. I also reminded them that the power tripped off again when a socket was about being plugged which indicates there must be an internal issue, in addition, that a lamp holder which I earlier complained about was completely removed by the electrician which he actually said might be what is triggering the power cut.

They're not happy with my stand and they're saying they'd report me to the landlord that I've breached the contract as my call wasn't an emergency call (was without electricity and gas for close to 12 hours) and that if I don't pay, the technical company might charge me to court and I told them to go ahead as I did everything within my ability to tend to this issue before coming to them and moreso, I am not the cause of the electrical fault.

Please, I just want to be sure that I'm right so I can stand well or just close eyes and pay the so called bills.

Your opinions please. Sorry for the long read

StagethemTVee:
Oh my...she must have really missed her Husband. When one half of a couple who have loved each other over several years pass away, it always weighs heavy on the other half that's still alive. It's by God's grace that the remaining partner stay alive and well for long.

sammieking2017:
Is it a crime to be honest in this country ? Referencing to the post I saw here yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7315480/thought-honesty-hardwork-pays

I had my own share too, though it's long but I need your advice.

The episode started when the Suffocating and comprehensive ASUU strike is becoming more elongated.

My mum discussed with her boss if I can be working with them depending when ASUU will call off their strike.

Fortunately, they affirmed to my mum's request and I was employed to work as a secretary.

Note: They are both husband and wife running the organization.

My role is to write receipt for all payments entering the organization account, write and ensure all the payments of the day are updated before the next day.

As a result of the nature of my work, this give me access to the boss office as I may need some things to take there. Even if other staff want to access the office, they will inform me first, then I will collect the key and give them whatever they need in the office.

Things was going smoothly until a fateful Friday I was accused of stealing.

The scenario happened like this.

As the secretary of the organization, I do resume work by 7:30am and close by 5:pm.

Apart from the cleaners that tidy the compound. In most cases, I'm the last person that leaves the office. And whenever I'm leaving, I collect the key to the office and park the bags of the boss and his wife into their car, check whether they bought something and ensure everything is placed in their car.

That fateful day, as usual, His wife wasn't around, then I look for the husband to collect the office key and he told me that the office is opened. With no further delay, I moved into the office and carried their bags. As I was going, he stopped me and check the bag. He claimed that inside the bag, where he packed money, the money has been rough handled and the nylon bag that housed the money was found tore.

Then pandemonium began. He insisted that a person has accessed the money and I was the only person that has the privilege to enter the office. I was troubled and confused. My perplexity was so high that I don't even know what to say.

I tried to explain to the best of my knowledge. I tried my best to exonerate myself that I knew nothing about the money. I told everyone that I met the office opened and I ain't aware that the office was opened. Most times, if I see the office ain't closed. I will close it because it's close to my office. But on this day no one to bear me withness. Every odds look against me. We left there around to 5:30pm that day.

I even told my boss that he should count the money that I don't perceive anyone entering the office. But he kept saying that he didn't know the amount he put there and he can't give the precise amount that has been stolen.

Beforehand, I noticed that the environment is full of jealousy. The staff jealous themselves. They envy each other and there are lots of faction within the organization. To be on a safer side. I didn't join any caucus or faction. I play my role diligently and discharge my duty responsibly. I don't do favouritism as I make myself to be honest in all things. There are many evil things that I'm aware of that goes underground but I don't interfer in it or report it except the bosses know by themselves. With my altitude, well with this I thought, I was loved by the boss and his wife.

When I got home, I wept profusely because no one to bear me withness, everyone seems I'm the thief.

I explained to my mum what happened because she has left earlier. She pacified me and said. If I'm not guilty of the stealing, nothing will happen to me and they should use whatever they want to use to look for their money.

On Monday we resume back to work. What happened on Friday kept pondering my heart, the wound hasn't been healed yet another mysterious thing happened again.

My own office is at the front of the boss office. My table and chair are placed there but it doesn't look privately. It looks like a reception before entering the main office. I got to my office next day to find that #3,600 has been smuggled into my drawer.

Chaiii! No one to bear me withness again about the money I saw. All things look like I was the one that stole the money, and just hiding under the guise of innocency.

I was extremely perplexed, different thought were ruminating my mind. One thought said if you give them the money they will say you are lying that you just kept it there. Another thought said, who knows, perhaps they are putting you under integrity test. Well! I carried the money, luckily the wife was around and I explained how I saw the money and handed it over to her.

When the husband came, she told him exactly what I reported to her and the husband responded, he might be the money they stole on Friday. He continues, definitely the thieves has returned the money as a result of their actions on Friday.

The matter dies there and no one ever made reference to it again until today when the boss (he) asked me to prepare a bill for a customer.
I've done that already and also listening to him and the customer while they were conversing. In a nut shell. I heard the customer telling him that he wants another bills too. Therefore I was preparing that too, unknowingly as I was preparing it, I have covered the first bills with lot of books on my table. As the boss arrived, he requested for the first bill he asked me to prepare. Unfortunately, it's no where to be found again, �‍♂️. I tried to explain to him that I was also preparing other bills the woman mentioned. I think that was the only mistake I made thinking that would make the work faster for the woman to collect the bills.

All of a sudden, I noticed that he has been seethe with anger. He shouted at me that I don't have regards for him, he said, he asked me to do something but I'm doing otherwise. Before I could utter any statement to clear myself out. Everything has already scatter, he remained deaf to whatever I wanted to say. He insisted that I'm not working with them again, he chased me out like a dog that I have to go back to take my phone.

Amongst all the turbulence, I kept begging him. I prostrated on the floor to show that I'm sorry. But he didn't even looked at me.

For the sake of my mother. I don't want to do anything that would affect her relationship with her bosses, I would have said. I'm not working again and not even bother to beg.

To cut it short. His wife signaled to me to meet an erderly man close to the place, possibly he might listen to his pleas. I did as instructed by his wife, "God bless that woman" The erderly man followed me but another thing bursted. He said apart from this, that he can't employ somebody that he doesn't trust. He made it known to the erderly man that I'm not trustworthy using the past money that was stolen as a case of study.

That moment, tears began to roll down from my face. I didn't know what to say in the midst of everyone. Everyone was just saying, please forgive him, he will change, he won't do that again. I looked at myself and said this is humiliation of the highest order. If I take any step, it might affect my mum too and lead to the termination of her appointment. I don't want her to be traumatized.

I remained calm and crying bitterly. Well! he accepted the elderly man plea for me and they concluded that this is yellow card, that if I do anything bad again, they will resort by giving me red card.
Since ASUU is still on strike now and there's no way I can say I'm leaving there without having implication on my mum employment. Who knows, what will happen next that might get me roped and I will be given red card couple with humiliation. I want men with wisdom to advice me on how I can justify my resignation peacefully.
I don't want anything to backfire on my mum. I don't want her to be traumatized and I don't want them to transfer their aggression on her.

I just want to leave there peacefully because I can't see myself working there again. Even all these things was written with my unbalanced emotions. I know I have been traumatized and accused falsely but I believe I will bounce back strongly and soon or sooner God will revealed the perpetrator in Jesus name.���.

I will be glad if this can be moved to front page.

Fira09:
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