EcoLaw: Good evening Nairalanders, a friend of mine came to me for an advise.
My friend is in his late 30s, he has been in a relationship with his woman, they have been together for a period of 8 years, and they have 2 kids together.
This my friend has a younger brother, the younger brother told him that they should go and collect traditional marriage list from his woman family, so that traditional marriage can take place by December.
My friend worry is that, one, he is not financially capable to do traditional marriage rite as of now and secondly, he doesn't have a good paying job now.
Another of his worry is that, he feels it shameful for his younger brother to sponsor his wedding, he is afraid won't he be insulted in the future by people, that he can't not pay his wife bride price, that it was somebody that married his wife for him. His brother told him not to worry about the financial responsibilities, that God will take control.
My advice for him was that he should tell his brother to give him the money to go start a business, maybe when the business balances, he can go and do the marriage rite. But his brother told him that the lady has tired for waiting for 8 years, that they should do the traditional marriage first, every other thing shall fall in place. This his brother has been supportive to him.
Nairalanders please what's you take on this?
OP, YOUR TOPIC IS A BIT SENSITIVE BUT DO YOU KNOW THAT THIS LAD MIGHT NOT GET A CHANCE TO MARRY ON TIME IF HE REFUSED THIS OFFER? ASIDE THIS, YOU BECOME MORE RESPONSIBLE MWHEN YOU HAVE YOUR OWN FAMILY AND IT IS GOD'S WAY OF ANSWERING HIS PRAYER BUT HE CLEARLY WANT TO SPOIL THIS BLESING BECAUSE OF ''PRIDE''. YES, PRIDE BECAUSE ONE WAY OR THE OTHER HIS FAMILY WILL CONTRIBUTE TO THE WEDDING .
THEN DO YOU THINK THE BROTHER DOESN'T KNOW THAT HE NEED TO START A BUSINESS? HE MIGHT NOT BE TOO GOOD WITH 'EGO' I THINK THEY ARE WELL AWARE OF THEIR BROTHERS SHORT COMINGS HENCE THEY WANT TO GIVE HIM A WIFE.
Seunaj05: Nothing concern me with Saudi. But here in Nigeria, some folks are aggressively defending the gods of Saudi and preaching hate against their Nigerian brothers because of a defenceless god of Saudi. They preach that a fulani Muslim brother is more brother to you than your cousin who for example happens to choose his faith(Christian/idol worshiper) differently. They demonize our traditional religions in Africa and said that thier own religion is perfect. No religion is perfect. The greatest mistake the Africans made was demonizing and abolishing our indigenous religions in totality(instead of modifying & modernizing it like they did to Islam & Christianity over the decades). We stupidly embraced the equally not perfect foreign religions that sets us against one another. The Chinese are 1.5 billion people, they are neither Christians nor Muslims yet they are more prosperous than all the Arab nations put together. They also pray and God answers, This is the fact!. Do you also know that the so-called holy Kaaba has been destroyed several times and what you presently have there is just a mere work of art and nothing sacred. It will also shock you that it took the United States of America (a so-called pagan nation) to defend a so-called holy Kaaba completely(atleast for now) from the Persians using gun powders and modern technology. This is why Kaaba has not been destroyed in the modern time. The USA still supplies Saudi's defense till today in exchange for Saudi Oil. So who is fooling who?? These people are just using our minds to do business and extend their territories in a bid to explore modern slavery(the slavery of the mind), and Africa is the worst hit because we don't think for ourselves. Them swear for black man make e node think at all Does all of these makes sense to you? Finally, when they wanted to padlock the mind of a black man and throw the keys into the river, they said that religion doesn't have to make sense..that we should just believe everything they tell us without objections and questioning. Oh foolish Galatians
When you have a continent that like everything READILY MADE and hate constructive thinking instead they embrace critical thinking. Wanting to be better than their neighbour instead of solving problems that affect all and sundry, they will rather love the Unseen God and their immeadiate family and every other person becomes their enemy with unending thoughts of evil toward others yet they will still pray and scatter. They systematically lack empathy and want miracle for themselves only. Did anyone take advantage of the blacks YES and NO.
They will run to Jerusalem and Saudi looking for ready made miracles while the Arabs cashing in on this in the name of God. WHY WILL GOD PUT YOU IN AFRICA AND KEEP IS ''TENT'' IN ARAB COUNTRIES? God is wherever you want him to be but of course we might spend enternity lecturing this . AAAAABA when we go wake up from our slumber?
PLEASE I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT THE NAMES ON THIS LIST HAVE DONE FOR THIS COUNTRY AND IT PEOPLE? THANKS
1.H. E Alh. Atiku Abubakar PDP Presidential Candidate 2. H.E Arc. Namadi Sambo Former Vice President of Nigeria 3. H.E Sen Iyorchia Ayu PDP National Chairman 4. H.E Gov Ifeanyi Okowa Vice Presidential Candidate 5. H.E Gov Aminu Waziri Tambuwal Gov of Sokoto state and Chairman PDP Govs Forum 6. H.E Gov Darius Ishaku - Gov of Taraba State 7. H.E Sule Lamido Former Gov Of Jigawa state 8. H.E Boni Haruna Former Gov Of Adamawa state 9. H.E Alh. Athahiru Dalhatu Bafarawa Former Gov Of Sokoto State 10. HE Amb. Iliya Damagum PDP Deputy National Chairman 11. HE. Sen Abdul Ningi 12. HE. Rt. Hon Abdullahi Maibasira 13. H.E Ambassador Aminu Wali
Skillsmaster: Good evening all. Forgive my typos. Please I am in a state of confusion right now. I posted here on nairaland last year concerning me starting a teaching job in Abuja. I have been teaching in this school for a year and half now.
My salary is 40k (on appointment letter) but there is always deduction of 10% (4k) every month which they promised to pay all the deductions by end of each session. Till now, they are yet to pay it, giving excuses of no money on ground. But they paid it to those that resigned as far as two months notification is given.
I applied in other schools before the beginning of last term, two among the schools invited me for an interview but I didn't go because of this 10% of a thing. I made up my mind to resign beginning of this term so that I can collect my 10%. Last week, I got another invite from one of those schools I applied. I went and came out successful but their salary is 60k.
I requested for 100k but they said they can only pay 60k. I didn't accept it because of the distance. Early hour of Saturday, I received a message from the school, congratulating me that I have been shortlisted for employment. I was confuse because I didn't agree with the pay. And I will be teaching in primary section.
Assuming they can even pay me 80k, I can forget about the 10% and start another hustle there. (I planned relocating to the area because of distance).
Should I accept this offer and forget about the 10% (72k+) in the school I am now? Or should I talk to them if they can allow me to resume by January so that I can collect my money from this school? Will they accept?
Please house, I need your input on this.
Note: I will go to the school and confirm if they've agreed to increase my pay. Before the invite, I have already made up my mind to tender my resignation letter immediately school resumes.
THE 10% IS A TRAP AND THE ONLY WAY FOR YOU NOW IT TO HAVE A ''MASTER PLAN''
ASK FOR A LEAVE OF ONE WEEK AND GO RESUME AT YOUR NEW APPOINTMENT AFTER A WEEK SEND A MAIL THAT YOU W'ONT BE COMING BACK DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES THAT IS BEYOND YOU THEN GO GET A LAWYER OR A POLICE OFFICER TO SEE THE PROPRIETOR ON YOUR BEHALF REGARDING YOUR 10% AT LEAST SOMETHING WILL COME OUT.
BE PROACTIVE WHEN DEALING WITH ADMINISTRATIVE. ZERO YOUR MIND ON THE MONEY THOUGH BUT THE SWEAT OF THE TRUCK PUSHER WILL NOT GO INVAIN.
TheirFADA: As much as i love rap music, it doesn't really sell here. Nigerians don't appreciate it
main reason why olamide and phyno switched to singing. In one of Olamide's song, he specifically said "I don't want to rap again, it doesn't bring money, singing brings more money"
Nigerians mostly want what they can groove and dance to, play at parties, clubs, receptions etc
djkirkoo2: hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:
Kitchen stocking - 25k.
Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.
Baby mama - 5k.
Light bill - 2k.
Purewater - 4k.
Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k
Gas - 5k.
Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light. Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son.
Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story.
Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house.
Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me.
Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer.
Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.
PLEASE, CHECK YOUR EXPENSES AND ADJUST IT SEEMS YOU ARE SPENDING MORE ON FOOD. N45K ON FOOD FROM N65K SALARY IS A BIT MUCH. YOU AREN'T SAVING ANYTHING WHILE YOU STILL PAYING MORE THAN YOUR ANNUAL SALARY ON RENT.
GO DO YOUR MATH AND CUT YOUR COAT ACCORDING TO YOUR SIZE .
Halo22: I have been working in this company for about 8 years now and to be frank, I don't see any much improvement both financially and otherwise.
In addition to that, I noticed some degree of negligence and disregard for old staff, it seems the more years you spend in the company, the less value you accrue. However, I attribute that to the administrative incompetence of the Director who took over from the mum before she( the mum) finally joined her ancestors.
Recall that in April this year, she fired the General manager without any explanation to the rest of the staff, no staff meeting nor briefing. Shortly after that, she reshuffled the managerial team and employed 3 unknown persons who were never part of the company to take over the Management of the company, while she still remains the Director.
All these she did without any form of recourse to her old staff. I never bothered as an old staff until recently, when we started noticing some more incompetency in administration and management of the company. It rose to the extent that workers receive half salary sometimes without any briefing, allowances are not being paid and when they pay, they short pay us.
I couldn't hold it any longer as a man of justice and as such, I wrote to the Director after having meeting with the new GM. In my letter I expressed on behalf of other workers, the feelings of maltreatment and administrative Injustice, as most of them are afraid of opening up, to avoid being sacked.
Then after, the Director herself called for a general meeting and instead of to apologise for all these financial and managerial malfeaseances, she chose to tackle the old workers particularly myself, thinking that we were working against her. I still stood my ground on the path of Justice, finally she tried to pacify the workers by promising a salary increase, based on the number of years spent in the company. But then, I have been on her watchlist all through.
Any little mistake I make, she would capitalize on that to weigh me down. I now seek ur opinions, whether to continue in the company or resign. Good a thing, I have a business that even pay me better than the job.
Your opinions please.
You can either look for another Job while still working there but from your write up...she's new in the system and as such will want to flex her power untill the reality set in for her. I'll want you to hang in there because as an old staff there's on edge for you to climb up the hierarchy, if you can be a little patience.
Aaaah, na wa oooo. All na first grade made in China. My people your future is in your hand ✋ start building your country and your own brand. Nike na every day slippers for obodo oyibo ooo.
dennis3888: Good day everyone please i need your candid advise and opinion
Am about to leave my bank job of seven years with a salary of 100k for a new business note the business has already been set up already
my fears is that am married and you know what that means i have ready responsibilities. so am now having fears that what of it doesn't work (which have been praying about seriously).
probably the fears is just in my head. your opinion please
''What of'' Will never allow you to be great. Seven year on 100k salary? So what of if you are sack today? won't you find a way and start that business. if you can put all ego aside and handle that business like its for another person, it won't be long before you will get to your great height .
SO WHAT OF IF YOU STRATEGIZE AND ASK OTHER TO JOIN YOU BASE ON COMmISSION?
loosecanon50: Davido will one day become president of Nigeria. A good one at that.
infact may God almighty keep him strong and healthy , when is off age, he won't have problem getting votes. WE WILL NOT CAMPAIGN WHEN DAVIDO WILL BE PRSIDENT. ONCE HE IS READY, WE ARE READY.
THE ONLY PROBLEM THAT I HAVE SEEN WITH TONTO IS THAT SHE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE PUBLIC SPEECH AS IN SHE JUST VOMIT TALK WITHOUT WEIGHING THE CONSEQUNCES. OMOTENE, WE WANT WOMEN IN POWER BUT A WOMEN THAT SPEAK OUT WITHOUT THINKING IS A BIG PROBLEM TO THE SOCIETY AT LARGE.
That's very embarrassing and unthinkable from the pastor.
The pastor is not high on anything at all. When you already evaluate the brains of your worshipers. you can say and do anything and they will still lick his **s anyday.
tell your bros and sis to wake up before rapture sound and take them to the unknown
God is not man and Man can't be God. If you refuse to find your GOD , you will end up worshiping men. periodt!
H0711: I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.
The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.
I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.
I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.
Don't leave your marriage...Call the elders and let them advice your hubby to have a meeting with the mother of the child and let him agree to pay monthly child support. I personally think that he abandon her without providing for the child. Remember that both of them are responsible for the child but you can encourage your hubby to pay his dues then you can focus your attention on your unborn child. You are a good person inside out and want to do the right thing but don't leave your husband... you don't know what the future holds.. he needs you now and we are not perfect, no one is...Your husband should go and see the lady and sort himself out. Dont think too much in your condition,you dont need it at all. i wish you the best.
WHO EVER MADE THIS VIDEO SHOULD BE PERSECUTED AND JAIL. BUT WHYYYY...WHY WILL GO AND TRESSPASS IN PEOPLE'S HOME AND MADE VIDEO JUST FOR PEOPLE TO LAUGH OR WHAT?
DO YOU KNOW IF THAT HOUSE IS JUST A BURIAL GROUN FOR THEIR PARENT? WHY WILL YOU VIDEO PEOPLE THAT ARE RESTING IN THEIR GRAVE?
HA BA, SOCIAL MEDIA IS REALLY TURNING TO SOMETHING ELSE. PEOPLE DON'T JUST MIND THEIR BUSINESS.
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Tonnierichy: These are the kind of students we teach in schools now. They will soo frustrate your life and there is nothing you can do about it. Beat them and land in Cell.
I sent this particular female pupil to report herself to the principal that she was mocking me in class. She went there confidently and returned with a smug face, telling me principal asked her to tell me sorry.
I looked at her unconvinced that she went to the principal. Well I later realised she actually did and the principal didn't take it seriously.
I then asked her to write an apology letter. She went and came back with this piece below.....
APOLOGY LETTER
This is to write that I'm sorry for the disturbance I made in the class. And I'm sorry for the insult if you think that is the way it looks and I'm using this to make a statement too that I disturbed Mr Anthony. But I don't see it as an insult or an offence but I'm sorry for my wrong deeds. And I will not do it again.
During class I will listen attentively.
And also please increase your voice when teaching or explaining or teaching your subject so that it will be interesting.
Sorry for the wrong deed and mistake I have done.
Yours faithfully Elisabeth She signs.
If i were you... i'll ignore her/his existency Periot. Some things are to overlook not for any reasons but for your own well being and reputation.
author=Romanoff post=114785481]10k wey no reach to cook quality stew and banga soup for the weekend. Person go come use 8 years suffer any how.[/quote]TELL ME MORE... OUR MUMU NEVER DO?
Freelane33: You will know after some moments with her My partner is peaceful and lovely We are from different tribe but that doesn’t change anything . She’s a Christian . I’m a Muslim by faith . I love her and she loves me She’s from a good home and always free with me . She’s not the type that hide phone or chats I can be with her phone from morning till night incase there is need to use hers . I have access to every parts of her life ranging from accounts to everything .I teach her a lot of things because she likes learning . She reasons like a man at times as a result of the training I have given her . I’m presently studying psych as my second degree after a lot of years because I really love it though I’m in my thirties She hates noise , my apartment is always quiet whenever she’s around and that shows she will be able to give my unborn kids a good parental upbringing .she’s hard working , she works for her money and things doesn’t freak her . I’m happy I stop cheating on her with some ladies that doesn’t match her in terms of energies and other. Though she’s not perfect and ain’t perfect too . We do fight and settle . she force me to pray most times by laying my praying Mat and filling my kettle . She’s happy that I’m practicing a religion because I wasn’t practicing none before I pray we end up marrying each other But if we don’t eventually end up together . I pray God give her a responsible man
That's the right woman for you. Must men will see her quietness as a bore thinking that she's not as rass as their bleach green vein babes that makes noises on empty brain. Most smart ladies are quiet and easy going . good luck
Lamasta: I love the Sri Lankans they have shown that they own their country and not politicians, now its time to restructure their economy with competent leaders.
newdawnlive: Other fools will not appreciate this, many of them came to limelight when they enter Lagos, Igbo people why are u so bitter. you alway bite fingers that brought you out from your farmland and made u a king in a city. Emoney was a gala trafic seller in Lagos before his sudden strange wealth, Obi Cubana was a jobless University graduate scouting with friends in Lagos before he dramatically turn to billionaire, Joe igbokwe was a herbalist wannabe struggling to make it in life before he was introduced to one of Tinubu boys within some years Tinubu favour him now is bleeping rich, many others but still the fool flattino will still continue to insult the hell out of the region that made them, u better chance ur way now before it change u.
HOW WILL THE IGBOS WHICH I AM ONE OF THEM RALLY THE YORUBAS TO VOTE FOR OBI WHEN ALL OF THEM ARE WALLOWING IN HATRED? NA WA OOO. THIS 2023 ELECTION GO HARD .
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