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thelish:
U can't take my title from me coco. Dey my back. I am foolishly foolish. u r just foolish. so dey my back.

lol

LaRoyalHighness:
I just want my husband to be healthy again. That is my wish Santa!

Amen!!!!!

I wish for a BMW i8.
Dear god..
I will even take one from the 7-series if you give me.

Also wish to eat and not get fat.

Meet me halfway Jesu.

ifyalways:
Thank you Cocoa. Compliments of the season to you and yours.

EfemenaXY, hello to you lady and compliments of the season.

Same to you and yours.

@ bold, SMH.

So a wife is less than a sister-in-law?

I don't even know what to say.
If she had the guts to tell you that to your face, then you guys issues is bigger than the shop.

So if she doesn't marry she won't leave? Okay Na.

Do what you will. Goodluck.

oluafam:
lol @ two queens. Let me quote my husband "she is my sister, i can't send her out because of you and I won't send you out because of her". I didn't even ask him to send her out.

EfemenaXY, let me start from the ownership of the biz. The biz soley belongs to my husband. He started the biz with settlement money from his master with little support from his late father which he paid back( father's own)-This is what I was told. During the fight, her two claims were that -(1)the shop belongs to her brother and that I'm only a wife (2) that she has been assisting him before now. It's either before her marriage or after marriage and before school, I'm not sure.
My priority now is getting a job. I have three kids, the eldest is 3+(I done shine my eyes, I no go allow them give me belle again, lol). No help in caring for the kids. I do it almost 100%.
No start-up capital for biz hence my desire for a job. I think teaching is my best option for now cos of my kids.

Things are still the same. Ever since he asked that I join and I refused, he hasn't asked again. So I am just observing and haven't discussed with him yet. I am no longer interested in the shop. Each time I go there (to drop or pick my kids) there is this bitterness I feel that brings tears to my eyes, and I want it to stop.
As for toiletries,he sells all-soap, cream, pad, toothpaste etc so I don't buy them. Even some kitchen items. Thanks soo much. I will be back to answer other questions.

How do you people sleep at night?

BRAV0O:
believe me I hate to quote you even as am typing this I may regret even quoting u later but pls kindly be informed that nigerians occupy the street in the protest of fuel subsidy removal during gej tenure is not because nigerians were against it! NO! Maybe u need to tune back ur tv to various news then pls get ur fact right majority of the protester even support the removal of the so called subsidy but they all av no other choice than to protest against it cus of jonathan fraud way of going about it and nigerians are not well equip or prepare for any hardship it will caused! Ehen don't be so shallow!

I remember the strikes and demonstrations that happened when Jonathan did this removal of fuel subsidy thing.
He was labeled the doom of Nigeria.
I laugh in Cantonese.

Hypocrites!!!!!!

SAMBARRY:
he's obviously looking for attention and he's apparently gotten it

As in

WiLdFLame:
if u cann't give a good punishment to deal with this cheating guy...just go and sleep
8849

Mumu.

Who's holding you from killing him?

Make I fedex you my gun?

What makes him a houseboy?
Is it beneath his station to go grocery shopping for the family?

Silly people.

WiLdFLame:
stupid signature?
u are here investigating another person matter...havent you heard it or seen it?



you are just a second choice to your man!

I bet there are men Everywhere around you. So how many have you killed?

Since they are all so horrible?

According to your own feminism?

Lame ass.

SAMBARRY:
Op is a man

Tell me about it.

Trolls and their ever sleeplessness plus restlessness about feminist issues.

E don reach like this?

Just read his Xtupid signature self.

Whatever these guys believe in, why can't they just practice it in their mosques and homes without fighting everyone around them?

Mtchew.

Say no to child labor.

Phema:
Obliterate away dear.

We all (human beings) are home builders. More to do with conscious effort than genitals.

Like who da heck wants the title anyway?

The sneaky patronizing title they use to con women into enduring all sorts of shyte in the name of 'building their homes' or 'fighting for their marriage'.
Does it make sense that One person is building, while the other person is busy scattering with nonchalance and disregard for the marriage vows and mutual respect?

If only one party in the marriage is the home builder, then something is missing.

So I agree. Obliterate away. We don't want.

EfemenaXY:
I'm good dear. How're you though?

Merry Christmas Coco baby.

I'm awesome. Thank you
Merry Christmas!

She's just telling you that you have no place in your husband's business. As in she's the one who should controls what money comes in and goes out.

Better go ahead and be unsubmissive. Find that job or business or whatever of your own and earn your respect. P.S also start raising topic of your sister-in-law leaving your house.
Maybe from nysc she should move along and find her own niche.


There can't be two queens in one palace.

oluafam:
Sorry I don't know the exact name to use.But for the sake of description-a table with many cabinet(right?) where we keep money from sales. So the person that sits on this exalted sit(lol) is in charge of every money that comes in and also gives balances to customers.
If you undertood, could you please give me the correct name? Thanks


I didn't read the comments above before typing this.

Goodluck

romance007:
Thanks again for all your responses. Well appreciated.
Actually we have planned on delaying childbirth till we are settled in the marriage so we can plan better on the possibility of managing a child once we have a real feel of how marriage and studies is. Also, i make cakes and do braids but have made little income from that since its mostly family and friends requests. He has also been assisting me in school though my parents pay most of the bills. Ive known hiim for two years now and i believe he understands his responsibilities.

Infact, he made me open a special savings acct sometimes back where he plans on saving money for my studies once i step into his house. Within 7 months, he droped 60k but i depreciated it to 40k on his own accord. We are thinking of marrying the later part of next year and he still plans to continue saving into that acct. He told me that some 80% of whatever we grabs from our wedding reception (naija style fund raising ) will be sent to the same acct. That he wants a situation where the money will build up so that i could start a mini biz that will not take much of my time and that can support my schooling when he's broke. I hav also not let my emotions becloud my reasoning too much but i believe he wil make a good hubby. Oh God, help me not to shoot myself in the foot. Am not being stubborn not to listen to your opinions ohh. Just wanting to sample lots of opinions.
Onegai, cococandy, jadelyn007

I laughed when I read that.

Besides childbirth what else is there?
Like really?

Onegai:
Oh sweetie.

After this comment, your mental age in most people's eyes dropped from 21 to 18 (or even younger).

See, washing plate and sweeping is not the hardest thing in marriage. Cooking is actually one of the easiest things in marriage. But the one thing you are under-rating, is the biggest one that will cause most of your issues:

PREGNANCY AND PARENTHOOD.

Everything is easier until you have to care for a child. Your parents did it and because they didn't tell you how hard it was, you now think it's easy.

Cooking= 2 hours by yourself, max
Cooking with a child= good luck finishing up in 3 hours

Chores with your siblings=1 hour as long as you marshall them into working
Chores with your baby= well, if your baby will eventually agree to sleep on your back, you'll have more time whilst you tiredly move around your house.

Bills with your parents= what bills? Buying credit is not a bill
Bills with your husband and child= let' s see, one immunization injection can go for N14, 000 (minus the 10 more you will need), you will panickedly start asking for cheaper diapers than Pampers, then creche is never cheap, and good luck finding a nanny who doesn't resent the constant wailing of your child and you need fuel (babies shouldn't sleep. in the heat abi), oohh right, food (formula is like N2500 per can for the cheap ones), then you need to do your hair, look nice, hubby needs fuel for the gen (and there are queues) etcetera...

Frustration is the most common emotion in these parts and it takes a lot of maturity and patience not to transfer it to your spouse. So please calculate the number of people managing their frustrations properly by reading the crime section, family section and health section. Remember too, that every horror story you read, started with a happy couple. And some were more prepared than you.

I was actually going to tell you to wait 2 years but now I'll increase it to 3 years. You're not ready and you're walking in blind and naive. And you will probably learn the hard way that marriage is more than egusi soup, sweeping and washing clothes. And there is a 65% chance that you will end up watching your words very carefully in that house or courting a beating from your husband, especially with the age difference (my love this is Nigeria, where every wife beater loves Jesus more than the Disciples).

If you really wanna be a bit more ready, either face school or start a business and start contributing to your family's expenditure. Why not start paying NEPA bill monthly, so you'll understand how frustrating it is to count out money for something you don't have often (that is how Nigeria works). While you're assuming that bill, go and read this thread below:
https://www.nairaland.com/971395/new-born-babies-u-new
so you can see what mothers go through.

Because at the rate you're going and how short-sighted you are (the economy is crashing and here you are rushing headlong into being a man's liability by expecting him to open a business for you or support you financially and he won't remember he was encouraging you to to not think of your future carefully, nah slap e go use chase u the day he comes home tired and broke and u start asking for money for business, money for diaper and househelp, money for church sowing seed blah blah), I really dont want to see you on NL later on, sounding bitter.

We already have too many bitter men and women here, don't add yourself to that number darling.

Why does that bother you?

Do they speak with your mouth?

IamLEGEND1:
And then there is something called 'Public disturbance'

and honestly,that shít is very annoying,not to mention,stale.

also, those people screaming 'Biafra' are mostly empty-headed vagabonds who know nothing about the inner workings of this country.

They aimlessly follow whatever their masters say and keep spamming this forum with pointless comments.

Lmao

He didn't think she would have the courage to leave. Now that she's leaving his eyes are clearing.
Probably because he realizes he'll now have to work to sustain himself.

Crocodile tears.

If she goes back to him, the maltreatment will continue. Him and his family are not nice people:

sukkot:
why cant yall just love ? you do know its easier to love than to hate right ? it does the body good too. you feel good, all the pheromones and hormones start flowing. its a feel good factor. yall gotta try it sometime. i recommend it


on a side note, was hatteninnnnnnnnnnnnnnn ? how is life treating ya ?

Take your own advice.
Better still preach it to your brothers.

I'm sorry I can't stand someone who can't take the tree out of his eye before seeing the lint in others'.

Ciao.

sukkot:
come on now. are you saying okorocha, a governor of a whole state in nigeria does not know why he said what he said ?

http://www.nigerianewsheadlines.com/2015/11/if-you-want-presidency-stop-harassing-other-tribes-okorocha-cautions-ndigbo/

Never mind

sukkot:
why did okorocha make a public announcement to ndigbo to stop abusing other tribes ? last month ?

How's his reason my business?

I think only an insane person will say other tribes don't insult Igbos too.
Why don't other governors tell their citizens the same? Because he said it to caution his people means that those who don't say it are innocent of the same crime? Does it not mean that they love the enmity brewing between their citizens and Igbos.

I've been on this forum long enough to question your integrity for saying other tribes are peaceful and only insult in retaliation.
Again. Really?

SMH.

Abagworo:
Thats the blackmail I earlier wrote about. Have you enquired and learnt why health and assembly workers rejected their salaries since it was made even with other workers salary scale?

Pls Don't say what you know nothing about.

enquired ko.

sukkot:
of course you dont because yorubas or hausas never abuse people online, so i dont expect you to be fazed because nobody is abusing you. hausas and yorubas without provocation are very sane people who dont go offensively attacking other tribes. when they do, they are responding to igbo abusers lol. its true. only the igbo tribe in nigeria is so full of hate that they go on offensive tribal attacks on people who are just minding their business

Really?

This fine man.
Eya.
I didn't even know he was married to muma gee.

Humans are wicked o.
Na wa.

I pray he returns home safe.

naijapips02:
please can you state categorically what workers rochas is owing?

lalasticlala seun

Health workers for example.

Are you about to say he's not owing any workers?
I hope that's not your aim. Because there seems to be no lie impossible for political psychophants to tell in defense of their lord.

He should pay workers o.