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Dyt:
Then I am a full blown feminist

Dyt:
I do believe in independent
Dunno if that's tagged as a feminist

Dyt:
Well
They think I am
Maybe I am


Pls nasha abi kiloruko e
You know my history so well
I love to read

SAMBARRY:
I guess the 2k and srx is worth her kids lives to her.

Please what do they call useless woman in ibo language sef?

bukatyne:
You know I wanted to respond but let it go...

On NL,

All Nigerian men are bad;
All Nigerian women are bad;

I even remember one guy who was searching for foreign girls abi na foreign love

Yet you do not see anyone insinuating that the men did not have good mothers or wonderful wives

edwife:
You don't know that anything that goes wrong with the world or in a woman's life,it's the man's fault.Even when a woman decides to sleep around and have kids with irresponsible men,it still the man's fault.

How can someone who grew up with a responsible father or married to one will spend the majority of their lives blaming men?
I am blessed to have a responsible father and surrounded by amazing men in my life.Just like there are irresponsible men everywhere,there are very irresponsible women,yet we don't get to blame them every time.

We are in the 21 century where everything now is about equality,so why complain that she has three jobs?

MizMyColi:
Serious Freaking Guts!
Oyibo pipu shaaaaa


Well, whatever rocks their boat.

Did you read their interviews?
If you click on the picture you can read.

EggovinMma:

Does that mean I can go out naked without being termed Maaaaaad?

MizMyColi:
Please check out this website and see things for yourself babes. www.herself.com

How could anyone call those girls sluts.
I actually see perfection!

Most times, when people go all out to post nudes, they're making subiminal statements.
For me, it's one of the highest forms of self/bodily acceptance.

My views tho.

I don’t think so and i believe that the equating of Unclothedness with sex is one of the reasons for the recent (as far as I am concerned) ridiculous issue some people have with women breast feeding their babies in public.

Unclothedness leads to sexual harassment and or abuse: I disagree vehemently with this. The Unclothedness of a person does not rob another of his or her sense of reason. This act of placing the responsibility of one’s sanity on the shoulders of another (and it is the woman that suffer this the most) is a debasing act that reduces the man to a creature of instinct who needs to be kept in line by not “stirring him up”. Sexual abuse and harassment starts and ends with the perpetrator. We are responsible for ourselves. We all have brains after all. I believe that it shows great depth of character (and insight) when we consider every man and woman, no matter how they are dressed as people who are worthy of respect and honor.

MusingsOfALady:
I don't think the right word is "provocative"(intended to arouse). However children can appear indecent and unnecessarily exposed when bum shorts is worn at an inappropriate place.

The emphasis of the post is not just on bum shorts. It's the overall outlook of a child. A child should never be described as "hot", sexy or a chick. Beyond bum shorts there are many other ways we sexualize our children- for example- through Music and dancing. A lot of children can give Beyounce a run for her money, they twerk and sing lurid lyrics. Even sometimes through nicknames- imagine another calling her daughter- sexy mama?

Another common one is allowing them to watch age inappropriate movies with you, exposing them to sexual content on TV programmes etc. Lets not get fixed on bum shorts, its not the single factor causing it, there are other factors as well.

5minsmadness:
@stillfire this is an example of what we Nigerians know as "provocative" bumshorts. Pls pay no mind to some folk who like to paint others in bad light for reasons best known to them. Or maybe it's just honest ignorance.

Bollinger:
Had the worst possible news today, so, to cheer myself up, i decide to cook. Always seems to calm me down and or, cheer me up. It tasted absolutely fantabulous, just so you'd know. Take my word for it. Now for the single guys in da house who struggle with cooking. I like to pride myself with being an amateur professional cook and i'd like to spill the beans on some secrets most chicks keep to themselves in this department. Pit me against any female in the culinary arena and i promise you i'd slam her hands down, (no pun intended ). The secret to most dishes is the sauce, as in the beginning for your cooking. If you can get that right everything else is a breeze. Usually, it always starts with cooking the meat. Most people think cooking meat is all about throwing everything into a pot and voila, everything is good. Heck no. I like to slow cook my meat till it's soft, with not too much water. That is the only way to retain the flavor as well as give you a good stock for later use. A pressure cooker comes in handy for this to be effective, though not necessary. Next, preparing your pepper/tomatoes/onions. Apart from knowing how to mix the right quantity you need, you also need to know what kind of soup you are preparing it for. If it's stew, you absolutely have to boil the pepper till all the water evaporates and if it's just straight up soup, then, well, you can leave it as is. If you can get these down pat, you can pretty much just dump every other ingredients into your pot just as you would cooking edikaikong soup. Anyway, i hope this helps.

ryut:
I have asked her after the marriage and on many other occasions when i started observing such communications if she and the man made any 'covenant'. she said no.What actually annoyed me most since two days ago till now was first,i can recall vividly after the marriage i started noticing such to the extent that i have to call the man on phone then and explain to him the need to stop these communications since she is now married,the man was sounding harsh and said that 'i will still see',till today i don't know what he mean by that statement, when i then changed her sim card.I sat my wife down severally times that ex boy or girl communication in marriage destroys marriage,that there is no gain on it and that the very time we got married,i and my ex cut off permanently that till date neither she nor i didnt call each other and dont even know where any of us are,not that if she or i want to trace the contact of each other that we wont find it,but it does more harm than good in marriage.Recently when i saw their whatspp chat and what they are chatting there and phone communication,i cautioned her that i have been warning her about this her ex and she still keep on communicating him,that i dont want to see such again unless she will pack her things and go and stay with the man,or go back to his family house.The irony of it is that she is even the one that initiates communications-both on chat and phone call.I deleted the man number from her phone.But,I was shocked still seeing her calling the man few days ago and the man also calls her.That means they have still been communicating since then in my absence only that i happen by chance see this one.
Secondly,last time,there is one man still from their side as well,(pls i dont want to mention what happened),but i have to pick her phone and told her in my presence to send an sms to this man and told him"that she is cutting off the communication between them and whatever whatever",she text it and sent and i deleted the man number.Surprisingly,after like two weeks,i noticed that she called the man.She has to go the extent of sourcing for the man number again and give him a call.That day,not knowing that i knew that she called him,i asked her,since that time i told you to cut off the communication with that man,have you ever for one day called him again,She said "NOOOO,how can she do that,somebody she stopped communicating since then even the number was deleted that day and she doesnt have his number again".She lied and lied.I was so upset and nearly ran mad,when i then brought her phone and asked her who has this number and this call-the number was not saved with any name,she kept quiet and say,eeehmm,it was the man that called her,i told her that she is a liar and i opened the call log and showed her the outgoing call log she first made to the man,before the man later called her back.i was so annoyed,yet i let it go.
So the two above made me to even as i am typing this text,i am still very angry since day before yesterday,that after all my caution and warning to her having caught her by chance,she still ignore my warning and secretly communicating and thats what pained me most and i cant bear this again.

In November, 2014, a woman in Jos, Plateau State, who could not take her boyfriend's treachery, locked her two children in a room with the candle light on and went to fight her rival. Upon her return, the house had caught fire, burning her children, aged four and two, to death.

also gave birth to a baby boy few months ago in her room and left the baby to bleed to death through his placenta.

coogar:
it's obvious cococandy does not know what bumshorts are. the base of the bütt has to be exposed for it to be bümshorts!

Stillfire:
Is that what they call bum short in Nigeria? I was thinking it's the one the butt would be loosely hanging out, lol.
I practically grew up wearing shorts like that in the pic. So people find that provocative? Really?

5minsmadness:
You couldn't do it.

If you had answered "Yes" or "No" we would have made some headway, but no.

You seem to thrive on argument.

Believe what you want.

5minsmadness:
Breathe cococandy, breathe.

When you rant like this you sound like a bimbo. Take it easy.

Your main grouse with me is that my belief that "all men are naturally polygamous" translates to "all men are cheats", right? Pls answer yes or no to avoid unnecessary banter and misunderstanding.

5minsmadness:
Na lie o.
From what I've learned on this family section all men are cheats (except your husbands) until proven otherwise.

5minsmadness:
I can't reason with you when you are being hysterical like this. Show me where I have contradicted my point of view, but no, you go into an illogical hissy - fit. Next thing you'll cuss me out or look for an excuse to leave the thread.

bukatyne:
Scream it out loud!

I guess that is where a number of conflicts stem from.