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iPopAlomo:
That I married any of you b!tches... I am actually doing you a favour... you ladies need to get that into your heads...

See who I dey follow talk?

So that's how you regard your woman?
Figures.
If I say you have garri where you're brain is meant to be, that'd be a compliment.

Dominique, are you still wasting your time on this joke of a human being?

Congrats oh Nigerians.
See the results of the kind of training you give your sons.

jashar:
The only time i'll support abortion is when the mothers' life is in danger like the case of etopic pregnancies. And that will be only when the doctors have said they can't manage the situation any longer...
Any other scenario is hogwash....

So you're still pro choice.

There's no inbetween.

It's either there's absolutely no condition under which you'd support it or there are some in which you'd support it.

iPopAlomo:
Calm your tits... I've in no way made anyone a slave... yes... the baby happened... she(the mother) couldn't take care of her... and I bring her home... my child ooo... not someone else's... my child... to my wife... I'm explaining things then she acts a fool... who goes out the window... the b!tch the child...?!

yes she's angry... but how does turning the kid out of the house solves the problem... you modern women are sick and lack compassion... it's the truth...

Wrong. We modern women have learned not to accept foolishness as our lot in life.

Granted that you can still find some who will.

iPopAlomo:
doesn't make sense... more like trash post...

Of course it doesn't make sense to you

Because it doesn't agree that you can fvck around and come dump your love kids on the wife.

So it's not about humanity and caring for one another?
Let's rectify that.
It's about your whoring around and inability to stay faithful.
At least that sounds better to me than that pretensious line about 'humanity'
It was sickeningly hypocritical because you won't consider it a humane thing to do if you found yourself in her shoes.

So hunny bunny go back and edit that post before the gods of goodness and humanity strike you for trying to hide your wickedness behind their name.

"Can she be with other men?"

I don't know my dear.
Go and ask her.
Are you sure all your kids belong to you?
Check well. Wetin concern me self.

#Fools paradise

iPopAlomo:
I'm a man... I married my wife... she didn't marry me... I can be with a lot of women... but can she be with a lot of men...?!

if she was a single mother... yes I can be with her... and take care of the child like it's my own...

So what exactly are you fighting for woman...?! cos I'm not hiding anything...

the child belongs to me... if she wouldn't take care of the child... there's the door...

apparently... I'm using my head even as I can't locate the brain as somethings are solve using just common sense... divorce if you can't take care of a love child... q.e.d

freecocoa:
Just imagine, I don't how this can be okay with any right thinking person, how is it fair to treat another this way biko nu?

Right thinking being the operative word.

Not many are right thinking.

Pls Don't be the devil's advocate that wants to follow the 'western ways' and ruin 'happy' Nigerian marriages.

Our culture doesn't permit it.
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cap28:
Women in Nigeria really need to start campaigning for the govt to reform the law so that women and their children are protected because as it currently stands a woman in Nigeria can be thrown out of her matrimonial home at the drop of a hat.

Why should this woman be forced out of her home when she was not the one who caused the problem? Is it a crime for a woman to refuse to be used as a foot mat in Nigeria?

This woman has been enduring so much abuse from the husband but stuck it out for the sake of her children and the only way the man could repay her was to go outside and have a child, now instead of coming back to beg his wife for forgiveness he resorted to beating her up (in collaboration with his useless relatives) and throwing her out of his home - this can never happen in a civilised society, b y the time you commit adultery know that your marriage is over (depending on how vindictive/forgiving your wife is) not to talk of having the guts to bring a love child home to your wife and forcing her to raise the child. Nigeria is still very much in the dark ages as far as the way it treats women.

iPopAlomo:
where do I start arguing with a feminist from...?! I'm going to be with a lot of women... are you going to be with a lot of men...?! if not... then you can't change the scenario...

oh... I'm a chauvinist...

You've forgotten humanity and caring for others because I mentioned that you could be expected to practice such humanity when your partner treats you like that?

So it's not about humanity again?
How the shoe shifts fast.

So You agree it's about your randiness?
Why did you try to hide such gross foolishness behind being humane and caring.

Like I said before go and locate your brain.
On which leg you wan stand argue with me before?

Sense and nonsense don't mix.

When your wife brings another man's kid for you to father, I hope you will remember humanity and caring for one another.

iPopAlomo:
Culture...?! Religion...?! nigga please... I'm a yoruba man and a muslim... meaning I can marry up to four women... you really should read more on culture and religion...

Apart from culture and religion... what happens to humanity... caring for one another... it's your type that pray for peace in the world... and won't show love to your neighbour...

the father of the child isn't shying away from his responsibility... if the woman did not act a fool... we wouldn't be reading this on nairaland... and yes... I am a huge fan of adoption... deal with it...

freecocoa:
Smh and some mofos be saying there's no need for feminism in these parts, okay o.

Shhh.

You want to ruin Nigerian marriages?

Oh please.

Where did you leave your brain?

iPopAlomo:
He realised his mistake... the other woman is in no state to care for a child as her eyes still dey outside... what other option dies he have...?! leave his child in the hands of the irresponsible mother or bring her home....?! to his wife...

I insist... if the woman was virtuous... we won't be reading her battered story in nairaland... she could have used the child has a leverage... be a good mother to her kids and her stepchild... but instead... she allowed the b!tch in her manifest and he gave her a good smacking...

if you read the story... they were begging her... but you know women nah... if she knew she can't take care of the child... she should have just left instead of throwing tantrums and nagging...

When you type, it's comment.
When others type it's rant.

Mtchew

pickabeau1:
All these rants on top simple issue

Society actually did make sure young men are responsible by making it almost impossible to sleep with a woman outside marriage
The alternative was räpe which had serious consequences

Modernisation led to the license the have nowadays

and who's fault is that?

Let me guess.
That's how nature made it

It's not because of the hypocrisy and discrimination against women ingrained in the people I.e society's skin?

Anyway don't worry about the girl per consequences. She clearly wanted the baby. So it's not a consequence. She got what she wanted.

Obviously the OP is the one suffering the consequences now.

Instead of you people to encourage young men to be repsonsible too as you always harp on women, you're here telling us that's society.
As if society is made up of Angels from heaven.

pickabeau1:
Did u read my post


Social consequences
Two people do the same thing

One is called a player, the other a ho

Guess which gender

They are the custodians of the beautiful tradition.

Onegai:
Dear Naija Wives,

UNA DON TAKE YA "ENDURANCE" MEDICINE TODAY

Leave a cheating husband mmbbaa! Dey there dey "endure". Even her in-laws joined hands to beat her up for her "disobedience". No-one will blame the man, they will ask this battered wife to get on her knees and pray for forgiveness and submissive spirit and more power to endure.

Oniranu

Wetin concern me?

Good for them.

graciousolo:
Over 12 times in a space of 4months. And yea I think it's bad cos I don't seem to have any defense against it. I just want out.

All I have asked for is a therapist, it's becoming obvious to me that there are little or no counsellors in the country, maybe the average person is oblivious of them.

Okay

Did you enjoy it?
That's all that matters.

Bollinger:
Slow evening yesterday. My wife and i are having a small tiff. I dey bone am and she de bone me. The kids came up to me and were like "dad, lets eat something different tonight". And i go "what?". And they go "how'z about pizza and steak?". I say "hmmm, that's different, ok let's try it". Now, this is where i introduce you to my cooking utensil; a skillet i call bukky. If you don't have a skillet in your kitchen, you are cheating yourself out off a treasure. You can fry, boil and grill with it and it takes very little maintenance. Anyway, we tried the combination and it wasn't half bad. I know what cococandy is thinking right now. She's thinking "WTF?, isn't this the same mofo who chewed my ass out for having steak and eggs for lunch and here he is having steak and pizza for dinner?". Relax candy queen , na my kids suggest am oooo, no be me.

Lol. Go and siddan jare.

A word of advice though.
If you want to the DNA thing, don't send for samples from Nigeria.
Risk of contamination is high from collector and transporter. Possibility of a false result is high.
(That's if they will even allow the transport of such material across)

Go home and take the child to the clinic yourself so that your samples can be collected and handled by people trained to so.

brocode:
Poem: a piece of writing in which the expression of feelings and ideas is given intensity by particular attention to diction (sometimes involving rhyme), rhythm, and imagery.

I needed to make it sink in you dear. But am glad all you figure is "Is this a poem"
If it makes you feel better, yes it is

Is this a poem?

brocode:
Yeah am Mumu,

First statement:
Okay, first of all I know lots of people talk crap just to sound funny here. I get that, its good for the forum but this is a serious situation and am seeking real conversations and advice, possibly legal on this issue.
You are still commenting and...
Yeah am Mumu.

...took me from a nobody to a "fairly" recognised person across the atlantic.
Its called been humble, that is what happens to Mumu and...
Yeah am Mumu.

Read the whole story and all you can take is "This your topic title self"
Yeah am Mumu.

You wrote: [s]"From his story, he doesn't want anything to do with the girl. From day one.
She was just a fling that pushed herself on him.

Yet he's surprised she kept the child from him.
Doesn't it make sense if she thought that he would reject the baby hence her not telling him"[/s]

Everybody has something to offer yall. That is why am responding to you and that is why I kept in touch with my "fling" several months even when I know I dont want nothing but to motivate her to attain her personal goals and I wouldnt even be back for at least four years from when I left.
Yeah [s]"he would reject the baby"[/s]. Listen she was going to bring it up anyways someday when he was fixed and probably returned. You talk with somebody all the time and still refuse tell him you are with his baby for nine months of pregnancy and more for child birth and didnt until he mysteriously mentioned it and you got scared and had to say something. He didnt even have an input on his childs name and you are hoping on getting in a relationship with him in future. I believe you guys think alike... Yeah am Mumu.

Excellent7 wrote:
@All
I think the OP has fire on his hands and is asking for help and not an analysis of his person or his error.
If someone does not have an advice or suggestion, not commenting on a topic is not a bad idea.

And you(@cococandy) are still commenting... Yeah am Mumu.

Your topic "My Most Secret Thoughts" is simply laughable... but no am not judging. Yeah, am Mumu.

Checking you out, I noticed the only thing that excites you are negative comments. You got to check yourself out girl. You are still responding and Yeah, am Mumu!

Do you do anything but try to put others down. This is not the worst thing on earth and this guy who knows who he is and is a success story, instead of judging you thinks you deserve a response and Yeah he is Mumu for helping you with your(@cococandy and @bukatyne) negativities.

Lov yall and its the last am saying it for you two and Yeah, am Mumu.

It's the culture.
It breeds them self righteous and entitled.

You'll see prostitute guys calling their female colleagues-in-trade hoes as if something makes it okay for them to behave in such ways.

bukatyne:
When I say the 'nigerian' god /husbands/wives etc.

It is like I am anti Nigerian or think the west are saints

This reminds me of that guy who slept with a prostitute and wants to preach to her.

The hypocrisy and denial is mind boggling.

Christmas in the village

Boarding school

Saturday weddings.

There nothing wrong with you.

Twelve times in a yr doesn't seem like the frequency for you to count it as an addiction.

If it was twelve in a week or month.

But you can still seek hope since you feel bad about yourself courtesy of it.

Mumu

brocode:
@All the other shit heads here: Thanks anyways, I was expecting you all to respond. I cannot be what Dr. Carson called 'politically correct' for you all here. I know if you search deep in your hearts you would know and understand what am trying to say. I just laid it bear skin for you all and all you can do is pour your negativity on the situation just to make you feel good. You wont. I am old enough and financially capable by His grace of taking care of my baby.
If I was street enough to match all her capabilities I wouldnt probably be in this part of the world now. The idea of my story is for your input like @Excellent7, @5minsmadness ... had done and also so lessons are learnt. If I was on the other side, my take away from this story would be When things are crumbling around you, dont loss it and do the "Am going to do this and Damn the consequences, afterall everything else is falling apart anyways" kind of feeling because something beyond Good might be coming your way real soon. Lov yall

touchmeder:
@cococandy, I tried the blender thing and it was amazing even less than the 10 mins you said. Amazing stuff

You're welcome

iwatch:
All naija folks outside naija, how do you cope with absence of nigerian food? I doubt I can stay a week without eating pounded yam or any meal that you mould with hand.

Depends on where you find yourself.
Places with high population of Africans tend to have more african shops.

freshvine:
A chip and microscopic lens has been employed to investigate your inappropriate behaviours and the feeds from eleme in Rivers are appropriately gargantuan in my moral analysis and deduction of your character.

It's no longer port harcourt?
It's now eleme?

You don't know me from police barracks in ajegunle too?
Monkey.

Mental case.

Sugarcoconut.

Na wa o.

So you ate all of them finish, clean mouth before you begin upload pix?

60 in 3yrs while still married seems much.

But you're right that may be the case.

GHoJes:
Make una stop dis sex addiction thing before e start, no be only una watch film. So the more the partner the surer its addiction.

A nympho is one who want it everyday, even a nympho can have self control by wanting it always but with one woman. Not when a man has has allowed his lack of self control to grow bigger, he is passed as an addict. There's a clear difference between habit and addiction.

The man may/may not be an addict. The details provided here is not sufficient to conclude.

ebyjoyken:
I don't understand you. My story and hers are different. I am just giving her my own opinion. If you have any advice to give her please do.

Never mind.

ebyjoyken:
yes I almost divorced,Even paid a lawyer. Please don't contradict God's words. There is no marriage without problem. And if couples were to leave their partners because of cheating the population of married couples won't be up 1% in the world. She will bear it and with God she will conquer all. There is no marital problem God cannot fix.

I wish posters like you can come speak up when some men want to divorce their cheating wives.

You're usually conveniently quiet in such cases.

Just saying.
Not that I'm against what you're saying here o.
Would just like to see the message spread around. Not one sided.

60 people?

He's a sex addict jare.
That one pass cheating.

He needs psychiatric help (not just a counselor) and must go meet a psychiatrist if he wants the marriage to continue.
Give that to him as a condition.
They have all sorts of addiction therapy these days so he may be able to find help.

I don't believe he's a horrible person who wants to keep punishing you because he confessed by himself and promised to work on it.
That's the sign of a repentant person.

But staying married to him means living in fear of stds because for now he can't help himself.

So weigh your choices carefully.
If you want to stay and help him work it out, you have to protect yourself.

If you don't want to stay, no one can blame you.