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craziebone: did you mean to say "Chai! This guy don catch me ooo"?

craziebone: did you mean to say "Chai! This guy don catch me ooo"?

No I was just pitying your ignorance

Brief History of Feminism

The feminist political movement began in the nineteenth century with a call for female suffrage. At a convention in Seneca Falls, New York, in 1848, a group of women and men drafted and approved the Declaration of Rights and Sentiments. This document, modeled on the language and structure of the Declaration of Independence, was a bill of rights for women, including the right to vote. Throughout the late 1800s, feminist leaders susan b. anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton were persistent critics of male society's refusal to grant women political and social equality. In the mid-nineteenth century, many state legislatures passed married women's separate property acts. These acts gave women the legal right to retain ...

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As the Adanma of nairaland eh?

My MIL has one that she doesn't use anymore anyway. Just lying there.
Everyone ahs turned to electric blenders

EfemenaXY: But you usually know the answer to these things babe...sigh

Lemme go look it up with google then...

So many ignorant folks everywhere.
Yes he's to be prosecuted. Not the builders.
He's the one who contracted them to buil.
He's the one who failed to get a license to add more floors on the already existing building.
He's the one who'll pay for the mistake.
He doesn't have to go to jail because it's not really a criminal offense.
But he should pay for whatever loss incured by the families of the dead

Hehehe.
No I've not used it before.
Even my grandma didn't own one.
It's more common with yoruba folks

Wish I learned too.

EfemenaXY: Always fancied learning how to use one of those, but never quite did so.

I wonder what part of Nigeria they first originated from? And how they are made...or are they cut from solid rock?

Cococandy, your input is needed...

@ bananabender you make good some points. I just wish you weren't so insulting.

@topic, I don't have a kid yet so I can't speak authoritatively on the issue.
I might feel differently when I have a baby.

Following.

Hope you'll show her this thread @ rozzay.
Hbd mama

Really? So you agree it's a problem.
New one.
I thought you're the 'obey at all cost' kind of person

5minsmadness: Very interesting read.

The willingness to obey authority no matter how stupid.

That's the main problem with Nigeria.
That's why the Bible advocates for good leaders .
Very interesting.

You forgot ebipenjo lane idumota lagos.

ifyalways: To God be the glory!

Produced by Chico Ejiro, marketed by Ossy Affason. 22 idumota way alaba lagos, 4 pounds road Aba, 22 iweka road Onitsha.

Which begs the question. will you always hit every time a lady provokes you?
Make the better choice.

I suggested communication,temporary seperation before. Sometimes even reporting her to her parents will work perfectly. These would work if the lady values your union and doesn't want to lose you.
But if she doesn't,you're better of without someone who doesn't care how her actions/words make you feel.

Emotional abuse leads to loss of self esteem faster than physical assault.

Sepp360: thanks for the advice. Even though walkin away is much better than batterin; But would i always "walk away permanently" each and every time a lady provokes me?

But of course
You're right
It's clear he's attention seeking lil' boy.

babygirlfl: He is disturbing our mentions because he wants attention.If you engage with him, he will fight with what he knows how to do best which is to insults and bully and he will beat you at it. He will not fight with any intellectual knowledge. Remember insults and bullying only gets people into trouble while intellectual knowledge is important. My dear please ignore him. In real life, I do not reply everybody and I will not also reply everyone here. Remember most people can now afford a smart phone and sometimes people that you would not ordinarily interact with in real life will come under the cover of internet to bully (he called himself that) and insult people and you know what they say about bullies. Nairaland is a big forum and people like him are expected and dealing with people like him is a very important skill to have.

You're a learner.
See how you're embarrassing your self up and down.
Go and sleep jare and stop disturbing my mentions interrupting my interesting movie

Misogynist2014: The shallow arguements of ladies thrills me atimes, to say the truth, I love the childish attitude of women, expectially the emotional part. Come off it! You don't have to be a misandrist. I'm not here for women like you but for internet feminists like cococandy and carefreewannabe and babygirlfl. I'm here to bully them until the stop their show of shame.

Whoever led you to believe it's women's nature to be insulting taught you wrong.
It's not our nature. Don't tolerate it.
Get away permanently from a woman who will always provoke you with her words.

Sepp360: if i may notbe wrong, what i infer from the few sensible posts i've read so far is that, "it myt be very impossibe tryin to stop women from being insultin and abusive, cos its their nature, and there's no much physical harm it myt cause, BUT men should learn how to control their anger and get used to swallowin sh*t from such women, cos their own retaliation myt lead to death"...


What a double standard!

I would divorce such a woman without thinking twice.
What's the use beating her up and compounding my woes from the prosecution that will follow?

5minsmadness: My former neighbors in Lagos were like this. The woman would be heard early in the morning berating the man and screaming for him to leave pocket money. Sometimes the man will come out of the house with his shirt rumpled and torn and the woman holding unto his trouser which she has made attempt to remove many times in public. The shouting would go something like this:

"Leave me oh, leave me oh, if I lay my hands on you!!"

"Try it! Try it and let me see! Useless man! When people are counting husband you will go and join! Touch me and see what will happen, your mates are riding jeep you are still jumping molue! They say common sense is not common! If you move another step I will naked you here!"

"But honey(he starts to beg with style) I am late for work if I lose my job even my small salary will be taken from me..."

'I don't care! Go and do what your mates do! If not for that useless thing between your legs would you have been any different from a woman?! Etc etc"

In fact he would have to wait until she let him go or else risk going to work naked.


He must be a real man.
All men should be like that.

Rapsainot: I never regret that I followed you..... Nice write up I must confess

Of course I know. I should go back to primary school if I didn't know that
Lol
I was just making it clear (to him) why we thought he wasn't being consistent.

BananaBender: LMAO cococandy!

"tell me about it" : used as an ironic acknowledgment of one's familiarity with a difficult or unpleasant situation or experience described by someone else.

I was agreeing with you

You're probably more western than I am.
True.
How do you make your culture better if you hold on to out dated norms that don't help your development or the well being of your women just for egotistical reason?

Mattin: Cool down and flow with the trend; seems you expect me to start bashing and talk down feminism; no dear, you don't make your opinion look like its the best, you have to weigh opinions, then make your judgments. Don't talk down others; that's what education taught us. We are here to learn.lol

From your comment, you have every right to be mad at culture if not for western intervention no doubt but you should not pray for its death.
You need to know the western culture has its own flaws. Look at what our youths are turning into, due to hyping of western culture here and there.

This western we are talking about is even been adjusted day in day out to match general standard value; why can't we follow suit?
Culture is meant to complement each other like you stated but one should not overshadow the other.

Don't hate your culture, make it better dear.

BananaBender: Tell me about it! Jeez.

His first sentence.

Feminism is doctrine that advocates equal right right for women.

So I'm like what's wrong with that?
Then he says

men, with our egocentric behavior is not going to have a smooth passage with a feminist.

Making it clear that servicing men's ego is more important than a woman's rights or needs

Then the contradictions begin.

I believe female voice should be heard and not shut down.

Really? But he said

A woman is supposed to rise and become whoever/whatever she wants to become under the rulership and mentorship of her husband. But when a you begin to see women folk, not ready to give in to whatever the husband is saying or proposing,A wife materials is she who holds her husband judgement in high esteem and respect and value his judgement over her own.

So how is her voice not 'shut down' (in his words) if whatever she thinks at the end of the day doesn't matter?

I respect women of high standard and

what's his definition of high standard? Yet to get it.

I wanna see women who will change the world for a better good, create a change, make their stand on issues

How can a woman make her stand on an issue and at the same time discard her stand/opinion and adopt the man's own as superior?

If we feel our culture is not favoring women, we should look inward among ourselves and make some adjustment to that effect

Yet he has a problem with those who are moving for such changes/ adjustments to be made


I could go on and on pointing out the mix-ups But I don't know what he's talking about.

@OP
You lost me bro.what are you talking about?

Yes. And it will come to pass

Mattin: That's your wish and opinion

You contradict yourself so much it makes my head hurt trying to put your points together.
Neither here nor there.
If you think women should be respected abd valued,why are you saying a man's opinion should be placed above hers?

I'm not a fan of preserving culture at all cost. I would be dead today if not for Mary Slessor who stopped the killing of twins.
Only good culture should be held unto.

What culture are you talking about? You try to use christainity a western culture to blacklist feminism another 'western' culture?

Whether we like or not.we are imbibing western culture at full speed. The whole world is borrowing culture from everyone else.
Even some african culture has been exported to other parts of the world.
People will always copy a better example.
Stop fighting change.

Mattin: If we feel our culture is not favoring women, we should look inward among ourselves and make some adjustment to that effect as no law forbids solving your own problem among yourselves. It is not a must we have to wholeheartedly incucate the western culture into our own culture. Whatever happen to cultural value going into extinction.

For the fact that I speak English, accept Christianity and peruse the western culture etc. doesn't and should not make me a slave to the western culture. I accepted the western culture because I want to be better; I want to study the western culture so as to get a better understanding of how to improve my own culture. No matter the aspect of western I choose to go into, the purpose is to make my culture a better one.

A woman don't have to be submissive to extent of becoming a slave; this is where we say women should be respected and valued.
I realised that we woman degradation is rampant in our culture, which is why should use our western education to profound solution and not exchanging the values and norms.

I have never abandoned my culture and will never do.
BTW, the western culture we are hyping is one way or the other, envying some core values in our cultural system, which you may not know and is not placing much vallue on.

A woman is supposed to rise and become whoever/whatever she wants to become under the rulership and mentorship of her husband. But when a you begin to see women folk, not ready to give in to whatever the husband is saying or proposing you begin to ask questions.

May my daughters not meet someone who thinks like this

Iseee!

Na wa. Did the commentators even read the thread?

You're the person I see complaining and crying here. Not me.
Buzz me if you need scented handkerchief to help your plight.
Goodnight.

okotv: final quote on this issue...stop been deceived cause if feminism is practised in your so called saner climes doesn't make it all right...what we need in our country is good leadership and I want you to contest or stop complaining

I don't want to go into this argument.
If you want to know the origin of feminism,it started from very long ago when women were greatly marginalized. So a movement for equal rights for women as accorded to men started and this movement is what is known today as feminism.
True women are still marignalized in some parts of the world like ours here.

I think it is ignorant to try to dissociate feminism from equal rights.
Y'all should stop the minsinformation and Nigerian/African men should stop crying more than the men who live in the saner climes where feminism is widely recognized.

Sometimes I wonder why an African based man tears his cloths over feminism when the stuff hardly even affects him.
What would they do if they find themselves in the UK or US? Hang themselves

And dude? Stop quoting me and focus on how to make your country better. Feminism isn't your problem.
You've got bigger problems

okotv: equal rights and feminism are two different entities...don't confuse your self woman

Cry me a river

Misogynist2014: I won't leave you, unless you stop this show of shame.

Your phone/tablet/computer will cry for help

damiso: As an aside going through family section this evening I think I am going to open a handle with the name 'feminism' imagine the mentions when the user logs in

That's guys lives for you.

I've this friend that uses every single bit of make up ever invented. Like every single one.still doesn't look much different from me who used regular powder,eye liner and lipstick.
Women we too like to over stress ourselves sha.
I'm sure the simpler dressed women at that party will probably get more attention from the men than those masquerades

chaircover: Its really strange when you go to these parties and the women are all dressed up/over dressed, but the guys just wear casual polo shirts etc

You just dey 'phew' for all the topics today.
The picture made you speechless?

jaybee3: Phew

r231,that your aunty be like the native doctors assistant

Ok I'm kidding,do you know those folks in person or just pictures off the net?
Scary make up aswear

Sort your issues. Misogynist. Leave me out of it

Misogynist2014: I'm in no way cursing you: its the truth . Just stop this show of shame. God bless you, I'm not your husband, else, I will neglect you and marry more wives, who cares? Its a win win situation. Our divorce laws in Nigeria unlike the west favors no one(only if you are rich enough to stand alone). Who wants a militant divorcee as wife?

Ok. I am a fool.
I hope you're happy. Do you have any more curses for me?. I can accept some more if it will make you happy.

Misogynist2014: This fööl still does not know the difference btw equal human rights and equality, even after a lot of men toiled to explain it. Cocoa and candy, do you know where wisdom comes from, tell me, even if it is in the deepest of sees and well into the earth, tell me; that I may get some for you.

Smh. Yea it must really be evil to want to be given the same rights as men.
Nna biko swerve commot for my front. I take God beg you

okotv: Holy Spirit and Feminism... a beg don't blaspheme