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Family › Re: Incest Is 'taboo' But Shouldn't Be Illegal, German Experts Say by cococandy(f): 9:26am On Sep 27, 2014
Well marriage or not, my opinion is that they should be prosecuted.
For obvious reasons as I've stated above.

What's your opinion and why?

carefreewannabe: In this case, inbreeding has nothing to do with the context of marriage.

Consenting adults in Germany are not prosecuted for having sexual intercourse if they are not married.
Consenting adult siblings are.

Nobody is discussing marriage between siblings, just whether consenting siblings should be prosecuted for having sexual intercourse.
The current government's stand is that they should.
Family › Re: Why Do Women Prefer Male Doctors During Antenatal? by cococandy(f): 9:23am On Sep 27, 2014
How do you know?
sirekene: Just wanna know y cos its gradually becoming d order of d day
Family › Re: Incest Is 'taboo' But Shouldn't Be Illegal, German Experts Say by cococandy(f): 9:15am On Sep 27, 2014
Kai. You need to sleep off yesterday's wine from the club.
deflover: really are for real here.... born wont be affected ba as long as they dont put it in your face.....oya go mess ya brother na angry angry angry.....i can really see through your jellyfish of a brain angry angry angry angry >:....so instead of government to spend the limited funds on better things we should help they check which kid will not be deformed.....i can see you are not so much a reader like you claimed to be......and as long as they dont affect others with their decision.....i see....so the kids
Family › Re: Incest Is 'taboo' But Shouldn't Be Illegal, German Experts Say by cococandy(f): 9:13am On Sep 27, 2014
Haven't you heard of first cousins getting married?
Anyway inbreeding is within the context of marriage.
carefreewannabe: Who is talking about marriage?
Family › Re: Incest Is 'taboo' But Shouldn't Be Illegal, German Experts Say by cococandy(f): 8:15am On Sep 27, 2014
I think that law should be upheld.
One can argue that they are both adults and should decide for themselves who they want to spend their lives with.
That's ok as long as their decision doesn't affect anyone else.
But unfortunatley it will.
So no. They don't have the right bear offspring who have a high chance of being genetically deformed.
Just like it should be unlawful for two AS people to wed.
Unless they all agree to sterilzation before marriage.
That way their marriage will be between them alone and not involving innocent kids who didn't ask to be born with defects.
Family › Re: Christian Couple Spread The Word Via Wife Swapping by cococandy(f): 8:05am On Sep 27, 2014
True
esere826: una neva see anything yet
if thieves, corrupt politicians, criminally negligent MOGs, fornicators etc can be anointed xtians despite their lifestyles
and sow money into the kingdom and constantly elevate their daddy G.O.s as a way of preaching the gospel
why cant these ones and gays preach same gospel to their kind?

is one sin less than the other in the sight of God?

I think our tolerance or revulsion of sin categories is based on our cultural leaning
for example, a church in the thick of the amazon would easily and acceptably have bare breasted women sitting in

If i have to critique someones xtianity it would be those of the big MOG's becos millions look up to them and thus their erring can hurt society
I'm not gonna touch these small anointed ones cheesy
Technology Market › Re: <<<<<<<4G 32GB SIM CARD BRAND NEW Blackberry Playbook FOR 26K<<<<<<<<< by cococandy(f): 8:01am On Sep 27, 2014
Alright. smiley
justi4jesu: Okay no you cannot add sim slot to it.

Yea thanks wink
Family › Re: Husband Or Wife, Who Should Resign? by cococandy(f): 8:00am On Sep 27, 2014
Ok.
Just so you know,I wasn't prescribing punishing the kids with her absence in the name of making money.
I know people who earn way more than that but still have time for their kids
ammyluv2002: My love, a father can never take the place of a mother no matter how caring the man is...we are talking about the futureof your kids here! I get your point though but I still insist the mother should resign and start up something or better still get a teaching job no matter how little the salary . You can't punish the kids all in the name of getting money to make them comfortable, those kids need their mum at this stage of their lives . They don't understand what it will cost to be with their parents especially the mum so why punish them just because you want to make money for them to be happy that's just my point sha.
Technology Market › Re: <<<<<<<4G 32GB SIM CARD BRAND NEW Blackberry Playbook FOR 26K<<<<<<<<< by cococandy(f): 7:56am On Sep 27, 2014
As you be dealer na abi? grin
Lol I'm eyeing the new iphone6

I just was wondering if I could add a sim slot before I give it to my brother as he's been asking me fervently to give it to him. Maybe I'll just give it to him like that.

26k is a very reasonable price sha.
You try well well.
justi4jesu: lol...just buy new now biko grin grin
Technology Market › Re: <<<<<<<4G 32GB SIM CARD BRAND NEW Blackberry Playbook FOR 26K<<<<<<<<< by cococandy(f): 7:49am On Sep 27, 2014
Nne @ Op my playbook came without a sim slot.
Is it possible to configure it to have a slim slot?
Any ideas or suggestions?
Thanks in advance smiley
Politics › Re: $9.3 Arms Deal:catholic Bishops Exonerate Oritsejafor by cococandy(f): 7:38am On Sep 27, 2014
Misleading title.
What's with all the sensationalism?
Reading the title alone without reading the body of the article could have one thinking that catholic bishops have decided to pronounce Oritsejafor not guilty of any miscinduct.
Meanwhile they are saying something else entirely.
Family › Re: Akwa Ibom: Woman Arrested Forburying Her Day-old Baby Alive by cococandy(f): 7:32am On Sep 27, 2014
Her own child? embarassed
Family › Re: He Ignored My Pregnancy Because Of His Wife’s Pregnancy by cococandy(f): 7:22am On Sep 27, 2014
The matter don cold now. I'll explain next time.
When I catch you in the act wink
5minsmadness: Huh? How?
Family › Re: Husband Or Wife, Who Should Resign? by cococandy(f): 7:20am On Sep 27, 2014
I'd say it depends on the kind of life they are used to.

What kind of school will the child of a 50k earner attend?
Using the man's salary as budget. 15ok isn't even middle class anywhere.
Maybe pay fees and feed them. Is that all?
What about some little luxury?
Where will they live? In good neighborhoods of some common areas,house rent is like 300k-500k-1million or will they pack and go to the slums because the mom has to resign?

Before long the woman may start grumbling because their standard of living has depreciated drastically.even the man may start getting irritated easily because of underlying tension.
Abeg they should be practical about it jare. Even if the man resigns,the woman's income is not all that(you get?).

I think they should even look for how to increase their income instead of decreasing it.

If one person has to resign,let it be the more business savvy person. So that he/she can take it up and do it well.
ammyluv2002: My dear, some married couples earn like 50k/100k yet the manage their finances very well so is not all about the salary now.....planning is the key word
Family › Re: Husband Or Wife, Who Should Resign? by cococandy(f): 7:06am On Sep 27, 2014
400+150k
Naa. They are not yet earning enough for one person to quit and stay home.
And in this case that the woman is the higher earner here,what will 150k solve for them?
Politics › Re: Nicholas Ibekwe Received A "Bribe" From Kayode Fayemi Of Ekiti State by cococandy(f): 6:12am On Sep 27, 2014
After reading the whole article,not one place did he state categorically with evidence how and when Nicholas received this bribe.
Trying to confuse us with too many words and no substance.
One would have expected him to go straight to the point with the narration of the exact incidence of the bribery
Nawa.
Family › Re: Christian Couple Spread The Word Via Wife Swapping by cococandy(f): 12:13am On Sep 27, 2014
True I suspect that.

There'll soon be trouble in the ministry when there's an accidental pregnancy grin
Fathers/husbands will draw their swords.
This will make a nice movie
Ishilove: Mrs Parave is a horrny freak who is using evangelism as an excuse to practice her sexxxual proclivities. Get your freak on!! wink grin
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 11:52pm On Sep 26, 2014
Ok
EfemenaXY: Exactly my point!

What they can do to girls, they can do to little boys too (back passage). It's not uncommon. A male pervert will always get his kicks, irrespective of the sex of the child in his care.
Family › Re: Christian Couple Spread The Word Via Wife Swapping by cococandy(f): 11:51pm On Sep 26, 2014
Oh dear cheesy cheesy cheesy
Lmao. I don't know why this is so funny.

Those women are scary looking sha embarassed
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:35pm On Sep 26, 2014
Me too. Never eaten one.
EfemenaXY: Good cooks in the house, I think I need some help.

Every time I go food shopping at the market for fresh foods / meats / veg, I can't help eyeing up those luscious looking garden eggs. Thing is, I've never eaten one, much less know how to cook them. Same thing with water / cocoyams.

Can any one of you recommend a couple of tasty dishes I could make with either or both of these?

Chillisauce? Edwife? Cococandy? Beeevan? LyndaRoyce?

Help a sister out, Biko (preferably with pics) ... cheesy
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 11:27pm On Sep 26, 2014
That my post says the male care givers care for the males while the females care for the female kids.

Maybe you meant to quote someone else.

Meanwhile I dey gbadun the reply.
And no we are not down playing male children's abuse as insignificant.just calling a spade a spade.


Oh wait now I get you. You're saying they shouldn't even be in the system at all even if it's to care for male kids?
Ha. That's harsh na.
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EfemenaXY: Why?

For that young age, male carers shouldn't even enter the picture. With regards to child molestation, let's face facts and call a spade a spade.

The damage an older man can do to a very young girl (ssexually) is incomparable the other way round. We're talking p enetrative violation here. How does that compare with the reverse scenario? Additionally, how many known / reported cases of female-to-male child sex abuse do we have compared to the more common male-to-female sex abuse cases?

Let's bring it closer to home - Naija.

Note: I'm not downplaying either scenarios, but how many instances have we read of male teachers ssexually violating young girls in their care, compared to women doing the same to boys?

Let's get franks here, abeg.
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 11:10pm On Sep 26, 2014
But I don't see that happening.
At the very least the male care givers can care for the male kids while the female care givers care for the female kids.
BABE3: But you're indirectly denying him a job. 90% of you here would prefer a female caregiver. Why then would caregiving organizations continue hiring males when they know mothers avoid them?

Shebi you know about law of demand and supply.
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 10:58pm On Sep 26, 2014
BABE3: Eh? cheesy there was a post I read on here a few months ago about a woman that strokes her son's cöck till he cops an erëction. When that woman was challenged , she said "is he not my son?" grin.

So you see why I said for females everything is under "motherly care" and "motherly instinct". Imagine if that woman worked at a daycare; that's how she'd be handling little joysticks on a daily and it'll be counted as caring.

So you do agree with me that men and woman are equally capable of molesting kids? Why then do you feel more comfy with a woman as a care-giver than a man?
shocked errection for wetin?
That makes me sick to think of it.

As for being more comfortable with a female care-giver,I did say I've gotten to a point where I've learned that I should be probably as much afraid for my son as I would be for my daughter.

So I'm not going to leave anything to chance. Or relax that he's safe because the person is female.from the moment he can talk ,I'll make sure he's fully aware of the name of his private part(no euphemisms) and drum it into him to report should anyone handle him there.(Just like his sister would be told too)

But from their tender age when they can't speak,any daycare they get enroled in must have hidden cameras which parents can have access to at the end of the month.

So that they know for sure how their kids are spending their days. Knowing there's a camera recording everything going on is most likely the only way I'd feel content leaving my son or daughter all day in the hands of another person male or female
Shikena.
BTW as damiso stated there other types of abuse too that are not sexual.

I'm not going to relax on my kids issues(when they do come smiley )
Family › Re: Teaching Our Children The Sense Of Gratitude. by cococandy(f): 10:44pm On Sep 26, 2014
Sweet post smiley
egopersonified: Thank you op, my last born is 2 and one of his first words was 'ta-tu'. Whenever you give him anything, even ordinary water to drink, he goes 'ta-tu'. It melted my heart so much that I would always look for opportunties to give him something. And there's this nanny in his daycare that when you give her just N1,000, she will thank you, when she gets home, she will call you to thank you again and for the next three days its thank you galore and I keep feeling embarassed, I always feel the thank you is more than the gift so I am always giving even when I dont have enough for myself. I also learnt on nl to say thank you, with a smile, to my husband after eating, you need to see the way his eyes light up sometimes with satisfaction.
Family › Re: Aged Couple Plan Mutual Euthanasia Because Of Fear One Will Die Before The Other by cococandy(f): 10:36pm On Sep 26, 2014
shocked shocked
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 10:33pm On Sep 26, 2014
Doesn't even apply because I've never seen a man denied a job as a nursery teacher or even a nurse before.
No organization will do that
BABE3: In addition, following this logic, how's this any different from when a woman is denied a job because she may be too "emotional" to handle it? These same feminists come out to cry murder.

Now tables have turned and it's all good in the hood. I'm confused.
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 10:27pm On Sep 26, 2014
I doubt anyone with sense will count a woman fiddling with a boy's penis or(sickeningly) sucking on it as giving care.
I'd slug a person who passes such judgment.


The emphasis in my opinions should be laid on giving boys as much sex education as is given to girls.
That prejudice wouldn't exist solely against male offenders if female offenders were reported more often.

The stigmatization didn't just start one day. It started with countless reports and reports of molest cases.I'd bet it would have been balanced stigmatization if boys reported sexzual abuse too as often.

But how will they when no one paid them the same attention when it comes to discussing sexx issues.? They are basically allowed to be 'MEN'.sexxually unhindered and unfettered.

Parents are to blame really.
Maybe men aren't that more sexually aggressive like we are made to believe just that they've been allowed to grow unchecked.

How then do we turn around and blame those who are wary of their 'expected' sexual attitude?
When I was a growing girl,I was taught that getting close to a boy could get me pregnant instantly and ruin my life forever.
Needless to say,I closed my legs very tightly.

I watched my younger brother grow and he wasn't told that getting close to a girl would get the girl pregnant.he wasn't even told to be wary of girls.

Like I said before,we are reaping the results of our double standards.


BABE3: Would you let a woman take care of your little son at that very young age?
My bad, you've answered the question.

So in a nutshell, males are more sëxually aggressive than females. We're getting somewhere.

If a female is actually molesting a child, we'd still count it as "caring". It's only when it's super aggressive that people start taking notice.


For a male, however, any form of touch is counted as molesting because of the prejudice we already have.

It's very hypocritical and sexist. What's all the equality talks when men are stigmatized by you females ?
Family › Re: Father Quits $2 Trillion Firm Because Of Daughter! by cococandy(f): 10:09pm On Sep 26, 2014
grin
jennykadry: If my dad resigned from such a job because of me, I will disfather him.

My handing him that list is not for him to stop doing what he loves doing but for him to take out time and spend quality time with me or better still buy me a range rover sport 2015 and I will stop writing list.
Family › Re: She Doesn't Wear Her Wedding Ring Cos Her Husband Removed His Own by cococandy(f): 10:04pm On Sep 26, 2014
Now you're speaking from both sides of your mouth.
First you say control over his wife is all a black man has and take that away he's nothing.

Now you're saying real men let their women do the controlling.

E be like say your mission na to confuse me this night.
Abi you dey club for portharcourt typing under the influence of henessy?

I give up angry
Truckpusher: Real men do not put down their wives to feel on top ,it's the other way round because men are the sleeping warrior.

Real men let their women do the control but always give compliments to solidify their control over other men.
If you want to control other men,unleash your woman while pulling the strings.........THE NUMBER ONE RULE FOR EVERY GREAT MAN THAT EVER LIVED. wink
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 10:00pm On Sep 26, 2014
OP wetin dey worry you? sad angry

Yes I had a male teacher when I was in nursery school. Many schools do. Kini big deal?
From daycare you've entered teaching.
So should we all delete our posts?
Family › Re: Having Or Being A Male Nursery Teacher: Your View by cococandy(f): 9:51pm On Sep 26, 2014
BABE3: The incidences aren't higher. They just don't get reported as much. You said so yourself.

Even if they're reported; its not taken as a big deal since we're made to believe females can't harm children.

Would you feel comfortable with a woman taking care of your little son?
Don't underestimate societal hype.
I won't lie that I'm not a victim of such mind positioning.
So yes before now I'd probably be more comfortable with a female taking care of my son than a male taking care of my daughter.

But with increasing awareness of male kids molest cases,I may have to start fearing for the safety of my male child too.
We learn everyday.


For most people it may not even be because they don't think females can harm male kids,it may be more because everyone is more concerned about sheltering the female child(sexually)
If female molest cases get reported more,then invariably everyone feels males commit the molest offense more. I can't put stock in news I never or rarely ever heard.so can you blame them or do you blame those who choose not to report?

Why is it that males' molest cases don't get reported much?

Is it that the boys don't mind being molested?

Or that the parents have failed to teach them that anyone touching them inappropriately is wrong?
But same parents will rather concentrate on 'cocooning' the girls as they are the ones who are 'meant to be pure and sexually reserved'?

I think we are reaping a direct effect of such double standards.

You're of the school of thought that women have more to lose by engaging in sexual acts than males.
So I'd wager you carry your daughters like eggs and drum the sealed legs message into their ears while not giving the boys the same conditions.

Hence even small boys may not see it as a big deal if an older female touches them wrongly.
Hence they don't report more often.

With only the cases of female molest making the air waves,do you blame those who are more afraid for their daughters than their sons?
Family › Re: She Doesn't Wear Her Wedding Ring Cos Her Husband Removed His Own by cococandy(f): 9:28pm On Sep 26, 2014
Well then following your line of thought,I'd say the problem is with you guys and not us right?
But a man who let's go of the domineering attitude and the sick need to control usually reaps most of the benefits of a marriage and at the same time realizes he has more going for him than a need to put someone(his wife) down to feel on top.
Truckpusher: Accept the truth and feel the pain of the black man ,look through my eyes right now and you'll understand why lots of folks breath fire when you ladies speak up.
Though the women speak the truth but the truth is bitter.........Is the Blackman really ready for what their women want?

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