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EfemenaXY:

It's interesting reading the comments from most of the hardlined advocates vying for more men working with pre-schoolers (3 month olds - 2 years), who incidentally, aren't yet parents themselves.

All easier said than done sha. Afterall, at the end of the day, it's just words, innit?

edwife: Gbam do me i do you

Truckpusher: The average Blackman has been so battered that all he holds dearly in his control is his woman .Take that away and the average Blackman is nothing.
My question is : Do you ladies really want these battered men to put up with what the west under globalization has to offer ?

Think, my friend.

Truckpusher: Sometimes, as a leader ,you dictate.
It's all for the good of everyone that's involved.

Excess freedom for everybody is bad, someone need to be in charge ,but wisely with love and a listening ear.

Truckpusher: Tell them.
You can never have two captain in one ship
If the woman is the captain let the man obey the rules but if it's a clear cut situation that the man is the captain then let the weaker vessel lay low.

3cycle: but the UK guy, Those ones re just too aggressive.
Smh

Truckpusher: smh.
And here I'm thinking you're the one after years of fruitless efforts.
Abeg, where are my exes?

Chillisauce: Welcome to Nigerian marriage . Prison . Wedding ring to scare off guys? No be small thing.

carefreewannabe: I don't dispute your experience either. I hope you know.

Even IF majority of men isn't good at it, the minority who is qualified and willing to do so should not be discriminated against.
I welcome these men as a chance.

carefreewannabe: What makes you think so?

Sagamite: Grow up, woman.

BananaBender: I am not assuming anything. In fact, I am not accussing you of the above.

At times, my 'you' doesn't mean the person I'm talking to, it's more in general sense.

Plus the issue you brought up isn't a reason not to have male care-givers. If you already know that females can also be child molesters, why exactly is the 'situation' you brought up a problem?

You didn't have to ask me to "look at it this way" because you could have solved the issue yourself. As far as I'm concerned that is not a problem.

BananaBender: It is not prejudice that the school must require 'trust' and extensive background check for a male care-giver even when the same isn't required for female care-givers? Then, what is it??

Why are you acting like the only job of a care-giver is cleaning 'bum-bum'?? If the child has a problem with it, why can't the female care-givers be asked to clean her butt?

You guys aren't worried about female care givers cleaning your boy's butt or requiring that only male care-givers can clean the buttocks of the male kids. Why is that?

What if the male care-givers are gay, does that change anything?

coogar: ok, let's agree to disagree.....

coogar: do monogamous men sleep with only their wives? same risks apply - the difference between a polygamist & a monogamist is the honesty & the transparency the polygamist man has. the fact that a man is monogamous doesn't mean he's not dipping his sausage elsewhere.

and the fact that it is a monogamous union gives me the right to take necessary action against him for breach of contract




one can't say all monogamous men are honest with their wives as well. the same danger exists in both settings & this is exactly why i said there's nothing wrong with both systems if everyone is honest......the people are the problem, not the system.

if ideally everyone is honest,I would still have a problem with polygamy. Because my husband is honestly 'fvcking' another woman. Naa. Can't accept that with open eyes



if i understand you correctly.....you would choose a monogamous man that cheats over a polygamist that cheats?

but of course yes.even though none of both is desirable to me but if ti comes to chose one or die. You know what my choice is..



by the same token, there's no guarantee that a monogamous man will keep to his one & only wife. there are more cheating monogamous men than cheating polygamists.

I know this is fallacy. I could try argue it with you but none of us can actually state for sure that we are right on this particular issue. So I'll let it go

polygamists don't have a double-headed pënis......they are exactly the same as the monogamous men apart from the fact that they are more honest about their urges towards women.

and also more insensitive and selfish. Yea.

if the society via christianity didn't make polygamy a social stigma, 99% of the men practising monogamy today would all be polygamists. so many of the men you see today are just keeping up with the joneses - if they were born in another part of the world where polygamy is widely accepted, they would be polygamists!

yea but they are not and some are still faithful to their vows.

Leave talk coogar I know we won't agree on this matter.
Just know that there's no comparison between the two.

BananaBender: *sigh*

I don't even see the point anymore, I'm done.

coogar: i wouldn't advise anyone to stay with a cheat. that decision belongs to the aggrieved party to make by him/herself



it's not comparable how?
so a man that is honest with his motive - tells the first wife he's found another woman he would like to bring home is worse than the one that lies to his first wife he's having conferences across the country while bunking with another woman secretly?

craziebone: i left on page 4 and page 4 was yesterday, friday. I had to report even though, i had nothing to do all through yesterday. That gave me some time to spend on NL. I don't have that privilage all the time.

As for the Feminism i said started 50years ago, i still stand by my word with all confidence. Feminism as an ideology has only being around for only about 50years. The fact i said we are in the 3rd wave of it should tell you that i know about your own ideology.

Btw, i am no feminist hater. I am only against the excesses of it as well as the their thinking that they know it all and have the monopoly to bully others who do no agree with them. I am here to stop the indoctrination of young girls and boys as well a wrong education of the boy child on his personality, sexuality, psychology and his place in the universe. I am doing this in a world where saying or believing something contrary to misandrist mantra, is seen as backward and uncivilized hence, their hostility towards you. They are so quick to remind you that "this is 21st century".

coogar: and if he imports HIV or HPV for you, what then? how do you reverse HIV?

pickabeau1: Coco!
Im not twisting your words oooo

You find transgender people weird yes?.. a liberal cause too far..?

But they are all under one umbrella .. LBGTQ (Lesbian Bisexual Gay Trans Queer)

All one big rainbow





Exactly... live and let live

We are all agreed

coogar: rather than have a husband cheating, is it not better for him to bring the other woman home & marry her legally?
!

Godmystrength: it is not my business how someone decides to live his/her life o. whether gay, lesb, transgender etc. as long as they don't come to mess with my OWN life.

craziebone: i just do not have the time and the energy to carry on the debate if not, i would have debunked all the myths being peddled here by those who just think almost everyone is ignorant about gender issues.

@cococandy, all i can say is that you are mistaken on several things you said. But like i said, i just don't have the time and energy to discuss things now.

pickabeau1: why do u smh for them.. are u also a bigot like cococandy who tolerates gays but not transgender
prior to gender assignment the sex was differet from the gender

Before i was male in a female body

Cut Cut Snip Snip - no bawbie,

Now im a mae inside male outside..

All iz well