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JasonIbori:
"While the pregnant woman is said to have two children with a former husband before she married the deceased."

Some men are the major cause of their misfortunes... But unfortunately for Edafe Unuakpor he lost his own life in the process.

What will Edafe Unuakpor tell me and the host of Heavens that he sees in an irresponsible hot headed divorcee who has already dropped 2 kids before the age of 22? Was he less of a man to get a beautiful single lady for himself??

Allowing a weak pregnant woman butcher you like a Fulani herdsman is a sin against the order of Heaven.

Viknat:
How a single man dey marry who don marry before wey come divorce still surprise me. Guys these days are simps. Real simps. None of my kids go marry who don marry before.

nathaniel27:
at 22 she's already a divorced with 2 children
and the mumu yahoo boy no use him head
he use him hand invite death

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv


No pity and bleeps given towards the dead..
You go marry single mother of two ?? if we tell una say this single mothers are toxic and bitter Feminist ladies una go say we be patriarchy FC..
seem am.. the useless boy go marry a pained evening newspaper that has 2 children, now she dn kill the idiot..
Rest in hell Kid..
for your likes that won't learn, Single mothers go deal with them tire..

Na wetin Baba Pete Edochie been dey talk yesterday, say men of their generation are Weaklings, funny enough na the men abuse am for that talk pass sef.. now see this idiot now, em dey awake no be say em dey sleep, na em pregnant woman machete am die, na em type dey believe say Never raise your hand on a woman no matter what.. nonsense talk.. if you like get quadruple belle, instead wey you go attack me and kill me then later go free and start fucking around, I go kill you and those children in your belle join and go to jail.. I rather be the Oppressor than be the oppressed, likewise be the Manipulator than the manipulated ..
Guys .. Luminouz, Martinez39s, Caveadullam, Skepticus, Glycolysiss..
see wetin we dey always preach.. this boys no go learn sha..

DEMZEE:
Women live in a bizarre world

Men live in reality

DEMZEE:
That's a fallacy

At least our foundation of family is not that bad as compared to the west

Western women are the most miserable and loneliest women in the world especially the unmarried and successful ones. This is pure fact.

That's why their civilization is dying, they are now doing transgenderism SMH!!

sandygechy:
I want to understand something.Which wife should prepare breakfast and lunch? Same wife taking care of triplets without a housemaid? Odiegwu....

erico2k2:
Cos the joy a child brings is unimaginable, you got to have one to understand it!
having a child is a miracle,so waking up to do any of the things you were asking about is not seen as a job or help rather you have butterflies doing em!

erico2k2:
have you had a child B4??

DEMZEE:
U prioritize alpha bleeps short term in ur 20s and end up with a beta bucks long term in ur 30s

Most modern ladies don't wanna marry early in their 20s again.

The thing is men and women's sexual mating strategy is kinda adversary. But in a gynocentric society like the west, the women are the ones controlling their men's sexual mating strategy and the result is high rate of divorce and a sharp decline of people choosing to get married.

DEMZEE:
U know it's the truth

U can't fight nature

DEMZEE:
But u women can hoe around in ur 20s ryt

DEMZEE:
Women and men show love differently

A man can Bleep many chics and still love only one. A woman can't once she bleeps another dude outside her main guy, she's already done with that her main guy

Women show love through fidelity
Men show love through sharing of his attention, resources, commitment and time.

Men can dissociate emotions from sex, women can't!!!

Apination:
Women who still think they are equal to men are just deluded. The society is not kind to women, your fellow women will put you down first when you are found wanting, even the ones advising you to do all you did. The day you move out, another takes your place and if you think it's easy to live alone as a divorced woman try am see

Kingcalls:
U should understand the rule of the person that provides dictates.... most women are dependent on men , thats y women hardly or don't leave their very rich husband when he cheats ... a man providing for a woman and he cheats and the woman leaves, who will regret it more?? Many women will b at his doorstep waiting so long as money de.... if she retaliated and cheats and he decides to send u packing , oyo for u... its almost like an employer employee status ... the bigger one will always get away with what they want

thinkmoney:
The man fall my hand...lesson learnt is not to expect too much from celebrities.
So the man should be allowed freedom to bring disease home? Selfish

Neddstark:
Let them leave if they want. Only 30% of women who leave their husbands ever get to re-marry again. The rest will end up either having defunct sex lives or becoming patronizers of the booming sextoyys market. If they are rich enough they will pay young boys to do the task.
15 years later, they will be regretting, wishing they actually settled things amicably than leaving the marriage.

naijapips04:
Same way they arrived at the internet that is enabling you ask this mumu questions.... science.

erico2k2:
You as a man can never sleep at night when there is a baby in the house, you must wake up. Speaking as a father i can put my hand on my chest and tell you this.

erico2k2:
And how many Hours do you think the man sleeps?

hopefulsoul1:
An average mom dont have 4 hours sleep at a stretch in the first 12 to 18months of birth of a baby let alone 3 babies. OP, your wife is a super woman.
25k isnt enough for 1 baby let alone 3 babies including the OP's wife and OP. Oga, dont let her have a mental breakdown, i hope youre involved in the home other than go to work and come back. That woman needs HELP! At least, give her 40k with petting oh, and help her out at home too. Double your hustle pls, 55k isnt much for a family of 5 pls, God will intervene. Appreciate her and see her become the babe you chased earlier.


Hope you guys have a sure family planning in place, cos na quadruplets fit follow oh.

thelish:
Maybe they will use her salary to pay a minder for the kids....
Some people with "why is the wife not working "

Jossyfine:
Op you are not stingy but all you and your wife needs to do is proper planning. You have to stop eating out. Once you've gotten ur salary, sit down with ur wife and draw a plan. Eg:
After removing your Mum's 10k,ur 5k savings. Then the 40k should be planned on very well.
Nice
What kind of food are you feeding ur triplets? You
can buy raw maize (joro and dawa) soak and grind to process pap.
But she needs to buy peak powder milk (peak 123)about 3 tins, this should last a month.

If your kids are up to 6 months, you can introduce semi solid food like beans, draw soup and light swallow garnished with fish.
If your wife is not working, then she has to try and prepare breakfast for you to eat before leaving for work,or better still she can be packing lunch for you to stop you from spending on food in ur work place. Then when you get home in the evening, you eat dinner, this will help a lot in salvaging your finances.

She can locate the nearest bush market in your area to be buying food stuff you guys will be needing in a month.

Please, you can manage and increase her monthly upkeep to 30k,then persuade her to be making breakfast for you.

And lastly, learn to ignore her ranting and nagging while you encourage her to get something doing if your kids have come of age. you will scale through this phase soon.

Stay positive

Klass99:
@ Veave & Coco,

Which one is poor woman? Who sent her message? When you say young girls/women should embrace a life for themselves first, embrace honest work for honest living first, before delving into marriage and motherhood - fools come after you to say feminists this or feminists that, we are dissing marriage in favour of career.

Whereas that's not the case, it is simply for self preservation to guard against unnecessary suffer head and downward life trajectories, like this woman has gotten herself into. Okay let's even say finding honest work to do was hard to come by......

What about having certain standards as women, which we are not willing to go below like;

1. Never cohabiting with a man you're not married to - I suspect this was part of their saga.

2. Not taking in for a man, until he has respectfully done right by you and your people, in performing the traditional marriage rites.

3. Not doing baby mama tinz and other standards.

I am not one to judge, but the way men and women are conducting themselves in relationships these days is mind boggling, especially the women because we tend to lose more when things go awry. It is hard to empathize with certain people in certain situations abeg!

veave:
Coco leave this guy alone. When someone makes a comment you know if he has first hand experience or not. This one is probably unmarried.

My concern is how they can cope with the meagre amount. And it's not like the children are already big enough to eat garri and soup o

aroundtheearth:
Tell her family she's threatening to abandon you with the kids, which is very selfish and irresponsible of her. Idk how the thought could even cross her mind. She needs to get a job or earning some money via a business of some sort. Providing for your family shouldn't be your sole responsibility, especially with 3 kids.

Kriss216:
So, what is the wife contributing to the family? A man shouldn't care for his mum cos he got married to a senseless lady?

If 50% of the guy's income ain't enough for the wife, then, nothing in this world would be enough for her. She's inconsiderate and she's not a woman to bring happiness in a man's life.

Duru9:
Tomorrow this child will be this (Dangote)
Tomorrow this child will be that (Bill gate)
Y'all forgot that the child can still be (bandits, boko haram, ritualist, kidnapper, cultist)

Make una no de bring the idea of tomorrow child fit be this jare



At OP if she wants to leave you with the kids let her go
Get a sister to take care of your kids for you
Atleast you've got kids already no need to marry again just hustle and make sure you provide for them

Unless you too wan dey useless like their mama

descarado:


Bread here sucks. Very very tasteless. No more buying that thing for my family.

Cococandy, the oster oven is beau Less time and energy saving. Maybe I will get my money's worth afterall. Convention oven tii take over now

descarado:
Got it finally
5 freaking hours. Nothing to say

CsRockefeller:
Some guys dey enjoy sha


You made a man the centre of your world?

Sincerely, I wonder how you ladies do it, I'm not a lady but I have limits to what I do for females or the one I'm in love with. How could you just throw away all reasoning?

It's not just you sha, it's almost all women. Y'all are too easy to bed, I thought this was a myth but my experience has proved otherwise and that's why men don't wanna commit, no value anymore, why should he be a father now when there are dozens girls outside waiting to spread their legs and cook for him even with their own money

Women! Have sense, wisdom will save you, seek it.

Macsjebs:
Nice, woman of virtue

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