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Balderdash

And please let’s stop using “this is Africa” to say things that make no sense.

No disrespect intended

Omihanifa:
I agree with you, but don't also forget that this is Africa and the fact that somebody is your mother doesn't mean she can't harm you. There are so many cases of mothers being behind their children's problem. Either as a result of disagrement over choice of wife or husband or even money or property

That's why am saying he shouldn't just discard what the lady is saying. He should take his time to observe first before arriving at a conclusion.

It's possible that maybe she's been observing a particular trend whenever the man gives his mother money.

She’s not making any sense. Fetish how? Superstitious people and their wahala sha. So if she’s the one to send it, then your mom won’t be fetish with it?

The only thing you need to do is to ensure that you provide for your family very well. You don’t have to make the money you provide for your mom go through her first.

Drenimarcus:
Pass me the connect please

click on the link

Air fryer chicken and French fries

Kale salad and Asian style fried rice

White rice, beef pot roast and roasted vegetable stew

Rice noodles, fried plantains and chicken wings

Pork chop on a bed of mushrooms and bell peppers, jollof and green beans

White rice and sauce

I eat a lot of rice

Seafood paella with kale salad

armyofone:
This mountain that's half a mile anove me na chop and sleep on a raining day in Seattle. well done!

Singing
Oh belly - you can help me move this mountain...singing move this mountain...ummmm move this mouuuuttttainnnn!

Lmao.

The Seattle rain sha

Oshe3084:
Go for occult blood test in a laboratory

it’s obvious blood. No need for occult test

pozehnani:
Eerrmmm...... Ok. You win. But God instituted marriage Sha.

Mmm.

pozehnani:
"Go ye into the world, replenish it and multiply" is a statement of command na?

which word in that sentence means marriage?

I would argue that it’s feminist to live the life you (as a woman) want on your own terms.

Before feminism, dads collectively decided for you when and to whom you could get married to. Your mom usually has little say in the matter. And you definitely had no say.

Daughters were for father’s economic gain.
You couldn’t decide if you wanted to pause marriage and obtain a degree first.
If your marriage would expand your father’s empire today, then you’re getting married today. No if’s and buts.

So love, the right to not get married if you don’t want to, is feminist AF. And we all love it . That ability to make that choice for yourself.

Klass99:
You just described me and I love dogs too, but do not have one yet. I am also certain we are not neighbours.

Believe it or not, there are women like me and her, who do not have that maternal desire at all, it's not pretence, it's not spiritual, it's not feminism and it's not medical or health related either. We just do not desire children.

To answer your question/topic of the thread - marriage and children are life choices, not goals or achievements we all have to meet in order to unlock happiness or the adult phase of our lives. I saw this on NL some time ago and I absolutely agreed with it then and still do.

pozehnani:
Well... Since the Bible commands it, it's compulsory.

For me personally, if you can't find someone you're happy with, don't go into it because you'll still jump out or end up being miserable.

It's not a do or die affair. I'm single and very happy with peace of mind that most married people don't have as a result of the kind of marriage they find themselves.

I don’t think the Bible commands it. But you can prove me wrong sha

Ndi polygamy

salford1:
This man eventually shot himself in the foot due to his sick obsession on another man's wife.

that’s how they are. People like him.
Can’t keep their mouths off those who want nothing to do with them.

Let’s hope he stumbles on a rock on his way out.

He sound like he’s the European version of Rush Limbaugh. Trashy racist insensitive old white man.
Bye.

Such a beautiful house

Hathor5:
Exactly!

I know a couple who have been married for more than half a century with no children because one of them and they won't say which one can't have children. I am biased to say it is probably the man but I don't know. However, I never knew that infertility was a legitimate reason to divorce your spouse.

Yup it’s probably the man. if it was wifey’s issue, another woman would already be in the picture by now.
They hardly endure the things they expect their wives to be okay with.

Or Maybe he’s the one in a thousand who would. Who knows

If the man can ACTUALLY do the work of a stay-at-home partner, then I don’t see why not. As long as they both agree on it.

But in most cases, the woman would end up with double the work. Sole breadwinner and home keeper.

I always 100% advocate both sides pitching in on whatever is needed to keep the family going. No strict roles as in if the designated partner is unable to do it for some reason, the other partner will not do it (even if they can) just because it’s not their role. That’s messed up IMO.

The men who did that may they never know peace. Heartbroken for this lady

Shameless father

emperorshaokahn:
you are not just a farm tool but a dumb one at that,show me where or when iweala or mrs johnson have ever identified themselfs as ''feminist''?.so every successful women is automatically a feminist?.first of all feminism is a leftist political ideology that has much marxist/socialist influnce,most if not all conservative/rightwing women dont want to have anything to do with feminism,feminism is just another liberal nonsensical experiments,and i dont expect any serious african women to identify herself as a feminist.

die mad

Rocktation:
May I remind you that this OP's passion to support the feminism movement, was fed by the inability of his dad to demonstrate enthusiasm, when it comes to allowing his woman to exude any of the good qualities he mentioned? Of course, no one ever accused men, especially africans, of a willingness to accept that they oftentimes only audio-want logical, intelligent, smart and all the other attributes from their women, that they can barely handle, due to some hierarchical ascendancy, passed down from their ancestors. A lot of Nigerians are walking stereotypes. Or you yourself, in all honesty, can you allow an Okonjo Iweala type of wife, to blossom in "your house"? Leaving you with the baby and no soup in the house, to attend some summit in Holland, being opinionated as to where you should settle..and the works... Reaaally?

As the OP has tacitly suggested, there is a thin line between challenge and quarrel.

Don’t mind them. That’s the definition of bad woman to the average Nigerian. Putting her career before the man’s egusi soup cravings. How dare she?.

Those who use the okonjo-iweala family as an example of women who still succeed despite the “fake oppression” are never honest enough to tell themselves the truth. That they will be the first to condemn any woman who sacrifices what that woman had to sacrifice to get to where the family is.

A man who lets his woman soar like her husband did would be a simp by their definition. But now that the family is successful, they want to use her to score their foolish insincere points

They all know the horrors of war yet they are doing little to nothing to ensure that peace’s reigns.

Mikester:
[color=navy]And so what? Aren't you a slut? [/color]

Yes I am.

Now that it is out of the way, what do you have to say about the topic that is not related to my vagina?

Kelvin3476:
IS OKONJO IWUALB A FEMINIST? IS ELLEN SIRLEAF A FEMINIST? IS ALAKIJA A FEMINIST ? U SURELY WILL LIE ON UR BED THEY WAY U MAKE IT. EVERY SLAY QUEEN HERE ,AND THERE WILL BE TALKING ABT FEMINISM WHILE U FAIL BACK AS AN UNEQUAL WOMAN WHEN STRANGE THINGS EVOLVES.

Why did you resort to caps lock? Is it to make it louder?

Yes the women you’re talking about are feminists. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t feel free to plan a life and career of their own. Feminism gives them that choice. To do what they wish with their lives. It’s simple

Mikester:
[color=navy]Listen to this cheap hoe [/color]

The nurturing patriarch resorts to one of the known and stale tools of the patriarchy. Slut shame any woman who doesn’t agree with you.

Of course