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9jaRealist:
Meanwhile, Nigerian men are known for their truthfulness and probity...
Unfortunately, these are the sorts of crude MISOGYNY most Nigerian women have to deal with. SMH
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Zane2point4:
The moment they started penning down and setting rules on how to handle joint money, i knew the relationship had thrown in the towel.

She could hv given a little more, also a good woman stops the man frm careless spending even if she know he is a careless spender. And vice versa.

Trust me they're too many responsibilities hanging arnd a man's neck, its never too easy, they earn the same pay but its very easy for a man to go broke if he doesnt manage blc of too many bills hanging arnd him, so its understandable why his money finishes before next pay day.
Even if u wana be frugal with your spending, at a point as a man you cant simply run away from them. If village ppl no call you, your family will, if family no call you, relatives will, your levies abi dues still deh everywhere deh wait.

OrdinaryNigeria:
Not really, they ve high tendency to lie to attract pity.

Men dont really lie over pety things, except if its cheating.

Imagine a woman telling, if not for her I wouldn't have gone to school. And we met long after I graduated.

OrdinaryNigeria:
2 of u, abandon ship.

This marriage is not do or die.

Women too get mouth, if u check all she wrote, 70% are lies or highly embellished.

Jus go separate ways.

Am married to a woman like this too, I don't know how to escape

Iamafinegirl:
Nope. I was a virgin waiting to Bleep only him as we were planing a wedding this year.
I was scared he would use and dump me like most men do

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss

armyofone:
Not too much. Living in a good community is great idea and cost more... rent 2000 or more or mortgage 4000 or more such community.

pocohantas:
NO IT DOESN’T. In fact, I LOVE OLD AGE and I look forward to menopause.

I have made peace with the changes that come with it and also death. It is all a cycle of life. I am not scared of aging, I am not scared of dying.

I love the older me and I love the friends I have made in my old age. I love some decisions I have made, I hate some and I am correcting some. In all, I am more concerned with quality of life and love, makes it easier to enjoy old age.

I understand I am getting older and I watch the things that go into my body because I don’t want to be sicky-sicky, I just wanna sleep and have a peaceful transition. If you know what I mean...

Recently I don’t eat a lot of things and everyone is shocked, like when did this one start. I used to be someone that loves skimpy wears, anyone that knows me would know this, but now all my miniskirts and bum shorts are just there. I do more of maxi gowns now.

I am more confident in my natural looks. I haven’t worn makeup in months, decided to glam up last week and once again, I was asked if all is well. All is well na!

There is nothing wrong with aging, it is a blessing, except of course the person wants to die young- as we all know there is no in between. Embrace it.

Lagoon0:
It baffles me that women can't take Care of themselves after break up. Were they created to be fed?

Sixfeetbelle:
Somehow your post implied that men are decidedly good and that women are the ones who need to be sifted.

Not every man 'wishing' to settle down actually deserves a good woman by his side.

seborrhic:
The marriage is already threatened because the Op has stuck to a mentality I still don't understand where it arose from:this spiritual attachment to the placenta in Nigeria.
If anything bad happens to him or he has any kind of challenge he would attribute it to the mother-in-law and claim that was what she used the placenta for,'tying his destiny'.
Any fly that buzzes round his ear,any stone he mistakenly kicks and every financial/life challenge now has a ready made cause,his destiny buried with the placenta.
This is a union headed to the rocks,harsh as it may sound.

Incognito403:
The kind of comments on this thread shows the kind of toxic mentality many people men have.

justosee:
The world would have been a better place without women .

9jaRealist:
Are both of you really that clueless not to realize that she already has a line of luxury handbags, scarves, accessories and perfumes?

Heck, it even says so in the OP. Instead, just as the typical crude and uncouth Nigerian MISOGYNIST, there’s the usual obtuse drivel reserved for many successful Nigerian female as being in the “olosho business”, ignoring the fact that she’s an OAP, author of a published and relatively well-received book, and was only about a year ago (just before the onset of the Covid pandemic) invited by the Harvard Business School to discuss the media and creative BUSINESS in Africa. When the neighborhood commercial academy invite either of you to come make a presentation selling pure water, please wake up. Such petty small-mindedness. SMH
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Testimony988:
My mum and uncle don't care about that... all the care about his money... He is been taking advantages of my family because he knows they are so greedy... I don't blame him but I blame my shameful family

Bvlgari:
i think so too except for the internet $450

pocohantas:
Lol. It is the “high value male” for me. Person no hear word that period o. There was a very silly one that took it a step further. That one was going about the whole politics section, telling them how a high-value-Afonja married an Igbo girl (Chioma). I am once again intrigued at how quickly they have changed mouths.

As for the duo, they are adults and should do what is best for them and their child. I am not surprised with any of this, but Davido would finally calm down and hook up with his most loyal babymama. If it would be Chioma is what I don’t know.




Just what I typed!!

signature2012:
Isn't this too much for monthly expenses?If you spend this in a month,you have to net atleast $10k monthly.

Jakumo:
Dang, dude, you sound so angry and bitter. Please, good sir, enjoy your 48-year old wife, who is so young at heart. At least bear in mind thar you must NEVER glance at, or think about, any sweet young woman aged 23, with all her feminine attributes in full bloom, otherwise a delegation of Nairaland vigilantes will be forced to REPORT your impure thoughts to your wife, who will then impose brutal sanctions as punishment.

Got breast Nigeria !

1Sharon:
Thank you.

And where are all the ppl that were mocking Sophia? When Davido made Assurance.

Now Chioma is the one being mocked.

Life is funny.

Bvlgari:
As we all know, living overseas is very enjoyable but u must pay for those things unfailingly every month

This brings me to my question...

How much do u spend on your bills monthly overseas?

Pls note that it may vary from country to country

As for me, this is my breakdown spendings every month

1: house rent $ 400
2: grocery shopping $ 150
3: electricity $ 25
4: water $ 10
5: internet $50
6: gas $5
7: car fuel $ 50
8: kid school $ 150
7: miscellaneous $ 200

Total $ 1040 monthly

Pls kindly let use know yours because our people in Nigeria don't ever understand and they always demand and demand from us thinking there is a tree overseas that we pluck money from...and they pay pay their rent yearly o

May God bless our hussles

pocohantas:
Stop it

I am surprised though. Always thought he is anything but a bottom.