Health › Re: Men’s Sex Organs Are Shrinking Because Of Phthalates Chemicals, Pollution by cococandy(f): 9:19pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
Hmmm |
Family › Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by cococandy(f): 6:09pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
armyofone: In addition, that you are nagging them for asking for their help in the kitchen after putting in 100 hours of work outside the home  don’t mind them. They can’t decide what they want |
Travel › Re: My Trip To New Orleans, LA | Foodie Tour, WWII Museum & Whitney Plantation by cococandy(f): 6:06pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
Mstravelindiva: Yes, my hotel was one block away from French Quarters. awesome . I bet it took some of the gloom away from that Whitney experience. Thanks for sharing |
Travel › Re: My Trip To New Orleans, LA | Foodie Tour, WWII Museum & Whitney Plantation by cococandy(f): 5:23pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
OP did you go to French quarters? |
Family › Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by cococandy(f): 4:50pm On Mar 25, 2021*. Modified: 6:07pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
What were you people’s agreement on responsibility? Some family are strictly traditional where the man provides and the woman is the home keeper. In that case, what she makes from her job is really not for you to know or what she does with it either. As long as she’s faithfully keeping her side of the bargain and you’re keeping yours as well, peace should reign. Or so it seems.
But what we normally have these days are people (husbands) who want a traditional wife but can’t keep their eyes of her money. If you ask them to do some of the wifely duties, they will say you’re insulting them, emasculating them and the devil is using you to break up the home.
A true realistic marriage should not be rigid in roles and responsibilities. It never works in really life to be so rigid and unshakeable about who does what. Resentment always sets in at some point. Everyone should help each other. Imagine if she brought her income home without hiding. Maybe that house would be completed by now and both of you would be landlords. |
Crime › Re: I Consented To Sex Because I Like Doing It - 12 Year Old Tells Court by cococandy(f): 4:29pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
What kind of conversations are you having with a 12 year old that made her comfortable to ask you that?  Chigold101: I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, but a 12 years old girl once asked if I could take her to cloud 10. Fear gripped me and she called me a weak man. I accepted the name and ran for my life. But till now the shock is making me to shiver anytime I remember that incident.
So before you accuse people think twice |
Crime › Re: I Consented To Sex Because I Like Doing It - 12 Year Old Tells Court by cococandy(f): 12:23pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
Doesn’t matter. You’re still a child |
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 11:33pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
armyofone: Quite interesting! I'm never into zodiac.
I need to look into it now...maybe consult it when i wake up  Oh Zod, tell me about today  Zod, can i eat fried plantain or plantain amala today? Zod, what wine from cococandy's cellar should I dine with today?  |
Romance › Re: Was It The Sex That Killed The Relationship? by cococandy(f): 11:14pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
franchasng: Nigerian guys have suffered in the hands of Nigerian girls, no wonder the hatred for Nigerian girls is rising daily, we thank God there is gun control in Nigeria, na everyday we for de hear mass shooting for where ladies gather in Naija  look at the nonsense you are joking with |
Romance › Re: Was It The Sex That Killed The Relationship? by cococandy(f): 11:11pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
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Family › Re: My Wife No Longer Eats With Me But Her Mother by cococandy(f): 2:55pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
mariahAngel:

I doubt op would want that...He doesn't seem like the sharing type 
A very possessive human being if you ask me  LadySarah:
 Aww,he misses his wife.Some couple hardly eat without each other.I guess Op is one of them.
Just tell her you miss eating with her.She can rotate,morning with mom night with you.She's just trying to bond with her mom .Who knows when next she'll come? If hers is like mine that visits only for Omugwo every 3 yrs only to stay for 3 weeksthen endure. It feels strange. Like why can’t they eat at the same time on the same dining table? Does the wife sneak off with her mom to go eat somewhere where the man is not allowed to come? So many questions. It’s cute though that this is the only problem they are having (I hope). I’m now used to reading worse and weirder marriage stuff on here. These ones no get problem at all. |
Family › Re: My Wife No Longer Eats With Me But Her Mother by cococandy(f): 2:33pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
CuteMercury: Please what happened to i am not spoilt, my husband just love me. In your profile? Are you single now? If yes then i will be happy to take over. Biko no insult o, it's just a friendly question. I’m an evening newspaper. A depleted after two. You really don’t want me. |
Family › Re: My Wife No Longer Eats With Me But Her Mother by cococandy(f): 2:31pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
Gloriagee: Ndi monitoring spirit! It's a really friendly question to project marriage break up from personal text? Dont come for me, I've removed my hearing aids  |
Crime › Re: Autopsy Shows Corper Ifeoma Abugu, Killed By Police, Was Strangulated by cococandy(f): 2:23pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
AFONJACOW: Can we see her mutilated private part, please add little graphic on it disgusting swine |
Crime › Re: Autopsy Shows Corper Ifeoma Abugu, Killed By Police, Was Strangulated by cococandy(f): 2:21pm On Mar 23, 2021 |
What’s the difference between them and their rapist brothers and friends? Is it the uniform? Why is this shocking? They are only doing what they normally do; in and out of uniform. So people acting shocked are the fools here.
My mom told me never to go to a police station if I find myself stranded and in need of help. A woman is more likely to get hurt by a bunch of guys (even the familiar ones). than if she seeks help from a strange woman.
May she Rest In Peace. |
Politics › Re: Lifestyle Audit: Nigerians Flaunting Lifestyles They Can’t Afford To Be Probed by cococandy(f): 6:51pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Start from govt officials who own property that their salary can’t afford |
Family › Re: My Wife No Longer Eats With Me But Her Mother by cococandy(f): 6:38pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Or all of you can eat together at mealtimes. I guess |
Crime › Re: Man Beats His 14-Year-Old Housemaid For Refusing To Have Sex With Him In Lagos by cococandy(f): 5:14pm On Mar 22, 2021*. Modified: 3:22am On Mar 27, 2021 |
ShaqFu: Like you're in my mind to know what makes me comfortable and what doesn't? Please stop assuming.
I brought it up because some of you women, always make it seem all men are rapists, and prone to all forms of sexual abuse against women.
Is it a wonder when men or little boys get sexually abuse by women, we don't see you and your likes with your only women get abused or women are more abused than men in such threads?
Bottom line, sexual assault or abuse of any kind is wrong, whether it was done by a male or a female, it's still wrong. ShaqFu: Imagine this narrow minded response coming from you!.
There are enough men who sexually assault women so by this lopsided logic of yours. Imagine you saying "it doesn't matter if it's not all men".
There are enough men my ass. I'm sure we men should also be concern because there are enough women using Kenya Mata on us just to get their perverse way.
What a way to reason. Tssssk. Too self absorbed to understand that your need to be coddled is not a priority when it comes to others safety. It’s not all men. Yet all women have to be careful. All women have to stay home after dark All women have to dress ‘decently’ to avoid tempting you guys. Oh I meant to say “some of you guys” It’s not all men, yet all women have to go out with a buddy to ensure their safety. All women have to be careful whom they accept anything from lest it be considered a permission to rape them. All women exist in a world where they are constantly conscious of their actions or inactions so that they don’t get blamed for whatever happens to them. It’s not all men but it’s enough of you men that the rest of you who think you’re “good guys” should be concerned too. But you are not. Instead of shifting the focus to yourself. Instead of making the conversation about pacifying your sense of guilt, you should be talking to other men. Getting involved in understanding how you can help your fellow men to stop denting y’all’s image all over the world. Not all snakes are poisonous but if I see a bunch of snakes coming my way, I’m not waiting around to see which one is going to bite me or not. Unfair to the rest of the snakes I know but self preservation usually hits first. So instead of being upset with people talking about men’s assault on women and trying to single yourself out, reflect on how you can influence your male friends to do better. You may never have raped someone, but someone in your group has. Someone in your group has laughed about it. Someone in your group has joked about it. Someone in your group has blamed the victim once. You are all complicit. 100% complicit. A discussion of women’s safety is not a place or time to make things about you. |
Crime › Re: Man Beats His 14-Year-Old Housemaid For Refusing To Have Sex With Him In Lagos by cococandy(f): 5:04pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
OlayemiAshraf: How many men in your family are behaving like this?? typical gaslighting rape apologist. When the issue is up for discussion, 1) make it about yourself. “But I don’t act that way”. Like your feelings are more important here. 2) when that doesn’t work in making the discussion go away, try to shame the participants so that they will feel shame and then consequently stop talking about it. “Maybe you’ve been raped before” “maybe it’s your family members that are involved”.  And so what if all members of my family behave that way? Does that not put me in a better position to talk about it? You rapists and rape apologists need to do better. The focus is not your feelings . The focus is on women’s safety. GTFOH with your “not all men” BS. If no man in your family or my family has ever sexually harassed or assaulted someone, I bet you some woman in your family and mine has been harassed or assaulted. It’s not ghosts doing it. You guys just refuse to listen. You simply don’t care. It’s people like you and those who try to end the conversation when it comes up that are responsible for this menace.Do better. Rape apologist. |
Crime › Re: Man Beats His 14-Year-Old Housemaid For Refusing To Have Sex With Him In Lagos by cococandy(f): 4:22pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Women are disproportionately the victims. If you cared about sexual violence against males, you wouldn’t only bring it up when women’s abuse is being discussed. You don’t care . You just use it as a distraction from an issue that you hope we stop talking about because it makes you uncomfortable ShaqFu: Yes one man. Mind you men also get raped. This issue of rape isn't exclusive to women or girls alone. Violence or sexual assault isn't mutually exclusive to women and girls alone.
The violence you speak affects everybody in the polity. Men, women, boys and girls. Stop making it seem like women and girls are the only ones on the receiving end.
I never said you spoke generally. I said stop generalizing. Me saying stop generalizing simply mean you should stop saying men are rapists.
Nigeria generally have this abysmal way of how it treats it's citizens, both men and women, boys and girls. |
Crime › Re: Man Beats His 14-Year-Old Housemaid For Refusing To Have Sex With Him In Lagos by cococandy(f): 4:20pm On Mar 22, 2021*. Modified: 5:15pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
OlayemiAshraf: Kindly modify your post and put ""some men"" ..... Abeg not all men are sex nympho it doesn’t matter if it’s not all men. There are enough men behaving this that all women have to be concerned. Focus on that. Your guilt or defensiveness is not what we are catering to right now. But the safety of women. |
Family › Re: How My Igbo Boyfriend's Mother Crashed Our Plan Of Marriage-Adeola by cococandy(f): 3:55am On Mar 22, 2021 |
emfy: ofe mmanu. ..has a wife. mbanu dats one chance u will be far from home(no going to ur village) u can end up being single at the end. she will distance your kids from. seen many examples around especially when things re tough stay clear umu igbo Why are you people like this? |
Family › Re: How My Igbo Boyfriend's Mother Crashed Our Plan Of Marriage-Adeola by cococandy(f): 3:53am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Such an insensitive post. Also full of falsehoods Juliusmalema: Are there no men in Yorubaland again?
Are they all now bobrisky and chef Ayomide that u are looking for an Igbo man to marry.
Inter tribal marriage is a menace to culture and tradition and must be resisted.
The woman knows her reasons and I fully stand with her because what an elder sees while sitting even if that child climbs the tallest Iroko tree, he won't see it.
Which mother will allow flirts , wayward ladies into her home? |
Family › Re: Ok by cococandy(f): 12:12am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Are you a good husband? Self reflect |
Food › Re: Do You Cut Your Vegetables In The Market? by cococandy(f): 11:54pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
I think cutting at home is best. especially if the market environment is not to your liking (like if you feel they are kinda dirty ish or whatever). You know  But if you’ve been cutting in the market and you’re still alive, carry on. Something must kill a man.  |
Food › Re: Do You Cut Your Vegetables In The Market? by cococandy(f): 11:50pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
1Sharon: You're supposed to wash before cutting, if you cut before...you lose the nutrients usually there should still be enough left to nourish the consumer |
Food › Re: Do You Cut Your Vegetables In The Market? by cococandy(f): 11:49pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Look at all that fresh ugu and waterleaf  |
Nairaland General › Re: 6 Yahoo Boys Die In Delta Accident While Celebrating New Lexus SUV (Pictures) by cococandy(f): 10:44pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Those are the songs I always play when I’m driving ; except naira marley  pocohantas: Once they enter that Lexus and start playing Omah Lay , Bella Shmurda, Zlatan or Naira Marley’s song... forget it, they don’t see anything or anyone.
Sometimes I wonder if there is any yahoo boy with sense. Same with runs girls. Like, their code of conduct and dress sense is always the same.
The guys will wear pencil dirty jeans, graphic tee, socks and slippers, now hang one small bag across their shoulders.
The girls will wear colorful ruched dress, those slippers that have fur, fix very long nails and eyelashes. The one wey dey pain me pass na that pink attachment they use to braid their hair. Then their small handbags that can contain only phone.
Can’t they act differently for once?!! Like just lay low!!!! |
Education › Re: FOI: Nigerian Universities Ignore Enquiries On Sexual Harassment Cases by cococandy(f): 9:38pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Ademola47: Media coverage is another harm on its own.
Let sleeping dogs lie and focus on the erring issues that need to be publicised.
Let victims of sexual harassment make their grievances known and leave institutions out of this. let sleeping dogs lie. That’s how they get away with rape |
Education › Re: FOI: Nigerian Universities Ignore Enquiries On Sexual Harassment Cases by cococandy(f): 9:36pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Of course they do |
Family › Re: Angela Nwosu: Why Family Members Of Some Rich People Are Poor by cococandy(f): 7:05pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Cue the entitled folks and those who lack understanding |
Romance › Re: I'm In Love With My Boss At The Office by cococandy(f): 6:58pm On Mar 21, 2021 |
Why are men always looking for who to control? bigpicture001: Op is attracted to her class. Beneath that class there is a person you may not want to b with
Uncontrollable, arrogance,never apologetic, too independent minded, grudge bearing and too principled to a fault person....
Guy! Leave wot u see that is deceiving u, appreciate your gal..I have been there..I dated a boss ( not mine) for about three year...women are the same! |