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ibkayee:
Lool! No not those types of cravings o, not yet anyway

dapsoneh:
MAY WE NEVER BE BE IGNORED BY GOD THE WAY DAVIDO IGNORED AUNTY KEMI

ibkayee:
Thanks for triggering my cravings sigh

OPONG:
Suicide is the best option for her

PDPGuy:
You smart

15ssDRIVE:
Wetting Dey pain me be say,this Man fit Dey run street to put food on the table. Run one ogbonge deal with one cougar,wey be say. Las lass Na you and kids go enjoy the benefits.

Se Jeje.

Slow slow slow

demelza:
Nigerian women be like:

"I discovered he lied about his destination during my first pregnancy. I visited the hospital during my second pregnancy because he was beating me from frustration. He stopped me from getting job. He has another woman who knows everything about my marriage. He has always frustrated all my self-development plans. Am I being scammed? No insults"

Sensible responder:

Aunty watch war room, erect an altar and do 40 days dry fasting with midnight prayers since your destiny is tied to the marriage. Awon I must be Mrs by fire by force.



*Next thread jare*

femi4:
Welcome to our World...Deal with it

fertilewomb:
Nice one.
people that are trying to loose weight shouldn't visit you. You go use food injure them aswear!

egwekwe:
It's emotional when you start attacking people verbally with opposite views on the thread.

It's emotional when you already concluded the husband has another family else where without proof.
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So you want her to leave her husband and suffer?

After three children, you think it's that easy to move on.

You have to consider the Nigeria factor .

She can only build herself up and get her life moving.

Her husband might just be a rigid person with pride and not necessarily cheating

queenfav:
my sister, most of us women see this marriage thing as the Alpha, Omega, Ultimate, be all and end all of life. The moment they marry, it's as if they start living for their husbands without having personal goals and ambition.Whatever the Husband says is final even when it pertains to an opportunity that will improve his wife's life. Tomorrow, the man walks away and she is left to start her life from scratch.
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As a divorce attorney, I see too many women who lived their lives for men who are now so happy to move on from them. Love is very sweet, but women should try to remove small sense and keep somewhere to remind them that "Anything can happen". Have a plan and something going for you in life asides being "Mrs somebody" or "Mama somebody".

egwekwe:
Stop been emotional. I agree that was careless on the husband part and I already edited my post.

This is the wife version.what do you expect her to do? Divorce the husband?

It seems like the hubby is still providing for her and kids.

It's hard to judge family matters without getting all the facts

In the meantime op, you can get a job or something to keep yourself busy .

Build yourself up.

femi4:
Its what it is.....A man has to do just what he has to do

egwekwe:
This is your side of the story.. If we ask your husband I'm sure he'll as his as well .

But as married couple, you're meant to be honest with yourselves.

Your husband might be struggling financially and not able to fund your travelling . Some african man feels egoistic about this type of issue

Anytime he's back in Nigeria, tell him how you feel.. Tell him you're completely fed up and depressed.

His reaction should answer you.

queenfav

You should be able to take decisions that will better your life, because when push comes to shove no man will sit at home or turn down a juicy job because his wife said 'NO'. "Love and honor your husband, but be very wise in marriage"

Anonymous29:
chicken looks crisp on the outside and juicy inside..... hmmm. yummlicious.

Officialgarri:
Mrs Abu, your issue is not one that conclusions could be made hastily.
Infact many wives would have set all hell loose.
I personally would have advised that you should have retailiated by seizing his international passport, or just cause some kind of havoc that will hold him back in Nigeria .... or restrict his freedom

But while I acknowledge and appreciate your tolerance according ''to your own side of the story", it would be easier if we could hear your husband's side of the story.

I mean, there are things you could be doing that's making your hubby abhor and avoid you.

How's your attitude like around him?
Does he complain about you being stubborn?
What exactly has he tried to stop you from doing but you wouldn't listen?

theButterfly:
What sort of wicked man is this?

-Canceled the UAE resident visa of your and your two kids,
-Prevented you from traveling to Canada after passing the IELTS,
-Lied that he was going to the UAE but secretly went to the UK instead,
and has ceased communication with you and the kids since.

You can tell how someone feels about you by their consistent actions towards you and this is one of those situations. From your post, it seems he wants out of the marriage, or perhaps he has another family somewhere. It's also VERY obvious that he cannot be trusted and that he does not want you to succeed in life. I would advice you to start thinking of the way forward for you and your children; start planning your life and that of your children's without him (he has removed himself from the picture anyway) and without telling him a thing/involving him in the plans. Good luck.

hope4nigeria:
sorry madam, your husband is not a serious man, my wife was a banker, when we got tired of house help, I do most of the house work to assist my wife because she leaves for work early and come late, we set up a business which my wife fund 70% with her salary. July this year, the bank lay them of, we expanded the business, she's stay in the shop while I do the supply, we are happy ever after, we don't even need house help anymore because of their attitudes, we gist together and do house chores like we are playing. Nothing is too difficult when we understand each other. I don't know why some men act authoritatively .

queenfav:
Men get away with so much cr.ap. This is why a lot of women are looking twice their age. He resigned from his job and refused to take a lower paying job. The same wife that has been holding the home down financially and taking care of three children is still the one he is making life hell for. This should be a time where either he agrees to a domestic help to make her life easier or he does the chores himself!

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I don't believe in sugar coating things. Op married a very selfish and emotionally abusive man and she just has to manage him like that. Again all these boils down to what a woman agrees to stomach from day one in her marriage!A man only doles out as much cr.ap that he knows you will stomach without standing up for what you want.
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The moment he started making flimsy complains about the helps was when she should have asked him how he expects her to cope with chores, three kids and a job should she fire the help? As a woman, pls marry a man you can talk to, not one u see and cower in fear. Marriage is a partnership, not a master slave relationship! A man who wants his marriage to work will be thinking of how to make life easier for his wife, not watch her work like a horse till she looks like an 85 year old woman!

CHoccolaTE:
See another example of how women keep getting scammed with this marriage crap.

Men will never ever agree that they should be responsible for housework and childcare but ther selfish arrogant asses want women to be co-breadwinners and providers.


Op the lord is your strength. Ask yourself what he himself would do if you were the one sitting at home 24/7 not providing and not doing housework and then demanding that he should not employ house helps. Will he take it in patience and still show you love?
Or better still ask him.
Ask him if he enjoys seeing you get stressed and overworked because of his ego issues.

And the funny thing is that many men in marriages today are living like this because of the bad economy, they depend on their wives for financial support but will stubbornly refuse to help with house chores.

WetSmoke:
Lunch

konkonbilo:
Kia!!!! With all these your food ehn, you go Don full chair remain o

sholay2011:
Chai...this woman!

Prestonn:
Join the table please

Prestonn:
Village kitchen

Fried Rice.