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Your inability to take initiative on your own to save instead you’re waiting for someone to encourage you before you begin. Meanwhile you’re not providing the same encouragement services. That’s my problem

We good?

Flattino:
What’s your problem?

She encouraged you to save. How many did you encourage to save?

zed7:
Beautiful, God bless you. It's not everything that is war of the sexes, most Nigerian girls are leeches. The first lady I met who actually told me how much she had as savings and how she invested over the years, encouraged me to save and trust me I married her and we've been married for over a decade and we've achieved things together.
The others before her were just "wire me money'. It's a shame the way majority of our young girls have become so materialistic.

You’re still ranting

Angry black woman is a phrase coined to silence black women from voicing the injustices that predominantly affects them.

Only the low IQ bimbo will let you tell her how to feel and react about your mistreatment of her.

If you think I’m angry, that’s high praise. Thank you

wetdick:
you are ignorant if you think an "angry black woman" is high praise, you need to read about it and know what it means, i laugh in French.The truth is always "rants" for people who are biased.


let me explain something important to you, your court of public opinion on NL is just based on reputation, revenge, public shaming, and the whims of users here. Having a good story is more important than having the law on your side. Being a sympathetic underdog is more important than being fair. YOUR COURT OF PUBLIC OPINION ON NL IS ALL ABOUT MOB JUSTICE AND REPUTATION AS REVENGE NOTHING MORE THAN DAT.

I know you are the product of the meetoo movement, thinking men are always at fault but nevermind, your plan has been defeated and nothing good can come out of your agenda, we all know how hypocritical people like you are and those other women,your gang prey on rich and powerful men and then frame them up for cash settlement. FRAME A RICH MAN UP AND USE HIM TO GET RICH.

since you have refused to answer any of my questions, i leave you in your ignorance.

It’s not a fact because you said it. If anything,
You saying it removes from it

Martinez19:
They are common.

wetdick:
it wouldnt make sense to you.nothing ever make sense to you.

so you call those people victims of sexual predators, why are they on a documentary instead of the police station filing reports
why are they coming out now, why didnt they file report at the police station after being molested.these women were not babies when anything they claimed happened to them, they put themselves in those situation, they had the opportunity to say no but didnt, suddenly they remember the abuse in 2019, when it becomes fashionable to do so and also ‘promotes’ themselves in the public eye

let us imagine, it was true, we all know how it is going to end, financial settlement or out of court settlement

you are one of the people ridiculing real victims of sexual predators. real victims do not collect cash, they file a report once any molestation or rape happens, you are a hypocrite and a biased person, people like you hate men, they never feel sad when an innocent man is taken down.

what happened to innocent till proven guilty.

all your nonsense has nothing to do with upholding moral, most of it is because you hate men, you are jealous that we have the power , you and your agenda want to take it away from us and feminize us, your agenda wont work, all those ideas that have failed the black community in the US is what you are promoting to us here in Nigeria, what a pity.

you are the real definition of a real masculine and angry black woman.

@bold, indict yourself. Make my point for me. Nothing else to add. That’s the summary your rant won’t let you see.

Any woman (black or white) who isn’t angry at the abuse of power by men is complicit. Calling me angry black woman is high praise.

Nothing you have said makes sense. At best you have shown why victims of sexual predators hardly speak up. The predators know that there will always be people like you to defend them. That gives them courage to believe they will get away with it


Sexual assault exists and thrives because of you and your ilk. It’s that simple

wetdick:
women acting victims in all situations, never have they taken responsibility for any actions, they see male celebrities and get wet in their pants, they make sure they get him, after he has used and dumped them, they start crying foul.

are you the court? you have basically found him guilty before the court. black women are also pawns for white feminists, nothing more, these type of women cry rape after opening their legs for thousands of celebrities to get popular.

all those broke ugly women now trying to get rich. i am sure not a single man is after them, that is why they are depressed and looking for ways to get back at someone that did not take their love seriously, it is not by force.

False rape accusations are not common. Stop spreading falsehood

Martinez19:
No. It is common for women to make false rape allegations. R. Kelly is innocent until proven guilty. If these b*tches are really serious, why are they shoting a documentary to make money and gather fame and sympathy when they could have gone to court? Where are their evidences?

I am concerned about the well being of women. False rape accusers makes real victims not to be taken seriously. That's why we try to fish out false claims. If you care about your fellow women who have been assaulted, you would tackle false claims and slam women who are making and profiting from false rape accusations. Why didn't they take their issue to court?

Rapist

Rextizzle:
Mumu

If they are underage, it’s rape

Even if they threw themselves at him or you.

It’s a really simple concept. I don’t know why it’s too difficult for some men to understand. Underage = rape. Very simple. Simple

franchasng:
Selfish, heartless women being deceived by money mongering men that want to use them to make money

These girls weren't forced, most girls throw themselves at celebrities.

Rape laws need to be revisited all over the world.

If you willingly submit yourself to a man, and he didn't force you, it is not rape!

If you got raped and remain silent for more than 5 years, then it is no longer a rape case.

American and European women are taking advantage of some laws made to protect women and it will sure backfire.

No be only MeToo na WeUs, nansense

prince3009:
I have been a victim of "False Rape Accusation" before and it drained me psychologically and emotionally for years. Painful thing was that the b*tch was even the one who made the passes and i vehemently refused and she conjured a very shameful story of something that never transpired!

I was in total shock when i was apprehended and interrogated. I didn't even know how to start defending myself! Everyone believed her SIMPLY BECAUSE SHE IS A WOMAN...the only person who kept swearing on my behalf was my late mother (May her good and gentle soul continue to rest in the Lord) who said she knew what her son was capable of doing.

I was ostracized by even my younger sister who happens to be a lawyer. But i looked at my accuser and told her something with tears in my eyes...that for accusing me falsely, she and her children (she has 2 kids out of wedlock) will suffer vehemently for it! That very night, i also stripped myself bare and repeated the proclamation under the full glare of the moon!

Fast-forward to 3 years later, i heard her 5 year old son died of a strange ailment that defied all sorts of medications, her 3 year old daughter was sexually molested by a teenager while under the care of her mum in the village which saw her admitted in the hospital for VVF and presently, she is down with HIV (saw her in the hospital where she went to collect her medications during my visit to see a doctor friend) he was the one who told me she was one of the patients who were collecting ARVs from the Heart to Heart Centre. It may be co-incidence or a result of the curses i laid on her but what i really do care about was that karma was served!

I wanted to confront her that day and look into her eyes, laugh at her and ask her how she got her HIV...(probably from being IMAGINARILY RAPED BY ME) but something restrained me from doing that!

I am not alone! So many men are victims of false rape accusations and R-Kelly may probably be one of them! Michael Jackson was not the type who could be seen around women all the time so they used children who he loved and adored to undo him! It was one of the reasons he lived on anti-depressants, anesthetics and pain relievers which largely contributed to his death.

Google the popular case of Brain Banks and see for yourself. Other false rape accusations include but not limited to men like Ed Johnson, Tim Cole, Richard Alexander, Authur Lee Whitfield etc.

I know there are rapists but there are still those who are wrongfully accused of it and may God punish both the rapists and their false accusers!

The accusations against him aren’t false. Don’t let your own personal issue cloud your judgement.

wetdick:
yes, women always acting like victims in all situations

Men enabling abusers in all situations

You’re victim blaming. Because the well being of women means nothing to you

prince3009:
See their worthless faces! Even that old woman who looks like a Chihuahua by the right follow

Attention seeking b*tches who want fame, sympathy and money!

He should have thought of that before molesting black children

Enough with the race card

Begino1:
They want to destroy him the way Michael was destroyed. When blacks destroyed blacks, it is the black that will suffer.

His fellow molesters will keep defending him. Even when it’s clear as day that he’s guilty

They got get super upset when anyone tells them that.

Miarose:
What the men here fail to realise is that he is cheating with a married woman. Guys, it could be your wife..... When u cheat you leave a gap in your home..may be you should think what if you are the greater fool

Unfortunately, not one person will be brought to justice over this.

So the woman he’s cheating with is shameless but he’s the victim who needs to be prayed for?

Is there any point in the marriage where the man will be responsible for his own actions?

We need to protect him from his own penis and battle other women the devils that he pursued, wooed and professed love for on his own accord and free will .

Disgusting hypocrisy.

The issue refused to go away because of people like you who say they don’t support cheating but type pages and pages of horrid jargon on why the man isn’t responsible for his own actions. You should be ashamed of yourself.

jasper83:
The way this generation handles the subject of marriage calls for great concern. I seldomly comment on nairaland but i had to pour my mind on this issue. I dont know how old you are but i would advise you to calm down for the sake of your overall happiness in old age. You are not smarter, more intelligent than women of old who applied wisdom in their home affairs of which you and I were products of such. Why do we love to chicken out of our problems rather than facing it squarely and win. So after toiling hard with your husband for years, the moment he cheats on you the best thing to do is to walk away? I'm not holding brief for my gender but I believe with this mentality of " he cheats, i cheat back or he cheats i'l walk away " makes the marital future of this generation so bleak.

There is an adage in Yoruba that says" this issue is your issue and you say I'm going to the farm I have no time for nonsense" my people say come back from that your farm in 100 years that your issue you avoided then, is waiting for you in the cooler. So why not address it and win. Don't allow anyone fool you to believe if you walk away there is one innocent gentle man who will not look over your shoulder, it's a rare gift to be contented with a single lady truth be told. As a middle age myself i have brought up this issue within my male folks and it will shock you the reason why some don't cheat.

1. A man that is broke need not cheat because he's setting himself up for embarrassment because it take few cash to indulge in adultery. Sometimes it even expensive depending on your status, she ain't your wife so sex is not FREE.

2. When the size of manhood is funny and its not working optimally .So why show your John Thomas to the world and become a laffing stock because if your carry 5 ladies they will all see your unclothedness , so it's safe to stick with one's wife because she can't be so daft to make my case a subject of ridicule among her friend.

3. Natural low libido.

4. Grace of God.

Two days or so the social media was agoged even up till now the divorce saga of Jeff Bezos the world wealthiest. As polished, exposed and socially upright in the eyes of the world he still engages in illicit affairs. Sister leave it or take it the two genders ain't wired the same way. The earlier you get this the better for you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not justifying cheating but this issue has refused to go way for ages so what's the matter, why kill yourself over it.

Today's women always threatening to walk away, no problem but today's guys too will be wiser by not marrying your gender legally in the long run, so many children will be raised singlehandedly by women while the males continue with there wayward lifestyles. So eventually that depression you ran way from will be staring you in the eyes while raising your kids yourself. You can't fight him since he's performing his fatherly role. As he grows old being a single cassanova he retires fully or partially womanising and woman who knows how to manage him sticks around obviously for companionship. You that left many years back, will be struggling with nature not disappoint yourself or your kids by not flirting around, why go through all that torture. Even when you decide to settle down what number are you going to be in that marriage. Please think, when the natural pressure is much you may discover you are sharing someone's husband with the rightful owner, and remember you were once a rightful owner.

My dear ladies please be calm and try to apply wisdom, it's key. There is a trend in town now of your fiance female bestie being the best man, I have two examples now of the husband sleeping with the besties after marriage. Anything that can expose your man to danger should be fought, guard your homes, don't claim to be socially correct so that society won't tag you an insecure woman. Make that marriage work, it's your home don't go for an invader, the battle must be won.

@Op please pray for husband and call up that shameless woman if need be, threaten her to reveal to her husband and colleagues the amorous affairs she is having with your man, and be ready to do it. She will fear you and adjust. God bless and protect your home.

Gracias.

That you have more than one speaks enough about the issue.

Only a narcissistic misogynist will think he’s entitled to more than one woman while expecting fidelity from all of them. Such a person cannot be a true humble servant of the people. He will have to tendency to behave like he deserves to receive more than he gives. Atiku Please shut up.

I don’t even know the women who vote for these imbeciles anyway. All of them both APC and PDP. Fvctards.

Late lunch at 10:30pm

Well then you have to pick a struggle

truthsayer009:
Hmmm those ephemeral things matter too, It brings the Spark.

I’m disappointed.

stick to one mature girlfriend like a prudent person, and watch that problem disappear.
Both of you can make plans for the future together and work on it together.

Guys get attracted to flashy physical girls and complain about the means by which they attain the flashiness.
Pick a battle

Or some times they tell the girls they want a mature reasonable woman who is not all about the ephemeral things, but their actions and the way they lust after the exact opposite of what they claim they want makes you realize they don’t even know what they want.

Happy new year babe

Well I could blame her but we know that financial bondage can make people accept things that they wouldn’t otherwise accept

bukatyne:
Happy new year dearie

I blame the wife in that.

We have a proverb: what I can not take as a rich man, I will start rejecting while I am poor.

You’re talking to people who don’t reason

CHoccolaTE:
I wasn't blind to anything.
I don't blame the wife for displaying hostility to a man that always has small girls hovering around him to the extent that she has to fight them off.

If the tables were turned and the wife was the one with small boys flocking around her will you advise the husband to keep quiet and ignore his wife because she opened a shop for him?

Our land is Crawling with pedophiles and sexual molesters. We just often choose to go to church instead of doing the right things

Ziggylady:
There is no tagging anywhere,the males here are too anti-female its scary and yes i hate them..I hate wickedness to the core and that is a disease affecting 99% of nairaland males...

Males like you who enjoy castigating women needlessly without reason are the ones who dont do well in life.,especially when they find themselves abroad..That is why many of you get into trouble with the law when you leave this ountry...I am only doing you a favour by pointing out how irrational most of you are.

thank you

I bet you he cheated and that’s why she left. But he won’t say that part

You people should endeavor to use your god-given senses more often

degamemaster:
My friend read the post again and this time around slowly and more attentively.
She threatened several times to leave him, saying after all, she can take care of herself.
As a matter of seriousness, she left their matrimonial home to go stay in a hotel for a week and the man had to go beg and apologise to the hoe to come back home.
The man could've given her allegation of going yo sleep with another in a hotel let's see how she can prove otherwise.

Apt

Surprisingly the doofuses commenting on here did not seem to notice that part about small girls around him. To them it’s normal

bukatyne:
Hmmmmmmmmmmm.

Husbandman wants a submissive wife (don't know his own definition) and married a lady X who seemed submissive because she had no money/dependent on her husband.

He finally decides to make her a boss so that she's independent (no such thing in marriage: we are at best interdependent) and madam brought out the unsubmissiveness in her.

Oga doesn't like what he sees and decides to 'clip' her wings.

Now madam is back to default setting with a defect: insecurity.

The problem is that the man married a poor woman and not a submissive one hence the change when she changed status.

I suspect the husband is cheating which wife was fine with till she had money and decided to take it no more. Unfortunately, oga is used to her acceptance and is wondering where the accepting wife went.

Madam no longer has money however is using the resource she has (time) to fight him.

She is also very smart and knows her leverage.

Let the husband stop following small girls and see madam's reaction to know next steps.

Nobody with sense is supposed to be on this thread supporting the man, that’s why Feminists won’t be around it like you people

Omnipresent:
Feminist will avoid this thread like plague. Nice one from the man.

Bomgirl:
Christmas was about oha soup.

Halcyon123:
Oha soup,done n dusted!Chilling in the freezer at the moment!

These look really tasty


I have not had oha soup in such a long time. I miss my grandma. She makes the best oha soup in the world (but I’m biased)