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I didn’t need to read the whole story.
Everyone knows that the Nigerian way of trying to shut women up is to try and slut-shame them.
If you women would stop caring so much about what any mofos have to say about your sexuality, you would get the justice you deserve in many cases.

I’m glad she didn’t let them silence her.
Hopefully she gets justice. IDGAF who slept with who unlike some jobless people. But whoever is defrauding others of their hard earned money should be made to pay for it. People should be enlightened enough to not get distracted by sex stories when they should be looking at what the culprit is obviously trying to hard by creating distracting scandals.

MarijuanaLORD:
Seriously its always better when a man cheats than when a woman cheats

Women carry way too much baggage


Who knows the the said daughter no be the op own

This is why marrying a lazy hoe isnt advisable

Here they come.

Elder001

@bold, Really? You must be blind.
Maybe you should note the commenters on this thread and see exactly what they say when a woman comes crying that her husband is cheating on her.
Even if he brings the other woman or women home, she is still made to feel like an terrible person for not being happy about it.

Why do you think my middle name is “evil feminist” ? Because I dared to give the same advice to women that the hypocritical men are giving their fellow man on this thread.

When you say “no sane man will take back a cheating wife” you’ve basically made my point because I’m pretty sure you will never say “no sane woman should take back a cheating husband”. If that’s not psychosocial conditioning that forces women to accept the same crap that makes all of you cringe, I don’t know what it is.

As for OP, I have no advice for you.

I usually have no sympathy for men who get cheated on. Sorry it’s not your fault. It’s how the world is now. On the bright side. The man your wife slept with is probably married as well. Men have the right to be polygamous and he’s just exercising his right. I hope you feel better with time. It takes time.

Elder001:
Nobody forced women to take back cheating husbands .Btw ,you speak like a teenager just discovering her breasts.

I'm sure you don't know what marriage is that's why you typed that rubbish. I repeat "no sane man will take back a cheating wife".

When your brothers wives cheat on them you can give them the advice you just dropped.

Acidosis:
Shut it! God doesn't know you. Divorce is an option. Go and read your bible and stop spreading fake gospel online.

I will laminate this post

Afam4eva:
I think i'm beginning to like this egusi with little or no water compared to the watery one.

egusi without water is the boss of other egusi’s

EXCEPT

egusi with water made by my grandmother. She has perfected that one. She makes it with uziza and ukazi leaves and smoked cat fish. It’s amazing

SugaryBelle:
Ukwa

Cooked somewhere
Eaten by me

omg

iomoge2:
coco. This is meat egusi soup

Ps.
The tongue out is me licking my screen.

hehehe

CDCEO001:
This one is more like egusi ngwo ngwo meat.

lol I mistakenly cooked more meat than I needed. I didn’t realize my egusi wasn’t going to be enough but I was lazy to remedy it. At least no one complained

Divay22:
Who Still have food to share this night ,I'm hungry

I made egusi. Come have some

It has shaki and goat meat with stock fish bits in it

Should I make fufu or garri?

Mindfulness:
Posting this picture is sheer cruelty. I want to lick the screen. I want to eat it now. I am a weirdo too, by the way, and want it with plantain as well. Gosh, this looks too good. This is the best food you have ever posted for me. Coco, how could you not invite me?

Really? I didn’t think it was that awesome . But then DH loved it so much as well. I guess it was as good as it looks.

Well thank you. I’ll invite you next time.

dingbang:
whats all this nonsense, does linda ikeji think nigerians are stupid people? there is one fact about her that remains, she got pregnant out of wedlock and thats final. No need using celebrity to hide her shame

what’s the shame in that?

Acidosis:
Well that was a subtle response to your previous comment about me. No hate feelings

Mtchew

There’s no else involved. That person is a liar and he’s manipulating you. Trying to pass the blame onto someone else to make himself seems less culpable. Smh
If indeed he’s working with anyone else to try and reach out to your outside folks, he should tell you their names. And you actually believe him that there are others involved.

I can’t believe you’re not seeing through him.

I know I said I wasn’t going to comment on this issue again but the thought that he’s secretly trying to paint other unsuspecting posters black behind their backs is just disgusting to me.

Considering I posted against your actions, I want to know who he’s telling people was working with him. These useless nairaland children can do and undo. Someone is probably minding their business on this thread now not knowing that another person is saying foolish things about them in their inbox. Name this fool let’s ask him who else he’s accusing of colluding with him.

chasers:
Thanks All.. everything has been resolved, tho he said their main intention was to prolong and also distract the food section with the issue. That he neverd knew others are gonna take it so far. He said the money is really important that I should help him,I told him on one condition, if he can give me the names of people involved.later he said I should forget about everything, that he can't give the names out.

They were just pasting Alphabet and Numbers on the comment section with an unknown account yesterday.

Please once again am sorry for everything, I love this section so much because is always peaceful and calm, and I promise what I did, won't happen again. We Are Family....

Acidosis:
The right thing is refusing to apply the terrible and bad experiences of e.g. cococandy, in your relations with in-laws, especially those you haven't even met.

I didn’t know I’m the same person with that lady up there.

Well I haven’t tried to raise anyone’s kids yet. I have my own responsibilities. Each to their own.

Come back and have a leg to stand on after you marry and raise kids borne by your wife’s siblings and cousins in addition to your own kids. Na mouth una get for nairaland. Y’all know what everyone else should be doing except when you’re the ones in the situation.

ImaIma1:
It is a pity that many mature men do not understand anything about marriage.

It will shock them when they go for marriage counselling and they tell them to keep inlaws from all sides at bay.

Umm

Oh The things the naive and ignorant say with authority

Acidosis:
A wife don't have to agree for a man to do whatever he wants for his blood (brothers, sisters, dad and mom), wherever and whenever he wants. She's going to get a prior notice, room for deliberations, but the final decision rests in his hands. That's a basic and a final principle.

It is the responsibility of the woman to prove her points well enough to convince the man.. are you gonna tell him his people are wicked and out there to haunt him down? Would the flimsy excuses on this thread pass the test?

rezzy:
Yes, I do, very tasty

hmm. Very interesting

TonyeBarcanista:
Why not? But as the HEAD of the house she need my express approval to bring anyone in (I have no problem though) but in my case I only need to inform her.

My family owns me and all about me.

Yea exactly

Why not marry your family?

The funny thing is that you just called a bunch of women witches for validating OP’s concern but you don’t consider yourself a wizard for thinking you don’t need her permission to bring anyone from your family while she needs your express permission to do so.

Did you not just make our points? Your family will come with the same entitled attitude that you emanate and expect your wife to endure whatever trash they bring along with them.

Sorry for the unlucky ones that end up with folks like you.

Read the comments of you hypocrites on this thread. A woman is bad if she does the same thing you do. But it’s okay if you do it.
I won’t be surprised that you can go and eat a full meal now without choking in your hypocrisy.

DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB

eyinjuege:
I was the chief taster. I have concluded that baking isn't really my forte.
E.g-
My meatpie adventure started out well, but the end result wasn't visually appealing as I wanted. It tasted nice, but slightly doughy, and I couldn't just get a smooth shape.

ah I see.

rezzy:
Nice one
But
Where is our starch?

starch? Do you eat starch with this?

TonyeBarcanista:
I stand by my word!

My niece is my child and my wife MUST srr her as hers as well. Any woman that has the kind of mentality towards my people is unfit to be my wife.

Will her nieces and nephews be like your sons and daughters too?

Did you bake any?

eyinjuege:
Never ending drama.
Pls, have some cake and you can make your own tea to go along with it.
We had a bake off session at work, and people were displaying their various cake baking skills. All the cakes were baked by colleagues at work.
I'm very good with tasting, so i did what I'm good at.

N:B- there were loads of beautiful cake, but there were some personal details on the table so I'm not posting that one here.
Before world people will get on my case, lemme respek myself

chasers:
please you don't need to be mad at yourself...you did the right thing..Just that some people took it personal. Please not your fault, and I don't wnt you to see it that way.

and you don’t have to feel like you betrayed your friend. You didn’t expose her information. Anyone could have seen the name on that blog by just looking at the pictures. Stop beating yourself up.

Meringe:
I have a life outside here. I don't need to tell you my life.


I know your kind will quote me but be rest assured that life is not just about you alone. It's not just about your immediate family. You do your best to accommodate others unless the person(girl) does not deserve it. You actually can't say if she will be the one to accommodate you or your kids tomorrow.

@op, bring in the little girl and make her your family.

Oh please. Stop your silly guilt tripping. No be today.

Nobody owes anyone a duty to raise their kids.
Charity should be done out of free will. Never pressured or guilted into.

Whether she helps or not does not mean that if she needs help tomorrow, any member of that family will help if they could. Life doesn’t work that way.

I don’t know what you mean by my kind

But I want to assure you that MY LIFE is about ME. And others lives are about them. No one owes it to another to make their lives all about the others. It’s a good thing to give when it comes freely and not expected or forced.

I realize I’ve to keep cooking somethings or I will forget how to make them. Almost 2 years since I made this.

My village people call this ji mmiri oku

But my DH’s people call it ukodo

It’s basically yam peppersoup with meat or fish of your choice. It usually thicker than regular peppersoup

I used goat meat and shaki.

And I added semi-ripe plantain because DH is a weirdo and he likes it that way.

I was craving ice cream but couldn’t decide what flavor to get.

All I really want is just a bite out of each one.

She doesn’t even owe them school fees. People are so fvcking entitled. it pisses me off

ImaIma1:
Op i do not even agree with you sending money to the mum to start a business or whatever. She might end up depending so much on the business to care for the kids and still coming back to ask for school fees.

I say that because i know a woman with 3 sons and another one on the way, who started a business but is still not able to sustain it because she eats into more than the profit.

Please find out about the girl's school fees and make arrangements with your husband to pay the fees directly to the school to avoid the funds being diverted.

Your brain is obviously located in your anus

Onye apari

Wilfredpat22:
We women are really wicked honestly. What is wrong in helping your fellow woman out with her own kids and treating her child as her own. Your own child someone will do the same. I am sure you are Igbo, most igbo women are selfish and think about themselves.

When your husband faces small tribulation, it is still the same you that will go out and open your legs wide for every Dick, Tom and Harry.

Why should she do that?

So easy for you people to say someone should take another person’s child and raise as their own.

How many people’s children are you raising? Or you don’t know know anyone in this world who needs help raising one of their extra kids

Meringe:
I think differently from what others here have posted. 11 years old girl can back a baby very comfortable and help with with little house chores.
If you are a good person and a positive person at that, you wouldn't be thinking this way but you seems very difficult. See, no matter how bad people are or unappreciative they might be, it can never stop a 'giver' from giving .
Take this girl in and train her like your own child and she will in turn train your child. Unless you have observed that the girl is not a good girl, then you can be justified.

Why is he making it your responsibility to build a house for your brother to live in?