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obafemee80:

I hope he won't change the baby's mentality, thinking men too breastfeed.

Baby's are little scientist,they learn so fast

Offpoint:
Why should I give myself that kinda stress when I can easily call my side chick to come boob feed the baby...

I don't want my kid to grow up and become a gay.

Some of you always have the weirdest nonsensical things to say. Smh

Pronmix:
Not made by me, but enjoyed by me.

oooh

And you had 110 people endorse this post that clearly blames the victim for the actions of a monster?

It will not be well with all of you

Pipedreams:
Please women learn to control your tongue. Not all men can take insults, manipulation, lies and disgrace. My ex wife annoyed me to the extent that i gave her a hot slap. I have never laid my hands on a woman in my whole life. I am a peaceful and perfect gentle man people admire but I didn't know what pushed me. She continued in her troublesome ways..insulting, disgracing me and demeaning me in all possible ways in front of friends and her people. I just woke up one morning and took a long walk....packed my things, just clothes and left the marriage for good. I am not a rehabilitation specialist for the mentally challenged all in the name of marriage. I deserve a good life!! Please flee from narcissistic and toxic relationships before the devil use you like this story!!

JewelStone:
How my weekend went...

Oh yea!!!!!

Beans porridge with smoked ham and sweet potatoes

How is this a difficult thing?
I welcome debate no doubt.
However, I haven’t told any man how he ought to use his own body. And what rights he doesn’t have since he has had sexual intercourse with someone in the past. It’s so exasperating that this simple concept is something that has to be explained.

If your views means dictating to anyone how their bodies are meant to be used, then they are not your views. It’s thinly veiled oppression.

greiboy:
lol

So when expressing your opinion about how Women deserve to reject sexual advances from men(even their future husbands)on a public forum, you didn't think you were influencing public opinion and potentially sparking a Public debate either?

Anyways, I believe most guys that quoted your initial comment were merely responding to your assertions. They only seized the opportunity to express their opinions and views on the topic

I didn't recall any of them insulting you or the lady in Particular

So how did they show arrogance?

Don't they deserve the opportunity to express their views as you have expressed yours.

or

Must they receive guidelines from you on how they should express their views on social media?

greiboy:
I guess those guys quoting your comments were merely expressing their views as well.

They claimed that they won't give such a woman a second thought.

Saying you won’t give such a woman a second thought is a personal choice. One that a man can make freely but it is different than saying a woman who isn’t a virgin shouldn’t say no to sex she doesn’t want. There’s NO fine line between expressing your opinions and telling others what they should do with their bodies. It’s a leap of arrogance.

Yes he has a right to withdraw.

I didn’t say I agree with her posting it on the internet however there’s no wrong or moral dilemma in how she posted it. It’s her way of expressing it which others may or may not agree with.

I’m merely speaking my opinion on the issue at hand.

greiboy:
if she has the right to deny her future husband any sexual intercourse, then the husband reserves the right to withdraw from any future plan with her.

Thus, the man quietly exercised his right by not returning her call again, but the woman came to social media to cry foul and you wrote a long epistle in support of her.

How is that civil?

The lady is the one demanding loyalty here, when she decided to exercise her own right

OSUigbo:
If she's not a virgin, she's a hypocrite. I can NEVER marry a girl I have not checked sexually if SHE'S NOT A VIRGIN.
SHE CAN GO TO HELL.

JONNYSPUTE:
As if you ve not been fucking other guys. Abeg shift make I pass.

Billyonaire:
If she is not a virgin, then she is wicked and deserves what she got. I do not even know why a man should be talking to a lady who believes sex is golden, well, it is not.

The guy shouldnt marry you sef.

She belongs to 18th century.

holyokoto:
you are telling me she is not having sex with someone elsewhere and want to deny her own fiancé

Good luck

Adefemiaderoju1:
If you are not a Virgin I don't see reason why you don't succumb to your man to have sex with you, however putting your problem out here won't solve anything it will rather make it worse.

OSUigbo:
FÙCK love
That man is very smart.
If the lady isn't a virgin, nothing justifies her stance.

vicben27:
you just said my mind! the only condition that may warrant her behavior is if shez stil a virgin! if not why delay what as been eaten before? testing is necessary! some women are very weaked she may deny him sex, while another Dude is choping the thing any how! nonsense!

The basic concept of women having autonomy over their own bodies shouldn’t be that hard to grasp yet it seems so for many of you guys.

If I have slept with someone in the past doesn’t mean I have to sleep with every other subsequent person that wants to get into my vagina. It’s really that simple.

Virgin or not, a lady has the right to have sex with whomever she chooses. There’s no rationale behind thinking of one person has gotten it, then the rest are entitled to it.

OMG. Why does this have to be explained? I can’t believe how many of you are harping on this stupid virgin issue. So a woman has sex with someone and all of sudden she doesn’t have any right to decide is she wants to do with someone else or not? What brand of stupid are you people drinking?

I don’t buy the stupid one-sided outrage.

Chikita66:
This our wify eh, I love the way you present your food.

thank you Sweetie

Some men can fake interest in marriage just to sleep with you. If he’s not talking to you because of sex , let him go. He’s not interested.

A ‘respectable’ Nigerian medical doctor once told me he would accompany his friends to do marriage introductions for any girl they wanted to get at all cost if she played hard to get. For some of these guys, the peniss leads. Anything else and anyone else doesn’t matter. Don’t fall for it. Unless it’s what you want to do.

SAY NO TO PRESSURED SEX. DO IT ONLY IF YOU WANT TO

Dcholeric:
whatever....
they should just see anything and everything through...

men already have more credit??
hmm....na early morning be this...I will just pretend to agree.

every single man that is credit worthy fought through to attain that status.

And women aren’t even given the chance to fight for it. Not without some peniss in the way trying to take advantage of your womanhood to give you something you can achieve with your own merit.
Most men in places of authority will hardly give a woman what she merits without wanting to sleep with her.
And that’s a fact

cinoedhunter:
What kind of gender inequality is this ? what will now happen to d men?

Dcholeric:
that's what they want ...sit at home and expect the society to bless them ....otherwise dey tag men stingy and tag the society as backward...


but in all this is a good innovation.
they should give them everything we are tired of complaints.

Men already have more access to credit
They are trying to level the field.
Hopefully, they will see it through

Fried rice and general Tso’s sticky baked chicken.

Another Mor0n who thinks his opinion matters

Absolutely one hundred percent true.
We love them still.

BoweryGirl:
This painful procedure. Isn't this what they call Pap Smear test? I ran away after hearing my sister's scream at the nurse's room at HEC Clinic in Warri. Mbok, my vagina is covered by the Holy Ghost Fire.

Dammylois:
Na the procedure be the problem now...I no fit allow cusco speculum down there biko

Have you ladies ever seen a woman with cervical cancer? If you do, you will thank this woman for this initiative.

A little discomfort is nothing when it can detect and prevent a future is pain, suffering and eventual death.

I don’t joke with Pap smears.

This doesn’t sound like nairaland at all.
One bottle of stout for all the people who typed meaningfully

Because men are greedy and want to make money from their daughters? All of the world’s problems stem from the greed of men. Come and bite me

Donjazzy12:
Then men also have autonomy on whether to support her decision or not. Why do you then insist that men should take care of babies that they do not want?

Unfortunately, when the baby is born a living fully formed human being, It is no longer up to them to decide if they are going to take care of it or not. They have to. If the man says he doesn’t want anything to do with the child, it is up to him (as an opinion) but legally he has to take care of his child. so does the mom. None of them have any right then to leave the child to their fate.
Yes that may not be his wish. But he is not being made to use his body in a way that he doesn’t want to. Not the same thing at all.

However Before viability. When it’s not a fully formed human yet, the woman’s body is 100% responsible for keeping it going. She gets to make that decision. I’m sorry it’s not up to you to tell her what to do at that point.

People are signing contracts now if they agree to have kids together. that way you can influence her decision if she gets pregnant. Even then it’s not all black and white.

Then he should carry the pregnancy by himself. simples.

nobody owes you a baby unless they specifically had an arrangement with you to have a baby.
Even then, they can change their minds.
I know the concept of women having autonomy over their own bodies gives some of you guys high BP. Sorry it’s not convenient for you.

Donjazzy12:
Another yeye useless analogy. Did she make the baby alone? Did she pregnant herself? So if he also wants to keep the baby and she says no, what happens?

It is also his body! His sperm.

So when it comes to murdering of babies women, take the lead? Is that what you mean?

It’s her body. She can have an abortion if she wants to. Unless the fetus is at a stage where it is viable. You have no case here. Move on.

Mynd44:
Is wearing trousers part of the tradition for men or inherited from the white men?

they are hypocrites. Don’t waste your time

ybalogs:
so you just called only me 'a monkeys' abi. Oya pretty cococandy , please come out let's talk.

I meant to say would you rather belong in a pack of monkeys. It’s a question. Sorry

Jackson619:
Culture is culture. It is meant to be obeyed

no it’s not. Culture is dynamic

Interestingly most of those dress codes only police women. Don’t cover up your misogyny with love of culture.

gbosaa:
Who are ‘we’?

I am an Igbo man. I do go to meetings. There are rules, some are unwritten but mostly common sense.

Dress code during meetings are important in the meetings that I’m part of. Trousers and certain clothings by women are tolerated but not in certain gathering. Our young women dance in very short/mini skirts but that doesn’t mean they would attend meetings wearing those.
Some of these rules are not strict or enforced but people do abide by them.

ybalogs:
It will surely serve as deterrent to others if a punishment is meted on her and not just boycotting her prayers. Tradition over civilisation any day.

Does tradition over civilization make sense to you?

Read that phrase again. So you prefer to keep doing something even if it’s bad or harmful because it’s the tradition rather than accept civilization? You don’t want to be civil? Would You rather belong in a pack of monkeys?

nairalanduseles:
most Nigerian girls are not loyal........i never said all

mmm I see.
However, I would bet my Chanel beauty that they would still be together if he knew how to feed a baby while she’s busy on her phone.

Maybe if he helped his Nigerian wife more, she wouldn’t have done ‘what they do best’

Everyone knows most Nigerian men only have mouth when it comes to Nigerian women. in the face of foreign women, their inferiority complex turns them into perfect husbands.

nairalanduseles:
hahahaha that is my uncle lol and for the suckers talking trash .. he is in his mid 50s and his wife is in her 40s ..... she is way prettier than what u can ever imagine .........he was married to a black nigerian b4 and she did what black girls know how to do best.... .love u uncle jonah

PDPGuy:
You are mouthed

Working class women are harming their precious bodies, which should be kept smooth for their men

but where’s the lie? Lol