₦airaland Forum

zeburudaya:
Nwanyi ojo. O maro na nwoke luru nwanyi lukwara ikpu for free

thorpido:
Wish women in abusive unions can find the courage to leave before they get badly damaged or even die.

Spells:
u don go the hotel before abi

bigtalla:
Am a father.. When wifey got pregnant, i said wifey must do exclusive breast feeding when our baby comes... He did come but things aren't always picture perfect. Breast milk wasn't sufficient. Baby wanted to feed almost every hour. Nipls got sore. Power issues didn't encourage preservation of expressed breast milk.. Wifey slept less than 3 hours (cummulative) daily and was almost breaking down.


Nobody tell me.. I use my leg waka go buy baby food



..... and our boy is stronger than a roman soldier.....Thank God

sapiosexual1:
Like seriously my sister, after 9weeks?
The only reason she wouldn't be lactating at 9weeks post partum is if the baby was carried by a surrogate mum. But even at that, putting lips to nips intermittently for 2-3days would trigger the milk-let-down reflex.

sapiosexual1:
This should be a lesson to all you young girls of today. Your boobs is meant to primarily give milk to your child, not as a fashion statement or a sex object.
Put them lips on those t.i.ts.
This careless mom was lucky her child had a mild hypersensitivity, some other persons would experience an anaphylactic shock which could cost the baby's life.
Such a careless mom and she is celebrating herself to the world. Her grandmom should ask her mom if she didn't teach her daughter the proper way to raise a child

darkenedrebel:
Am I the only one seeing the double standard here? It is a huge sacrilege for a thing as insignificant and as minor as ''bride price' to be screened out, but it's laudable to renounce the gods of your ancestors for the religion of a foreigner(Christianity).


Any one that tells me he/she is a custodian of African culture and thinks bride price is not a nuisance must either be worshipping Sango or Amadiora before I can take him/her serious.

Such hypocrisy!

God knows I would not make it mandatory for my son-in-law(s) to pay bride price, that's if I have daughters anyway.

Mindfulness:


And the funny thing is that any cultural practice MUST differ from any Western cultural practices, which makes Western cultural practices the yardstick after all.

What a paradox!

I want to see an American or a European say: "We have to do this and that so that we differ from Africans."

Mental slavery!


And the funniest thing of all is that Christianity was brought to these people by Westerners along with the gender roles and steeotypes which they are still clinging to.

Kc3000:
Gone are the days that most Nigerian men will go home from America to find a wife or even ask the family to find them a wholesome girl in Nigeria. These days, whatever madness you're trying to avoid in America, it's also there in abundance back in Nigeria. You better deal with the one you see before you, at least you might be familiar with her type of drama. To blindly go and import wahala that's possibly just trying to escape the mess in Nigeria is quite the risk.
My cousin went to Naija for a couple of weeks, came back talking about he found a girl he wants to marry. They start communicating and a few months later he hears some funny stuff about her. So, my guy took up the issue with her, and next thing we heard was that the babe and her mom went to fight the person they thought was informing my cousin...for trying to scatter her runs.
What the heck! My guy couldn't believe it was the same chick he's been talking to, her sister that we know here at church is such a nice person. Well, he confronts her about her conduct...na then true colors show! The babe straight up told him that if he annoys her, she can organize guys to kidnap his popsie in Nigeria. My guy snapped back to reality.

bigfrancis21:
The issue is not with typical Nigerian men not standing such 'rich', 'confident' or 'independent' lady but it is the totally different attitude or behaviour that comes with such women when they get to have these things. Most lose their humility, subservience etc. for any man and begin to have unrealistic expectations about their relations with men. With Western feminism being propagated worldwide via Hollywood movies, women in traditional patriarchal countries are catching wind of this. I am not against equal rights for women whatsoever. Women should be allowed to do the same things men do in the society but truth be told there are certain roles which are best played by men (leadership, innovation, development etc.) and some roles which are best played by women (raising the great men and women of the world, mediation, empathy, child rearing etc). To be honest, some women are not able to keep a cool head when they are in power or in possession of great wealth, and with the typical Nigerian man who is traditionally raised to be a man in his society and who knows his role as a man in the society, this is the major issue they have with these 'independent' women. Time after time, what women gain by being feminist or 'independent' in terms of financial or material success, they lose in their private life. 50% gain, 50% loss. No man worth his onions (by this I mean who knows he is a man, knows his role in the society and takes pride in being a man) would want to settle with a feminist-charged woman who want to see the roles reversed in the house. This explains why most of them remain single, because they find it difficult to submit to a man in a relationship. Time after time, they have unrealistic expectations of what relationships should be, often with feminism-influenced ideas to define their meaning of a relationship. Of course, there are some men who are not too ambitious, who would have no problem pairing up with feminist women and not mind being house husbands and submitting to their wives who become the primary financial caregiver. In case you don't know, many ladies in America, especially black ladies, are so feminist that they want to be on top in a relationship, they want to be the man in the relationship instead, they are always right and never wrong, they would never admit to being sorry for anything even when they know they were wrong, they want to control you and order you around but WOULD NEVER TRY TO LET YOU CONTROL THEM, they view being a woman as being weak and they try to be men instead. They leave the women they were created to be and try to be men instead. Any MAN worth his onions would never want such a woman as a spouse and MEN go off looking for more traditional/submissive women as partners and the feminist ones-man-trying-to-be are left single for most of their lives. Feminism has been identified as one of the greatest destructive forces in the black american community. In the black american community, about 72% of mothers are single mothers, raising families single-handed. Most of them are unable to keep a man or barely know how to keep a spouse, barely know that relationships are mutual, barely know the sacrifices they would have to make as wives/female spouse to keep a relationship going, etc. They expect to be treated good all the time by their man, or as 'queens' that they like to call it, but never feel obliged to treat their man good in return. Many don't realize that you give to receive. Affection does not flow in one direction only, it goes both ways. With feminism, coupled with the unavailability of eligible good black men, most black american women expect to remain single for all their lives, having only boyfriends here and there as life goes on. In marriages many barely know their roles as wives, or the sacrifices wives make in a marriage, because they grew up in single-mom households and never saw their moms being wives to their dads or step-dads to learn from them, and the marriages they have, if any, barely last. Funny enough, feminism started with white European females but white American ladies till today are more subservient, womanly, and know their roles as wives than black women.

Honestly, if a woman can be wealthy, comfortable and still remain humble or submit to her spouse, cook for him, etc. most men would not have any problem with that. A good man will instead try to support such woman in her endeavours. No man wants a woman who tries to challenge his status as a man every time, who tries to be the 'man' instead in the house etc. A good example of such women is Dr. Ngozi Iweala, a great woman of international status who never rubs her success as woman on her husband's face or tries to challenge him or be on top of him because she is more successful than him. These women realize that outside their matrimonial home, they can charge up to men whatsoever but once they step foot in their house, their spouse is in charge and they submit. Check this out: the most successful marriages in America today, a country with high divorce rates where 50% of marriages end up in divorce, are still those ones that follow the traditional system of beliefs where the male is the primary financial giver and the female is the primary child care giver at home either as full time housewives or career mothers. That should tell you something.

pippimp:
That is what is keeping Africa in the stone age. The whole world is changing but you guys want to keep the pre historic mentality going. It is not working for you but you don't care. The issue is not that a woman is rude but what most African men consider as rude. Confidence to them is rude. If you lived in a normal society, your perception would be different. I assure you. It is not coincidence that Africa/Nigeria is the way it is today. The way you guys think is amazing to say the least. Same with a child in Europe and the Americas. Most Nigerians would consider them rude, but they confuse that with confidence. That is why at 18, they are out of their homes and getting on with their lives. Meanwhile a 25 year old man in Nigeria, is still sucking his mothers tits at home. At 18 Bill Gates was already forming ideas about microsoft. In Nigeria, he would have been termed a rude young man. What you guys like is subjugation. Eyes down, head down, and shoulders slumped forward. You can't comprehend eyes up, head up and shoulders squared. Everything about our culture points to it. Prostrating, kneeling, crouching, etc. You guys had better wake up.

Cc cococandy. .

P.s sorry about my outburst the other day.

lezz:
You gave it away with the picture you painted traditional marriage rites.

The bride price is Symbolic in significance and as well as the kneeling down of the bride to offer the groom a drink from her father.

It doesn't imply the selling off of the bride. Marriage is a serious and secred business, passage into it should be Symbolic and colourful in deed as well as in tediousness.

It is no coincidence that traditional societies the world over who still practice old traditional rites of marriages have the most lasting marriages ever still.

Eg, the Jewish , African and Ethiopian communities.

While a smattering amount of families can exploit the Symbolic act for an avenue of material aquirement, it doesn't change what the pride prize symbolises:

A sign of gratitude and appreciation for a daughter whom you have come to marry away.

Note that in traditional African societies, the refund of the bride price is a sign of divorce in totality too.

postmann:
The ancestors are full of wisdom no doubt. Theirs was pure, naked wisdom. They walked closer with the gods and learned firsthand.All the best books on wisdom were written by them. Theirs was an imperfect world too. But if we allowed most of their values to prevail, we would be safer.
That comparison is most unfortunate. And it must have been birthed from a mind conditioned to think negatively by prevailing circumstances.
It is manly to fight and earn a woman. Not as a property but as an act of being able to take care of her.
And yes, a woman belongs to her father. In marriage contraction, bride price is a form of gratitude or appeasement to her father and her father's people.
There's honour when a man recognises the fact that his woman is priceless and that if she actually was to be sold, she definitely couldn't be bought. The bridal list of requirements and process may be flawed in some climes, but then again, men who know how valuable their women are will go for it bringing honour to their women, she's worth it and more.
Even after the bride price is paid, even after several years, the process can still be reversed with the bride price returned. It was never a matter of buying and selling as the antagonists would like everyone to believe.
It is simply a matter of symbolic traditional requirements for man and spirit.

darkenedrebel:
Culture is dynamic, and the tradition of bride price did not fall down like manna from heaven, it was institutionalized by humans—our ancestors if you may.

So, since culture is an invention of man that is dynamic, its relevancy should be gauged from time to time to determine if it still has value and worthy of practicing, or if it is just an anachronism constituting a nuisance.

I hold no briefs for the concept of bride price—never did and never will. It is an unnecessary practice and a nuisance with little to zero symbolic import.

And not just because I see it as women being bought or any of that kind of stuff, but because I refuse to let my ancestors think for me, because I refuse to follow rules mapped out centuries ago by people whose intentions during the process of conceiving these rules remain unclear.

This generation must begin to think for itself rather than harking back to the past and letting our ancestors think for us.

naijafresh:
I'm sorry to hear but this was caused but Nigerians trying to take the law into their own hands.
Mob mentality prevails in a primitive society, how are they sure she was a kidnapper? Because someone said so? Have they seen the evidence?
You hear there is a kidnapper in the palace, you don't know the story but you carry your cutlas and storm the palace in order to kill the person. So what if you find out its your relative, will you still be shouting for blood? Aren't they entitled to a fair hearing? Isn't it possible they might have been framed?
Everyone deserves justice even a murderer but in the hands of the law and not the hands of a baying mob.

I'm sure the police were not expecting to be ambushed by a mob so they probably went in small numbers. After all why should picking up a suspect require a 100 man squad of riot control police.
What should have been a simple case of picking up a suspect for interrogation and them being charged to court if there is ample evidence with witnesses etc turned into a blood bath because of a barbaric crowd and people are blaming the police. I'm sure the crowd tried to wrest the suspect from the custody of the police and Oba in the palace and hence the ensuing chaos.

No sympathy I'm afraid, they shouldn't have taken the law into their own hands.
Meanwhile who is the rat in the palace who went out to leak palace business? The Oba should watch his back, his household isn't trustworthy

boss1310:
Am not saying RIP to a fool who is hindering a police man who have the right given by the government from carrying out his natural duty just because he wants to burn his fellow human being

Ujoan:
A mistake TWO people made . . . . Unfortunately Chioma had to pay for the both of them all these 23 years past, what choice does she have? Not like she can just throw her child away like your brother did!

Kind of convinient for your brother to decide to pay for his 'mistakes ' after have a lovely life without the inconvenience of a love child..

Buying the wrong shoe is a mistake, forgetting to turn the tap off is a misake . . . Abandoning your own child is an irresponsible act that only a truly wicked person can pull off.

No amount of sugar coating can change that and honestly trying to justify it is a huge insult and lack of consideration for what he put the young lady through.

months:
Y DONT U GO TO SAUDI ARABIA OR PARKISTAN AND OPEN YANSH TO COLLECT PRICK BEFORE MARRIAGE. ROTTEN THING!

NA STILL ONE SUGAR DADDY WILL SPONSOR HER TO UNIVERSITY OF-COURSE, BUT SHE MUST COLLECT PRICK.

USELESS GENERATION DAT FAIL TO UNDERSTAND THAT NOTHING FREE IN FREETOWN. HISSSSSSSS!

irunoko:
beating is not the issue stripping her naked,1,flogging her naked 2,then flogging her naked when you're not even the parent is the height. Then what's more irritating one of the animals flogging her in the video was also having an erection . If he was actually disciplining her why is he having an erection for a 15 year old girl butt naked

adeboyewareez:
You see, I'm not trying to villify or glorify anyone. Two wrongs doesn't make a right, she was wrong : beating and flogging her while still giving way to demonic urges is also wrong. In the end, we the audience should be careful not to side the wrong part of the story. If you reflect on this, do you think a scholarship is the next thing? Why not a rehabilitation scheme which would see her leave the hold of her floggers and at the same time , make her morally stable again. What if she had seen the sex part as nothing but the flogging part as suffering? Scholarship doesn't necessarily help her in the long run.

months:
Nigeria is a decadent country. Rotten place!


She is rewarded 4 pre-marital sex in her parents house at 15 years. No wonder we see baby mama everywhere.


One diseased old looter have cornered the girl with promise of scholarship.


Goes to show how the national cake is spent on concubines, harems, vixen and harlots.


Sorry 4 Nigeria.

irunoko:
NO one IS saying its ok for a 15year old to have sex but how else will will they rehabilitate her.now you're say I scholarship is not the answer so proffer suggestion.or you'll rather she be a school drop out and at the mercy of perverted men,prostituting herself for money abi? Because it's clear shes already towing that line and someone gave her a sense OF direction and opportunity that will change her life for the better and you're judging feeling self righteous