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Mindfulness:
So how do you raise a child to become gay?

I guess we should ask the straight parents who raised all these gay folks in the world how they managed to achieve it.

Are those pictures for real? Those kids are really starving?

12Monkeys:
[size=18pt]Why do we have over 50,000 children starving to death in IDP camps?[/size]

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One would have expected that the refugess would have returned back to their homes if Boko Haram has been severely depleted as claimed by these liars in govt.

blackpanda:
Typical nigerian woman: the fear of becoming a single divorcee is greater than her hurt and shame over her husband's philandering.

Fact remains he screwed someone other than his wife and it was caught on tape.

gbam

Like he would do the same for her if she was the one seen fvcking someone on video. Doubtful.

Whatever rocks their boat jare. It's not our business how they choose to live and love themselves. I have no say.

My own Imo state?

Noted.

5minsmadness:

Nooooo,
Its the problem o!
We backward nigerians that have never been 'exposed' to the good old U.S of A have one mentality doncha know? We only get 'exposed' when we travel out. Like pimpin or is it pippimp used to think like us before he went abroad and became 'exposed'

Oh alright.
You know av got a soft spot for you ever since u dropped engine

5minsmadness:
Same as men in ghana, india, pakistan and Brazil have been sleeping with thier daughters. However in all these places it is considered a crime. It is only in the west that they glamourise it. Disgusting.
Why would i gloat over evil ? You think i'm gloating when i mention u in these threads?
I'm concerned when it happens in the west because the west is more apt to turn such fiascos into law, immoral filthy law, and the majority of the world's youth and future leaders are easily impressionable and blindly follow in order to appear 'civilized'.

5minsmadness:
I metion u because u support it.
I 'cry more than the bereaved' because anything the west does affects our youth and they see it as acceptable and cool (unfortunately).
I stand against such despicable acts there so it doesnt become a norm here.
Just because it happens over here doesnt mean it is "acceptable " over here. The americans glamourise it and our youths sadly copy them. Criticising it from becoming the norm over there and hence influencing out youth here is like plucking weed from the roots.
This is my stand.

Certainly.

All my life something in me never has agreed to discrimination or unfair treatment of others. If my personal opinion about something is not favorable to it, I don't believe that thing should be judged based on what I feel but on what's fair to everyone involved. I'll keep my personal views on it just that. Personal.

pippimp:
If i understand you correctly, you mean while in Nigeria, your views on gay relationships was amiable? If that is the case, then you are a better person than I. It took some serious reorientation in the true meaning of freedom and rights for me to really understand. This is why i understand how they think because i used to think like that. You must have come from a well groomed environment which affected your mentality. The vast majority of Nigerians, because of societal upbringing and norms have serious issues they are not aware of. I wasn't aware of it till i was exposed to something better.

Well I've lived in Nigeria all my life. Born and raised until very recently. And I don't agree with the mainstream opinions on many issues. So maybe that's not the problem.


@bold is what really pisses me off. Like we are in some sort of childish competition with other countries (I.e the west). Your house is burning and you're gloating over your neighbor's house with the leaky roof. Pfft.

I know for a fact that western countries do a better job protecting their children than we do. They don't kill them for being witches, marry them off at 11 or send off to labor in exchange for meals and basic education. I've even seen where molested children are blamed for it. With the common saying that children of nowadays are more exposed than before. Thereby implying that it's okay to sleep with underage children because they asked for it. So many appalling things that shouldn't happen to any kid alive happens to kids in Nigeria frequently and someone is here mentioning me over possible legalized pedophilia in the western future. Meanwhile it's already legal in his country.

5mins pls let this be the last time you mention me over this issue. It's annoying honestly.

pippimp:
Believe it or not, i completely understand the way 5minsmadness is thinking because i used to think like that. Nigerians have a level of ignorance and bitterness unparalleled. Back in Nigeria, i thought my way of thinking was normal and everyone else was crazy. I never took the time to consider that if my way was normal and i had other like minded people thinking the same way, then my surroundings would be fine. I mean, i was thinking like a normal human being right? The economy would be fine, people wouldn't be burned in the streets on a daily basis, there wouldn't be trash littering every nook and cranny, policemen wouldn't be standing confidently in public collecting bribe like that was there job, etc. Nigerians don't want to understand that every country has issues and it is the magnitude and frequency of the issues that matters. What also matters is how you manage it as a people. Nigerians don't have a clue what their issues are or how to go about solving them but are quick to point out the perceived fault in others. They are a true example of the saying, "misery likes company". Since they are so depressed and unhappy, they are always on the lookout for the worst news to come of countries like the U.S.A, so they can say "ehen, i talk am. See wetin dem don do too". People like him don't understand that the solution to their problem is exposure. Once they can have access to it, their perception will change. The problem is just how does one get them exposed.

5minsmadness, Meanwhile men have been sleeping with their daughters all over Nigeria. Sometimes caught too and many such news litter this forum.

I haven't seen you mention me to gloat that such a thing is happening. Nay have you even showed any concern? But you're suddenenly excited when it happens in another country continents away from you. What's your obsession with the west.

Pls stop it. It's not a nice color on anyone.

Before any denso misunderstands me, this is not to say bad things don't happen in the west. It's plain ridiculous and speaks volumes when citizens of a nation won't focus on what's wrong with theirs and try to fix (even if it's only with words. Yes words work). Instead get off at comparing their issues with other countries. As if to say if it happens there, then it's okay to happen here too.

I know about the unsavory things that go in on parts of India (for example), you won't see me online whining about India when I've my own problems to fix. I don't get it.

Pls stop mentioning me when you're typing senseless comments.

Instead of worrying about future pedophilia in the west , why not focus on its presence in your own country? Alive and kicking and happening every second.

Crying more than the bereaved. Are we?

I swear most Nigerians are ridiculous. (Including you) Is the focus on the west supposed to relieve you of the bad feelings that come with the horrible things that happen in your own country? Where humans are burned alive on the streets and unprintable things are done by those who have a little power over others. Like girls being stripped and flogged on video by men.

Why are you (and indeed many Nigerians) addicted to masturbating over whatever you perceive to be bad news coming out of 'the west'. When you have a millions of it living with you and you're existing just fine.
It's a trend but I don't know what to call. Like some hidden way to gloat over a country to make you feel better about yours. When you should be doing is working on your own country so that you have genuine reason to feel better about it.

Cc pippimp. See the west bashing thing I was telling you about. This section is like hub of it.

5minsmadness:
We warned u people but u refused to listen. You blindly follow the western agenda because u have been gum-smacked by their good living and money economy, so nothing they can do is wrong. I told cococandy then that pedophilia would soon be next, she said i was dwelling in conspiracy theories. Now a woman and her son have brazenly dared the rules and before you know it this incest case will be politicised. New research will come up to show the benefits or non-harm of incest and anyone not in support of incest will be shamed and called small-minded and accused of not being civilized. There will be marches and protests, sob-stories and victimization. And then incest will be made legal. Next will come bestiality and pedophilia .


This is just the beginning.

What kind of presidency jokes with the presidents security? A matter of national security?
Why not settle them so that they will exist in peace without evil thoughts towards the presidency.

I've never seen a more unserious government in all my young life. Lord have mercy.

She's even under aged which makes whoever she allegedly had sex with criminal here. I don't read your outrage at him/them. Instead you're focusing on the wrong person here. Twisted

ITbomb:
It is not just one men that she had sex with, TWO MEN for 15 years old

PrivateInvestig:
I Dont understand o,like everyone is praising that stupid orphan for having sex abi? In as much as I condemn the act,that girl s a disgrace too.

Pls who did you see singing her praise?

All of you are in support of those people's dastardly act but hiding behind what she did wasn't good.

Pls what right do they have to treat another human being that way? Regardless of her offense.

depezee:
Though the dehumanization on this girl is very bad. I still wonder why she should be glorified as if her act leading to her ordeal is pretty good. At her age as a minor I think is not good to engage in such act.

All of you singing her praises may all your generation continue to practice se.x even at age less than hers!

They are police men? Wonders shall never end.

Sometimes I wonder what will happen before we get it right. If the police can blatantly do this, what do they expect for those they police?

And despite the racism and sexism they face, they have managed to rise to become one of the top most educated and successful group of humans the world has seen.

Respect.

pcguru1:
Yeah truth is there are good women as much bad women, so i don't really tag all Nigerian women or American women under one category, because i know each person doesn't represent the whole. Just because one person sleeps around means all Nigerian women sleep around, However I have come to notice a similar pattern amongst African men, this might sound insulting but it must be said:

We suffer from what we call "William Lync Syndrome" however this was in a speech i read but i think it was a hoax but the principle prevails, a lot of black men have been pre-conditioned to hate other black-men, you will see Nigerians overseas not wanting anything to do with another Nigerians but will happily throw themselves to welcome a white person. I've seen this times without number, hell i fell victim to it, till self-awareness kicked in, it's a known fact that the black woman is the most disrespect bunch in the world, even in America, They get all the hate from all angles even black men themselves. So when someone says Team foreign women i just shake my head and sigh, Malcom X was right, Black women have it harder than anyone, now am not saying as a black man you are mandated to date a black lady, am just saying we must learn to respect black women, I have dated foreign ladies (just 2) and really one was equally as deceitful as some ladies i would find in Nigeria. You can date any lady you want from any country but i see it stupid when you have to put down your own just to glorify another. I call it Post Slavery Syndrome.

Trust me there are crazy women out there regardless of race, you need to spend time on reddit and also manosphere you will see men from corners of the world narrate their story.

but what do i know ? am just a dude hooked up on weed

UPDATE Here's the quote from Malcom X

I wouldn't marry him if I was her.

If we were already married and he said such, I'll leave him.

See there are things that are inhumane and I'd be frightened to associate with people who support such things. Like jungle justice. I'd never be in the same room with any 'human' being who's ever participated in such activities.

Jungle justice is just an avenue for evil people who haven't been caught in their own misbehavior to unleash their wickedness on those who are unfortunate to have been caught. Especially when it concerns minor things like petty stealing.

Who are you?

Are you going to pay me for the advice?

teemy:
It seems peeps missed this part where Op mentioned extra family members come along with MIL





Hi dynamite11, I recently had a similar experience with my younger brother. Apart from our seperate places we stay there is a place where the family stays. Unfortunately he ends up disturbing me (unintentionally though but my work requires full concentration which could hurt me financially if I miss opportunities). When last it happened I had a separate room setup. On day one of my moving in I got in to meet him in front of my PC. That was the last time he entered the room.

Given the space people would take on the free hand given and also try to stretch it. Am sure this attitude of trying not to offend others would be affecting other areas of your life and business as well especially when you can't say no (I was once like that till like a year ago). In your case let wifey know you had to relocate to avoid this situation quietly but considering the issue still persists let her just imagine what your next step to permanently put a stop to this would be. Her own imagination would do the rest and the right set of words to caution MIL would produce themselves.

Cococandy it is a nice thing standing up for your fellow sistas but in this case where the OP had to say "I'm losing my sanity", woman abuse is not playing out here. Advice him, he needs it.

Wishing you well - Teemy

pippimp:
My in law, i have given up on these people i swear. You know the worst part? It's bad enough he put his hand on a woman, but he supposedly did it in a court of law. Total disregard. If he can do that there in full view of the law, what do you think he is capable of when no one is watching? How i wish there was a way to cleanse these guys with force.

It's a jungle. Seriously

Most of them?

Oga pls

PaulIdu:
It means you are now a carrier for life and you will go about infecting any woman you sleep with and most of the will end up having cervical or uterine cancer and die ..it means you are a danger to most women including the one you will marry .

Six strokes of cane.

Lol. Medieval times things

But after 10 months, has the value of the car not gone down? Considering you wanted to sell it and use the money for another project.
Oga you let this thing linger for too long and even if you get it back, you've already lost. I can assure you that car won't come back in the same shape it was when it left.

Na wa for in-laws from hell. Instead of helping young married couples to succeed, their mission is to introduce discomfort and awkwardness in all the ways they can. Tufia.

Cc Pippimp.

A national lawmaker. I'm dumbfounded.

When people who are in power can do this, imagine what those who aren't in the eye of the law can do.

But trust me nothing will be done to him. He will continue liked the lord unto himself that he is.

Aww Tiwa is move to Teebillz.
Dude should just get his shyt together and make a move to reconcile with her. I believe she's nice enough to forgive him. Despite his foolishness.

Standing5:
Going by the indexes, the rate at which we were sliping into the current recession under GEJ was far higher than the rate under Buhari.
To explain further lets examine the prediction that warned us about dollar hitting N260/$ by May 2015. We all witnessed how that was postponed to ending of 2015. Had Gej been in charge beyond May 29 .15, he would continued to borrow more heavily as against Buhari's blockage of leakages.

smh.

For one they could both be earning and paying for the house together. Don't use your personal life to judge others. Not every wife is dependent. And even if she were the man's income is still the family income. It belongs to both of them. Since the wife most certainly is doing other things to keep the home running. And the man brings in the money. It's a division of labor hence their contributions are equal. You can't chew money. Someone has to manage it and make it into something edible, wearable or livable. The house belongs to both of them. Their relations should apply wisdom and caution when visiting. It shouldn't only apply to her relations.
Stop the one sided hypocrisy.

What's her mother's single motherhood got to do with it? Yea who knows the reason. What if it was the father's fault that they are divorced? But no you can't think of that. All avenues to judge the woman right?

From your comment I guess it's perfectly acceptable for the wife to threat his relations like poo if she's the one making the money? Did you even read your comment before posting it?

luvablesam:
Aunty don't get me wrong o but the reason y most people aren't insulting the OP is simple. ITS HIS HOUSE(He earned every penny he used to build or rent his house) so he can choose to see anyone he wants.

If the situation was a turned one and the woman owns everything do you think she will even let the man talk in that house talkless her mum-inlaw? The reason y most people talk or comment negatively when a Woman complains about their mother in law visits is simple. In most events its her Sons house,(he had all the money before yu married him), she lived already with him or was a constant visitor before you met him. I hope yu catch d drift?. @OP you no dey try at all. Tell her simply that you would love it if she stops her constant visits. If she doesn't put your gateman on the spot.

Besides do you know y she ended up a single mum?

I'm not surprised at his comments. Wouldn't have expected anything different.

Prettiepearlz:
Uncle, don't get me wrong too oooooooo, what gave you the impression that the wife didn't give financial support in the building, buying or renting of the house? You make me laugh I swear. Let's even look at it from your angle, so because her son bought, built or rented the house as the case maybe is now a GOOD reason for a MIL to come and invade her children's privacy thereby inconveniencing the wife right? Please don't get me wrong, a wife shouldn't stop her MIL from visiting her son's house but all I am saying is she shouldn't make it an everyday thing and that's what these women who come here complain about and nairaland guys eat them raw by judging them but now the table is turned and you come up with this? Goodness me! You guys are selfish and manipulative! All you do is think about yourself. Just imagine! A man owns the house, so what happened to a man shall leave his father and mother and join to his wife and they shall become one? . Why una nor tell am to endure? After all, they are one and the house belongs to them both now.



You made a statement about a woman becoming the boss of the house if she was the bread winner, I ask you is it all women? Haven't we seen women who are breadwinners who didn't for one day disrespect her husband (if you haven't seen any, I have). Now I am not saying we don't have some bad eggs amongst us but you lots should stop generalizing things. And lastly, once married, the house no longer belongs to the man, it belongs to both the husband and the WIFE. So stop making it seem like you're doing women favours by marrying them. You're both doing yourselves favours.
Cococandy, please read this uncle's comment

This one is even advising him to cheat on his wife because her mom visits a lot.

Could you people be more shameless in your hypocrisy? SM

comos:
why not go on vacation with another Lady, where you will really have fun.

I am very sure by the time you return, you will be the begging your mother-ln-Law to stay such that you will have more time for that sweet vacation-Lady.

Lol

Kachisbarbie:
ehn, some of you guys mothers are like that na and when we complain you say my mother first, no one be like her, my mother da suffer for me...who sat and watch my infant head .
Make una see as e dey be smallll.

If this thread was by a female, we would have people advising us to treat her like our mother. OP treat her like you mother na

On a serious note, you have to take the bull by the horn. I am all for respect and diplomacy but when people can't respect boundaries_ I come out all blunt and straight to the point.
Since they love each others company so much, 'waybill' your wife back to her. When she's ready to be free from her moms' watch, she should come back

Thank you. I've been reading the comments. No one has accused him of trying to separate the wife's family. Or wanting the marriage to be only 'him and his wife'

I guess weird and obnoxious things are better when done by the man's family.

Prettiepearlz:
At last all powerful master, at least this complain is coming from a man and not a woman. I am surprised at the comments coming from our men, they aren't insulting him but if it's from a woman, this thread would have been filled with insults, now you can see that what's good for the goose is also good for the gander. Nobody wants his or her privacy being invaded. I just hope you guys here will comment this way if it's from a lady, but NO! It's a selfish world! A woman has to bear the pain.

@dynamite11, you know to achieve your aim, you might end up turning into a bad guy but for someone like me, I don't care. Since your wife isn't doing anything tangible about it, you have to put your foot down, you have to face her. Let her know that her presence is bugging you, you need your privacy, you need time to bond with your family and she isn't giving you that with her everyday and unnecessary visits. But if you can't do it, then you have to live with it.

Ps: Ikupakuti, come and see a guy complaining, let's see what you have to say about this now.

AnonyNymous:
I'm sure he's not even taking care of the seven kids properly

I can wager they are not even in school.

All those kind of useless men know how to do is litter the surface of the earth with their offspring and leave the caring for other people to do for them. As if the world owes them something.