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Aminat508:

shaybebaby:
The requirement is up to the individuals to decide. What bros Lezzlie is missing is that personalities are different so what works for some might be a deal breaker for another.
Yes we all want to be happy but our definition of happiness varies greatly. Imagine someone who is a masochist in a physically abusive relationship, would that not be heaven for such a person to be married to a sadist? Yet for peeps with aversion to violence, we know the very thought is an anathema to them.
We are not all cut from the same cloth o jare.

Lezzlie:

@the emboldened, so what have you been arguing about then?
In as much as you think of me as new to this part, I've been here very long to know you're pro-divorce.

And I disagree with you that a beating husband has earned the penalty of a divorce anymore than a slovenly, abusive wive has.


your "extreme cases" are in most instances, going by your precedents, minor domestic scuffles.

You are wont to often advocate divorce as a quicksilver approach to most marital malee.

Divorce is only for the instance of actual intention to take life or a direct threat to it.

Every other brawl should be settled with the option of divorce far off the table.

Lezzlie:
I believe in the indissolubility of marriage in most situations.

Lezzlie:
Separation offers a window of opportunity for change and hope. A divorce is brutal finality and there's no true " moving on" in a divorce situation.

The ghost of a failed marriage never ceases to haunt and hover over the next.

A separation offers a chance of sober appraisal of the union while still offering a form of physical and emotional detachments for pure reflection.

Marriage should be entered with care and even solved with greater care.

Preach separation, not divorce.

Lezzlie:
You paint an extreem scenario, and I'll advise separation than an outright divorce in such circumstances.

EfemenaXY:
You got in there before me babe.

@op: may our daughters never come across the likes of you and your ilk.

Amen.

bukatyne:
In addition to the complex, this is a husband planning to be terrible one forehand and looking for a 'doormat' who will accept his shit hook, line and sinker.

Who plans not to marry a policewoman because he can't hit her?

A nurse has no interest in sex due to constant contact with ailment yet she is willing to sleep with doctors & patients in her care?

BTW, I thought nurses are steretotyped to be randy?

Onegai:
I don't know much about daffodils, the little I know is they're bulbs (like tulips). Could it be that you're overwatering them? Because I've certainly killed a few.plants drenching them in water and when their leaves turned brown (their roots were rotting due to excess water), I poured more water in erroneously. Did you put filler (rocks or something) under the soil before planting? I didnt and my spider plant is drinking a bit too much water and browning so I'm watering less (once or twice a week). Maybe that's it? And you could go to Home Depot (no, not them, the other one...) and get a sachet of plant food? I dunno.

Gardeners in the Western Hemisphere, please answer.

Lezzlie:
Divorce should be the last option in a failing marriage.

Opting for it as a measure to curb a beating or cheating husband is like treating a disease whose cure is worse than the ailment

Donariok:
This is the reason I'd urge everyone to choose the kind of women they wanno get married to wisely. and everyone should take caution and should be able to know the do's and don't of their partner.

what ever the case maybe, God is in control

hmmmm but wait o.


ohhhh. assuming I begged this man to dash me the millions he'd spend for d marriage, saying a tin like this will happen on d deal day, em Nairalanders will say am a prophet of doom. but sha una Don see am now?

cococandy:
And you know the lady is to Blame because?

Yomieluv:
karashika lady.

Onegai:
Terrarium part 2

I got some glass jars from Iponri market (they had a lot of options there). But you can use even old mayonnaise jars, wine (port) glasses, glass tumblers, so you've got a lot of options in your budget.

You can landscape your terrarium by painting some of your kids toys and putting it inside.

bukatyne:
Is that a 'divorcable' offence?

edwife:
I just love this woman , have you seen her dress? Radiant as always and in the pursuit of happiness!

lanicky:
Hi cococsndy
Good morning.

Sunnycliff:
And some zombies will applaud their chief Zombist for doing a nice job!
Why not find the underlying cause of this trouble?

Why don't you tell your people to respect boundaries and cultural differences? Must they always have their way in pples land?


THE GRAZING BILL HIGHLIGHT
I decided to read a copy of the National Grazing Reserve Council Bill and I was surprised at what I saw.

The Bill creates a council to be chaired by a Chairman to be appointed by the president.

The council shall have the power to take your land anywhere the land is located in the country and then pay you compensation.

Your land, when taken, shall be assigned to herdsmen who shall use your land for grazing purposes. They shall bring cows to the land and you shall lose the land permanently to those Fulani cattlemen.
If you feel that the council was not right to take your land, you can go to court but before you go to court, you must first of all notify the federal attorney general of your intention to sue the council. Apart from notifying, you must get the consent and authority of the Federal Attorney General before you can sue.

So that means that if the Attorney General refuses to give his consent to the suit, you have lost your land forever to the herdsmen.

And this law, when passed, shall apply to the whole country so it means that your land in the village or anywhere is not safe.

The National Grazing Reserve Council would have the power to take away your land from you anytime they want and pay you whatever they want as compensation (even when you don't want to sell, and remember that for you to get compensation, you must have documents showing or proving ownership).

So I think that we all in the South West, South South and South East must rise up and reject this Bill. We must do all things to force our national Assembly members from passing that bill into law.

That bill is a deliberate attempt to take our lands and hand the land over to the Fulani cattlemen since it is only the fulanis that rear cattle in Nigeria.
That law, when passed, shall fulfil the directive of Uthman Dan Fodio and other northern leaders to take over other parts of Nigeria.

I implore you to use all available means to implore your senator and Rep not to pass that law.

That law will destroy Nigeria.
All over the world, ranches are established and used to rear cattle. The farmers buy land and put there cattle there. There is no country where the land of the citizens are compulsorily acquired and given to others.

This is evil, and designed to favour the Fulanis where the president comes from.
We must resist the passage of that bill into law to save Nigeria, and to protect our future generations.

Emperor Ogbonnaya

DedeNkem:
Here is my thought or advice.

She over-reacted and made things worse by smashing his property. That's a runz or street girl's attitude. She has terrible friends and anyone who keeps this type of friends is bad herself. The guy probably likes this kind of girls. Who knows?

If I were the guy's friend, I would scold him to dumb her as*s immediately. This type of woman shouldn't be kept and I hope he never thought of marrying her, because it will be a disaster.

Even if the guy cheated on her, she has no right whatsoever to threaten his life or destroy his property. She would be in jail if this happened in a civilized country.

When you're in a relationship with anyone, you DON'T own the person. The person has the right to to dumb your as*s any time he or she wishes. The same applies to marraige, a husband or wife has right to end the marraige at any time he or she wishes.

That's why you must trust and treat your partner with utmost respect and diginity if you want him or her to stick around long.

If anyone tells you something about your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, investigate first before jumping to a conclusion!

NwaNimo1:
Nigeria's full of evil people....

ronald4lif:
Coco, ana'm ekene gi. Greetings.