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Omo.

We should not even dare to experience any epidemic or pandemic in this balabluic Tinubulation o. Otherwise na die. Guy no send our papa o.

They will just use the opportunity to cash out.

Ah God abeg o.

Mrperfecto:
I will just be brief without writing too much.

We are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible, she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home.

She comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet.

I am on my way to work. I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys. We had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse. She is behaving like she's possessed.

My wife and I are fed up. Even her siblings are tired of her. We want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones. If we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities.

Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?

According to you,she doesn't act like that when you're around. She needs you, not the step mom. Unfortunately you're pushing her away.

If the mother was with you, will you have this thought? This is akin to situations where the kids mom is dead, and dad is siding with new wife to treat the kids like outcasts. That's exactly what you're doing.
I noticed that you used the word "we" when you talked about sending her back to Nigeria. Which means it's a decision you and your wife are taking. Have you ever wondered whether it's all a manipulation from your wife to get rid of her?
A quick way to find out is, pretend that you have plans to send all your kids to Nigeria once they become teenagers. If she disagrees, then it's all a manipulation. Her kids are yours, same as this one you and her want to push away.

If you send her to Nigeria, just know that you've lost her forever. Forget the people on nairaland encouraging you to do that. They are talking from the position of poverty. And their poverty mindset. People glorify poverty here, and sometimes even declare it to be better. For goodness sake these are people that justify spiritual flogging.

What you should do is, First of all, keep an open mind and find out why she is at loggerheads with your wife. The results might shock you. Also take her side sometimes. She's already experiencing self doubt, and it will affect her as an adult.
Take her side, take her side, take her side. This is the only way you can draw her close. Not with gifts, she will smell that from afar, and the results will be the opposite.
When she's now close to you, you can then change her.
You cannot change her as distant as you are from her.

Take her side. Side with her. Don't go to have a fatherly talk with her. That will be counterproductive,because it needs the right emotions. And right now the emotion that kid has for you and your wife is resentment.
Just be taking her side, and the perfect time for pep talks will present itself.
I am telling you this out of experience.
Also don't leave parenting for your wife. Be there for her, she doesn't owe your wife nothing, but for you, she doesn't have a choice. And your wife equally doesn't owe her nothing especially as she has her own kids.

This is turning out to be my longest post by a mile on nairaland but I repeat, if you send her to Nigeria, you've lost her for good.

Another opportunity to remind you that this is your daughter. Take her side, and keep her close. You might be doing this thinking it's your idea, not knowing it's all a big manipulation.

Shalom.

Their women also don't cross their legs at the knee, but at the ankle

Biafrannuke:
By early March, thousands will collapse on the streets as a result of hunger. Many will die.

There will be massive looting of government warehouses and gradual return to the state of nature in North and SW.

Bandits will stop charging in Naira and charge in US dollars and food.

By April, nizoorians will eat grass and ministry of health will sensitize them on healthy grass options, there will be famine refugee camps and outbreak of kwashiorkor in North and SW worse than the civil war times.

Communities will mobilize billionaires to share palliatives to household in Biafra land.

MNK cursed the zoo. The plague is just starting unless they give us Biafra. I am not bluffing

Are you in some kind of delu?

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AllenSpencer:
People told the Algerians and South Africans same statement, we both know how it’s going….

It’s a matter of time!

Good luck

AllenSpencer:
Why they offered to relocate to Africa?

They are European Zionist and not Jews! Netanyahu himself cannot submit for a DNA test! The land belongs to the Palestines and it comprised of Jews- The real ones!

If you have a cable TV, you should know Orthodox Jews already denying that, they have nothing to do with genocide.

European Zionist are not Jews! Real Jews have been cohabiting with Palestines for years. They all share same history.


Prominent Rabbi’s have denounced the genocide and replayed history.


https://www.jstor.org/stable/41235984

Nuff talking. Go and eject them then.

AllenSpencer:
Oh! So you don’t know it was an earlier plan to relocate them to Africa after being evicted from Europe.

And what documented that Europeans have claim to Palestine? Aren’t those same people that were expelled from Europe? Before their arrival, the “REAL JEWS” have been living happily with Arabs in Palestine.

Nah they weren't living happily. Never did. Even in biblical times.

You forget that they continually got bullied in Europe because they were always reminded they weren't from there. Hitler was the last straw.

Oh Let's conveniently forget the attacks they suffered after relocating. Let's also forget the 6 day war initiated by the Arab countries against one nation still struggling to settle, on their very moment of weakness.

I'm responding to the later part of your reply. Because truly I can't make anything out of the rest. Sounds as if it's written by a mentally unstable fellow.


As an addendum
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Igbos living and marrying all over the place in Nigeria, if the civil war didn't happen, many of them would have forgotten their inheritance in the east.
The offsprings will have the looks and speak the language of the place they live in. Only to remember their origins whenever they're abused and reminded.
And if eventually push comes to shove, where do you think those surviving offsprings will relocate to? Igboland of course.

PROUDIGBO:
If i spend all day hunting for negative news from the region of these smug bigots that think they’re all ‘sophisticated’ and ‘superior’, hope the mod that delights in rushing these kind of threads to the homepage will equally oblige me with the same privilege!?

Lol... The protest against Tinubu started from their very own domain. And again all manner of hunger crimes have been coming from that side. So allow them a little bit of jubilation. They really need it.

AllenSpencer:
Anyone who opposes the genocide is now referred to as Hamas or being antisemitic.

Africa just needs to be thanking God that, those Jews were not relocated to Africa as earlier proposed. They would have conquered the continent.

Why would they be relocated to Africa when they have a home documented in history with a good number of their people still living there?

kingar:
the lady actually bowed against the pastor for doggy.

I'm sure she also bowed for him for bj

EmperorCaesar:
I swear, at this rate, I really wish u guys can just go your own way

I understand the normal tribal bashing and all but its becoming disgusting when an average Igbo man sees everything thru a tribal lens

U cant just address the issue on ground in relations to the man, u just mentioned the tribal straightup

If this is how the Igbos think, na to dey withdraw from most of my Igbos friends offline o....cause you wil be more terrible than the socalled racists

You're a well known tribalist And you just happened to miss the one below.

accordadoga23:
Hehehe

This woman makes a lot of sense.

Anyways nothing concern me with Adeboye.

If dem like make dem impeach Tinubu, no be my business.

My own be say no Igbo man will every rule Nigeria.

Whether na Fulani, Yoruba, Hausa, Idoma or even Kenyan go rule us after dem impeach Tinubu no wahala as long as no be igbo man

KanuSE:
Op even managed to put an image to support his incoherent garbage.

Chai, Nairaland.

Lol sometimes na mods dey do that thing. They work on the post to be up to standard before pushing to fp.

faceland:
What about the wicked vigilanteee that carried a hungry man to hospital to pay hospital bill when they could have just buy abonaki and bandage and fixed his broken hand or leg.

Ah you're still talking of buying balm and bandage? You get money o.
They should have just gotten some onugbu leaves that people forgot to chew in this great Tinubulation.

Now the driver will have to spend money repairing his bumper In this great Tinubulation.

CorrectionFluid is sad.

AfroBeatDiary:
Hmmm... I'm not saying anything to slander the dead but chief Bode George told us how he and the likes of Elumelu had their money, the cbn release USD to them at a rate and they sell to the black market at a higher rate to make profit leaving the real end users with no option than to patronise the mallam and this is the genesis of inflation we're all currently experiencing.

Up until 2003 when I was in Ife, I will walk into Cooperative bank in Lagere to buy USD to settle bills, I pay in Naira over the counter and receive cash till they stopped and mandated me to open an account and just one day, they told me to go to Sabo so I'll buy from Sabo, head to GTB to deposit and someone like me became a source to source USD from the black market for the bank.

May his soul rest in peace hoping he deserves it.

Yoruba man, you didn't blame the government that made the policy. It's the banks that implement the government policies and their CEOs that you're blaming.

You go dey alright las las

Omo. CorrectionFluid is tired

Soludo had done this sort of thing before shaa. Although high denominations weren't cut off, coins were introduced: the N1 and N2 coins.

I can remember the high denomination notes were then controlled such that there became a scarcity.

Went with a friend to pay school fees at the bank, and he had a nylon full of N1 and N2 coins. The cashier look am like "God what is all this nau"

Mynd44:
And they will still have to use ECOWAS ports, fly through Ecowas countries, depend on ecowas for every aspect of their economy including electricity and education.

Must be nice to live in such grand delusion

By forming a confederation, they've just increased their value,and put themselves in a position of strength. Any country that opens it's ports to them really has a lot to gain.

This is a test of the unity of ECOWAS countries, and indeed the strength of the alliance. Will money win, or will honor win? Only time will tell.

SoNature:
Any man who still has the plan of returning to his village/country after retirement should never have any business dating or marrying a non-Nigerian.

By the way, men who often complain that their wives dumped them after bringing them overseas often tell an incomplete story. If you treat a reasonable woman well (both in Nigeria and overseas), she has no reason to leave you.

However, if you always remind your wife that an African man is entitled to several wives, she will use foreign laws to wreck your life. If a woman leaves you because you brought her overseas, she never loved you in the first place. Women love like babies.

Timini Egbuson's view only works for people of his level (as a celebrity) because most Nigérian ladies living abroad won't agree to date an average Nigerian man living in Nigeria.

You're no different from him. Making generalizations and drawing conclusions.
Awon Love doctors

mytime24:
Naija Laws are for d poor

Wetin be Naija laws?

You no see the sharia there, abi eyes dey pain you?

BrighterSyde:
You know I really feel for you a lot. The situation of the country is really eating deep into your brain and you seem frustrated by it.
Pdp condemned corruption by apc. I highlighted that apc is indeed corrupt even in my subsequent posts. I also had to remind us of how corrupt pdp indeed really was and is. But somehow your misguided brain interpreted it to mean that I support apc. Now to what end? Even if I’m a supporter of apc and I’m pretending what exactly would be my gain? This is a faceless forum. I don’t even know you or care about your existence. So who are you that I will be scared of to declare who I support or who I don’t? If I openly declare my support for apc what can you do about it other than the senseless rants you’ve been dropping? I understand that you are frustrated. I don’t pray to get to your level of depression but no matter how poverty-stricken you are at least add some wisdom in analyzing a person’s post. Those who pretend here usually deflect the main topic of discussion and will never admit that their party is corrupt. If truly I was an apc member I would be spending more time pointing out how much more corrupt pdp was. But asides from my first post which seemed to sound like that to your deluded brain none of my other posts has defended the apc or tried to shift the topic of discourse to relegating apc’s obvious corruption while trying to highlight pdp’s.

As usual I don’t expect you to be able to reason well cos your situation is indeed pitiable especially mentally. Feel free to drop another schizophrenic rant. I’m waiting.

Looong note no paragraph. No way I'm reading that.

I scroooooollled. Only to see "schizophrenic" at the end. Lol.

Whose post is looking like a schizophrenic rant?

Beremx:
you're a mad man. You're engaging me and throwing insults. Typical of a vile Igbo animal who calls himself a man. You're cursed already same as your household. Fuckkkk off my mentions please!!
Cursed fool

Oh you don't want to mention my family again?

I agree I am a vile Igbo man while you are a civilized intelligent saint. But all you love will die because you are an intelligent saint, that easily calls for other people's family members death. Werey.

The intelligent saint first drag family, first drag tribe. So much for civilized intelligent saint

Beremx:
your mother and father will die. Your death wish has been reversed to your parents. Idiotic fool who cannot make comments without insult.
Stupid and arrogant Igbo monkey

Since you've kept mentioning members of my family while I am mentioning only you, while even putting a condition. Here we go, let swim in this gutter. No be only Lagos get frustrated people like you. This was how you were attacking people in order to campaign for Buhari in 2014.

Beremx or whatever you call yourself. Your husband and all your children will die on the same day, in a brutal bloody way. You will be the only one left alive hapless and useless. Anyone and anything that gives you joy will perish brutally. Anything you touch will die.

Now there's no if condition to this one. This one no be "if you go protest". This one na sure banger. They will die this year. All of them.

BrighterSyde:
Again your assertions just show that you are deluded and devoid of simple unbiased reasoning which should be constructive. Go through my posts and show me where I have supported any politician or party. You delusion is making you assume what doesn’t exist and indeed it is giving you a mental breakdown. Even the likes of yarimo, freestuffng and Nlpolicewoman who are apc supporters seems to be far less idiotic than you are.

Your attempt at deceit will not work. It will never work. If you like show pains from today till forever.

Someone condemned corruption, and you went on a fallacy against the person, without even condemning the corruption itself.

You wanted to rubbish the particular topic, by casting aspersions on the person. That says already where you stand.

You went off topic yet you're here telling me how idiotic you are. If that's not insanity, I wonder what it is

Jeans601:
That your business if lost your basic humanity feeling.

Even Jesus our lord had pity on a thief next to him on the cross.

Only a fool will rejoice and see nothing wrong with such number of dead people....27,000 humans.


No wonder God was really sad seeing what he created in his own image.

3 million lives lost in your own country's civil war. Most of them women and children. What's your take?

Jeans601:
27,000 lives lost mostly women and children


Anyone still supporting isreal need serious mental evaluation.

What's your take on the Nigerian civil war?

Throwback:
The South Africans have experienced when foreigners come to your land and take over and push you to a corner of what is fully yours.

The Jewish refugees who left Russia and Poland and Germany to return to a region they had been ejected from for almost 2000 years by the Romans, have no right over the lands that the Arabs had been living on since the 7th century.

Do you know that the first set of 6 Prime Ministers of Israel that was formed in 1947, were all born outside of Palestine?

They were all born in Europe.

How does a refugee tribe displace the original modern occupants of the land that trace their unbroken ownership to the past 1300 years?

I don't see you giving same history lessons when Fulani herdsmen go on a killing and raping spree anywhere in Nigeria.

Abi you get hypermetropia. You dey only see things wey far.

I thought south Africa was no longer a member of the international criminal court.

Klington:
From the horses mouth.

APC is eeV!l.

Still failed at that.

Buhari > Tinubu

Fact.