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masterpiecer: i smell burnt beef

I await my poem!

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indecisive & broken

masterpiecer: I agree with u but to some extent, thank God u said some children, truth is, some, but not most.
Most single parent children turn out wayward, cases where they turn out good is when the single parent had to go the extra mile to make sure the child is properly brought up, i'm not saying that some of the kids brought up by both parents might not turn out wayward, but on a large scale, wayward children are mostly product of broken homes/marraiges.

First of all, a child belongs to the world and not its parents. Even if parents give proper home training and does everything with no errors detected, its up to the child to live by those principles or get influenced by the bad things of the world. That is why you see pastors, presidents and all having problems with their kids. Its your sole responsibility to decide which path you want to thread. Parents can only teach & guide you.

As for a child with a single parent. Different things come to play
1) Appreciation: It would always be registered on the child's mind or psyche that he is raised by a parent performing the function of two parents. That, the single parent could have opt and left too but stayed back to nurture him/her and show how special he/she is. That child would always have that compassion and consideration in its doings. The child would always want his single parent to be proud.

2) Consciousness: The child would know that its a reflection of the single parent as such if he/she screws up, fingers would be pointed at the single parent and there would be additional humiliation. So the child would always have that fear & conscience not to screw up and shame the single parent further.

3) Determination: The child would want to strive hard to make it. Would want to be a success to reckon with so that he/she can brag of its achievement to the other parent who left or to the world that castigated the child & the single parent.

4) Hardwork & independence: They are driven to live a life they never had. They work hard to make it and give their single parent little pampering before they leave the earth. They are supportive & won't mind roasting corn to survive with their parent because their parent is re-writing their own wrong doings with raising a child on its own.

5) Moderation: Obviously everyone gets naughty in life, its part of the learning experience even pastors confess that they were once bad but too much of everything is not good. Most children from a single parent know when to draw the line, remember they know what is at stake and would always feel obligated.

6) Family: They turn out to be good parents & spouse because they don't want what happened to them to occur to their family. They become more understanding,respectful and their single parent would also be very careful so as not to break its child's home or render him/her to what he/she was or went through.

7) Humility: Most children with two parents are arrogant and flaunt their luxury at will. They are sometimes mannerless and rude because they don't know the worth of having a complete family. They are not exposed to hardship & they are not thankful. You would always hear things like this from them "If mummy doesn't buy me the pearls that cost a fortune, daddy will".

In conclusion, a child has its destiny on earth to fulfill whether or not its parents screwed up theirs. The child should not use that as an excuse but identify right from wrong and the path that suits him/her.

ebamma: because a child was reared by a single parent doesn't mean he is bound to fail,there are children who were reared by both parents who fare worse

I totally agree with you on that. Some children raised by single parents are far more lucrative, industrious, successful, ambitious, determined & career driven more than the ones raised by both parents. Cos they were limited to certain things,it propels them to strive hard to make a statement & give their single parent a credible name.

claremont: Well-written! Most people would rather spend all day on Nairaland than spend an hour reading a book/journal/research.

What is that suppose to mean? Would you have stumbled on this if you were not on Nairaland? Didn't you just spend time reading this thread on Nairaland? What difference does it make where you get the reading done? Smh I expected more from you!

dramatic speak: you don't have to be born in a palace to carry yourself like a royalty

This is kind of awkward but a thread like this already exist----> https://www.nairaland.com/982950/food-thought-inspirational-quotes
Finish up there. I would have to lock this up. Thanks for ur understanding!

SimplySEA: O Cuddlemii,
it's u i want to cuddle
For u i'd even go over a thousand hurdles.
Yes, I'd go through all dis trouble.
I'd hustle,
and even if i hav to, i'd burgle
jus to maintain my mtn bundle.
Cos dat's d way i'll keep seein u.
Pls my luv don't leav me alone in dis struggle,
high me up (reply me) wit those words dat are subtle,
so i can do away wit these bottles....
It's really u i want to cuddle!

I dare not leave you alone!
How would I start that which I can't finish

How would I lift you from the shackles of loneliness
Only to return you to a life of unholiness

When I promised to be loyal, I meant it with all absoluteness!
I see in the concept of love, you are accustomed to the law of directness.
It is these qualities that endeared me to your bigheartedness
My love, you are so full of sweetness
You have restored my youthfulness!

But first of all, lets talk business
How do we maintain solidness?

TODAY'S THEME IS- WISHING YOU...

Time...
to enjoy the little treasures
each day holds.

Quiet...
to be able to hear the
stirrings of your inner self,

Laughter...
to help surmount
life's heartaches
and disappointments,

Calm...
to free you from
problems and stress.

And Friends...
to bring you joy,
to warm your heart
and to make you feel
at home and welcome
in the world
wherever you go

mikuz: Is this still a poetry contest or an outbreak of romance section ?

Poetry is expressive like that. It can also accommodate any subject matter.

freecocoa: Hmm oboy hope say you know say na naija we dey,if i go outside and see a white dove waiting for me by this time of the night,na to run find where i go go sleep this night o .

chucky234: Vicks no go hold the cold ooo.help me find my cocoa butter na,where my freecocoa come go since

ur love has brought her forth
she is here!

chucky234: Cuddlemii, how far naw
We no go hear results, where my freecocoa dey since naw
I dey catch cold ooo

U no dey enjoy am, the way e dey go so?
make we give one or two more days for members to catch up na
then we vote for the winner
make i give u vicks?

denzel2009: Melinda, so you speak yoruba? omo calabar ndie kampo

akoba adaba, osa fe ki gbogbo aye mo gbogbo nkan ni pa mi. Hahaa kilode? Ni gba wo le bere si ma feran literature? m

orisisi, ogaju, "ode" ni eleyi tun pe nkan okunrin

firestar: [color=#770097]L'amour...

Weep no more.

For you

Je suis L'ahou[/color]

Qui baby Qui!
J'aime la poetry