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skyone:
na fight

Abi u dey follow married men? Honestly i don't get your post.

God Forbid. I never chop youngmanhood belle full na marriedmanhood I go dey follow. Where the womanyard to accommodate am sef.

Goldieluks:
Having kids from the age of 22-35 is the perfect stage for a woman,who likes her body to look beautiful and supple still,even after having kids.A girl/lady/ who starts giving birth from the ages of 22-35 will have enough time to see her kids grow,and she'd have the time to keep
her body healthy and looking younger(if she's body conscious). From the ages of 36-40 there are huge chances of miscarriages,still birth and a high risk of giving birth to a child affected with down syndrome and other baggages that comes with it.So me think the earlier the better.

Happy New Year.
That age bracket makes sense. But from 30 to 35 should be that the ladies are having their second or third issue and not the first. Women hit menopause very early these days so 35 years might not be possible for some.

@topic for me, I want a baby next year, sorry this year. I have forgotten we are already in 2012. I want triplets or quadruplets.

skyone:
To all that have posted including ebonyvibe

Please lets not be deceived, the expectant single mom knows exactly what she's up to, am very much sure of that. She only wanted a baby from the guy and not even the material stuffs many of us think she's after.

There's one here in London, a high profile lady doctor making good money but don't have the characteristics of building a home with a man. To cut long story short she got pregnant for a married man of two kids. Though she vowed she will never ask a penny from the guy that she will take care of her lovely son in peace and joy; how sincere was the statement remains with her.


Note:
At least 90% of ladies who gets pregnant in UK or other westhern countries really wanted it from the oncept, let's not be deceived.

skyone:
To add,

She even have a nice 2 bed house (mortgage) of her own, drives nice 2007 car and make good money. She's my friend, so i know her very well with her ego, she never beg her baby father for support.

Who are you? What makes you think you and the op are referring to the same person? Stop assuming, the stories might defer even if it involves a married man. But if its a trend in the UK then you pretty much said it all then.

Russialane:
break what sort of break its either we r in or out in essence if i were to be your guy i will prefer to settle whatsoever disagreement we have sooner because if any sort of break comes in girl it means am done with you.

Sorry that reminded me of break time in primary school

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=837303.msg9920818#msg9920818 date=1326042429]And I am guessing the reason you have all these details is because you actually stalked all the guys you mentioned[/quote]Yes O. Not all of us can marry them, but won't mind being friends with the celebs. No benefits attached from my angle but I am willing to receive bountiful harvest.

okoagwu:
the reason why most most educated women marry late is because most of them don't like been under man control

That's not true.

So uneducated women like been under men's control, right? Such shitty talk, I must confess.

What has a man's control or even education got to do with a lady marrying early or late? I thought this was even a jet world where men wanted their women as assets and not liability.

Being Educated does not necessarily obstruct or damage character and personality, its just meant to get you exposed, instil knowledge, a good career and a bearing in life. Do they teach the best time to marry in schools? See you educated babes marry O, where does the networking or relationship start from? Some peeps met their spouse in school or while in school.

When a lady marries late then its either her choice, her prerogative, her destiny, the time God felt it was best for her, or her promiscuity, or her being choosy, or her bad character, or her upbringing, or a curse from her family or mysteries of life.

@op
Sorry for intruding considering I am a girl but, is a relationship not supposed to be between two parties and is it not supposed to be in a solidarity(I scratch your back, you scratch mine). If you are trying to mend the fence, what is the other party doing or what steps has he taken to mend the fence?

My question is not valid, if you can authoritatively tell me that, you were the cause/reason for the break or you initiated the break. But if it was a mutual thing, then both of you must work on mending things mutually as a team. I am saying this because its very possible the other party is not willing to mend things so be sure you know what you are doing.

Anyways there is nothing a matured conversation can not solve, I suggest you get to see him and have a conversation on what transpired and the way forward but don't beg him so that you won't be forcing him to comply because that would lead to a future break. Make sure he expresses himself fully, don't be in a haste to cut him short or put words into his mouth. Once you have that dialogue with him, then you would feel light even if things don't return as normal at least you guys will remain friends.

@op

You actually look good so it should not be hard for you.

Start with our local/Int'l celebs on Nland: Sexkillz(Forex trader/IT whiz/Biz tycoon), Sagamite(London big boy), Jaybee(MOD on Nland), Odeiro(rich dude, I promise you, you would buy him a car in a week and a cake to die for), 190( He would always be there for u, do you happen to like dogs?), Toba (If you are ready to live a life in the playboy's mansion), 2buff (Poise man, I suspect he works in a reputable Oil firm & he live closer to you) and Reality101 (Damn girl he would hook u up with Kimora lee's wardrobe and make u the celeb). I would have given you the owner of Nland but he is taken, sorry!

Thank me later, I got your back babe I am also good at matchmaking(just telling). So when u r ready, I could make it happen.

@op
Your friend is a very silly lady/girl/woman. So you meet a guy and starts something serious without doing all verifications to find out if he is single or married. This is as a result of dating a wealthy guy, I am sure in her mind she was seeing a big boy who has all that life could offer, she was also probably carried away with spending his money and lougin with him that she must have skipped all the basics, signs and signals. I mean didn't she visit his home often or was eyed by a nosy neighbor who was irritated by his cheating ways and took it out on her or even insulted her.

Ok! Fine, she dated a married man, big deal! Even if she thought he was single, why did she put in for a guy she is not married to.

No pills, contraceptives, insertion of ring in the vag-ina, condom and constant check up to ensure she doesn't get pregnant or if early detected she quickly tells him and if no marriage plans or she discovers he is married/circumstances beyond their control, then, getting rid of the unborn with a 2 weeks life span is better than being a single mother to a married man. Yes abortion is a grieve sin but I can tell you first hand that her next journey would change her life forever.

Probably she was one of those dumb girls that thought a baby could trap a man into marriage. Don't ladies ask questions again about where their relationship is headed and even go a step further to meet their guy's family & friends before allowing the spe-rm germinate in them. If she had disturbed him with commitment query, questions and conversations, he would have dumped her or told her the truth. I don't blame her jare, some di-cks gets ladies reasoning from where its entering.

Ladies get so careless a lot. I mean, if you going to sha-g, then do it responsibly. Its your body and your future at stake. So many birth control options to consider, I think lime is also a factor to consider as some babes say it works. What ever it is just don't bring in babies that won't be accepted/cared for by both parents. Sex is sweet so even if you are lost in passion, get your senses back afterwards, its never late.

[b]SOLUTION - [/b]1) She has to accept her fate, give birth to the baby, love & care for the baby. She must not take out her frustration on the baby by cursing its existence or telling it, nasty tales about its father like most single mothers do.

2) If she is asked of the baby's dad & hubby, she should say, "he is on a job placement in America". She can get a ring, bear the guy's name, a lot of women do it, they are married to invisible men, all you hear is Mrs Ajala or Mrs Yahaya but you will never see the Mr Ajala or Yahaya(U wont see them cos they always live in US) 

3) Anytime he comes visiting, she would just signal to her neighbors that, her hubby is around. The neighbors wave at him from afar & he waves back at them (to baby's daddy, they think the father has come but to the neighbor the hubby is back from US only the mama knows whats up). Once the neighbors spread it that they have met her hubby, she is good to go. (Please I joke a lot, only No 1 is valid)

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=839964.msg9917975#msg9917975 date=1326004198]^^^
Cheater.
I see you[/quote]The person girl's cheat with.
I hear you

1) For the fun of it. Risk could be sweet at times.
2) Her boyfriend is not satisfying her in bed
3) The other guy is more handsome than her boyfriend
4) The other guy listens to her
5) The other guy is there for her in times of emergency/her time of need
6) Her boyfriend is stingy
7) Her boyfriend is poor
Girls don't want to put all their eggs in one basket just in case one messes up, there would always be a substitute/alternative.
9) Peer pressure or feel among, my friends are doing it, let me do too
10) My boyfriend cheats too so its 50 50 (2 wrongs must make a right)
11) I just heard what Amanda's bf did to her, I must not fall prey but do the same to guys
12) He does not give me attention, I do all the calling and chasing, let another guy pamper me for once
13) Jesus, his stuff is small I cant feel anything, I need to get a man with big vessel
14) He uses BO perfume
15) He farts in public even in the presence of my friends, loved ones,its so noisy & smells
16) He is not educated
17) She caters for his financial needs so she needs to get a maga that refills her pocket
18) She is just a nympho, one manhood wont be sufficient. She wises she can have it in her front and back door at the same time
19) Her ex came back to beg and they have been having se-x ever since without her bf's knowledge (okafor or maduka's law)
20) She is a mermaid (mammy water) sent to destroy men as such she has to keep more than one or else queen of the coast would be pissed.
21) And so on & so forth. Sometimes it just happens and not planned for any particular reason

Lacrissa:
Please I seriously seek opinions and advice in this particular matter. Aside having a relationship far/near and even those that are very serious and want commitment, why do I find it out to help my friends get men of their own. For example, I have a lot of men in my life, not men as in random men but those that want commitment, maybe three of them even though they know of my long distance, yet when friends I have that are single tell me to hook them up, I always pretend like I would but would never do so. There is an atom of jealousy, that the guy I would give them would be better than mine.

A friend of mine was telling me how a guy that was trying to woo me but I was talking to others asked her out and she is already in love, instead of me to be happy, I started feeling jealous even though I have others. I kept telling myself it's bad, you cannot have them all to yourself.

Please how do I get to stop this negative feeling? I know it's not good.

Babes, here we go again! Whats all these?

In the past, you bugged us with your LDR relationship. You stressed so much about your guy that I pitied what he probably was going through with your drama and all. Now its another tale of hook ups & jealousy.

I recall our first encounter mid last year, you wrote something about having a successful/booming cosmetic business. I will advice you chanel your energy to that business or better still make a brand of your own cosmetic range and perfume. Emblem of Lacrissa would be good for a perfume and Lacrissa's concern would be good for body creams/lotion, foundations, concealers and brown powders, so think about it. Cuckoo Lacrissa sounds sexy too (Hope you are not offended, just messing with you. Your name would sell a cosmetic range though, trust me )

Dyt:
U mean she flew witout gettin ticket frm me?
Angry

Commercialization on this thread is not allowed. Go transact elsewhere.

Congrat Mentor . May God take care of Anderson for you, Amen. Now you are free can start preparing for the new intake

Its still 4pm here but its good to know the world didn't end and we all crossed over to 2012.

Happy New Year to Tosinosho1992(also Kydbal), Dyt, High Chief, Sexkillz, Goldie, Dammytex, Roland17, Coogar, Seadord, Tell wisdom, Donguitti, Flashdrine, Epic win, Vodka, Isso_savvy, Igweblaze, Monie, Jaguda, Superbrain, Newacca, Waleiscool, Chukie98 and much more, I wish you all a prosperous New Year and everything you wish for yourself this new year. 2011 is dead and gone, 2012 would be a mark of greatness in your lives. You have been a friend, a supporter and a comforter, God would reward you all for standing by me and helping me through last year and my dream. God bless you all as you have entered this distinguished year of greatness. We await the bountiful testimony from your lips .

To the rest of Nairalanders, Happy New Year to you all, you crossed over and that's what counts. God bless you all and grant you your heart desires this year. 2012 would be the best you have ever had and you would be filled with joy, good health, good security coverage, happiness, peace of mind & accomplishments. Enjoy Your New Year, One love

Hi Everyone.

Congratulations to all the peeps that got their TRV. As for other hopefuls, its on the way and you would surely get it. Best of luck to you all. Happy New Year.

@Newacca, your patience is a very good motivation to everyone. I know you would get yours soon. Yours is a long wait but your positive and bubbly aura would work for you. I keep coming to check you up silently every time. The day you receive it, its going to be a party zone here because you are a very good man and deserve the very best things life has to offer.

@Ayooalde, boo I don't know where you are. You just abandoned us on here after your constant and consistent help on here. You were a friend, an inspiration, an adviser and a helper. You helped us all and I am sure I speak for everyone when I say we miss you. Happy New Year dear!

@Delta007, the founding fathers here. Keep up the good work! I see you are still consistent even if you come in once in a while but at least you make an effort to help people so as to add the progress of more naija. God bless you.

Happy New Year Everyone. We just started the maximum blessings. We never carry last on this thread!!!

Not all men that lavish money cheat on the babes. What if the man lavishing the money is not the outgoing type or he is the type that is a workaholic or the type who doesn't like sleeping with multiple babes at the same time or the type that must love you before he can even sleep with you or the type that is very choosy/selective when it comes to sex & relationship.

If you have an issue and need advice, do that because this your analysis is not entirely making sense. So are you saying a guy that has a chick that he has been dating since sec school, lavishes money and gifts on her because he has a good job now means he is cheating on her? Well that doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating on her, He might be paying her back for starting from the scratch with him. Besides naija men are generous and caring, I don't thinking lavishing on a babe who loves you & deserves it is a big deal. Going out of your way to get the funds, theft or fraudulent means just to lavish for a lady is not acceptable but if a man has the funds, he is comfortable with it and feels his babe has been good to him or has earned it then its not out of place and doesn't guaranty he would cheat based on that.
FYI Most women don't go after money especially if you were not born hungry, properly trained to be content and you strive to make yours even if you are not holding on to it right now. Understood?

claremont:
It's not something that I think about.

This made me remember the good old days when I tried to convinced u on how love was important and all. But right now I think I will dance to your music. Sincerely, I doubt if there is any such thing as real love. Even if there was, its either the parties die, the love dies, you get high bp or tensed up because of the love or you loose your own personality in the process.

@topic
I will marry an intelligent man who makes me happy, gives me peace of mind, friendship, he is compromising and realistic. If I have all that modeled up then that to me is a fair deal to love that I would sleep with one of my eye open. Once you have those things I listed above then overtime love can/would build up or grow. I think that word love has been overrated and mismanaged. Love this, love that, love truly, love just, love him, love her, tainted love blah blah blah. Must what you feel for someone have a term or heading or tag to it. Love these days is so deceptive and often abused as people know how gullible people can get with that four letter word. Happiness & peace of mind makes you sane. Love most times makes u go insane or act irrational. I just hope we all choose sensibly when it comes to marriage.

Mine is 10/10 because I got more than what I bargained for this year. The year started rough cos I was robbed of a possession of mine but God gave me back too much just from May to Dec. I finally got my dream after 3 years of fighting for it. I also had countless blessings and God added another one early this month which was long due. So I am very thankful & have no regrets even with the highs and lows as I'm all grown up & wiser. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in Advance to all Nlanders, I wish you all what you wish yourselves but my default wish for you all is happiness & peace of mind this 2012 & beyond .

I don't seem to understand the topic! Are you saying men that are 15 years older than ladies are OLD MEN, lolz. What a joke! How about men that are old but look very young and more attractive than young men. Some young men even have white hair all over their body and walk like people using a walking stick with terrible postures or dragging their feet so what are we talking about. If you are referring to aristos or sugar daddies then that's not good or healthy and can be as a result of greed for money but an older guy who is 15 years older than his babe is not bad at all as long as you are happy and have peace of mind. These men are even very caring, pet ladies like babies and understand the age gap between them and the lady so they tend to handle things more maturely and are more tolerant. Some older guys dress young, dance well, have the right swag & comportment so nothing in it abeg. Its not every relationship with an older guy that is for money, its not every babe that would get her age bracket to settle down with, some would marry people far older than them or do you want some ladies to die single? Aren't older men human beings too as long as they are not married, all join.

Lols at Exponential saying they can dig it in bed, let one get ur behind for 5mins by the time you are paralyzed u would know whats up. What has age got to do with koboko and the power it discharges. As long as a guy be it young or old is in good shape, stays away from sugar etc then the sky is the limit sexually.

I just remembered the Nigerian tv series, Ayamatanga but not in this context though

The King and I
He taught me "No retreat, No surrender"
He also taught me "Make it or break it"
He sure knows "How to be a player"
He knew "What women want"
But I was still "Clueless"
I said to myself "Enough"
My mindset is now like that of the "Charlie's angels"
I have the notion now that "Two can play the game"
We were & r still "Friends"

oh i didn't know the ques was for new years eve. I thot it was just a normal question. I want to be in a God-like mode & place till I cross over to 2012 alive cos I want to make heaven in case d world comes to an end.

Lacrissa:
I'm still on the same level only because of the distance at the moment. And then I cannot keep rejecting the good guys I've seen so far all because I'm trying to depend on my ldr bf, that's why it seems complicated. I want to or I'm actually focusing on me but I also know time waits for no one so now they are coming and rushing for me, don't want to make the mistake of shutting the door

Then open the door with assurance(dt was a joke ). Be sure you are replacing him with a committed guy so you don't end up alone.

Have you even tried having a dialogue with this LDR guy, he should engage you already maybe that would make you relax. What steps are you both taking to solemnize your union or live together. Why don't you relocate to be with him or he comes to where u r. You both should find a final solution or else you would keep coming back with doubts and confusion all the time. So if both of you are serious and in love with each other, take an extra notch or a step further and secure this LDR with no insurance into a mortgage at least. It doesn't have to be something big, both of you have been dating for a while now(if I am correct) so you can even do a court wedding or something.