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[quote author=doe-eyed link=topic=796125.msg9952750#msg9952750 date=1326408113]Pacing the floors:

Possibly found someoneelse to make babies with.
In 9 months, the cries of the babies will testify regarding faakay's whereabouts.

Dum Di dum Di dum.[/quote]Hope all is well?

tellwisdom:

My ex' sister, wants to DO me!. And as a child of God; I wldnt want to do her. Advise me .

I dont have money, no life, nothing! nothing! nothing!  . Yet, she is feeling the boi

Now I am definitely policing u from now on. So na wetin u dey do for that ur church be dt after u go dey yarn something else.

Wislet:
saw this alert updated.
Pls everyone shd be at alert.
And the FG shd step up and end this.
This is becoming unreasonable.

The msg reads:

Please, instruct your Ministers & all Christians you
know in the North to leave or find safe-havens.
Northern Islamic fundamentalist are planning
JIHAD; Total Massacre of our Brethren in the
North,
from Mid-night of tomorrow Friday 13th Jan 2012 while quoting the Qur'an of Surah chpt. 2 : 216, 190,
191 & 195. A lot of NYSC corpers have already been
told
by their state coordinators to relocate to nearest
military or police barracks. If this should happen
then Nigeria is on a brink of a Religious Ethnic war.

This is serious. Why don't you start up a thread to warn people. Not everyone would see it here. Commenting here would mean you are replying to this topic and this is way more serious.

I would dump him and flee for my life. I can't date/marry a ritualist, armed robber, cocaine dealer & occultic man.

If it was when I was still in school and I found out he was a yahoo boy then I could take it as an experience and fun cos that time yahoo boys had not started using jazz it was just scam, hammer and trip your babe and you(paint the town red).

But now everything involves fetish things. I am too much of a scary cat to deal with all that spiritual drama.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=843835.msg9942381#msg9942381 date=1326291603]^^^
We all know you roll with hoes[/quote]muah. well said!!

martinseme:
Are nigerian women soo strong hearted that they cant fall inlove.alot of the that i have met are not romantic at all.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=843835.msg9942156#msg9942156 date=1326289713]show them moiney and they will be romantic! (no oofeince) [/quote]

pato405:
they are money reducing agents!

"Duh!" This is the romance section, so all the ladies here are romantic. Your statements are not valid here, take it to another section or another forum.

Na wa O. Everyday a new manual springs up for relationships. No wonder there are so many failed relationships out there. Even God doesn't scrutinize and judge us to this extent. We human beings need to stop playing God.

Its no longer if a lady can cook or if she is a virgin, now its if she can kiss. You men would just be finding excuses to enact your power & authority by releasing unnecessary bills like govt officials. What happened to loving people for who they are. smh.

@op,
So all you need is a good kisser in a relationship. So after she gives u pleasurable kissing and you get turned on, you are good to go and your life is fulfilled, right? All you need is kiss, not even cuddling. Well it sounds very easy and safe. Different strokes for different folks. Very soon it will be for a relationship to last, a lady has to rub her guy's anus.

^ I will pass

dammytex:
pink lips? Okay, you can have mine.

And I also hope your wanting a pink lips isn't sequel to the noises from your flatmate's

Aremu, just offer the lips first and forget the rest. When I am done with it, you would know if its episode or stage play of my flat mate's every every.

Flashaldrin:
^^ nah babe, i aint serious.
Lol you badt gannn 1. If you felt embarrased and cried because you were black skinned then you have racist thoughts too, because their is absolutely nothing wrong with it, unless if you think there is.
2. Finally!. . .  lol, jk
3. Lol, i know her o
4. Try chimeme  :-Xlol relax, i'm sure you know i'm joking. I never judge someone's offline character by their handles.
So the money go reach me??

who is that? does he have pink lips or burnt ones? Im allergic to black one caused by smoking.

[quote author=im_a lady link=topic=844173.msg9951022#msg9951022 date=1326391361]His Ex wife was a white English woman , do by law it's illegal and I have seen the divorce papers, but while all this was happening, I am uncertain on if he has another wife in Nigeria.[/quote]Now you are talking. So he is one of those men that marry white women for stay and all. So of all the men in the world, you decided to venture into such union. Did you find out his reason for separating from his ex white wife and did you confirm he was telling the truth?

The thing with shortcuts is that, it has a way of catching up with u. That was how a lady deceived everyone and married a man who was separated from his marriage and lied to everyone that he was divorced from a wicked wife.

It was later the lady was publicly disgraced as the man was catholic and they didn't permit divorce in that religion. So they dealt with him and said they wont bury him in the church. It was later he confessed that his ex-wife was not at fault that it was him, that slept with a maid. He also said his new wife forced herself on him, used sex to cajoled him into marrying her and initiated the whole thing. He said their marriage was a sham. Now the lady is a laughing stock and he has gone back to his wife and kids.

Women need to be very careful when it comes to dating, marriage and bearing kids. Yes money is really cool but its better to have peace of mind and happiness. Nothing wrong with dealing with an upcoming guy who is realistic enough to show you his shortcomings & faults from the very beginning.

lefulefu:
Naija girls make una learn from oyibo girls the best way to give a man better s3x and hw to pamper him with love.Just look at the men wey dey date oyibo babes nah and see hw fresh and younger looking dem look.see me for example hw my skin dey shine and hw fresh looking i look also.all this one na because my oyibo babe know how to take care of me and she also dey pamper me with lovey lovey .ehn make u see the naija guys wey dey date naija girls how such guys really look.see many guys wey dey married to naija babes don old by force.many of them don get plenty wrinkles for face and some don lost all their hair by force.ehn imagine a guy wey never reach 30yrs don already dey grow bald head all becoz of the excessive stress wey im naija girlfriend or wife dey give am .naija babes abeg make una take example from oyibo babes nah and see hw dem dey pamper their bobo with love.ehn fuel subsidy wahala don already dey wey down the average naija man so abeg oo make una no jus dey add una own wahala join dis fuel subsidy wahala ooo

Bros, Happy New Year! You still dey dis level? naija babes this and that. dem no dey impt but u talk about dem on a daily. u no go talk true make i find u wife wey set wella, u no every na.

How many rules do you as an individual want to adhere to in a relationship. So many laid down guidelines, process and structure. Can't two lovers just have an understanding & be happy without having a terminology for every event.

By the time you set the permissions, like, "don't come back late, don't eat outside, don't wear knee length skirt, don't do this hair style, on Saturdays its rice, on Mondays this, on Saturday that". Then, there are bound to be malfunctions here and there.

Even the computer needs rest and a little compromise, like, you have to clean it, leave it in a cool environment etc.

You need trust, wisdom, knowledge and understanding to survive a relationship. If my partner keeps late nights, I will tolerate it because coming back early doesn't determine if he is a saint or not, what can be done at night can even be done better with sunlight so who are we deceiving. Na today!

The only disadvantage of late night is just safety and security. Although its not too good for a lady to keep late nights but if its necessary like she works in the bank or something, then its ok. Her hubby can always pick her up just to have his mind at rest. I wont mind keeping late nights once in a while with my hubby because I wanna explore that part of life with him, I won't want him making excuses that he has a seminar or vigil or meeting in one state just because he is afraid to tell me he wants to hang out with his friends at night. Relationship is about management & compromise.

This story sounds like a mafia flick. This is a very strange topic. What won't naija men dabble into. And where is that foolish Opribo that said unmarried women should be stoned and beheaded. smh

@op, I really sympathize with you but even if he was having unprotected sex with you, why didn't you protect your own self, are you a baby or what? How much is postinor2 that you are going through all these now.

I am afraid you have to sit back and see what he is up to as you are already pregnant and have a wedding coming up soon but prepare your mind for anything. People should learn to use protection and run proper test on themselves because that thing called prick can be very sweet but with severe consequences so make sure you are always well secured or open up with insurance and not assurance.

Its obvious he is living a double life, he must have an oyinbo wife somewhere or something. You said he is well to do, what is he into, hope not that he is even a 419ner or fraudster for him to impersonate you like that. You were busy frolicking with a man you didn't run a background search on him. How well do people know who they are dating, sleeping-with or in relationship with, this is a good lesson to ladies and I inclusive. That miscarriage was a bad omen and sign, an easy escape root only for you to make the same mistake. Sorry once again and get to the root of the matter before you do anything rash.

Wait a min, sh-it! that guy played you. He is probably married to a barren woman and dated u for a child or he needs to prove that he can father a child. Because why else would he want a child so bad as to get u pregnant twice when he doesn't want any commitment or marriage. Maybe he relocated to achieve his means. He might even kill you after the baby is born. He had mapped out his plan from the get go, he saw an emotional lady to play stunts with. The act of trickery and devious antics. I am thinking like a crook here

Ranoscky:
Op, but how an Uyo chick com take sabi cook Nsala soup?

Was about to say the same thing. The op could not even use the common afang soup that everyone knows. That was when I knew he was talking crap. But then again, there is nothing like the power of punny et food of a calabar/Akwa-Ibom lady only the op didn't coordinate his topic very well.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]So where the bloody hell did he eat toto water?

Horrendously st[i]u[/i]pid post!. . . Nonsense![/color]

sexykillz, which one is toto water? na wa o

Dear Diary,
1)Today, I missed home because I was discriminated by a racist because I am black skinned. I felt embarrassed and almost cried.

2) Today, I had my best result in class. I also went to the gym.

3) I had a chat with my room mate for the first time. Usually, I had to deal with the noise from her love making session everyday. Few minutes ago I was Hot but I'm good now.

4) Right now I feel like kissing pink lips.

freecocoa:
Chei,how old is this lacrissa? Waste of 2 seconds outta my time.

She is Fickle's 19 years old daughter .

@op, u need a vacation, go somewhere to chill out cos with the way u worry in all ur post, u r likely break down soon.

pendo89:
Done laughing in woriah
Lemmie try and help the teens out there.
The world is crazy and there's lots of pressure from every corner to succeed careerwise and have a family at the same time.
Its enough to drive one crazy.
But girls for christs sake,its true there's what we call a biological clock in women.Its God's design but humans try to beat it.
Finish your study first,get a good job that puts bread on your table and if you have marriage in mind do not wait till you have it all.
By all I mean wealth,knowledge,experience etc.You will never get enough cz thats the human nature.Always wanting more.
And at what age will that be? I got no idea because some are lucky to finish study early and get jobs while for some it comes late.
I wouldn't advise any lady to marry just to fill a gap in her life.That is a wrong reason.Let her be fulfilled before she can being fulfillment in the other partner.


Having said that,theres no sin in not marrying.Its a free choice in a free world. And what matters at the end of the day is your happiness and the positive influence/impact you bring in a rotten society.

Lolz at teens and help. How about advice for unmarried "ladies"? Btw Happy New Year!

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=841901.msg9938128#msg9938128 date=1326233852]I wasn't yelling. Yelling on the internet means typing in all Caps. What has coogar got to do with me being married?

The baby? The baby is on it's way. I can't disclose the gender due to security and spiritual reasons.

Dude, why are you "acting" all feisty? You're my twin sister for crying out loud.  Take it down 45 notches. [/quote]Twinny, its so difficult identifying when u r being sarcastic & when u r being u. Sorry I missed the bridal shower. Will be there for the baby shower Congrats once again

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=841901.msg9937745#msg9937745 date=1326229900]As a married young woman, (speaking from first hand authentic experience), Marriage is wonderful thing, IF you marry the right person.

I believe everyone must get married.

Cuddlemii, get your arse off your couch and start searching for the right one. Get married already. [/quote]Marriage is really sweet indeed, is that why you are yelling? I can see Coogar is doing wonders. Once you supply me the recipe of getting my arse off my couch, then I should be yelling in no time. Get a child already, Damn!

opribo:
Aha, they have all assembled, I am not surprised at all, because by their fruits you shall know them. If you read my summation properly the emphasis is on procreation and doing what needs to be done at the right time. Marriage is honorable so it is highly advised that youg girls focus their minds and energy on finding the right man for marriage.I went on to say that for those who may want to give the excuse that they didnt get any man to marry them they should go have a child to justify their having a womb in the first place.

Those that deserve to be publicly stoned and beheaded in public are those opening their wide mouths advocating that a woman is free to be single. Iis a big lie, in which land is that possible. [size=13pt]Any woman that has reached menopause without having any child if she isn't a nun honestly deserves to be publicly humiliated before she is beheaded and her head put in the museum to serve as a deterrent to others, becuase what that means is that she has been messing around instead of settling down.[/size]

And then to that one that calls himself a guy, i have only one word for you, may you never fall into the hands of this type of women we are talking about. if you do you will spend the rest of your life paying the bills you never incurred. It is not a cause just an advice. You mentioned men impotence but that is not the issue here but if that is the case it must have come from one of them ladies jumping around spreading diseases all over the place.

Let me warn all those ladies Freecocoa, Cuddlemii and idowuogbo if yyou dont change your ways you shall likewise perish. It is unfortunate that some mentally derained guys here have been deceived by you. Tell me why a young girl wont settle down and marry and have her own kids. Is this the way your parents had you. Why then are you people so wicked and callous to say you wont marry and have your own kids. Tell me why you people deserve to be walking about, enjoying fresh air and eating food when you are so wicked not to let out all the children in your womb.
Such wicked ladies are the ones that I said deserve to be stoned publicly and beheaded and i have no apology for maintainingmy position. People should do the right things at the right time thats all.

First of all, I think you are over-reacting. This is an open forum for everyone to air their views so you would just develop high bp for nothing. Take it easy my dear and stop playing God. This is just a topic. You don't even know the status of any lady that has commented here and frankly speaking, I don't think its your business. If you are offended or irritated by unmarried ladies, then take your protest to street. Obviously, marriage is a good thing and everyone might/would partake from it. No one here has advised ladies not to marry so relax. Educate, advice but don't castigate.

How about unmarried men? they should castrate them?

dammytex:
And back to the topic;

I actually think all ladies should think of settling down with the right man at one point or the other. If a lady decides to be unmarried, I'm not sure I'd be a fan.
Marriage is a good thing and I also believe its in God's plan for everybody to be married.
Its not that complicated, we can still achieve whatever goals and dreams we carry even in marriage, especially when we marry the right people.
so, please take your time, marry the right person and continually pray for the upkeep of your union.

Hey baybee! Hope you are good?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=841901.msg9936440#msg9936440 date=1326216673]^^^
Marry me pls[/quote]Lol he is a man like you. That must have been a MISTAKE on your part

But hey we are trying to be open here, so if that's your sexuality, its all good!

Dentale:
@Opribo, you're kidding right?? Beheading? For being single?? Na wa oo. I'm torn between laughing out loud at your jokes (hoping they are jokes) and wondering whether you ACTUALLY think that way,  And whether you're alone in that kind of thinking,

@Topic. Yes, I wanna get married someday. Sooner rather than later. I believe in the power of words. Truth is, after building up your career and travelling the world and all, it feels good to share share your life with someone special. And no, I don't see marriage as a status symbol neither do I see it as a proof of maturity. A married fool is still a fool. Someone mentioned earlier that marriage should be a celebration of love. Seconded!

lolz. I have never heard such in my life time. Opribo is a legend for his statements, I swear.

opribo:
I don't blame you, the reason is that the truth is like a two edged sword it cuts deep. I am sure you have crossed the age boundary that is why you are ranting like a wounded lion. What I said is the reality and the obvious truth. From the age of 21 to 31 a girl is ripe for marriage but she would not all in the name of trying to acquire somethings for herself. Can you tell me those things she is acquiring - cars, houses, clothings, travelling around to all the 5 star hotels.

In case you dont know, why i said all unmarried single girls from 35  should be publicly stoned because they are the wicked, mischievious, evil and demonic pnes in our midst. After wasting their time they take out their frustrations on any unsuspecting man out there. They are the ones that run into churches to cover up their deadly track. Some of them dont even have any womb. Some can never satisfy their husband in beds because they have seen all types of men for the over a decade since they left school.
Most of them have risen to the top of their organisation after seeing all the seeable. Now they want to eat their cakes and have it by capturing any unsuspecting and undiscernible young man who is carried away by ytheir affluence.

These category of ladies if you are lucky they will only give you one child and thats all and they can only produce through CS because the walls of the womb are weakened due to excessive pill intake.
So tell me why should we not identify and isolate these category of women and barnish them from civilised society because they are a threat to the normal unbringing of our children.
So whether you and your likes like it or not we will not hesistate, just as we are protesting the fuel subsidy oneday we shall protest to send all those unmarried old ladies out of Naija. Naija is for productivity.

opribo:
The truth is bitter but it must be told whether Cuddlemii and Iduwogbo like it or not they must hear and accept to live right and do the right thing at the right time. Get married on time and stop chasing shadows or beheading awaits them also.

Hahaa. After they would say, the problem lies in our government and corrupt leaders. You are worse than the crises going on in Nigeria. You sure have boko haram tendencies. I started an honest topic, a lot of reasonable, exposed, enlightened and matured nland members commented and advised, which was appreciated.

You on the other hand, like the deranged man that you are started insulting women which signifies how ignorant, local, deluded and sick you are.

"Stone & behead women," because they are not married? Are you God? Even God loves everyone and doesn't discriminate women. I only pity the desperate lady that would marry your kind, God forbid, this is why many ladies are actually scared of getting married. You never know the devil you would lay with for the rest of your life. Your kind can chop the wife and cook jollof rice with her for supper.  

As for the 35 to 40 years old thingy you have been shouting, dude I said unmarried ladies and not the age your mom finally met a man(your dad) to wink at her. You are surprised how I know your story, its very obvious where that anger is coming from. Uncivilized goon & thug, hell awaits ur kind. smh

amtheone:
Cuddlemii nawa for u. How will u know dat u are matured so as to marry? Don't be deceived my dear. Marriage is not about popular opinion. Those one shouting " I don't want to marry" ask dem when in their lives did they suddenly discova that they were made for themselves. Most of this people made this statement out of frustration. So my dear be wise.

na wa for you too o, lolz.

I think people are entitled to their own opinion, its a free world. I believe people are responsible for their decision and actions, they are adults so I don't think their "shouting" is meaningless. I also think the consequences of people's action should also be left to people to figure out with their discretion.

Frustration is not a valid word here, you don't know the posters age, status, statistics and occupation. They might still be in school or they might be young or even better than the married ones. So many factors to consider before everyone starts insulting anyone here. You must admit that marriage is not for everyone to begin with but that doesn't mean I don't know what is right or wrong for me. so biko take am easy and be wise too. This is just a topic, nothing too serious.

Thank you all for your contributions. I appreciate your honesty in this topic.

I just want clarify that unmarried means someone who has not tied the knots yet! or gotten married or about to get married.

It doesn't mean the societal rejects, because I can see few ignorant peeps mistyping especially the boko haram wannabe that wants to stone women. So its possible to be single, in relationship, friendship with benefits, courtship, engaged,  or co-habitation(whatever works). But are you ready for the next big step, or you are ok where you are or with what you have? And if you don't get hitched, can you live alone? That's the point here.

I respect the ladies who have stated that they want to, but they are not desperate to. I also respect the ones that acknowledged the need for furthering their education, career and achievements because realistically, I think most men would prefer an asset over a liability any day.

On that note, I will also like to state that not all marriages are successful. A lot of ladies are unhappy and traumatized in marriage because of wrong pairing, incompatibility, greed, giving up their dreams and callous in-laws .So whatever you decide to do, make sure your happiness and peace of mind comes first or is put into consideration before you take that step. Shalom.

@op

I think most people are not in a relationship because they don't have a social life. People don't know it but most people hardly go out, mix up or even have friends. Some are workaholics or nerds or very shy. Some were probably caged and over protected while growing up with unrealistic tales from their parents to scare them off men, so when they became wiser and older, it was already late to fit in. So how the hell do you expect people like that to adapt in the real/outside world let alone sustain a relationship.

I just noticed that, this factor was hardly addressed on here. So I decided to chip it in. Seriously, you look at some guys and girls and wonder why these ones are single, it does not make sense in reality but these people don't make themselves available to be toasted as they are either too busy, too timid, too shy or lack the experience of a relationship. Some people don't even know what the adjacent street to their street looks like or even the name of the street at the back of their house because they only get up go to go school and back home or go to church or work and back home. Some even have people that run all the errands for them so they never step out.

Thanks to the internet that has made relationships and hook ups possible, such that, you can even cum(climax) from your sit without seeing the guy/girl you are talking to. The internet is now reliant like that, you can attach emotions and get the satisfaction from your sit or bed. We all know not all internet hook-ups are exploitation-proof.

I mean how do you remedy people who don't have a life beyond the classroom, internet, church and workplace? People don't mingle when single

Excelboi:
^^ beta no deceive urself @ OP, your qstn sounds dumb, no offence --------> I typed by mistake!

Well you sound like an arrogant, obnoxious failureboi------------> No be mistake!

If you can't understand that I was trying to construct a post when I created/ it created itself by mistake. This was not how I wanted it to be but its all fun and nothing wrong in learning.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]I dont wanna make a mistake! [/color]

freecocoa:
^
Don't be surprised if your mouth turns to be like that of the smiley cos you really love that smiley.

r231:
^^^^curiosity kill the cat

I must warn you! Is that your advice?

[quote author=High_Chief link=topic=841901.msg9922906#msg9922906 date=1326063488]Cuddlemii please will you marry me?[/quote]Yes Please!

[quote author=lola.luv link=topic=841901.msg9922858#msg9922858 date=1326062747]@all
ROTFL


Una too dey hash!!![/quote]

Everywhere I turn to on Nairaland, Facebook etc are marriage topics or related to marriage topics. Whats the big deal about it? Is marriage the final bus stop to life and its accomplishments?

If you are an unmarried lady, do you want to get married because its the in thing or because you genuinely want to.

Can you also decided not to get married. And if you decide not to, are you are afraid to face the criticism and stigmatization that comes with that decision or stand?

I am a young lady, who still needs a little nurturing in terms of mental maturity so I am still indecisive about the institution called marriage. I know its a necessity. I know its ordained by God. I don't know if its the commitment involved that scare me or not. I just want us to discuss it together. Do you really want to get married? And why? If you decide not to, can you survive it.

Goldieluks:


Happy New Year to you too. I luv those pics,especially the three baby girls,gosh they are bouncy and cute. Abeg marry first before you get pikin oh,just my pinch of advise.

You can be sure about that, lolz babies are bundle of joy but its good when they are conceived a complete home. So advice taken!