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I do not pity him cos some men want to catch women young as wives. They forget that these young ladies will still need to live their youth which is normal. The lady is obviously not matured enough for marriage but Mr Man wanted young blood. My advise is to stay away from him. Who knows whether he tells his wife the advise he gets and the people get blacklisted. Just pray for him.

EreluRoz:
There's this very nice married senior colleague of mine who is having a very messy marital life, my other colleague hinted me about it and I actually got close to him and eventually gets him to pour out his heart to me.

According to him, he got married at early 40s to his very young wife as at then who was 19years. Infact he said his mother-in-law never approved of their marriage but his wife insisted and with the support of the father-in-law they got married. However after their first child, he enrolled the wife in a university to further her studies as she married him as a secondary school dropout. That was the beginning of his chaos, that was the beginning of seefinish according to him, that was the beginning of nightmares in his home.

It started by getting reports from people who knows him(he's rich and popular in his home town) about his wife's wayward lifestyle with lecturers and administrative staff, so many nasty reports and how she throws herself at some of these people which many people never believed she was married. Eventually she graduated and came back home, he never confronted her because he really loved her, so he let everything slide. She got pregnant for their second child and when she was due for delivery she had an accident that almost claimed her life, fortunately she was saved and her baby survived as well but unfortunately she won't be able to have more children. She started complaining about everything and how this man has reduced her beauty and even reporting him to his friend about everything happening in their home. The friend always advise him to send her away but he couldn't do it for the sake of his children.

So she advanced by telling this man that they should no longer welcome visitors in their home, family members are not welcomed as well and if you want to see him, he will give you a location to meet him but definitely not his house. This man became a shadow of himself that he refused family interference as well.

He told me she dresses provocatively and goes out and comes back at will. Then he decided to hack her WhatsApp and what he saw was a mess that he couldn't ever imagine in his life. This woman sends her nude and indulge in sex videos with different kind of men, some are way younger than her and all other sorts of dirty activities.

Having discovered all these things about his wife, he still has not summoned the courage to chase her out, she even goes to her room and lock herself to do nude videos to send to different men but he's still saying whenever he wants to chase her away he thinks about his kids and won't be able to do so.

The recent one she's doing is planning to relocate abroad to meet one of her lovers and she's already processing visa and even threatening the man that soon she'll leave him to go enjoy her life. As it stands now, they are just living together and don't talk to each other or even cook for him. She threatened the man that she'll kill him if he dares stand against her plans and he has gone to the police station to make report concerning this.

He asked me what I think he should do and I told him it's quite a pathetic story that will need the advise of an experienced person, I actually played smart on him because I was told he doesn't take advise and that he has been advised severally to end the marriage with her but he always have no courage doing that. This man has developed blood pressure due to all he's facing from his wife.

What grip could this woman be having on him?

What is the best way out for him and if the wife's relocation eventually fails, should this man continue to live with this woman?

He obviously need help but unfortunately he has chased his family away and stopped friends from getting close, how would you help this kind of man who unfortunately found himself in this deep mess?

Run along boy...come back when your brain matures 😁😁😁😁

tyup:
Well someone like you shouldn't be caught accusing someone of not being intelligent

Oh well...Just realised you don't understand who Trump is and therefore intelligent argument cannot be done with you. Even your insultive responses proves same..Do have a great life...Trump mentee. Please keep living in the fantasy you have created of your demigod Trump.

tyup:
Read this whole chunk of rubbish but I'll clearify something to you. Trump was not a loud mouthed President but a President who was straight and blunt, saying thing for what they were without sugarcoating things, which is not common amongst President of the world that's why it seem weird to you. And it doesn't stop him from being a pragmatic, competent and a strong leader that was feared by all and sundry.

How has ur sleepy Joe faired over the years??

Mr i go just ignore you. I am surprised you are a man. You think Russia wants a US president that has a loose tongue. Define Average woman. Men like you are the reasons strong women like us emerge cos WE know when to keep shut and when to talk. Not cry around like a wounded lion that lost its manhood like you are doing. No wonder you support Trump.

tyup:
ion expect anything less from an average lady. na mouth dem dey use govern??

No one likes a man that has no control over his mouth and Mr T has a mouth with no control.

Not to say there are no moles BUT not everytime a mole is involved. One person cannot have several hands pointing at him. That AB guy should be investigated.

She isn't serious. Instead of her to ask that she brings 3 spoons so all of them will eat together. 😀😀
Anyways, person wey no bring spoon sef still fit collect her husband even if she packs 10 boxes of lunch. Man wey go troway go troway.

Abeg someone should help me find Mbappe in that goal scorer list 🙄

If not that we Nigerians are lawless yet demanding good leaders, why would someone spend millions on building without ensuring government provides approval. Most of these owners will still claim there are literate. All of them are just making noise, cos if they have valid approvals and permits, they would have shut down the relevant government agency with their protests and lawsuits.

Of course. Just pointing out to people justifying that country's election as free and fair

tsdarkside:
and your enemies will always use that weakness....

we have to be vigilant....
your prefered candidate didnt win,but you optin for chaos because of that is madness...

you cant use the example of niger republic and gabon on the rest of africa....
thats madness....

I thought it was free and fair election. Just goes to show that people will always feel bad when their person does not win....

Biafra4life:
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We always dont have to overthink things. It will help to appreciategood gestures wholeheartedly. Not everything is a test. Anyways to each their own. Make the babe just breakup with him cos na future trouble be this. They will always remember. Same way he thought it is a test, they also now have thought of the rejection as some thing else.

drimzsmoke:
A lot of you didn't get the OP, OP felt they've done enough already with the meal and felt he shouldn't take the bread not to inconvenience them. I would have done the same sha
You've given me correct meal, still won come add takeaway join and you'd expect me to collect such. When I'm not ole onijekuje!!!
I swear, I'll feel like it's a test to know if I'm a greedy person or something



1. He felt they've done more than enough already
2. He didn't want to get them something common, hence the assorted biscuit(I've never gone home to visit my mum with bread before and NEVER will. When there is smoked catfish, Pringles, chocolate, ice-cream and shortbread
3. Let's say I'm getting married to a girl whose mum sells garri or smoked fish, I would feel more comfortable if she were to give me garri/smoked fish as a take home gift compared to something she's using her money to go buy, I'll feel like I'm being a burden or "inconveniencing" the "poor" woman!!!

Have you sat to think that maybe they couldn't afford more but didn't want you to leave empty handed after you gave them gifts. You for just collect and give someone on the way. I believe it was rude to reject sha. Paints a bad picture that this potential son in law will always look down on them. Anyways, one suitor cancelled. No complain when dem reject marriage request oo. My grandma would always give gifts even if na sweet so guests dont leave emptyhanded.

PuZZyNegro:
It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

Well, they have always induced artificial rain, so now they can enjoy it in excess. Prayers answered. Wetin them want again...Make them enjoy the showers of blessings....Happy for them

As a side note, has she provided the breakdown of election donations now. Maybe i missed the news. Abi Supreme court don end ba.

Odewaleadesoye:
Aisha Yesufu, a rights activist, has vowed to continue supporting the presidential ambition of Labour Party, LP, candidate Peter Obi.

Yesufu said she would never support Obi to be the Imam of a mosque but to be Nigeria’s president.

She noted that Obi is the candidate who can wrestle Nigeria from those willing to keep the country down.

Posting on X, Yesufu wrote:

DAILY POST

This madam no want make another person bully her husband . Na only she wan de give am global embarrassment. Wahala no come too much.

This is how he would justify such spending if he had won too. 😀😀😀. Same politicians same game. Those cars are too expensive even though I know the amounts would have been inflated with bribes left and centre. A 20m or 25m car would also do same thing. Greedy people in power.

She no need prayers. Na prison time measured with tape rule she needs. Why she no tell UK court say she get Cancer or another terminal disease or that her other citizenship no cover her from UK court. NA Nigeria dem go de do shakara for. Mtscheew.Make she go face the music there biko. We no know her for 9ja.

Morbeta11:
https://dailypost.ng/2023/11/05/alleged-multi-million-pound-bribe-i-need-prayers-diezani-cries-out/

Make dem de play. No be APC / PDP all of them be before running to LP. Sebi na cos LP dey do free ticketing they all ran there. How can they reject.

If only Ambode had done this, then Sanwo olu would be focusing on the next projects....

Until it happens again. Okay ooo...we go de here. Did they address the root cause. Being born again is good but the people involved - can they maintain it.

ogascomax:
It's just a complicated matter sometimes. Some abusive marriage latter became beautiful at the end. My pastor told us today how his sister fought for her marriage. At some point it was truly an abusive marriage that the man even beat her while she was pregnant and almost lost the baby. Fast forward, latter she became born again and so did her husband. They are now living peacefully ever after.
It's a gamble so decide how to play it.

Una go just de compare sleep with death. It can In future not NoW.

I feel your pain but let me ask you one question - why you go marry rich man pikin? This is why the rich always wants to marry rich o. But you would have told the girl she will be okay. You go marry person daughter and cannot maintain the standards she de use to. Now you are complaining. No be love she go chop na. Her eyes don clear. Even poor man daughter de complain 3k. Them go soon collect their daughter plus children from you. Men, always marry your same status o so you can have mouth to talk oo..

But I do feel your pain as a man. Just follow her to de spend her family money....thatsall....as long as dem no say make she divorce...even network with her brothers for business and connection ooo....No lose both ways. My 50cents...

marvellous2222:
My wife calls her family for everything, once I'm broke she calls her mother to send her food items, I have begged her to stop, I have gotten angry yet she said she can't be hungry in a man's house when there's excess in her parents house, my wife can't manage 3k to cook for me, a family with just 2 kids, she'll call her elder brothers and tell them I gave her 3k to cook immediately they will send money for her.

Can't a woman water down her taste to keep her marriage? They don't insult me but I feel not man enough, I feel less of myself, my wife is from a rich home and the house we are living is a wedding gift from her brothers, she's an only daughter and they over pamper her, they don't allow her ask twice.

I remember I bought a car for her when she delivered our first child my brother in-law knew about it before the car arrived cause I ordered through his company, he changed the car to something twice the one I could afford without my knowledge, when they brought a car to the house I said this isn't what I ordered my brother in-law said their Ada can't be seen driving such after marriage.

They are planning to open a business for her and they didn't involve me in the plan, my marriage is not what I wanted cause I feel like I'm not man enough.

My wife doesn't appreciate gifts from me like when it's from her family, I got her a 75k watch she said thank you and for months she didn't use it, I had to remind her that there's a watch I gave her, but when one of her brother sent her a watch worth 260k she danced and used it always.

How do I handle this?

As a lady, it is not bad since she is sure there is no foul play na. As long as it is also okay for the woman to secretly leave the marriage after the test due to trust issues. A courageous man will confront the wife before such test.

pradoyeep:
A virtuous, faithful and loving wife doesn't deserve DNA verification, except for official reasons.
Now as a man, is it right to secretly do DNA test on your kids, even when there are no traces of cheating?

ASUU is useless. All the nonsense extra money their lecturer members collect from students is now affected. They will ignore that. If ASUU is calling FG to do right, what is ASUU doing to stop anomalies of their members. Both FG and ASUU get madness. At least FG de try do right.

Rukaiya works with Deloitte Nigeria. Unless they are two. She is a partner i think.

dapsoneh:
Thought Hell rufai said he isn't interested in this government

At this point we need Obi and Atiku's transcript. We want to see something....🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me i dont even know why there is argument.
Dont we have supposed people of integrity of LP origin as members of the senate to come and talk the truth or have they decamped.

So no Nigerian de that list even if na number 100.


Issokay

AImiron:
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Him people go don warn am seriously.

Anyways, i remember LP twitter members threatening to attack a lady because her parent is one of the justices. That was totally wrong and in a good country, the law would have arrested those people.

How can you get favor of the justices after threatening them. Imagine if the tables were turned, would LP members accept such. The party members and Obi ignored the barkings of their children, so they should enjoy the verdict.

RecentHistory:
Where was Yusuf Datti yesterday?

That fool has abandoned Peter Obi to his fate.

NLC is part of Nigeria's problem 😀🤣🤣🤣. Why declare strike close to judgment. 8 years is too long to be a stubborn goat oo. Better align to get dividend of democracy. Heard Zulum gave Borno NLC money to give their members as loan. Let us see how they show transparency they are preaching.

References1:
https://community.thenationonlineng.net/forum/just-in-nlc-ends-warning-strike-directs-members-to-resume-work?xg_source=twitter

I have one question. What was the funds donated to Obi Campaign used for cos it wasn't given to the party LP. The right thing was to have recruited people to be party agents at the polling units. The output would have been used to fight INEC in court on over voting or rigged votes. Tribunal won't say nothing was proven if this was done.

There is a need to provide details of how the funds were utilized for sake of transparency. This is where true governance starts.