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EMMAACHILE:
That's why many of your types are divorced or single mums

Tell men that they should be in jail for raping their wives and they say they would rather learn how to do without women.

As if there are only 2 options. Abuse women without consequences or learn how to do without her.

Point out the disgusting nature of such thinking to them. They say that is why you are divorced or a single mum

As if being divorced or being a single mum is worse than being raped, especially in marriage.

Yet some of you still foolishly think you're a prize. You still think women want you and the saddest part of all.
You think you are mentally stable. It's quite a pity

Bessssiiideeeess
Why do you care if we are divorced?
Shouldn't you be learning how to do without women? and teaching your fellow men the same?
MGTOW is waiting. It's better that abusers and rapists like you and all others with your mentality learn how to live without women fast.

Someone even suggested drugging the wife with Spanish fly
Chaiii.
Nairalanders

EMMAACHILE:
Someone in jail for his wife's behavior and rejection?

No someone in jail for forcing his wife. Which he explicitly stated that he did.
Don't act obtuse in my mentioñs

Walahi, I wish many Men could do without women!

I wish so too.
If only the op of this story could do without women, he wouldn't have been so evil as to rape his wife.
Once again. Poor lady
Talk to your fellow men to learn how to do without women na
Abi an only where you see "F" moniker you dey get strength?

This thread is a mess.
Man that is supposed to be in jail for rape is who people are supporting and saying he should have extra marital affairs.
Poor woman

Nice to see someone who isn't blaming her or making her feel stupid for voicing out her opinion or trying to silence her.

eyinjuege:
That's it. You can't force an adult to be responsible. He will realise his mistakes sooner or later, but unfortunately it may be too late as his wife may no longer be emotionally available for him.
Make yourself happy, don't put the responsibility for your own happiness on him. When I say looking after yourself, it's not just about looks but also your mental health. Carry yourself like the queen you are, go out when you are also chanced with friends. You can all hang out with your children or when you don't want kids there, drop them off with grandparents or a babysitter. This life is just once. Of course it's not going to be a daily thing, as its expensive but at least once a month give yourself a treat because you deserve it.

Onyi22:
God forbid,I didn't do it...
Only poor broke guys does that nah...

These your broke men trolls will always be funny to me

Boss13:
Please read where he said he has tried out several options and got family members involved. He also mentioned it appears the wife loves the social media hype. I think he is slut-shaming the wife. If the story is true, the wife should know better

I've actually read the whole story, he has no right to talk. He is complaining about his wife going out for the night but he doesn't even live in the same country as his child,
Isn't he ashamed of himself and his hypocrisy?
His wife is basically living like a single mother while he lives like a bachelor yet his mouth is still sharp.

A man will have problems with his wife and go on social media to post it.
God forbid
I wonder what he wants us to do, Insult his wife?

All these 5-year-old kids pretending they are men. Such a shame..

opejulie10:
nairalanders, I am confused and this is the last place I would ever think I would bring my family issues. I have been married to my husband for 8 yrs with 2kids..he has been caring and all sort.

The problem started 6 months ago when he brought in his friend without informing me

He is absolutely wrong for this.
You are right to be upset.

to leave with us cos of the distance from work to his home, along with the line, I noticed my husband started coming home late like past 12 am, 1 am or even 2 am, he doesn't bother calling me when he is at work

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Also wrong, You're right to be upset.

I do the calling and I kept complaining he apologizes and he continues again.

Also wrong.

whenever he comes back from work,he would rather sit with his friend and even forget to sleep in his friend room,I have to wake him up to come over and sleep,he doesn't even help with the kids anymore,he doesn't want to go to church anymore,I keep wasting food as he won't eat if his friend his around. on Val's day my husband didn't even call or send a message or buy a gift, it has never happened before.

After he started acting Like this just because his friend came what was he expecting you to think?

How can a man forget and ignore valentines day just because his friend came? Ignore you. Ignore your food. Is he the first person to have a friend?
No wonder you're upset.

I called his friend and warned that I don't want to see him in my matrimonial home again and I guess he told my husband, my husband didn't speak to me since morning, I even went to meet him about what was wrong and he said he was going to beat me up when I called him gay.

Now he is threatening you

he has reported me to my family and I feel so bad, I am so hurt and I don't know what to do,he is not himself this morning because his friend is not around

I'm guessing this is why you felt he was gay.

Your complaints are valid, don't let anyone make. you feel like you're acting out unnecessarily.

I don't even think you should apologize for calling him gay. Let him apologize for treating you badly first, Then you can apologize

This thread is disgusting. A woman is being mistreated badly by her husband and people are attacking her for acting out. Trying to act as if her concerns aren't valid and trying to imply that she is overreacting. The husband is spoiling the marriage yet she is being blamed for reacting.

She can't even get support from her parents.

The married Nigerian woman's life sha.
Not something to aspire to at all.

Zither:
That is enh...I'm peeved at the realization that it is now the norm. When a woman unburdens herself about the predicaments she faces in her marriage they blame her for it. They tell her to kneel before her husband and apologise for being a human with feelings, for not ignoring his shortcomings threatening the union, for making efforts to keep her marriage from collapsing. And when the man shares the predicaments in his marriage, they take sides with him and hurl unprintable names at the woman. They go to the extent of calling females who speak in defense of their suffering fellow feminists. Any guy who tries to empathise with her is dubbed a 'patient womaniser'. Warped thinking everywhere.

This @bold is exactly what's happening in this thread and it is beyond irritating

It's quite sad that bible teaches that women shouldn't wear trousers because they seduce men..
The misogyny is sickening.
Why should women be made to suffer because of men? Should men stop wearing trousers because women are seduced, or they don't think that is possible?
Trousers are very comfortable for women and most times more practical.
But the comfort of one gender should be removed because men are seduced? Why is it a big deal that men are seduced?
Men will manage.

Everyone gets seduced. We just call on our self control, respect ourselves and move on.

One day Nigerian men will realise that they are not the reason why the earth rotates and the world doesn't revolve around them

Nobody cares if you don't like her boobs, or if they're not attractive to you, or you think they are flat and ugly, no one cares.
She won't stop living her best life, she won't cover up if she doesn't want to because some delusional nairaland men think their opinion is all that matters.

Case closed?
Very sassy.
The letter started well.
He stated his reasons quite well Then turned into nagging with that "home work is not useful in the real world rant" has he heard an adult say that?

The case of student vs home work. LOL. Quite silly.

wickedworld:
Pls run they are bad news. They lied about everything, they are manipulative, makes empty promises a lot, their attitude is different from what they say, they will use u to get another supply, down grade u in present of family and friends, always taking and when is time for them to give u will be discarded.

They will discardu for a new supply after 2 months they will be back as nothing happened. Their wrong is always ur fault because they are perfect. They like show off, brag a lot, womanise a lot, drama king, they are mean, heartless, frustrating, control freak, stubborn, u will always feel like walking on egg shell in relationship with them, relationship will them always end bad, they think u don't deserve them in their head.
Etc

Once u know u are dating narcissist play them back with the mind of discarding.

@ bolded very true.
Na dem be this

Funmisticqueen
Don't worry about that. It doesn't matter.

funmisticqueen:
A narcissist will make it hard for you to leave them

I know, I spoke about it in your thread on FP. Let me answer you there.

Once you recognise red flags you leave.
It's not a question.
No one should stay in an abusive relationship and a relationship with a narcissist IS an abusive relationship.
They just take and take and take, break you into tiny little bits until there is nothing left of you.
The worst is if you regain your power and leave the relationship with the narcissist when he/she is not yet done draining you.


They will do their utmost best to ensure you go through hell on earth.
-They love to do little things to set you off,
(They either do it privately or if publicly they do it passive aggressively,) so you can blow up and look crazy and they can point and tell people, "see, we told you she was crazy," while they look like the innocent victim that you're harassing (the narcissist is a fool, and the people who believe his lies are fools. You shouldn't care about this) you can ignore the narcissist lies.
- trying their best to spoil your name to people. Making you look like a devil. (Speak your truth if you wish. Then Move on)
-stalking you. Following you about, keeping tabs on you.


But you leave anyway.
Leave any relationship with a narcissist.

funmisticqueen:
A narcissist will make it hard for you to leave them

Definitely.
But you have to. Cut them out of your life completely, block everywhere. Call, social media, block and block.
- Pretend they don't exist if you run into them and move away from them immediately.
These are the ones I know.

Once you recognise red flags you leave.
It's not a question.
No one should stay in an abusive relationship and a relationship with a narcissist IS an abusive relationship.
They just take and take and take, break you into tiny little bits until there is nothing left of you.
The worst is if you regain your power and leave the relationship with the narcissist when he/she is not yet done draining you.


They will do their utmost best to ensure you go through hell on earth.
-They love to do little things to set you off,
(They either do it privately or if publicly they do it passive aggressively,) so you can blow up and look crazy and they can point and tell people, "see, we told you she was crazy," while they look like the innocent victim that you're harassing (the narcissist is a fool, and the people who believe his lies are fools. You shouldn't care about this) you can ignore the narcissist lies.
- trying their best to spoil your name to people. Making you look like a devil. (Speak your truth if you wish. Then Move on)
-stalking you. Following you about, keeping tabs on you.


But you leave anyway.
Leave any relationship with a narcissist.

funmisticqueen:
A narcissist will make it hard for you to leave them

But you have to. Cut them out of your life completely, block everywhere. Call, social media, block and block.
- Pretend they don't exist if you run into them and move away from them immediately.
These are the ones I know.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Same here.
It is either a lie or he is mocking his aunt.

I really want to know why he felt it was necessary.
After all, him posting.
"My aunt's wedding was supposed to hold feb 23" would have still gotten him the same sympathy, so why, the need to say my 45 year old aunt?


Anyway, Moving on from that.

Happy birthday

Shey it's because of you INEC shifted our election? so that you can flex your day well abi?
Enjoy

I wonder why he felt the need to state her age.

Deicide:
You have changed o what happened?

I don't know how I was to you before to know how I have changed to you now
Is "deicide" an alternate moniker whose main i would know?

You weren't like this b4

Same answer as above.

and am not misogynistic.

OK then
Don't make posts that read as you being misogynistic then.

Anyways I'll stay out of your mention. Pele o :

Thanks,
better not to quote me at all than quote me with bias.

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Deicide:
I was typing a lot on that post until i just decided to cut it short and point out that you shouldn't take sides. You made a lot of points which i agree with but you were going about it wrongly allowing emotions to cloud your judgement.


Anyways how is P.H?

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Trash.

You should have buried the whole trash in your mind, never mentioned me with such trash and never posted even the shortest form of it.
You shouldn't even have posted "at" on my mentioñs.


Nothing at all.
It was all trash.

Anyways,
My first post still Applies.
Gtfo out of my mentions with your bias hypocrisy and now you attempting and failing to be patronizing.

Something is wrong with all of you who think there is a problem with this woman having kids thrice with this man. (Marriage or no marriage. No one cares. Marriage doesn't take care of kids. Human beings take care of kids.)

As long as she holds up her own side of the deal by taking care of her kids which she has done there is no problem.

However there is everything wrong with a man thinking he can impregnate a woman thrice and walk away from those kids like they are nothing and he didn't bring them into this world. No body cares about his relationship with the woman, as long as he impregnated her and is a deadbeat dad. He is worse than trash.

Yet you want this woman to die in silence and shame her for speaking out.

Misogyny and gender bias won't allow some of you have sense.

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Deicide:
Both of them are at fault period stop taking sides.

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Shuuussshhh STFU
I should whattt??.??.?? You really tried it.

First of all. How is the woman at fault?
Second: Where is this same energy for the person, ( let me make this clearer, for the MAN) who started this Idiotic shaming game?
Why didn't you tell him to stop the idiotic shaming game he started, You were happy and content when he was trashing that hardworking woman just because she spoke out but when I served him what he deserved you immediately remember what is fair and just.

Your biased hypocritical view didn't allow you to see his post right? Gtfo of my mentionss with that trash.

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skales67:
Better that he is a philanthropist for people who deserve the money

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So the children he brought into this world don't deserve the money?

People like you deserve to be thrown into solitary confinement in a maximum security prison and the key thrown away for life.

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than a lazy baby mama who decided to get pregnant thrice without any proper family planning methods. She's actually the fourth baby. Nansense

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The man is a shameless baby papa who decided to impregnate her thrice without any proper family planning methods and yet is a deadbeat.
He is just a liability. A baby is better than him.


The woman takes care yet of the kids she brought into this world. She didn't make any excuses. She immediately stepped up and took care of her kids. And even then she still is taking care of them financially, doing it all. As if she is Mary the second and no man on this earth impregnated her.

Yet illiterates on this thread are trying to make excuses as to why a man can abandon his children and form philantropist for other people's children.

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skales67:
Your feeble opinion does not count! Who your respect epp?

The girl is a fool for allowing herself to fall on a d*ck thrice and then coming to social media to rant as a yeye wannabee "super mum" to garner sympathy. She is among the lazy tramps who feel being a baby mama means free meal tickets!

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The man is an idiot for allowing himself to fall in a vag thrice and then coming to social media to form as a yeye wannabe "philantropist" to garner attention.
He is among the shameless bastards who feel it is acceptable to have THREE kids yet be a deadbeat dad.

Lexusgs430:
I must win this giveaway...........

Lmao
Na just that one your mind dey nothing concern you with baby mama and baby papa drama

LOL!!!!

Is she doing all the work in raising the kids. Yet STILL sharing the financial responsibilities of taking care of the kids with the deadbeat?

That's so unfair.


If she is taking is raising the kids all on her own. Then the man should bear the financial responsibility all alone.

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IamPlato:
Some Girls Are Foolish. Three Times You Gave Birth For One Guy and No Marriage. Thunder Kill The Both Of You There

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Some men are miserable bastards. Three times he impregnated one girl and no marriage.

Besides that's not the point.
Did any of them Complain about the lack of marriage to you?

gypsey:
Absolutely! No proof he ever had any phone. They should cut his dick off!.

That's all.
Not only his. Every man who was there and participated in that putting pepper into vagina wickedness.
If they can sexually harrass and treat someone else with such cruelty over an accusation, Then they can take such cruelty in the same measure.

That video is very painful

Lol
The outrage is funny but nice to see. However if she wants to kneel. No biggie.

CHoccolaTE:
Hehehe.

Sowiii

Is one of them?

Just joking.

When did she get so busty?
She looks good.

How did she wear that dress out the house without being terrified that her boob would pop out.