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This is so sad.

peepydelano:
condemning someone so easily is what I don't know how to do,everyone has flaws and good side,everything solely depends on her decision kos she alone knows what she wants but dy can't start all over again.

All right then. Just keep my first post in mind. So you would look at it from that angle before you give such an advice(the first post i quoted) again or a similar one if such a situation or something similar to this arises again. Your post came across quite a bit insensitive to her.

Why is it that these people love to threaten others with violence and death. Especially when it seems things won't go the way they want.
Why?

peepydelano:
dont give up easily,obviously he has an emotional battle to overcome,you can help him and afterwards you take your decision.

Selfish and self centered.
She should sacrifice herself just to play therapist to help someone?
What about her?
What about her feelings?
Women are not free of charge therapists meant to help anyone over come emotional battles. Especially without consideration to the woman's own state of mind.

Valerie47:
They are always quick to call women ashawo when money enters the matter, stingy misers, you want her to risk her life and come to see you, you have sex with her and also want her to foot all the bills, so tomorrow you come on nairaland and gloat about how women die for you and how you screw them without spending a dim. I know your type. fools

Stupid alpha male wannabes

Team one packet of indomie
Later they will wonder why women don't have time for stingy guys and start calling themselves ashawos

faithfull18:
Ha, this isn't good at all, all these boys cyberbullying people on NL need to go back to school before they forget the little they know.

LMAO

If this is true this is wickedness.
ASUU has no conscience.
They want to return to their days of 6mnths + strikes

Grupo:
Marriage has many benefits to the woman.

1. Free housing
2. Free food
3. Free clothing
4. Free money because they always feel entitled to the man's money.

Where?
In this modern age where many women work and share the cost of rent, food, clothing? This age where men keep screaming that they can't marry liabilities and they want independent women who work and have their own money? Or is it another time?
How many men foot all the bills in the home?
So what kind of benefit?

I cannot say the man enjoys these benefits though.

Let me remind you of some benefits to the man

-1)A live in maid for free. (after all. "I'm Male. Head of house. It's a woman's job to build and take care of her home. )
-2)Live in cook. For free. (Hot meals set and ready at all meal times. Woman's job.)
-3)Live in all time baby sitter for free. (It's a woman's job to care for the kids. )
-4)Live in housekeeper for free.( Once again woman's job)
-5) And after all that, Someone to split the rent and someone to split payment of bills with. (This is when they remember that it is modern times. Something you're conveniently ignoring.)

-6) For extremely lazy yet wicked and entitled men.
It gives them another person's salary that they can sequestrate and they feel entitled to, A salary they didn't earn.

Since you want to show bias.
You really tried it with your post.

I don't even know.
The only reason I can find is that's the way things are done. Everyone else gets married and wants to get married. So why not you.
And maybe for the legal benefits. I don't even know what they are though.

Someone once asked this question on twitter and I think it made FP here. What are the benefits of marriage, especially to women.

I have a very strong reason why I wouldn't want to get married though.

CreamyBanana:
guys, if una toast girls for here and you break up, no come dey wash the girl for here. the thing no nice. if you no wan pay tf, tell the girl. no come dey wash the girl for here. make we dey try use our brains. wetin the girl do you wey you wan come dey wash am like that? my guy, yigi abi na yaga , no dey try that kind thing again o. man wey dem train well no dey behave that way. i no dey take nonsense from women but i dey respect women.

Very true

lol @bold

sconp:
Nah bro I beg to disagree this isn't maturity

Thank you

If I was the chic involved, I'd accept his apology and move on with my life ending every serious thing we had. Not because of the tfare or no tfare issue but the fact that I can't trust you with my secrets and my being.

Exactly,
it's her choice at the end sha

We're supposed to be lovers in a r/ship and at the first sight of slight misunderstanding you're online opening up all the intimacies we shared in private on a public forum? Even threatening to upload pictures of things I sent to you in private and in trust?

That's all.
Fights offline should be kept offline.
Doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship. Even casual friendship between the same sex. If we have issues offline and you carry it online. That's the end. Forgive fire.

Naaaaaaaaaa!!!
Is this even how to apologise? Let's call a spade a spade!

Lol
When it was insults, it was post after post after post of insults, Posts dedicated solely to insults, but apology is one line, not more than 5 words, in just one post.
And funny enough, it's "maturity"

Anyways I aren't the chic sha, so it's possible they kiss, makeup and live happily ever after.

True

Valerie47:
Send her a text message with your credit telling her how sorry you are.

Lol!!!!!
true though

venai:
Mumu guy! She is using him to advertise her yanch.

Lol
Another Angle

You won't see Buratai order crack down here.
It's only IPOB they can flex muscles for.

0koyeeboz:
Poverty is a bastard

Igbo girls can marry a monkey just because of money

Where are those who were trying to defend the marriage of an underage girl to a 50+ year old man with down syndrome and saying that he deserves love even though he has down syndrome as if that was the point.

Come and defend this man now. He is being likened to a monkey just because a girl of appropriate age says she will marry him.

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Richdad50:
I said in an earlier post somedays back that it is better to born a child in a love marriage than to raise a child without a daily father. I remember as a child. We had a young boy raised in a home by his mother who had him befriending a married wealthy man. The old man came at least once in 3weeks to see him. A few kids teased him at that time and by the time we got to 15years of age, he had fought virtually all known young men of his age. He developed rage as he grew and struggled with answers from his mother.

Ladies, before you take in, consider if your child will grow up to see a father at home or a man who regularly pays a visit. The psychological blow on the child is devastating to say the least and the consequence of social withdrawal may be evident.

#Richdad

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Shut up jor..

Ladies should consider what? This early Monday morning you want to start pushing the responsibility of men unto the heads of women.

Why didn't you tell the men that before they impregnate a lady they should consider if the child will grow up to see a father (them) at home or a man who regularly pays a visit? Especially since "The psychological blow on the child is devastating to say the least and the consequence of social withdrawal may be evident".

Why didn't you tell the men? Why is it women you found strength for?

Trying to make women responsible for the behavior of men. As if men are not fully grown human beings capable of being advised and held responsible for their own actions.

Stupid men will never call out their fellow men's bullshit. Always looking for how to push the responsibility meant for their fellow men unto the heads of ladies.

Men don't be stupid.
Leave all thses useless "ladies advice" you Lots love to give in January abeg
Don't carry this madness over. Face your fellow men. If you don't have the liver to face your fellow men, close your fuçking mouth. You must not talk.

Besides, Safari is right. If a man wants to be absent in his child's life. Even marriage to the mother will not deter him.

The talk is becoming too much. As long as the girl is under 18 she is not old enough to get married.
If Izunna or whatever his name is really liked that girl he should have just waited until she was 18 or 19 or 20 years old before he began dating, courting her and considering marriage but no Izunna rushed to date and get married to a girl under 18 and his stupid friends are defending him. He knew better, his family, her family and his friends all knew better, but they just decided to be wicked.


Izunna is in jail cooling off for being lovers with a girl under 18 years. That's where he belongs. His family. The girl's family and this stupid friend who think that this rubbish they tried to pull off is acceptable need to join him.

chinwe who is 15 going on 16, has a six-month old baby and she has been taken back to her parents' house. He also stated that on Monday February 4th, she will be officially handed over to the Anambra state Ministry of Women Affairs

I hope this means they wouldn't leave her with her parents? They shouldn't return her to the evil bastards that sold her out in marriage to a 50+ mentally unstable man in the first place. Her parents cannot raise a child. Marrying her out underaged for what stupid reason they thought was acceptable.

This is really nice. So happy. She is free.

I hope they take care of her till she is able to stand on her own.

I wish her the best.

Na wa. This guy is very dramatic.

Blood flowed limbs were torn and heads broken."

But this Lagos audition that was so horrible like this. Bad news coming out this audition left and right.

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TarOrfeek:
Ashawo no be work.

NL Feminist please take note.

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But murder na work
Ritual killing na work.
Yahoo plus na work

You no just get sense.

Nl misogynistic idiots abeg make una find sense.
You cannot continue in February 2019 as useless as you people were throughout 2018 through to Jan 2019

The boy is a fool, "ladies beware"..
And that is where the bastard ended.
Didn't even condemn the killers. Hope and pray that the killers of the lady would be found. Nothing about the killer or killers.
Couldn't even show mercy on the lady, because I don't know when being a prostitute became a crime punishable by ritual killing and yahoo plus.
It's only the lady who was killed that the bastard found power for.

Fools

Is it that serious?

Kcgeology:
if are looking forward to a healthy relationship, i see no reason y u shud nt date ur neighbour. U are favourably disposed to study her and knw her true nature. U dont lose respect by dating ur yard or lodge mate, u lose respect whn u lack self control and flirt around with every dick n harry. My wife used to be my neighbour for two years. We gist, laugh, play, quarrel just like neighbours. When i discovered what a treasure she was, i neva wasted time to tell her my mind. Am happily married today.

But you know and I know that op isn't looking for a healthy relationship.
He is looking for who he will use and dump, that's why he is concerned, because he knows if he uses and dumps his neighbour she is close enough to deal with him for playing on her feelings and emotions.


Just a typical shameless fuckboy

This thread is very painful

Op

Op I wish you the very best, take care of your finances and your child. And make sure you love yourself and put yourself first all the time.


You won't see all these useless fools who run around on FP saying how all women are leeches, how they only care for a guy because of his pocket, how men are the ones who always provide while the woman says my money is my money here. You won't see the goats here at all

destiny4luv:
U think so?

Yeah, you say you stop the conversation when You're tired, keep doing that, but don't displease yourself just because you don't want to talk with him, you can still go outside just tell him you would like to be alone or frame it in a way he wouldn't mind but still get the message.
When you want to talk with him do so, when you don't then don't,

Nothing is wrong with him. How come he doesn't disturb the wife with these his never ending talks though?

destiny4luv:
I have this neighbor of mine 'a guy' who talks without any reservation. This guy can engage you in talking for hours except you just find excuse to give to him in other to excape him.

Each time I go out and I am returning home if I noticed him from a distanced, I will just bring my phone out and start forming call, just to excape him. Almost everybody in the compound do all they can to avoid him.

He just got married, a contract worker with Chevron doing well but his problem is talking. And the funny thing is he does 95% of the talking. Sometimes when I just feel like relaxing outside if I noticed he is around I will just stay indoors or take a walk. This guy have engaged me in talk from around 9pm to after 1am in the morning on several occasions not until I told him I want to go and sleep, because he wasn't ready to stop even when the wife keeps calling him on phone he still refuses to go.

LMAO

Few days ago a neighbor came to me that this guy did something that offends him that I should go and talk to the guy before he will take matters to hand. But sincerely speaking I have been reluctant to meet him because I know its going to be hours of discussion again.

My question is, is it a curse or hereditary. I just feel for the wife because the wife is a very calm person who needs his husband attention as a new bride but because of talk the husband is hardly with her after he returns from work.

He has someone to talk to yet he leaves her and would rather talk with neighbours?

There is nothing wrong with him, leave him alone, and its not a curse.
Just keep doing what you doing,
You'll be fine

otipoju:
.

Nairaland is not just a site. It is a forum where many things happen . Its what you want out of it.There are levels to everything. In Dallas today there is a nairaland community of about 20 members that still hangout during festive periods and provide support to each other in real life. They met on nairaland.

True. That's why I don't find the bashing of ladies, and bullying seen on this website funny.

It doesn't even seem like they know each other,
Wierd chat
This forum and the intense need to have something to bash ladies with
He begged her for airtime.(which makes him a shameless beggar and a disgusting hypocrite)She never begged for data.