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Toktee:
you are confusing your self bro, all this stone here, stone there... Jesus came and put away all this laws by amending them with grace. If not for grace you would have been dead by now.
Now you said the op slept with his wife before marriage and even knew that she was not a verging yet married her?
If at all he knew as u are claimed and absconded after sleeping with her, what will u make of him?
I can see, when you are ready to. Marry you will go on testing sprees?
And according to you all non virgins should not be married?
Then while should you even get married?

Matthew 5:17 v“Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfil. 18 For assuredly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one tittle will by no means pass from the law till all is fulfilled.

This Shettima who used gunmen to get rid of the person who might've become governor of Borno and them became governor and let Boko Haram reign during his tenure from 2011 to 2019 is about to be rewarded with the vice presidency of the country. Get your PVC and vote Labour.

What's the procedure for passport renewal with change of name please?

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uwasam:
Good Evening all. Been awhile. So i did go for another round of IVF both for me and a surrogate this time. Is sad to say that i had a BFN. i started bleeding on the 8th day when i wiped and i was given injections, it stopped only for me to start bleeding on the 13th again but this time a lot heavier than the 8th day. I was also given another injection. i stayed in the hospital all tru and i did all i was supposed to do as i learnt from here. As for the surrogate, it was also a negative. She did not bleed at all. I used my eggs as i had 6 grade AA eggs that made it to day 5 before the implant. Four were implanted for me while two went to the surrogate. Am just wondering what could have gone wrong as all the prognosis were right this time or so i thought. Before the transfer i did Anti- Mullerian Hormone test and i was 2.44 hence my going ahead to use my eggs. I know my write up is lengthy but please sabi Mamas help me touch light this as hubby is insisting we try just surrogate rather than myself and a surrogate again. i have done 3IVFs and 1IUI. I had surgery to remove fibroids last year September. i will be 40yrs this year.
Sorry for any typo.

After 35 the quality of a woman's egg begins to greatly diminish. In your last cycle the constant was your eggs and your DH's sperm. In spite of this the embryo's didn't fertilise in two different womb conditions. If you wish to try again seriously consider DE even if in tandem with your eggs. Hugs and prayers for direction and success.

Anyone who's travelled with Lufthansa in the last 6 months, did they weigh your hand luggage please? How strict are they with luggage weight?

I hope she's safe. Twitter is good for helping find info.

Anyone who's travelled with Lufthansa in the last 6 months, did they weigh your hand luggage please? How strict are they with luggage weight?

@Abeniagbon sorry you're going through this. You wife needs to understand that you're a team. If you have a relative in your home you have every right to have an opinion and express it. You are the leader in your home. You lead by serving, protecting and providing. You must not allow any illegal, unethical or immoral activity in your home. What you permit sets the tone for the experiences and the reality yourself and your children will have in your home. You have served by providing accommodation and hospitality to your BIL. You need to discuss with your DW. Tell her you're giving your BIL 1month within which to get a job and find alternative accommodation. Where do you live?

Anyone who's travelled with Lufthansa in the last 3months, did they weight your hand luggage please?

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi everyone, I regret leaving Nigeria for America

Ever since I came to this country, I have had lots of illnesses like chronic eczema and PTSD… Now, I can’t go back home because of the medications I am taking. I came here as a child with my mother.

Please what do I do?[/color]

Sorry to hear of your illness. Any doc can prescribe you meds in Nij. In fact many prescription meds are available without prescription. Please don't fall into that; instead research and enquire about doctors and therapists with good experience treating PTSD. If you have a choice, choose somewhere less stressful than Lagos..

Fireandice0589:
Wow mama, that was really expensive. Wow. Imagine all those embies... but thank God for His Blessings upon you

Best thing is for the doc to do a mild ivf ie minimal drugs so you don't over produce eggs.

A bought a pack of dry ewedu known as Molokhia in Turkish in an ethnic store in London. It doesn't draw as much though. The frozen one is always fabulous! Try exporting your product. All the best.

optm:
i ll advise you have your blood pressure checked and possibly do a blood sugar test aswell. You should also visit an eye clinic to check your eye pressure and retest your glasses because your glass prescription should be reviewed every 2years

Thanks Doc.

Hello Doc, My eye have been hurting me for a while. I frequently wake up with headaches in the morning. I went for eye tests in 2019 and got glasses. I did another test in 2020 and got another pair which included reduction of screen glare. Often it takes a few seconds for my eye to focus when I pick up my phone without glasses on. The light from my phone seems to hurt my eyes so I have it dimmed low and sometimes use a night light setting so it eliminates blue rays. When driving at night the light from other cars seem super bright and uncomfortable to me. Any idea what the problem could be? How can I help my eyes? My dad and grand mum both had glaucoma and cataracts so I'm concerned. Thank you.

jesmond3945:
what is the essence of relocating to uk without anything to show back home. People will deride and curse you. For tier 2, I would not mind but not for tier 4. Imagine taking your last card to do psw for you and your family while hoping for the best. I see it as unwise.

Are you serious? If you're younger than mid 20s I excuse you but please consider realigning what drives you in life.

Which exchange is it on? You can try Kraken, Crypto.com, FTX and the like.

Domistic:
Bro

How do you withdraw your crypto Usdt to your British bank account.

alphabbey1:
Real problem of crypto is people are now turning it to ponzi. One project comes up, people join, rug in few minutes, abandon the project, leaving holders to uncertain faith.... and bro, hundreds of project comes up weekly...

True. Best is to pick 4 cryptos, research them, place some low bids and continue to learn while the bids get fulfilled.

Really good info here.

miketayo:
subscribe to these channels
https://www.youtube.com/c/AndrewsTradingChannel

https://www.youtube.com/c/TheMovingAverage

both of them are really good. on the first channel watch the videos about EMA 20 & EMA 10, that is the easiest method to make big money IMO. you can catch 20 -200 pips in a day.

Ladies, date widely, very widely with respect to race!

Nigerian men treat their non Nigerian wives with love and respect. You also deserve the best in marriage.

Withhold physical intimacy until you have what you want; if it's marriage then wait till then. Don't give marriage benefits outside of marriage. No cooking for him either. If he can't happily date you without physical intimacy or you feeding him then he's not likely to be loving, thoughtful and kind towards you in marriage.

Let the best man win. Don't narrow your pool to your tribe or race. The average Nij man in the diaspora is open not only to his tribe in his preferred age range but he's open to women of his race and then even women of all other races add on top of that women back home including some they couldn't step to prior to emigrating.

Is it then wise that when in a country where your tribes men are .025% of the population and this same tribes men have widened their pool to 100% of women in the country, add on top women they could and couldn't step to prior to emigrating ), you limit yourself to that? You need to widen your pool to men of every race then have a strict criteria to help sieve them. This is the best formula for a happy stable marriage.

Caucasian men are generally more loving, kind, loyal, faithful and romantic. More so as you're an immigrant having a man who is from the country you've settled is a plus. Less strain on the relationship and more time to focus and enjoy all that's around you. Better opportunities for your children; who are most likely not planning to emigrate to Nij yet your Nij husband is building homes in Nij. For who

You actually have an edge over most wives as an African wife. You're much more family oriented and loyal. Asian men have begun to notice this too. Asian women are now marrying oyinbo men and the men can't believe their luck! The Asian or Black woman wants to build relationships with the husband's family who don't even require her to come to theirs to clean or cook ie display her wifely material etc. She cooks and is a home maker.

Be open to new interests, hiking, theatre, cycling, swimming, gardening, jogging, bird watching, camping etc. Everything is online these days. Put up a nice, simple decent profile. Clear photos and your interests in your bio. If no interests you have to begin to build hobbies. Please stop limiting your dating pool and totally avoid going back to Nigeria to find a spouse. It usually does not work well for a loving happy marriage. Most Nij men are uncomfortable with the dynamic and are either distracted showing those back home how well they're doing or annoyed that no one is deferring to them and sucking up to them in their immediate environment even as they're earning more than they used to. God speed!

Ladies, date widely, very widely with respect to race!

Withhold physical intimacy until you have what you want; if it's marriage then wait till then. Don't give marriage benefits outside of marriage. No cooking for him either. If he can't happily date you without physical intimacy or you feeding him then he's not likely to be loving, thoughtful and kind towards you in marriage.

Let the best man win. Don't narrow your pool to your tribe or race. The average Nij man in the diaspora is open not only to his tribe in his preferred age range but he's open to women of his race and then even women of all other races add on top of that women back home including some they couldn't step to prior to emigrating.

Is it then wise that when in a country where your tribes men are .025% of the population and this same tribes men have widened their pool to 100% of women in the country, add on top women they could and couldn't step to prior to emigrating ), you limit yourself to that? You need to widen your pool to men of every race then have a strict criteria to help sieve them. This is the best formula for a happy stable marriage.

Caucasian men are generally more loving, kind, loyal, faithful and romantic. More so as you're an immigrant having a man who is from the country you've settled is a plus. Less strain on the relationship and more time to focus and enjoy all that's around you. Better opportunities for your children; who are most likely not planning to emigrate to Nij yet your Nij husband is building homes in Nij. For who

You actually have an edge over most wives as an African wife. You're much more family oriented and loyal. Asian men have begun to notice this too. Asian women are now marrying oyinbo men and the men can't believe their luck! The Asian or Black woman wants to build relationships with the husband's family who don't even require her to come to theirs to clean or cook ie display her wifely material etc. She cooks and is a home maker.

Be open to new interests, hiking, theatre, cycling, swimming, gardening, jogging, bird watching, camping etc. Everything is online these days. Put up a nice, simple decent profile. Clear photos and your interests in your bio. If no interests you have to begin to build hobbies. Please stop limiting your dating pool and totally avoid going back to Nigeria to find a spouse. It usually does not work well for a loving happy marriage. Most Nij men are uncomfortable with the dynamic and are either distracted showing those back home how well they're doing or annoyed that no one is deferring to them and sucking up to them in their immediate environment even as they're earning more than they used to. God speed!

Hi Grace, I hope things are looking up for you since you wrote this post.

I have three of my closest female friends in Canada. One single, one divorcing and one married. They're early 40s but lovely, kind Christian women excelling in their professions.

Join local Facebook interest groups on gardening, neighbourhood community, dating tips (women only), current affairs etc.
Internations is a good expat group with lots of activities too. They have a good website and app. Nextdoor is another good app.

I advice you to date widely ie irrespective of race. Dip your feet in the online dating pool. Be strict and avoid anyone who waves a pink talkless of a red flag. Avoid physical intimacy even when you've decided to be an item. Irrespective of your faith, this is the best way to date intelligently, protecting yourself from making decisions in a vulnerable state. Only meet in public places convenient for you. Don't talk for ages with anyone you meet online, they can pretend to be anything and you've allowed yourself to bond and build castles in the air. If they're interested they'll arrange to meet you.

Look for public speaking clubs eg Toastmasters. It will help build your professional network and your confidence.

Volunteer in your locality eg gardening, library, tutoring etc. Join a Bible believing living church, not necessarily a Nigerian church. Infact avoid Nigerian churches and seek out those that are more mixed in nationality.

Don't fall into the temptation of falling in love with someone living in Nigeria. You'll enjoy your diaspora life better if you marry a man who lived within close proximity to you and in the country you wish t settle. A Canadian doesn't have the mindset of an economic migrant so he will be focused on you and your family; he'll be able to lead, teach and guide you to enjoy all the resources before you. You need to be looking forward more than you're looking backward. One of my close friend in Canada married a guy she connected with in Nigeria through her friend. They got married and he migrated to Canada. He was normal before he migrated but it was a terrible story afterwards. The guy resented her for being so successful. She's an engineer and doing superb but the guy and his mum fought and insulted her all the time. They're about finalising their divorce. He was a Deeper Life brother. Please don't limit your pool.

Look for hiking and cycling trips, singles expeditions and walks. Once you start earning well you can add single Christian holiday trips too.

In the meantime focus on activities that'll challenge your disposition to striking friendships.

WeddingParol:
Thanks Bro.

But money is not my issue now, the news oozing out of this country everyday kept me wondering if things will ever get better.

I am comfortable to an extent here in Nigeria but I kept asking myself of the fate of my children.

I suggest you put all your energy towards an English speaking country with residency programs eg Canada.

I've visited both. Turkey is much better and lots of business opportunities for Nigerians.

dustydee:
Well the UK charges £800 for ILR fast track so £100 for passport fast track is quite reasonable.

services after one is a citizen is very cheap. Renewing your British passport is £75.

Mandela89:
WIDD
Previous cycle i and my dh went for test mine hvs, he did SFA,infection was found his high growth mine scanty, his sperm count was a bit low due to the infection, we treated the infections that cycle, my dh did scrotal scan and prolactin test at peoples doctor hospital where varicocele grade 1 was seen on the left testis and hydocele on the both scrotum, his prolactin was slightly higher than 19, so he was treated of the hydrocele and prolactin, for the varicocele the doctor says he need no surgery since it was not hurting him and it is grade 1. Then this cycle that I got my bfp, i was place on letrozole to help me ovulate from CD 5 to CD 9, then on CD 13 I went for tvs which I posted here for interpretation which 3 follicles were found 18, 16 and 12 mm on the left ovary and a simple ovarian cyst on the right,I planned to go back on CD 15 for TVs and trigger shot but due to financial constraints i couldn't, CD 18 I started taking vitamin b6 to help with progesterone, then CD 31 I did urine pt it came out faint so I waited till CD33 for blood pt which came out positive.

congratulations. I'm in a WhatsApp group with your DH. You are blessed.

Bunny19:
Noooo....even if it can be done don't gamble it. Deliver then go some other time to remove it. My 2 cents

I agree. My friend passed away doing this. They said she lost too much blood.

nelszx:
Absolutely

That's how its removed during birth process

The only person I know who had hers removed after delivery didn't make it. After delivery said she was tired but the doc said they'll remove the fibroid. They said she lost too much blood. Do you know anyone who successfully had myomectomy and C Section at the same time? Best research further and only do both together if one has testaments from those who had it done successfully. Even then be cautious.

Taal17:
Things can change and I think you may wanna speak to him about the benefits cos if you lose it and he suddenly sees the need then
E.g makes it easier to get long term visas to other countries
Access to business opportunities in the US
Medical care - for example we dont have covid vaccines right now in Nigeria so if you needed it you simply just hop on a plane
Get a job and earn in USD - inflation in Nigeria is kinda cray and with the possibility of remote work you have a number of options to earn in another currency as a way to sure up your naira


Let me just drop this here as well.... I dont think if the roles were reversed your husband would consider giving it up and I doubt you as his wife would let him do the same

Thank you . I'm just seeing your reply. I understand what you mean. We live in England and he worked in Washington for a few years back then. Over the past few months it's become more clear we won't be moving imminently so I guess it'll be lost at 12months next month. I tried.

Thanks. My question is about the GC not immigrant visa. I already entered and got GC minted by going every 11months. However, there're so many places in the world to see and I don't want to keep going just for validation. Yet there's no guarantee about actually moving there at this point.

nowhere:
You have 6months to use the visa and it is one-time use only. Then if you wanna stay out of the States, you do so each time for 6months, if you want to do 1yr, you must seek for the reentry permit as you depart. Anything outside these, you are risking your residence and begging to be readmitted with SB2 or something. If Embassy refuses, you start all over again or you fix Naija. Ask google for more!

Apologies. Just seeing this. Please PM me.

nicemom:
I want to be added to the group
thanks