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bukatyne:
Long time everyone...

Naijababe, really looking good...

@damiso, weldone even though I did not see the pictures...

Have a great day everyone

Thank you dear

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EfemenaXY:
[color=#FFFFFF]Dull Sunday. Shout out to you ladies:

Edwife, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Damiso, Naijababe, ...

Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Edwife, Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chilli, Chillis, Cococandy,
, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Lol!!
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My eyes hurt chai

Ewuro4:
Bastardo.

And oloshious fellow

naijababe:
Leave story o Dami, there is no way I will be in Surulere and I will not branch Shitta o of if I suddenly find myself in Ibadan, I will not head for Inastrate. Thunder fire washboard belle

you know I just kept consoling myself this one igbako(plus shaki,Pomo,bokoto, gbogbo e ) won't make you fat joor

Kimoni:

so no be only me dey feel these drop in oranges



@damiso - waoh! you look so hot and trim...
I had to purposely add some weight cuz of my frontlights too, that padded solution from Chilli no be am for me at all
I need the real thing
I am more on abs now; don't mind the extra weight, as long as I maintain my flat tummy

Thanks babe yes o flat tummy is the real deal

Ewuro4:
True.

Ofcourse the 'old age Ab. analogy' excludes life uncertainties and leaves all 'plans' null and void. Lobatan case closed. He wins.

Abi o he wins

MusingsOfALady:
Am just imagining a lady planning to leave her husband dying just a year before her planned date. The husband them marries the mistress. That woman no go enjoy heaven o, she go just sey vex for the Angels.

@ vex for angels.

Folks are different but I would actually have high BP or some kain mental illness plotting against someone I am living,eating&sleeping with for years.

I don't even know if I can chill to investigate cheating before pouncing or issuing ultimatums. E dey pepper my body like that.
You know when people say 'I know he is cheating 'and they are advised 'chill' pretend all is well cook for him etc'I honestly think I would have a nervous breakdown before the 'planned confrontation date'

My mum is always saying 'you can't be such an open book in life ' but I guess that's just how am wired.

naijababe:

But I want washboard abs and 6 pack so maybe just maybe .

But jollof rice is sweet o chai I ate fire wood cooked jollof in naija . Oooola la plus Amala shitta.had just one igbako sha

Ewuro4 that abandonment plan na long ting o.Life is so uncertain ojare.Who says it won't be the woman who will be ill or die first ?

If we are to measure coolness and the person who used to over stress themselves ,my dad would have 20 years over my mum meanwhile she is alive and kicking while he is the one who died young

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

I like this. I think I should borrow a leaf from your book.



Abeg don't ever disappear like that again. Y'all deactivating at the same time. Got me wondering if you'd all regrouped on another forum or something and were just waiting for Efe to come join una. I nearly followed suit.



Now assuming this chick married that club toaster, how would she bring up her sons?

And most importantly, what sort of mother-in-law would she be??

I can't even begin to imagine ..I did not understand whether it was low self esteem,inferiority complex or just plain stupidity.

Maybe because I have always been allergic to drama but the most reasonable reaction to me even at that young age was to break up with him Abi how hard is that

I understand marriage is a bit more complicated but that example was just to show the mindset of people even from that young age.

naijababe:
I forgot, no grains too

That's why it's hard Na

naijababe:
My trainer recommended this, although I cracked after 2 weeks, i lost 5 inches around my tummy.

No fruits and no other vegetables other than green coloured ones, zero sugar!. Carbs restricted to only yams and sweets potatoes, no rice, potatoes or naija swallows. No juice or any sugared flavoured drink. If you are a coffee drinker, you have to give it up too............lots of green tea and avocados. Like I said, I cracked after 2 weeks and have not been able to repeat the feat and the inches i lost have not been gained back thankfully. If i could repeat it for a month, I go happy die

Yeah similar tips he hard small sha

But might just have another crack at it.i think I could do 2 weeks. Let's see how November goes

edwife:
Lol honestly i can't,i even run away from people's fight.I was just trying to give many instances and one from my very good friend.

I witnessed everything,it was so dangerous when the mistress started stalking her and her kids.She had to do something.

Whether she dealt with her husband then decided to forgive him after she was driving a new ML that's her business but the mistress had her fair share also.Everybody got served!

Some people get mind sha I know some side chics take it to a whole different level sha.


I remember when I was in uni, I had one toaster (who was also toasting like 100 other girls ) .his girlfriend abi is it 'wifey' would be eyeing and giving me attitude all over campus(we had mutual friends ) it was so obvious to everyone That I was not interested in dating the guy (he was a club boy and I can't stand womanisers ) but I could never ever get over the blatant disrespect that the guy would mete out to this girl eg telling her to get down from his car while trying to chat with me )and she would not break up with him and choose to be 'eyeing or giving me attitude' all over campus when it was so obvious I was not interested. that was as a teenager o no strings,children ,marriage etc attached .that one na acid acid she for don dey pour for now



Human relationships can be complicated sha.

Welcome back ileobatojo.

[quote author=MusingsOfALady post=39558031]Wow! You guys really had a nice long discussion. I initially thought Mindfulness was a gal. So you just wanted to pull the ladies strings.

We agree to disagree, bottom line for me is women need to stop lying to themselves(I actually have a post on that) and placating themselves that their husbands were snared.
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That's crap. Hold your husband accountable but some can't because they were the side chick before marriage.[/[/b]quote]

Interesting debate

Edwife I can't imagine you pulling weaves though

My take wives should face their husbands as men rarely ever confront whoever their wife was cheating with.As for the mistress/side chic karma is a female dog so I personally feel wifey Has no business confronting her. Pulling weaves might be therapeutic for some people sha but not something I would do.

From personal observation with ex runs/aristo chics they tend to make the most paranoid wives ever guess experience is the best teacher

EfemenaXY:
Lol! Sounds like you need a running companion, Dami.

D'you know I almost gave in to lethargy and nearly didn't go for my swim class? But I'm so glad I did. Just seeing the other tonned up and determined ladies in the water got me going.

Next Saturday, I'll take a pic of myself in my swimsuit and post (briefly) on here for you lot. Been planning to for a while, but just never got round to doing it.

The struggle is real.lethargy does sure set in it takes a whole of will power to keep going. I have running partners but you know how it is sometimes with lil children and child care issues sometimes clashing.

Some of my friends in naija who have live in nannies,house helps ,driver ,washman were asking me when do I get the time to exercise? I said it's a priority so I make the time. My life is busy but if I can squeeze in a full hour (or more sometimes )to watch TV I can squeeze in time for exercise.

swimming sounds so cool.Doing varied activities makes exercising less boring and monotonous so seems your method is one to adopt.

naijababe:
What if i told you those wobbly bits will melt in time and exercise will only do a bit when they are still quite wobbly. I should know, I don't have love handles anymore but I want a six pack and my trainer has told me food can will take me there and exercise will only give me definition.

Yeah,that's what most trainers say I.e abs are made in the kitchen.

I have heard no carbs after 3pm,less sugary fruits eg bananas,red grapes etc helps. I did that for a week that is no carbs after 3pm but some days I still stumble. I don't have carbs after 7pm though and I hope to gradually get to the 3pm cut off.

EfemenaXY:
You're right. The last lap is usually the hardest.

I've got a strict routine during the week (Mon - Fri) but on weekends, I tend to slack. Waking up early in the mornings before cockcrow on Saturdays and Sundays, when I just want to have a lie-in is a Herculean task. I only just about managed to get there on time today for my 9:30 swim class (oh, I've been moved up from Adult Improvers to Adult Advanced - yayy!!) and so missed out on doing my 30 mins sit up + 1 hr run.

Not easy but I'll get there. Dieting gets easier with time as you get used to avoiding certain foods too.

@Damiso: The clocks have moved back one hour na - so going for the early morning run isn't going to pose too much of a problem.

I know efe it's the whole grey/cold look that autumn/winter has that makes it not so appealing. But I just have to drag myself out most of my work outs these days are mind over matter anyway cos I never feel like it but I just find myself doing it . I even go to bed in sports bra and running clothes sometimes so I can just get up and go needless to say hubby is not a fan of the sports bra in bed business

naijababe:
I been thinking it was just me. I rarely excercise now but I have portions control down to a tee.....certain foods are no longer consumed by moi and wait for it, I weigh 58kg now. I don't want to lose any more and my oranges berra not get any smaller

Well done bae, you look hot. These days I am rocking mini skirts and boots to work, a few of my colleagues have asked me in jest if I am having an affair

Thanks sis ..

Wow you have really done well it's just maintaining that is left for you now .portion control is really the ish. I think one's tummy kinda gets used to lil portions,I could not finish most of my meals in naija cos I was always full up and I was so uncomfortable when I finished some.

Still exercising but doing alot more of abs (crunches ,push ups,planks ,toe touches etc) routines I need to get rid of some stubborn wobbly bits around that area.

Thank you all ladies thank you all for the earlier motivation

Edwife, me sef haf that problem E don reduce to DD now I think we are going down the D route

Pls share when you get the solution.

BABE3:
damiso, I had to log in to comment coz of you.

I'm so happy and impressed with your results. I know it's a little weird, but seeing people embrace the healthy lifestyle (plus results to show for it) gives me joy.
I hope you keep it up (the food aspect) even after you reach your goal weight. You're awesome!

Oh, I have that pearl choker/neck band. Great minds shop for accessories alike. Love all your outfits too.

Thank you for the compliments.

You are not weird at all . I know the feeling and I have a couple of friends that I am also encouraging and I feel so happy when they get results.

This thread and so many of you (efe,chilli,naijababe etc) also really helped in making that change .plus I am forever reading up on healthier choices .
It's good to have people who understand and get it as well self determination cos the comments I got in naija ehn I have a friend on the same journey who gets upset by them but I have told her just do you .Me I just get amused.I got
' I thought you would be bigger' ' is there food scarcity in London ' ' is your husband not feeding you ' 'were you ill' 'it's enough your head is bigger than your body '.etc etc

I also kept getting 'what diet are you on' and I can see disappointment when I say I am not on s diet per se.been down the diet route and while it works for some was just not sustainable and weight just came back on.

It's a change for Life and I know the benefits will spur me on to keep at it.


My husband had to tell me 'calm down its just a week' cos he could sense how horrified I was by the prospect of not being in charge of my meal prep while I was in naija

Mixed pepper and leaf salad with grilled chicken

Grilled plantain (boli)steamed kale and tilapia stew

People keep Asking me if I eat and they seem suprised when I say I do. 3 to 5 times s day sef

Grilled snapper and salad

some of my healthy meals

Brown rice and steamed broccoli with oil less tuna stew .green tea and water .

I now drink about 4/5 cups of green tea a day

EfemenaXY:
Lol! I think it was.

Either way, t'was really tasty. And healthy. Anyway, how've you been mami? And more importantly, how've your exercise regime and clean eating been going?

Very very well. Went to Nigeria so my exercise and food was disrupted a bit but I was able to manage my portions.have had a couple of 'off' days but as its a lifestyle change I quickly make amends.

My mum is so worried about me she thinks I look ill. I kept getting 'see all your bones' 'what is this ' . I never realised how much leaner I was until I had to put on a wrapper.

I have more 2 more KG to get to my target weight. I run a bit less now though and do a mix of abs/core,Strength training ,legs etc routines. I just find it harder to get motivated to hit the pavement when it's dark outside

Pic below is my progression from March up until September (L to R) and I am even leaner now.

naijababe:
So you are one those people who ruin a good steak?! Chai Dami!!! Those taste buds of yours need some growth

Yes they do

Happy birthday and wedding Anniversary bellong. Gods blessings now and always

Ewuro4:
Who's this Mr.Solek you always mention sef?

'Twas just a mellow party. You let your hair down and group chat kinda.



She's very familiar with all of us my dear , she openly expressed her opinion immediately she saw the setting, she even asked 'why is everybody not sitting together' ? (we all stared her down as in ) I don't want to listen to men yelling in my ears all night when I could have a warm and interesting discussion with ladies like myself.
I'm not a new wife and still do attaché with my hubby oh But I believe there's a place and time for everything.

We just found her attitude kinda annoying that's all.

Damiso long time sis. How's Kumon going hahaha, Jesu lo ni emi mi

E dey go . Werin person go do. Jesu a gba akoso.

naijababe:
Ara oko! So you will not eat rare steak eh?!

Raw salmon is no different from sushi now and sushi is yummy

Ese I be ara oko..I can't eat raw salmon oh (smoked salmon has sha been smoked )

Rare steak ke it must be cremated

Hello everybody.. How una dey

EfemenaXY:
Lunch @ work!

Chicken & Salmon gyoza. Warning: The salmon is raw and the chicken blow-torched.

Anyway, this is just for starters...

cc: Thelish (for the raw fish)
And Damiso (for the blow-torched chicken)

Biko efe was that chicken cooked. I can just about do raw veg/smoothies but I draw the line at meat