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bellong:
Cococandy,

Naijababe just gave you an hint of what it takes. She talked from experience....
Damiso and Naijababe,

Both of you are missing better food....

We used to have a house warden who adds palm-oil to his pap (ogi). We nicknamed the man "ogidan"

****pukes all over thread **

Na wa o
SMH

naijababe:
Disgusting!!! Are you are dunker too?! You will never find me put anything soggy or soaked in my mouth, when I drink garri sef na crispy garri I dey drink. All these soaking tinz are just yucky joor

@ Cococandy, the gods that bellong likes to appease nor dey collect palm oyel o, he will tell you to bring 72 cows and one range rover now

Me too .. Anything dunked yuk yuk maybe it's even the fact that I have never really ever liked milk

edwife:
chillisauce thank you dear for your prayers,i can't thank you enough.

@damiso and kimoni thank you.

I didn't want to bring it here,but at this point i need all the prayers.

My family and I are going through tough time.During Friday’s Paris attacks, two of my cousins were affected-we didn't know where they were as they left for the soccer then to a birthday party in one of the restaurant until we got the news on Sunday night that one died and the other in the hospital (intensive care).

As if it was not enough,only for me to get a call this afternoon that the one in intensive care fell into coma and my aunt(their mum) had a stroke immediately.The woman is a widow who took care of her two boys and now that they are grown,she is about to lose both just like that?how fair is it? I grew up with them,it's like losing two brothers at the same time.I am confused.

Oh my gosh Hugs edwife, God grant you all the succour that you all need at this point .

Oh my days It is well Edwife if you are reading this,

Chillisauce do try to stay safe.

' kimoni indeed!! .

but what one can do life has to go on.

Kimoni:
Blessed family. You have a somewhat resemblance to this rapper that stays in Satelite town, Baba Dee's younger brother. Can't remember his name now

sound sultan

SAMBARRY:
I've attended an engagement wedding Like that when the Alabama ijoko or iduro,I can't even remember sef asked the groom to put 1hands on his wife's breast and put the second in her private part then pray that her babies will suck this breast, she will be fruitful,and that babies will pass through this vagina and her back won't stay long on the floor. I thought it was a joke unroll I started seeing people praying.I had to send my friends children outside the hall.I was like wtf. After the groom finished his own prayer,it was the bride's turn.they say she should put hand on his phenese and pray that it will always be active and useful and it won't suffer impotence and it'll be exclusively hers.no woman will share her" property " with her

I just buried my shock inside but I guess it's part of the Yoruba culture

sambarry Me I don't know which Yoruba culture that one is o cos me I have not seen that before and I have gone to my fair share of Yoruba engagement( traditional weddings)

Na wa. I guess they are putting faith into 'actions'.

eeya pele cococandy. hope you have eaten now?

I am sure we saw like 1/10th with storm barney and my son kept saying ' mummy the wind is screaming' *smiley*(cant use smileys on my work computer) the wind almost pushed him down yesterday.

Ewuro4 why do you people keep spoiling garri with milk I don't get it hubby says its cos I did not go to boarding school but I haaaaate garri and milk with a passion. soaked garri ( the iejbu variety esp) is a flavour on its own and yall keep spoiling with milk.

Eketem:
First of all, does your wife not work?

Is she aware of what you earn?

Why should any sane woman ask for half of your salary for her people just for the holiday?

What happens in January for school fees and house rent?

What about your own people?

Anyway I don't totally blame her, una go dey marry and will not be doing financial planning and family budget. Husband will be doing super man and hiding his income. Wife will be doing " smartness " looking for opportunity to chop money.

It is insane for anyone to spend half his or her income just for their inlaws for Christmas.

I will advice that oga head of home you sit your wife down and do better family financial management. Sort out your income and budget sane expenditure for BOTH YOUR FAMILIES what you can both realistically afford as gifts, if she is not working she has no business doing father Christmas to her people abeg.

Women I am a woman and I say a husband is not a job or a source of income, if you are not working you have no business being family mother Christmas. If a husband decided to be magnanimous and give her something to give her parents let her collect with thanks and be greatful.

Oga plan ya family

U don talk am all

naijababe:
Look at you sef................you never read doctorEkene's post. They have kissed and made up jare. Like I said before, all na Bonnie and Clyde runs. We just don't know what Clyde did to piss Bonnie off so royally.

https://www.nairaland.com/2737045/eyin-omo-wobe/57#40052091

Doctorekene all this 'Monica's' on this NL

Afi doctorekene naa

naijababe:
Elephant and grasses ish

Indeed ..

EfemenaXY:
You think London Bridge is bad?

Then check out Canary Wharf and Canada Water stations during the rush hours. It's worse than the Japanese tube adverts of commuters packed and squashed like sardines. And to think the trains arrive back-to-back.

God dey sha...

I get on the jubilee line at Canada Water so yeah it's bad.

Am talking more about mainline stations being soft targets

But like you said God dey. I just wish the bloody news channel stop all this their 'London terror attacks very likely ' talk.

naijababe:
Hilarious but let's be clear about one thing. The Western powers are neck deep in the ME crisis, as terrible as it may sound it just feels like chicks are coming home to roost

You are right unfortunately innocent people are the ones who tend to bear the brunt

naijababe:
Omo iya, that Paris thing is scary o and could easily have been anywhere in Western Europe! I just tire for this IS matter. I am not even sure of what you can do to stay safe now. R'ber the London bombing? It was during rush hour when people were on their way to work. The Tunisian massacre nko? The Russian plane? These mofos do not have any MO as long as get maximum casualties and make breaking news everywhere.

Standing with Paris

So scary sis . Hubby was like some people were already saying no going to public places like malls, busy stations , etc etc am like how Is that even life ? Thats their plan make people paranoid.

Na so person go dey use side eye pass London Bridge tomorrow dey gauge body movement on the tube but life's gotta go on .

EfemenaXY:
It's true na.

Didn't you know guys who sport Gorimakpa and the kindest of them all?

EfemenaXY:
^^ Nice!

But you picture is a bit fuzzy, girl.

Yeah just noticed and the food has gone to the place of no return

EfemenaXY:
Nice one Damiso.

But how were you able to squeeze in exercising 5 times this week? Without the weekends, it's really hard for me to hit 4 days - but I do try though.

Re: tiredness - me 'n all too dear. Not just you. And the weather - it's been raining cats and dogs which hasn't helped much either. No exercises done today. Lazy Saturday it's been for me.

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Thursday's lunch!

Stir fry chicken noodles with vegs. Had a banana and clementine a few hours later when I started to feel a bit peckish. Drink? Good 'ol H₂O and nothing else.

This week was a good week

Woke up 30 mins earlier everyday of the week and did sone indoor work outs (mixture of abs/core,legs,HIIT routines ,ST ).Hubby was home so he was doing drop off so I left home early as well put on my running shoes and did a min of 6km walk into work every morning .

Did a 5k run later this afternoon but tomorrow is a rest day .need to rest those muscles.

My recovery meal/lunch

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Ewuro4:
Poppy police bawo now

No poppy police oh as fas as I'm concerned lol but almost everyone wears that stuff including the baby sef. It just grows on you like a tradition every Nov11.

kids knock on doors for donations for a poppy,

you're also asked to make donations for a poppy at groceries stores checkout.

How are you my dear

Am fine o we thank God and you?

My work meal prep on Monday ..

Smoothie was spinach cucumber lemon bananas and a kiwi .

Lunch was white basmati rice egg broccoli and stew.
Orange was my mid morning snack and mid afternoon was 10 almonds in my drawer .

Not taken any pictures since then e dey Taya person but food has been clean with and exercise 5 times this week .

Sooo tired this morning so been lazying round all day need to get off NL and get a move on stuff I need to do

EfemenaXY:
And lunch - Couscous with trout, spinach & green beans + the usual vegetables: cucumber, cherry tomatoes, green peas, shredded carrots, and sweet corn (I think)

Similar to my lunch yesterday but with prawns instead look yum

Chillisauce:
We are fine over here. Just indoors .

Rip to the dead .
Thanks for asking

Thank God. Stay safe

Na wa o

naijababe:
Abeg where is this church? This is the kinda church I want to be attending.

@ Damiso, I used to attend my local Redeemed Church, sometimes we'd still be at church at 2.30pm ..................omo I had to ba ese mi soro kia kia

It's improved .. 12.30 no dey pass 1.00 pm now

salsera:
Some Naija churches have changed with timeliness. In my place if I leave home 6.30am for 1st service I'm home by 9am. So that's 2and a half hours incl of 1hour travel to and fro church. Only mid week services are long but that's because they are also prayer times and communion.

My mum attends Baptist and they have improved over the years just one Service 8.30,to 12noon inclusive of 1hour bible study.

It maybe a Black thing to be tardy though. I hear Black American churches are long. Maybe because blacks tend to be more social with Church.

Yeah I guess so.

God forgive me on days I have stuff to do I just sneak out before Grace because I don't want to spend another 30 mins greeting everyone

naijababe:
This is why I gave naija churches a wide berth a long time ago. My beautiful Oyibo church, service starts at 10.30am, we are done by noon and there optional tea and coffee for another 15mins. Sundays are depressing enough than to spend half of the day at church abeg

You know Oyinbo( brits especially) can like to keep to time so it must affect church too. LOL

Salsera that is such a great idea. Our own media too have this red flashing thing that comes up on the projector when sermon is over but some of those 'big' guest ministers no dey respect themselves sometimes.

armyofone:
a dear friend invited us to her dad's bday. The card said 4pm. We got there 10 minutes early. The were just starting decorations. I over heard someone talking about the people who went for the goat meat are on their way. We drove around and 25 mins.... still nada happened. We zoomed away. I told hubby you can come back me I need to sleep. I heard they didn't start till 11pm and from the video, it was a very nice celebration.
But me no want chop goat meat at 11pm. I don't like waiting. 4pm should be 4pm.

Thank you jare. we plenty wey like our sleep. LOL. and you are right 4pm should be 4pm. I am beginning to have less and less patience for 'African Time'. I have told my pastor once sef i know holy spirit leads but abeg 10am to 12.30 am service should not be over running to 2pm abeg.

I have reached kiddie party that was meant to start at 4pm and we got there at 4pm they were still blowing balloon. mscheww

Ewuro4:
It's Remembrace Day today.. Nov 11

For the Fallen troops who lost their lives serving us

For those who still tiredlessly fight for Peace & our freedom .. overseas and in our borders

For our Fallen loved ones who are Heroes and pillars of the family.

WE SAY THANK YOU

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO.

Share a poppy.

Least we forget

Are there poppy police in Canada too? As in those people who insist that you must wear a poopy on your coat or jacket all November if not you don't 'appreciate' the armed forces? Its getting annoying in the UK.

I have given more than £5 to the Royal legion this month ( kids school and work charity drive) but the way the media moans and moans about prominent people who choose not to wear a poppy is annoying.

Timbuktou:
And that's the point. The understanding. That's how to raise academically and socially sound kids, help them learn how to think and relate school work, which seems mostly abstract, with real life.

Of course, one can't understand without knowledge and they are right in that regard, also that kids learn through play. In fact, I'd say kids learn faster through play than in class, for male children at least. Cast your mind back to when we were younger than 5years old; we had mummy-and-daddy , and the girls used to cook grass, weeds and sand in tomato and milk tins. All na learning.

In my opinion, the extra lessons aren't a bad idea if the child is academically inclined and has one of those crazy photographic brains or if their basic education is clearly insufficient/faulty. Other kids should be studied and their strengths built upon. And the funny thing with most geniuses is they don't do well in schoolwork because their brains are faster and more advanced than what they're being taught in class. They are being dulled . Going back to Einstein, he was a woeful school student, but he had a crazy imagination.

Indeed, we do. I encourage my son to ask me questions by answering his questions as best as I can. The guy does ask the most unanswerable questions, though.

Tell me about the unanswerable questions..LOL

I wont lie sometimes I 'slip' into the typical naija mom ' don't kill me with questions' mode especially when I am tired.I decided to make it a conscious effort and these days we ( myself and hubby) even initiate the conversations.

Mindfulness:
Nice Damiso. I would only replace the word encourage by the word support as kids naturally have a very strong desire to explore the world so they need no encouragement but rather support. This is why Timbuktou's son is asking him all these questions. It is a child's natural desire to explore the world. And as the good father that he is, he is not killing the boy's curiosity but there to help him find answers (support).

As they grow older we should give them methods and techniques to find the answers and solutions by themselves instead of offering every answer and solution on a silver plate. It will teach them problem-solving skills and boost their confidence and, who knows, maybe help them become visionaries who proffer solutions to humanity's most pressing questions.

Timbuktou, what you said about Einstein is a myth.

You are right support is a much better word to use.

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Timbuktou:
Of course, very true. I never lie.

Well, it really is a symptom of poor education. Wisdom/understanding is the ultimate aim of education, not just mindless memorization. Everybody wants their kids to be the next Einstein but they keep going about it the wrong way. Einstein himself was a serial failer and underperformer but he became a genius by understanding the world, and you cannot understand the world if you do not explore it and ask questions which today's parents are too busy and irritated to answer she their kids ask.

Then when the kids do poorly in class, they try to improve their grades by burdening them with even more after-school lessons, breeding more zombies.

You are right and as a student I mostly always excelled at subject matters I understood.

I think the issue and dilemma most parents face is that most educational system says you 'know and understand' by passing exams and acquiring more and more qualifications. And the way to pass those 'exams' is to know more and more which is why they enrol them in more 'learning'. I am guilty and I know how I used to snicker at my daughter's school Early learning style of 'learning through play'.

I saw a topic on another forum that said children of ethnic origin in the UK are twice as likely to have extra/private tuition on top of their normal school learning. I don't know if that is such a bad thing as they probably see it as way to help them do better than their peers.

We certainly need to spend as much time encouraging our children to explore the world around them.