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Woman Disunited.

Unless there is a Pandemic going on or there's something unusual causing delays, 3 months to 1 year is enough.
If the person died intestate, there is a cultural and traditional way of doing it. No single child should be in charge of the estate.

Unless the Main family House, where the father lived/ancestral homestead. That's the first son's house in my culture.

Very sorry to hear. My condolences.

Do property investigation regarding what truly happened.

Be strong for your family.

Ishilove:
And yet some more ...

Ishi, that Ebanga Bello of a guy nor rep his country?

LegendHero:
I agree too. Most of the ethnics in the South-South today are originally Ibos including most part of Edo state including some part of Bini.

This neo-imperialism is part of what cost Igbo Biafra War. Mid-West had no interest in the war between FG and Biafra.

Until Biafra invaded Mid-West. The claim to be moving to invade Lagos was also non-sense. Why capture Lagos if all you needed was Biafra? The claim to put Victor Banjo in charge of Western Region as a puppet was also clever by half.

Why maltreat non-Igbo people in Rivers and Calabar areas so badly?

These neo-colonial outbursts make it difficult to trust Igbo with power. Even one that might be actually good. You can't be sure what he really believes in his heart.

Blessedarethepe:
You said so that she can take care of the children..........I don't support that as an excuse to invest too much.
After separation, a man can still make provision for the children and still allow access to them. In a situation where the woman remarried, the man can take over the full custody of the children and access will still be granted to the woman.

I mean death.

The chances of a man dying early is much higher. Military fighting in Sambisa, police ambushed all over the place, driving accidents, others doing risk jobs are usually men.

If you leave a will exclusively to favour the kids, their mother will still manage to get her hands on the money/assets, especially if the kids are still young.

But when a woman makes her own money through business, she uses her money well. Including to look after her children.

Remember the man is always hoping the marriage will work. A man close to retirement may want to empower his wife before he retires.

The lesson should be this: Men should be educated to find a balance. Never invest too much or too little. Of course, it depends on your financial muscle. Plan for a successful marriage, but also plan for when surprises could spring up.

Invest for yourself quietly. If the woman messes up, fall back on your quiet/secret investment.

This also applies to children. Don't forget investing for your future because you see your kids as your retirement plan. Most kids will not look after parents in the future. Culture has been eroded.

olaric:
It is beyond me how some Nigerians still support and defend our politicians with the kind of terrible reputation they have.

I am sure some persons online will come to the defence of Wike after seeing all these.

It's because 90% of 9ja would do same or worse. Most engage in one corruption, bribery or kickback or another.

So, 9ja's problem is VERY big. It's now more than just corrupt leaders.

Blessedarethepe:
Correct man.
And men should not invest too much in their wives too. So in an event like this they don't feel too attached to take that bold step.

You see, the reason men invest so much in their wives is because of the children.

The idea is should the unexpected happen, the woman should at least be able fend the children.
Otherwise, she might rush into a very bad marriage, where the kids might be abused or neglected.

Not that most men don't know how unpredictable women can be.

The simple advice is, if a perfectly intelligent plays mumu because of the children, please ensure the kids are truly yours.

Imagine sacrificing so much to entitled women of nowadays. Then end up raising other men's kids would be a travesty.

Do DNA test before making any sacrifice.

GraceWilliams2:
This one took we Southerners by surprise 😂😂😂 Aboki don sabi book o

Well, hope Unity School cut off mark will now rise to like 130 plus like Anambra state origin students.

No need to be like 65 for Kano again. Kano students are now brighter than Anambra students.

GraceWilliams2:
This one took we Southerners by surprise 😂😂😂 Aboki don sabi book o

Well, hope Unity School cut off mark will now rise to like 153 like Anambra state origin students.

No need to be like 25 for Kano again. Kano students are now brighter than Anambra students.

I see no point in beating her. Just send her packing.

ednut1:
When you submitted your study visa application your provided evidence of proof of funds. If you are not from a rich home stop playing with fire in the name of student visa. Degrees that may not even secure you any meaningful job

If you are from 9ja, unless very rich or you have scholarship, undergrad degree is not a good idea. Better come for MSc/MA.

erad:
You wey get spine, where has it gotten you to?

Social media and making cats feel like they have opinion in the affairs of lions.

Dem nor know say third world politics na sycophancy central.

MJ, no contest.

Others to mention include:

Nelson Mandela

Michael Jordan

Pele (Edson do Nacimento, the late footballer).

JFK.

Harddiskng:
Let’s be using sense please.

You go to the grocery store, you are to pay N10,000 then you mistakenly pressed N100,000.

Would you ask for a refund of N90,000, or it is now the grocery store’s money; so you will let it go cuz you were not forced at gun point to transfer the money

God doesn’t even want anything you are not giving willing, read your bible

Let go of folly in 2025 please

Lol. Remember God's bankers have spoken. The money has entered G-mail.

Since people nor wan get sense, make God's bankers dey chop their money.

osuofia2:
IN the next few months, go back to the same hostel and it will be an eyesore. Nigerians lack maintenance culture. very dirty people

There is no sense of citizenship or common good.

People see things more from the perspective of personal achievement.

A 100 billion Naira govt/public asset has no value to an average 9ja compared to 100k personal person property.

emapeteum:
Really! ignorant people everywhere. I blame our traditional rulers who bastardised the traditional tools because of peanut to this.

Don't mind that person you quoted. The Alaafin must have been the guest of honour.

It's just poor protocol. Chief Igbinedion as the celebrant perhaps needed to get up to go the alter later. So, it made sense for him to sit near the edge, so the Alaafin wouldn't need to be getting up often. It could have been better arranged from the beginning.

Edo people would not disrespect an August visitor like the Alaafin.

People just say nonsense online.

manuelkel:
Go to Chile or Ecuador and see 80% of African foodstuffs on their farmland.
They have all those things, the difference is mode of preparation.
The way Africans take yam might be different from theirs but these ingredients are surplus there. You can't even import them.

People forget that many of these so-called African food came from South America. The Portuguese were the first to bring melon seeds to Oba of Benin as a present.

The Benin called it ogi-isi. Basically foreign or Tokunbo seeds. Today, people call it egusi.

Cocoa and others. Plantain is even an Asian plant originally.

Biodun556:
That would be the work of his wife. According to my own perception, Christianity and Islam are no longer foreign to Yoruba culture. A practice that is in place for 100s of years is no longer strange it is a culture.

That is at Chief Igbinedion's house, not Alafin's palace. Igbinedion put the Christian symbol there,

Igbinedion is one of the very few Benin chiefs who was able to complete their entire chieftaincy celebration rites, in the 1970s. The full ceremony/rites is so rare that the BBC came to document it back then. He achieved the Iyahien status of full title rites.

It would cost around 10 billion Naira to do today. Since chieftaincy in Benin is not given because of wealth, only few who get it have such big money. Those who would normally have the money to do it, don't qualify for chieftaincy in Benin tradition.

Completing that full rite made Oba grant Chief Igbinedion the rights to use certain symbols you see in his house.

Raf4:
On which bridge do you experience vibration? Any bridge that vibrates is structurally defective and is about to collapse.

So, you don't know that vibration is important to accommodate load, and even weather changes?

There is no way you will not have some vibrations.

The only difference is whether it's a potentially dangerous one, or a normal/expected level.

Except you have never walked along those narrow bridges while cars are also passing through it.

I have witnessed it both locally and internationally.

Kobicove:
Na which one be snake tomatoes?

This is the first time I'm hearing of this

I wonder o. Dem wan spoil lala's business.

Na Wale shark tomato we go hear next. Orisirisi.

Upon OP Mum's years in this Aye, she never touch serpent tomato. Now, na modern world people wan tiss her.

No wonder good Mama said no ooo.

Jomonix:
I am wondering if those suspension lines are structural or aesthetics only or both.

Suspension cables help to reduce vibrations. Vibrations play a major role in the durability and integrity of such structures. Simple mechanics indicate that clearly.

When we pass through old-fashioned bridges, we feel the vibrations.

Experienced engineers will know better than me that cables can vibrate on their own easily. So they will have added the means to dampen the cables' intrinsic vibrations.

The cables look good too.

SeeWahala:
Nevergo to the middle of the market to bend down and be looking at passing people upside down through your open 'KOLO'

If you try am, anything wey you see just take am like that 🤗

Weyrey!

Who has ever tried and confirmed it? How dem take know?

My dear UwaBeyonce, happy birthday.

Nothing do you.

Her collabo with 9ja artists and love for 9ja fashion show she's more 9ja than some entities that roam this "We hail thee" place. From all levels of society.

busariabeyx24:
What kind of entitlement mentality be dis? Person wey dey dash you 50 to 100k and you still claim he's stingy. Haaaaa!!!! Fear god oo.
You even told him to send or help you with 5 million to start a biz after he told you he's sponsoring your sis to school and he's still indebted.

I no just understand . Imagine. Oya you sef imagine. Make you sef imagine wetin you dey yahn again na.

Some people go just dey rubbish people who are overseas as if those there dey pick money for ground . Na your papi and Mami send your inlaw go Canada ?

I hope after sending the wife to school (usually to study nursing), in Canada, her family will not use juju, lies and everything to scatter the marriage. They do it so they can leech on their now single, fairly good-earning sister/daughter. 9ja na case o.

1kinggy:
It lookslike he made a mistake marrying someone in your family. You better go and learn handwork and stop being an entitled parasite. Abi, in all your story what have you done for him? You called 50k and 100k pittance. If it is that small for you, go get a work or ask your father and brothers. Don't stress the innocent man. He did go to Canada because of your family!

I pray for the Canada man that the wife he married from this family is not like her brother.

Otherwise, the man will soon hear "are you the first to bring a woman to Canada?"

jetguy:
To nack you two by two from this place the hungry me
This must be a fabricated story sha,
if not, if it easy why can't you find your way down there by yourself....

Nonsensical entitled mentality

The guy just wants responses. Na hoax. No sane adult would truly harbour those feelings OP expressed.

Otherwise, that in-law in Canada is very unfortunate.

franchasng:
Please add David Beckham, Bill Gates, Former Israeli President, former Italian Prime Minister Belusconi, etc.


White folks cheat more than black folks, it's just their strict divorce law and other laws that's making them pretend while in their country, but wait until the same man enters Africa, Jamaica, or Caribbeans

Wayne Rooney's spec na grandmothers. And he's packing money as a pundit and podcaster.

Professor822714:
Latin America keh...from frying pan to fire niyen lol

Lol. I am not looking for any o. I mean, it's the only place I might have dated from, decades ago. Especially Brazil. Not Escobar's daughter from Medellin .

Angelfrost:
This is the problem.

A lot of African men still think paying bills and doling out money are the sum total of healthy and successful relationships.

No wonder most of your ladies are comfortable collecting that money while getting their "affections" from other less financially endowed but virile young men.


Another thing she mentioned above which might have flown past your head was "having small kids around".

Most African and African-American men struggle deeply with fidelity in their relationships and marriages.

Look at Nick Cannon, Wizkid, Davido, Flavour, Ginuwine, etc (the list is quite endless).

So, maybe ladies and guys in that Black race might need to start dating outside their "gene pool".

Just maybe... That might bring some sanity to the few decent individuals among you.

Eiya, Bill Clinton, John Major, and Arnold Schwarzenegger, the best of the oyinbos who cheated nko?
They are black but painted themselves white.
Cheating is colour blind, dude.

Everybody has the right to date who they want. No biggie.

What's the big deal?

I never dated black women of any type much in the past. I never ever thought of dating black women from USA or Caribbean. Latin America perhaps.
I have very sound reasons for it. This American woman probably has her reasons whether you like it or not.

So, I see nor biggie here. Everyone has a choice to make.

Clairvoyancy:
I Wanted to protest why Nigeria or any African countries do not make the list, but after a second thought, I realised the headline said intelligent and not cunny....

Dude, there is no "magic centre" in this one o. No Roger to pass. This nor be let my people go.